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Next up in our unSTRAIGHTening Lesbian series is poet/theorist/Radical Feminist Adrienne Rich.
Adrienne Rich or ACR as Sylvia Plath referred to her, made her way to "lesbian" STRAIGHTBIANISM via the same route most Radical Feminists did/do; unexpressed voluminous anger for her own poor life choices she readily blamed the men in her life for (father/husband) and collective man (patriarchy). Rich said of her marriage:
"I married in part because I knew no better way to disconnect from my first family," she says. "I wanted what I saw as a full woman's life, whatever was possible."
Rich marries hoping to escape familial confines/duties only to find herself unhappily in the same trapped place, only worse; with children.
"I wanted, then, more than anything, the one thing of which there was never enough: time to think, time to write."
Rich's dishonestly in the marriage lead to both her and her husband having affairs:
Shortly thereafter, her husband Alfred Conrad committed suicide:
Apparently she was such a hotty ALL the men in NY wanted a piece of her pie! Umm sure, okay!
After cheating on her husband with both men and women, once her hubby was out of the way/dead, Rich embarked through Radical Feminism, on a mission to remove Lesbian from those gross, vile, dykey/mannish/wannabe men/act like men/think like men Lezzies SHE perceived actual Lesbians to be/look like and give Lesbian an air of upper middle class academic redressing, making Lesbian more appealing/palatable and acceptable to greater Feminist groups/women.
Like Radical Feminists in Rich's day and RadFems now, Rich desperately needed the IDEA of Lesbian to both vent her anger and (mistakenly) use as a means to remove herself from (in her mind) Heterosexuality/Heterocentric confines rendering her helpless/afraid/weak and ineffectual. As a Heterosexual woman, Rich could only access Lesbian through lying:
I will show shortly in Rich's piece de resistance that Rich (unlike some STRAIGHTBIANS), selfishly planned and executed her lies.
It is precisely codswallop like this that fully seals ANY question (were you to have any) of Rich's Heterosexuality. Radical Feminists like Rich tell themselves collective man enforces Heterosexual female grooming/dress etc (when actually it is Heterosexual females who both desire/enforce beauty standards) yet cannot explain why Lesbians en masse do not fall prey to the same Heterocentric grooming standards.
Lesbians have always existed and have never required validation for our existence. Women, particularly damaged Radical Feminists like Rich spend their lives/careers seeking some sort of warped validation and blame men for not GIVING it to them!
Rich often talks out of both sides of her mouth; on one side she claims her "erotic" feelings for women have been stifled via Patriarchy and on the other side she claims sexual feelings between women are not necessary for qualifying them as Lesbian! Rich ignores or doesnt bother to notice most Lesbians do not have the luxury of a closet, most Dykes are visibly Lesbian. Lesbian visibility shines for some Lesbians physically and mentally and other Lesbians less physically and more mentally. Either way, Dyke thought processes alone peg us for Lesbian, as any Lesbian can attest to since the advent of the internet. Even online with a genderless name and no image of ourselves, we are often assumed/believed by Hets (usually Het women) to be men!
In Diversity and Variability in Women’s Sexual Identities STRAIGHTBIAN Carla Rappaport Golden said of Rich's lesbian:
Lesbian was problematic for Rich precisely because of the ugly depraved dykey sexually perverted masculinist ideas held by Hetero society/Heterosexuals like Adrienne Rich herself. But Adrienne Rich desperately needed Lesbian because it encompassed (to her) anti maleness, what she didnt need was the alienating baggage attached to Lesbian. So Rich tried to simultaneously redefine Lesbian for Heterosexual Feminist inclusion while distancing the debauchery attached to Lesbian, thus Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence was born.
Adrienne Rich begins Comp Het with a Straightbianesque quote from Doris Lessing's The Golden Notebook:
This quote not only sets the stage for the rest of Rich's essay, it IS the stage Rich starred for the rest of her life! A Heterosexual privileged life whereby Rich and Radical Feminists like her, chanted to themselves and in Radical Feminist groups like an incantation; I'm a lesbian! And dont think for a minute Lesbians missed the degrading walls Doris Lessing sandwiched Lesbian in this passage! This was Rich's fear, without a man, her only choices were bitterness, spinsterhood or Lesbian. Rich CHOSE lesbian, not actual Lesbianism, but a Hetsplained version she could somewhat live with. Like Lessing's Anna, Rich was too weak to forge a relationship with a man where SHE was willing to or capable of, living her new found consciousness. Moving on:
Rich believed that Lesbian scholarship was forced into hiding by a patriarchal driven Compulsory Heterosexuality that even mid range Feminism enforced. Rich failed to understand that Lesbian erudition wasnt (isnt) quashed or silenced by patriarchy, it wasnt (isnt) understood by Heterosexuals, particularly Het women! Rich feared losing academic clout by choosing Lesbian as her modus vivendi and through RadFem speak tried to make HER brand of lesbian acceptable to greater Feminism.
