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You're readingFinding a New Me- Spiritual Wellness by: Dominique Goh, originally posted on Dominique's Desk. If you have enjoyed this post, feel free to follow me on Twitter, or Facebook

Spiritual Wellness

2018 had started out with me being in a very reflective mood. I had been thinking a lot on how I could have a closer walk with GOD and understand the scriptures better.  For many years I have been thinking of how I could improve spiritual health as I know that it hasn’t been very good.

I grew up in a Catholic family and have been following their traditions and customs when I was growing up. Now as an adult I start questioning more about the validity of certain traditions and if they were really meant as GOD wanted for us. Many customs  that are found in religion are man made and not justified by the WORD as so I question the meaning of having them and just following suit blindly. I couldn’t find answers with the church nor could the community that I was in help me find the answers to the questions that I had.  As I searched more traditions and customs that I had been made to observe started to make no sense to me. I didn’t want to blindly follow and go through the motions nor remain as a Sunday catholic anymore. Religion should play a more significant part of my life and be a pillar of the kids lives too.

Since 2016 I decided to start reading the bible and started up doing bible studies by following the schedules which were created by the LOVE GOD GREATLY community. I followed along each time a new bible study was added and have gone through 22 focused studies to date.  I started visiting other churches and moved out of the Catholic realm altogether.  I explored the Anglican, Methodist and Baptist Church before finding the one which the kids and I are most comfortable in last December. Since changing to this current church the kids and I are looking forward more eagerly to spending time in GOD’s house on Sundays. Having the proper spiritual support system in place is important as with the numerous evils in this world we need to give the kids the best arsenal possible in the event that they need to be involved in a spiritual battle.

My focus

The path to GOD is not easy. I have been told that I will face difficulties and be set on challenges which I will have to pass before I’m able to step up a step closer to him. My values and believes will be constantly tested and only if I surrender all and lean on him for support will I be able to sustain myself on this journey here on earth. There will constantly be temptations of this WORLD which try to sway me and I know that  I have him with me to deflect the urges for personal gratification and material accumulation which should not be my focus at all.  However come all that may I’m still going to place my bet on GOD.

Through  the turmoil that I have endured these past few years I now know how important it is to be centered personally in Christ. It can be said that I have had a spiritual awakening and have personally experienced how he has worked wonders in my life and pulled me through one of the most challenging times of my life to date with the numerous life altering decisions that I had to make since 2016.

To know  GOD is to immerse yourself completely with him. Daily scripture reading is a habit which I have cultivated and will be modelling to the kids so they too can experience the wonders of the WORD that GOD has given us.  Without GOD we will not be able to enjoy the peace and joy that we seek.

To know the WORD is not enough.  One must take action and be the living example if they want their kids too grow in their faith. This year I aim to bring prayer actively into my household and to immerse the kids in his WORD.

How do you focus on building up your Spiritual Wellness?

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You're readingNight Ride on the Luge by: Dominique Goh, originally posted on Dominique's Desk. If you have enjoyed this post, feel free to follow me on Twitter, or Facebook

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Tiger girl and me on the Skyride

January was a month of new experience for the kids and me. It was the start of 2018 and we were lucky to be able to try out the Luge and Skyride at night. Ever since Skyline Luge Sentosa added on it’s night ride and new tracks the kids have been bugging me to let the visit the Luge so they can enjoy racing each other down the slope.

the night view on the Skyride

We visited the place on a Wednesday night as I wasn’t too keen to jostle with the crowd on the weekend.  It was extremely cooling at night especially after the rain in the afternoon.  It was the first time that we were taking the Skyride at night and were blown away by the night scenery. Besides the lights from the ships and buildings from afar we were also intrigued by the neon lights that lit up the Jungle Trail and Dragon Trail which were below us.  The view was so much better at night then in the day.

The kids and me

When we reached the top of the skyride the kids couldn’t wait to get their helmets on before they started on the Luge ride back down to the bottom of the slope.  I didn’t take any photos with the kids as we were racing down the slope as it wasn’t safe to steer the LUGE with one hand while negotiating the various turns on the way down.  We had two rides down the slopes and during the first ride Tiger girl doubled up with me while her brothers went  on a vehicle each.