Rich assumes Homophobia alone inhabited Feminists (Het women) from trying to coral Het women toward a political lesbianism via feminist theory and why lesbian art/literature etc remained rare. Rich failed to see how her own warped man hating RadFem agenda was responsible for biological Lesbian invisibility in the arts and elsewhere than was/is Homophobia, because she blinded herself of our existence.
Further in the essay Rich says:
Rich brings up Lesbians being closeted in the workplace but the exact experiences she uses to make her points are the experiences Heterosexual women (like her), claiming to be Lesbians (like her) had with the luxury of being closeted! Most Dykes NEVER have that luxury and most Dykes even if they did would NOT put some fucking job over their entire lives! The only Homophobe here is Adrienne Rich!
Because Rich herself (a Heterosexual woman) didnt feel or experience blatant Homophobia (why would she?) she ignorantly theorised compulsory heterosexuality was to blame for Feminist silence about Lesbians/Lesbian issues, including the reason Feminists wouldnt platform Lesbianism as a possible choice against patriarchy/men! Rich claims non Radical Feminists were in collusion WITH patriarchy! Non Radical Feminists, according to Rich, helped provide patriarchy with pussy, pay and passion!
Rich found the term Lesbian limiting because Lesbian didnt include STRAIGHT women like her and because Rich didnt like the psycho-logical definitions defining Lesbian or the societal connotations colouring Lesbian by Het society. By expanding Lesbian to include all female relationship types, not simply "genital" as Rich crudely puts it, Lesbian wouldnt be so foul an idea, for women or society. Rich fails to acknowledge the LIMITS, limits based on HER HETEROSEXUALLY driven assumptions about biological Lesbians, that real Lesbianism isnt defined by pussy licking or KFC pussy (finger licking good). Lesbian was crude, vulgar, plebian not because it was/is, BUT because it was based on Adrienne Rich's own sick fucked up homophobic warped fucking views of Lesbian!
Being a Lesbian has fuck all to do with taboos or rejecting Heterosexuality, it has ONLY to do with being born physiologically Lesbian! Lesbians arent saying no to patriarchy, patriarchy doesnt factor (collectively) anywhere into a Lesbian's life. Lesbian past, present and future grew/grow/will grow up without any/little knowledge of Lesbians; fortunately abilities innate to our survival ensure we find each other and are capable of survival even if we dont. The ONLY destroyers of Lesbian, records or histories are Radical Feminists like Adrienne Rich! What has been recorded as "lesbian" experiences/narratives etc, are instead the experiences/narratives etc of STRAIGHTBIANS like ACR!
Adrienne Rich, in typical Heterosexual fashion, was a little SHIT TON obsessed with genitals/sex.
In other words, Adrienne Rich and Radical Feminism itself are NOT LESBIAN! Bizarrely in this strange (sick) passage Rich twice brings up/equates a child/mother being turned on during infant feeding. I refuse to think past Rich's statement here because to do so is just toooooo fucking SICK and it most certainly is NOT Lesbian!
Precisely because of STRAIGHTBIANS like Adrienne Rich, Lesbians/Lesbian youth flounder and flail trying to find ourselves in the world. Thanks to the likes of Rich and her warped RadFem ilk, most of the signs and symbols labeled Lesbian are false. They point us right back to female Heterosexual mindset and body that paints us into a corner of dysphoria, reinforcing Lesbian confusion and resulting in a lesbian community made up of Heterosexual women where Lesbians STILL do not exist.
Adrienne Rich discovered Lesbian in the same way Christopher Columbus discovered America, she ignored those already living here and those she couldnt ignore she kindly smothered in blankets of smallpox.
We begin our next set of unSTRAIGHTening Lesbians with the Sneaky Pie Lavender Menace to Lesbians herself Rita Mae Brown. If not familiar with Rita Mae, she was an early element in the Radical Feminist movement after she was more or less removed from Betty Friedan's National Organization of Women (NOW). The purported reason Rita Mae was ousted was because she claimed at the time to be a Lesbian. Through this ousting Rita Mae and other Lesbians STRAIGHTBIANS formed the RadFem group the Lavender Menace:
But it wasnt Rita Mae's libber angst that cloaked her in Lesbianism, it was her first novel Rubyfruit Jungle:
For making the primary point of these posts, (unSTRAIGHTening Lesbian) one really doesnt have to look beyond Rubyfruit Jungle. The novel rapidly begins with prime character Molly STRAIGHT away focusing on DICK, no not as in another character, as in a boy the young Molly exploits for profit using his uncircumcised penis in a show and tell: (Ah penis, something every young Dyke wants to see-think again honey!)
From there the novel speeds to Molly having sex with a straight female friend AND then her straight male cousin Leroy:
A sexual relationship young Molly repeats throughout her cohabitation with cousin Leroy/his family:
Molly struggles to outgrow her illegitimate hick background which both deeply troubles/embarrasses her by heading as soon as she can to the big city; New York. Once there we encounter Molly's first time at a gay bar with a gay male friend:
Its clear from this moment it isnt just Molly who knows nothing about Butch or Femme Lesbians, its Rita Mae for posing this question at all.