The Skyride Luge Sentosa has changed quite a bit since we were there 2 years ago.  They recently added in two new tracks- the  658 metre long Expedition and 638 metre Kupu Kupu, which means “Butterfly” in Malay. We were keen to try out the new tracks and went down each trail once.  The boys went off on their own while the girl and I leisurely cruised while making our way down.  After a doubled up ride with me Tiger girl’s confidence was boosted and she was keen to do her first solo Luge ride now at 7 yrs old.  It was a milestone achievement for her handling the Luge on her own and she could maneuver the corners  without much difficulty. I would had loved to be able to document her first solo ride but unfortunately wasn’t equipped with a GoPro attached to the helmet for easy videoing during our visit.  Maybe next time!!

Doggie boy coming to a stop at the end of the ride

The fun ended all too soon for the kids as they came to the bottom of the slope a 2nd time.  They wanted to go for more rides but it was nearly closing time and with the next day a school day we had to head back home to make it in time for bedtime for all. It was a great midweek chill out activity for all and are looking forward to the next time where we be back for another few rounds on the LUGE.

Skyline Luge Sentosa 

Opening hours – 10am  till 9.30pm
For more information do check out their facebook page.

Disclaimer: The kids and  I were invited for a fun time at Skyline Luge Sentosa. All opinions are 100% mine.

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You're readingHow to Guarantee your Child will go to Heaven by: Dominique Goh, originally posted on Dominique's Desk. If you have enjoyed this post, feel free to follow me on Twitter, or Facebook

How to Guarantee Your children Will go to heaven

How to Guarantee Your CHILDREN Will Go to Heaven by Jamar Haynes Lee  is one book which I have read in bid to broaden my understanding on how to guide my kids on their spiritual walk. I have been constantly seeking ways on learning how to improve my kids spiritual education and picked up a few tips from this book by Lee.

In his book he explains the reasons why parents have been failing.  Many of them do not introduce the WORD to their kids on a daily basis. The limited interaction the kids have with the scripture makes it more difficult for them to understand and seek GOD.

When you give children the Word daily, you give them God daily, and trust me; they need God daily.

It is important to live by the WORD and be the one as the parent to show how the scriptures can be part of everyday life. This will help to keep them grounded and away from the temptation of evil.  The lackadaisical attitude that adults have been having towards developing spiritual awareness and guidance of our youth have led to more and more social ills.

We need to be good examples to our kids so they can follow and imitate our behavior and be in GOD’s favor.

We should be able to say what Paul said, “Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ” (1 Corinthians 11:1 NIV).

We need to let the child take the rein and show us his learning. He needs to read the bible for himself and explain his understanding of the scriptures to be able to reflect on the message that is being transmitted.  We need to train our kids and not just preach to them.  It takes a discipline parent to incorporate the love of GOD in their child.  It also takes time for the child to get to know and be able to communicate with GOD as we are currently doing.

We are given all the tools that we need to be able to guide our kids in their spiritual walk.

Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, Nor stands in the path of sinners, Nor sits in the seat of the scornful; But his delight is in the law of the Lord, And in His law he meditates day and night. He shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, That brings forth its fruit in its season, Whose leaf also shall not wither; And whatever he does shall prosper. —Psalm 1:1–3 (NKJV)

Lee mentions in his book that parents play a very important role in guiding their kids towards living Godly lives. Their actions and choices that they make on behalf of their kids help to give their kids the proper directions in life.  Whatever you do as a parent impacts on the lives of your child.

He shares with his readers 9 principles which will help to guide them as parents.

  1. Commit Each Child to God
  2. Holiness Lived infront of Them
  3. Instruct and Train your Child in the way they should Go
  4. Love and esteem your spouse properly
  5. Declare your Child’s Future
  6. Receive resources on Marriage and  Family regularly
  7. Esteem and love your Child Properly
  8. Never let your child stay under Ungodly Influence

My thoughts

  I could really relate to what LEE was saying in his book. We need to make cautious effort as a parent in help to develop our kids spiritual life. Putting emphasis on  teaching our kids how to create  a relationship with GOD has equal weightage to teaching our kids about what they need to learn academically.

I personally am focusing a lot on my personal walk with GOD and hope to be able to guide the kids in their walk too. Being a Single Parent  without external help it has been difficult balancing all the different role together with keeping sane.  The dynamics in the family has been quite unbalanced due to the inability of the kids father to properly play his part in their lives. However not all has been lost in ensuring that they are other ways that the kids can get proper spiritual guidance through the church that we are currently attending.

Reading the book gave me more clarity on how I am to continue guiding the kids on their spiritual walk and how to focus on my spiritual goals too.

You can purchase a copy of this book from  Lee’s Website.

Disclaimer: I received a copy of the book for review. All opinions are 100% mine

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You're readingEnjoying AR at HadoSingapore by: Dominique Goh, originally posted on Dominique's Desk. If you have enjoyed this post, feel free to follow me on Twitter, or Facebook

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The kids and me

There is a new place in town where the kids can have some  afternoon fun. Located at 2 Orchard Link, *Scape Co. Ltd, #02-15 HadoSingapore is a space  where one can try out games like the  HadoShoot,  Hado Monster Battle or have a go at PvP.

One of the battle arenas at HadoSingapore

There was two main battle arenas in the shop. The one nearer the entrance was for  Hado Shoot and Hado Monster Battle. I played the game together with the kids and had the whole experience on how AR can stimulate your senses.

The two main battle arenas

Before we played the games the battler masters gave us a briefing on the gear that we would be using and how they operated. Each of us were given a headset which was made up of a Iphone attached to magnifying glasses.  The software being use to project the monsters and other creatures had been pre-loaded to the phone which was linked to a main server.

Augmented Reality  (AR) games are different from Virtual Reality (VR) game as they require movement on the part of the player and are not restricted by cables nor have gadgets like swords or guns to handle. Each player is strapped on with a headset and a hand sensor  which co-ordinates with the sensors on the walls that they are facing. Embedded in the colorful graphics on the wall were motion sensors that could detect the swipe of a player’s hand  as they launch cannonballs and their location while actively engaging in the game.

Tiger Girl with the Hand sensor for PvP

We were given Ipods are motion sensors like the one in the picture above when we played PvP. Each player could modify how “strong” they wanted their shield, big their cannonball should be, speed of their bulllet etc

Pvp game at hadosingapore - YouTube

Here is a video that was shot during our playtime. It shows how the players interact with each other using their hands to blast cannonballs etc  We had a 3V3 with the battlemasters and it was boys vs girls.

Hadosingapore Pvp game - YouTube

Here is a video which I took showing how the game plays out from the players lens.

It can be said out of the 3 games the kids love the PvP the best as they had a total of 5 rounds in different formats -2 Vs 2, 3 vs 3, 1 vs 1. We can’t wait to revisit the place when the Hado Karts make their way to Singapore in the 1st quarter of 2018.

Hado Singapore

2 Orchard Link, *Scape Co. Ltd, #02-15, Singapore 237978

Tel: 6634 4668

Monday – Sunday: 12pm – 9pm

Do check out their website or  facebook page for more details.

Disclaimer: We were invited by HadoSingapore to try out their AR games. All Opinions are 100% mine.

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You're readingFood Lovers Only – A Children’s Day Treat by: Dominique Goh, originally posted on Dominique's Desk. If you have enjoyed this post, feel free to follow me on Twitter, or Facebook

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Food Lovers at IMM

On Children’s Day the kids and I were invited for lunch over at Food Lovers Only by AT Marketing Counsultancy. A very bubbly Abby greeted us at the restaurant and introduced us to the various dishes on the menu.

Tiger girl checking out the toys which were displayed on the shelve

The toys on the shelf attracted Tiger girl when we entered the restaurant. The displays  were really kid friendly and she gravitated towards the toys and started playing while her brother choose the dishes they wanted to eat.

The kids with Abby

It was our 2nd visit to Food Lovers Only a  Halal certified medium size cafe on the 2nd floor of IMM.   There has been some additions to their K-FLO menu and the kids were looking forward to trying the dishes there.

New dishes at Food Lovers Only

Don’t the dishes look yummy?? Unfortunately the kids were not keen on trying them out so we  ordered something else instead.

Apple  Mushroom Salad $11.90

I ordered a Apple Mushroom Salad for myself as I wanted to keep it light for my lunch.  The Mesclun, apple, mushroom, walnut, cherry tomato and balsamic dressing made it a  tantalizing dish to savor.

$7 Milkshakes for the kids

 The kids have been craving for milkshakes and were delighted that they served it at Food Lovers Only. We ordered a Strawberry, Cookies & Cream  and Vanilla milkshake. Can you guess which kid had which milkshake?

French Toast which Tiger girl ordered

Tiger girl didn’t want something too filling also so she decided on Flo’s French Toast ($13.50). She was attracted by the fruits on the toast as blueberries and strawberries are her favourite.

The dish was really aesthetically appealing but fell a bit short for her as she complained that it was a bit too sweet for her liking.

FLO’s Club sandwich ($15.90) that Doggie Boy had

Brioche, turkey ham, sliced tomato, marinated pulled chicken slices, cucumber and egg mayo was what Doggie boy dug into during lunch.  He loved the blend of tastes as he munched down on the sandwich.

Beef Bulgogi Sandwich $17

Monkey boy ordered for himself a bulgogi sandwich  which was made of  Panini, beef slices, sautéed onion, sliced tomato, cheese and bulgogi dressing with a side of chips and salad.

Tom Yum  Prawn Pasta $18.60

Abby ordered this for herself.   Spaghetti, Prawn , Mushrooms, cherry tomatoes, garlic, chili, chives , cream and cheese.  It smelled really nice and she mentioned that it was very tasty too. Maybe the next time that I visit the place I may order this to try.

Tiger girl can’t wait to sink her teeth into the yummy dessert

A meal is never complete without dessert!!

Upon Abby’s recommendation we ordered the Sweet Divine ($15)

Freshly baked crispy waffle, pavlova, mini marshmallows, premium vanilla bean ice cream, maple sauce, chocolate sauce, horlick sauce at the side. . The dessert was served with coconut  and chocolate ice-cream. It would be great if they had a wider selection of ice-cream as Tiger girl actually wanted strawberry ice-cream on the waffle but it wasn’t available.

The kids weren’t able to finish their dessert as it was a bit too sweet for their liking.   However overall we enjoyed our meal and wouldn’t mind visiting  Food Lovers Only again for lunch.

Disclaimer:   The kids and me were invited for a food tasting session at Food Lovers. Opinions are 100% mine.

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You're readingYear End Reflections 2017 by: Dominique Goh, originally posted on Dominique's Desk. If you have enjoyed this post, feel free to follow me on Twitter, or Facebook

2017 moving on to 2018

We are now in the tail end of 2018. In exactly 27 more days we will be ringing in the new year. It’s time to welcome the new year again. It is the time for year end reflections and to look back to see how the year has been while at the same time planning and re- setting the goals for the next year.

2017 has been moving at breathtaking speed with non stop roller coaster action for me and the kids. This year my focus was slightly different from before. In January I listed out 20 Ideas to Make this the Best Year Ever. If you are lazy to click over to look at the post I’m posting it here again in this post to let you know my progress down that list.

  1. Make a conscious effort to de-clutter your surroundings.  ( I have been doing this on  quarterly basis)
  2. Visit new places  (I’ve been to a few new cafes/shops in Singapore that only opened this year)
  3. Make new friends ( I’m averaging about a totally new friend every month or so)
  4. Re-connect with old friends/ acquaintances  ( I’ve met up with friends I made 14yrs ago from the baby forum which I joined when Monkey boy was born. It had been nearly 10+ years since I met up with some of them and was really good to catch up with the gals)
  5. Take up a course ( I’ve taken up AED + CPR and now a certified First Aider)
  6. Learn a new language ( I’m started learning Korean online and am still going through the modules)
  7. Re-commit to a exercise regime ( This year I had my virgin appearance at a gym and have restarted my home gym exercises)
  8. Sleep better ( Still work in progress on this)
  9. Eat clean / healthy ( I’m eating salads on a daily basis and have upped my intake of vegetables and fruits)
  10. Focus on yourself before others ( My health and sanity is of the utmost importance  and I now say NO more often then before to things that will not be beneficial towards me)
  11. Learn from the past and DON’T repeat it.  ( I’m extremely clear what I want and don’t want now )
  12. Remove the bad apples and keep the good apples in your life (I’m now more careful and more stringent about the people that I want in the kids and my life. I do not want any toxic people to traumatize or spoil their childhood. )
  13. Stay away from unnecessary drama (from other people)  ( I refuse to get suck into useless feuds nor indulge in idle gossip. If they aren’t able to deal with their own issues it is their problem don’t throw it onto me as I won’t be picking up any of your trash on your behalf)
  14. Revamp your wardrobe  ( I’ve changed many pieces of clothing in my wardrobe this year as they have gotten too loose to wear. I’ve also updated it with more trendy pieces)
  15. Streamline your operations and optimize  (The household has been running more smoothly since I’ve done some amendments to everyone’s schedule. Now that the kids are bigger they are able to help out more therefore working as a team lesser time is needed to get the daily chores done)
  16. Spend more time  with family and love ones. ( I’m spending max time with the kids after school, bringing them out to have more varied and new experience and also doing more activities 1 on 1)
  17. Hug and Kiss more  ( The guys are getting more hugs from me now as they are not really into kisses since they are older)
  18. Create a Vision board ( I have been having one up in my room since last year and slowly everything is falling in place)
  19. Plan regular date nights  ( I do both afternoon dates and night date with the kids depending on their schedule) 
  20. Read more ( I’m exploring reading more varied genres that I have been previously reading to widen my knowledge)

Score: 19/20

Me in my CNY Outfit

In Feb I  finished my final post in the education series which I started off in 2015 entitled – Bridging the GAP  I initially aimed to do a series a year however family commitments grew heavier as the kids grew up therefore the series got sideline till I finally had the chance to pen the last post.

Having read and studied up about health I was more focus on working on achieving fat loss besides weight loss. This year I’ve tried two different programs and got to know more about how my body functions and what is the best way for me to keep up my energy levels and staying healthy. Even though I am still far from my personal weight goal I’m better equipped in my knowledge on health and nutrition . The main reason why it has been an extremely difficult journey to optimal weight/ fitness has to deal with the intense STRESS levels that I have been having this year.

I’ve yet to learn how to reduce my stress level when I get triggered by external circumstances or environment.  I guess when the main issue which I am facing this year gets resolved next year it will be a great load off my back.

You can say that I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting this year and getting to know myself better. I now am more certain of what I want and set my boundaries even more clearly then before. My level of tolerance for certain people and situations have greatly plummeted as I no longer put up with Toxic individuals who are only doing things on their own agenda for their own benefit.  I have redefined who constitutes as family members to me and you can be certain that blood relations that are tainted are not even considered within the definition.

Me in a floral dress

I’m more determined then ever to achieve my goals and get to where I project myself to be come 2018.

How has 2017 been for you?

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You're readingFinding a New Me- Social Wellness by: Dominique Goh, originally posted on Dominique's Desk. If you have enjoyed this post, feel free to follow me on Twitter, or Facebook

Social wellness refers to the relationships we have and how we interact with others. Our relationships can offer support during difficult times. It is important to build healthy, nurturing and supportive relationships as well as fostering a genuine connection with those around you. 
As they say the circle of friends you hang around with defines you.  They help to shape your thoughts and perception on how you want to lead your life. Therefore it is extremely important to be careful about who you let into your inner circle.
Quality vs Quantity
As I grow older I get more selective about who I want around me. Not everyone may be who they seem on first experience. Sometimes something that seems too good to be true may turn out to be a rotten apple disguised as a golden one. Relationships have to be two ways be it with benefits, communication and understanding for it to be long lasting.  It cannot be something one sided where one party continually takes what the other offers and suck him dry over time.

A Mantra I follow

 I’ve met many people who are FAKE . They pretend to be nice and concern about you but in actuality they are just sizing you up so that they can exploit your trust, abilities and achievement for their own personal benefits. When they are being called out for their inconsistencies / lies or exaggerations they become defensive and even abusive attacking your character and values. The mask that they have been parading around drops and their true behavior and intentions can be seen. They refuse to take responsibility for their own action and blame everyone else except themselves. These individuals are  Highly delusional these individuals  and I refuse to have them around me and the kids. Period. 
Blood relationships  are not as important to me as before. I’ve learnt that not all are your family.  Some of my previous relationships are now of no significance to me especially when they are from highly toxic individuals with tainted blood. It was a  pity that I was born into a toxic extended family. Their constant bickering and comparison had affected me and my perception of what a relationship should be.
It had taken me quite awhile to eliminate all the toxic ones who were outwardly and/or passively aggressive to me and the kids.  We deserve a normal life and one which is free from others who were constantly undermining or demeaning us for their own selfish agenda.
Life is difficult enough as a single mom of three  and there is no need to add on unwanted and nonsensical drama by these delusional individuals to our lives to make it harder.

Another mantra which I subscribe to.

I frown upon people who easily pass judgment on others so they “appear” to be superior to others. Who are they to judge when GOD doesn’t judge? No doubt you and I have flaws but it is not something to be constantly targeted by others in attempt to bring down your level of self confidence or bully you into submission with their constant criticism .

Emerging from a 20 yr long abusive relationship I’ve grown stronger and wiser. I’m no longer the naive 16 yr old who blindly trusted others, especially elders, to guide me along the path with their ” trust me I know better” attitude. I won’t let other people destroy my self esteem nor integrity. I’m my own women and am accountable to myself and GOD  and not these people.

My most important asset is my time therefore I am not going to waste time on  fake people who don’t need my attention. I’m no longer settling for mediocre or below standard and other time wasters. I trust actions more then words and when they do not match up I won’t be wasting my time and effort on these time wasters.

Time is extremely precious to me being a single mom with multiple portfolios to juggle. I cannot and do not want to spend it unproductively. I want to surround myself with people who will lift me up and spur me on to be the best version of myself.

Through all the trials and tribulations that I have faced especially during the past two years this can’t be even more true to me. I now surround myself with like minded individuals who are are non judgmental and supportive in my endeavors.  I on my part try my best to support my friends and family to the best of my ability without compromising  my values, integrity and goals.

I show by my own actions as an example to my kids what are healthy and unhealthy relationships and how to seek out  and maintain healthy ones in their lives.

What do you do to maintain your social wellness?

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You're readingFamilypreneur- The Six Key Steps to Raising your Little Entrepreneurs by: Dominique Goh, originally posted on Dominique's Desk. If you have enjoyed this post, feel free to follow me on Twitter, or Facebook

FamilyPreneur- The Six Key Steps to Raising Your Little Entreperneurs

Familypreneur- The Six Key Steps to Raising Your Little Entreperneurs by Jean Pierre Rukebesha is one of the books that I have been reading. Based on the current global economic conditions for our kids to be able to survive and do well in their adult life would require them to have some enterprising genes so they can create their own opportunity to earn a living. Corporate jobs are getting far and few and salary from these jobs are not rising fast enough to keep up with inflation. There are no iron rice bowl jobs anymore where one can stay on for their whole live till retirement.

If one can connect their business to the kids education it will help ease them into the Entrepreneurial mode.  Many parents focus too much on the educational development of the child and neglect introducing them to their business from young. Jean gives many case studies in her book  that explain how  some entrepreneurial companies thrive while the others go belly up when passed down to the 2nd generation. This is because many of the children did not cultivate the love and passion for the business which their parents had.  Not all kids are cut out to follow in their parents footsteps however as seen in the case study on Thomas Edison. Only 2 out of his 6 kids became inventors. 

To be considered as a person who has entrepreneurial spirit he has to exhibit the following characteristics

  • Tenacity
  • Passion
  • Tolerance of Ambugity
  • Vision
  • Self belief
  • Rule-Breaking Attitude
  • Resourcefulness

It all starts from young. If the parent is able to role model the entrepreneurial behavior there is a higher chance that the child will follow after their foot steps and ensure the continuity of the family business. This is because the child is more aware of this option as a career. Parents have to actively introduce the ideal of business to the child and get them involved  through identifying their passions and supporting them. Artistic talent that your child may have may be incorporated into your business through getting them to help design signs or even posters for your company. 

Your child has to understand what you are doing, why you are doing it and how your business has impacted your life and his.  This can be very beneficial to you in your business succession planning. 

My thoughts 

It is extremely cool for parents to include their kids in their business and give them the liberty to explore their talents and passions. I’ve seen many family businesses close down as the pioneers to the company force the leadership down to the parents and refuse to let go of the reins at the same time.  The parent has to actively involve their child/children in their business so that they are able to discover the goals and values of hard work.

Understand the nature of the business that you are in why you are doing it while at the same time educating them on it will help in their overall holistic development. It also widens up their perspective about  what having a job entails together while bonding with you at the same time. 

I personally have considered starting up my own business in this current poor global economy and have read this book I have a clearer idea of how to get my kids involved fully in my passions and business en devours. Even though they may or may not take over what I am doing in time to come it still will help in their character development and make them better adults in the future.

Do get a copy of the book Familypreneur- The Six Key Steps to Raising Your Little Entreperneurs by Jean Pierre Rukebesha if you like me would like to raise your kids as entrepreneurs. 

Disclaimer: I received a copy of this book for review purposes. All opinions are 100% mine.

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Taking care of your emotions is extremely important. You mental well-being affects everything else around you.

Emotional Wellness implies the ability to be aware of and accept our feelings, rather than deny them, have an optimistic approach to life, and enjoy life despite its occasional disappointments and frustrations.

One goes through an array of different types of feelings for dawn to dusk. The emotions that we experience  can be positive or negative and it is especially essential that we acknowledge each and every emotion that we feel.

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How we cope with the negativity, emotional stress, disappointments and frustrations will shape the way we live.   You are the one who truly decides how you live.

To go for it alone or remain a People Pleaser and disregard your own emotions? I’m done being a  People Pleaser and ignoring my own well being for the sake of others who do not appreciate any of your sacrifice. I’m saying “No!” more often then before and focusing on what truly  matters to me and having my peace of mind.  No more surpressing my own emotions and giving up on my desires because of others.

I will not let others influence my emotions and send myself spiraling into depression because of their selfishness. It is not easy to remain level headed and not get influenced by their warped mentality.  I had enough of suppressing my own feelings so that others would feel good.

I have made many difficult decisions these two years and have shifted the focus to be more on ME. I will be turning 40 next year and it is about time that I shift the focus back on myself after devoting myself selflessly to the family and the kids for the past 20 years.

LOVE YOURSELF

Nobody can care more about you then yourself.  Being the pillar of the family it is extremely important that I keep sane and also be in the best of health physically and mentally. I  have been working more on increasing my mental awareness through reading self help books and articles that I find online.  This has made me more acutely  in tune to my own feelings.

1 Peter 5:7-Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.

I have learned to trust my GUT more and also leave all my worries to GOD.  Do the best that I can and let him handle the rest. Having such a perception greatly reduced the amount of stress that I feel.  Being able to handle my own emotions has certainly made me  a better person. I am more patient and less rash in my actions.   When things get a bit overwhelming I give myself chance to pause before deciding on what action to take in that particular situation.

Once emotions are triggered it may cause an array of feelings to surface within you.  Sometimes these feelings may be very hard to control and it really takes a lot of discipline to calm those frayed nerves in order to think and act rationally.  The intensity can be overwhelming  at times and makes one act out of the norm.

Our Fight or Flight mentality may lead us to act irrational at times therefore it is essential to remain grounded at all times.

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Sometimes our thoughts may  seem to magnify the situation and give it too much emphasis then it actually  needs.  In moments like this I try to take a step back and refocus to align our thoughts so that my emotions are more settled before making any major decisions.

I do know that these challenges that are sent our way is GOD’s way of shaping us into a better person.  These trials that we have to endure will prepare us for entering his kingdom in his time.  It sometimes feels frustrating especially when things don’t seem to be going this way and it can be utterly exhausting at time.

Our emotional well being affects our health and attitude towards life therefore I find it extremely important to keep our emotions in check always.

It is essential that I keep myself emotionally healthy so that I will be able to lead and guide the kids well therefore I do take many moments of ME TIME a week to recharge and reflect on the actions that I have taken that particular week.

During these pockets of time I would reflect on the actions that I had done and  how I felt in relation to  the problems/ situations that I am currently handling.

As a single parent my kids only have me to look as up as mentor and guide therefore it is critical that I am emotionally balanced to be able to handle the changing emotions of the kids and guiding them properly on how to handle their own emotions.

How do you take care of your own emotional wellness?

  1. Finding a New Me – An Intro
  2. Finding a New Me- Results after 16 weeks
  3. Finding a New Me – Mental Wellness
  4. Finding a New Me- Emotional Wellness
  5. Finding a New Me – Social Wellness

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