Rita Mae uses her novel to slam other STRAIGHTBIANS dominating the "lesbian" bar scene, damaged Het women who could only see relationships through their own Heterosexual nature; male or female. Mo was no more a Butch than Molly; everything, INCLUDING Lesbian, depended solely on what they claimed to be, not what they actually were. Rita Mae's snobbish STRAIGHTBIAN Molly places her own warped version of Lesbian (two attractive society approved straight women having sexual relations) above that of fat ugly STRAIGHTBIANS who portray/participate in Heterosexual mimicry. Moving on:
Rita Mae's Molly is so disgusted by the lesbians she encounters at the bar she jokingly would rather encounter a rapist than entertain the notion of sex with the bar lezzies. Molly thinks herself miles and morals above most, even while fucking a small family; mother, father and underage daughter (thank god they didnt have any pets!):
Given Molly's Hetero MALE mimicry (forcing herself on a woman/the woman's no equals yes) there was no surprise why Betty Friedan could no longer find a place for Rita Mae's Radical Feminism!
Polina turns the table on Molly and entices her to role play a game Polina and her husband play involving public urinal sex, only in this scenario Polina is the man to Molly's woman:
Molly then moves on to a date with Polina's husband, Molly figures by fucking Paul she can be closer to Polina, sound like any Lesbians you know? Me either!
Molly then moves onto Polina and Paul's underage daughter:
The dialogue for Alice wanting to have sex with her mother sounds eerily familiar, and Rita Mae's treatment of incest as untraumatic is the ONLY thing "antihuman" here!
Molly says earlier in the novel of a similar fuckfest:
Rubyfruit Jungle sums up everything that is Lesbian about Rita Mae and Lesbian in the novel, NOTHING!
That didnt stop Rita Mae from giving advice to young suicidal Gays and Lesbians in her intro to:
Homosexuals who arent "successful gay people" like Rita Mae, (successful meaning Homosexuals who are Heterosexuals who use Homosexuality for their own perverse uses) dress odd, have "exaggerated mannerisms" and are akin to hookers!
Rita Mae, like Molly from Rubyfruit Jungle, sees Homosexuals/and or STRAIGHTBIANS who are found in gay bars as warped, alcoholics and obsessed with their Homosexuality (or in the case of STRAIGHTBIANS, obsessed with their claim of Homosexuality). These people, Rita Mae tells young Gays and Lesbians, are life's LOSERS! Rita Mae blatantly states actual Homosexuals can simply cast off our natures and be like her (a pro incest, polygamous, bisexual)!
Rita Mae Brown by her own admission (when convenient) cast off calling herself a Lesbian, not because she wasnt (she clearly isnt) but because it was no longer profitable to her now mainstream Heterosexual female audience. Rita Mae hated and still hates labels:
Being a Lesbian isnt constricting or freeing and it mostly certainly isnt a sarcophagus burying us alive! Like many STRAIGHTBIANS, Rita Mae donned Lesbian like cross dressers don woman, Lesbian for Rita functioned as fetish, financial gain and fame. dirt
Since Trans Trending has reached unprecedented highs, this blog has minimized documenting who is transitioning and instead focused more on other issues erasing/troubling Lesbians past/present/future. When I first noticed the Trans Trend occurring among Lesbian identified females twenty plus years ago, and then began documenting that trend ten years ago, my initial aim was to correct the false assumptions that the lesbian community is losing all its butches. In more than two decades I still have yet to see a Butch Lesbian transition, but given how few of us there are at any given time and actually being Lesbians, with Lesbian brains/bodies/experiences it is not surprising we wouldnt entertain the notion of transition. Sadly, some Dykes have (do) fall/en prey to transition, but even in those cases it is rarely without a STRAIGHTBIAN's pressured suggestion.
In reexamining years of documented cases of female transition (with the help of Mrs Dirt-a process we are still actively working through) it has become clearer and clearer there are a great deal more STRAIGHTBIANS who transition than simply the odd Pat Califia, Susan Lee or James Darling, in fact THEY appear to be more the norm than the exception. While I have written spottily on sexually abused females who transition, I have yet to really focus on the numbers involved, their pathology or their Hetero/sexual orientation (which bears out in transition ie cross sex hormone use). That however is something that will be revealed/detailed soon, today I leave you with one such example of a STRAIGHTBIAN transitioning. Just like STRAIGHTBIAN types defined/documented here in post after post, there are types of STRAIGHTBIANS who transition, this girl is one such type. All major types will also be defined in a future post.
Without going into the particulars, this unnamed type goes something like this; child sexual abuse/emotional turbulence/puberty/eating disorders/cutting/body modifications/hyper sexuality with both sexes/employing queer/poly as an identity or lifestyle/mixing/moving in Trans/Queer circles/transitions:
When STRAIGHTBIANS in this group fail to hide themselves from themselves behind body modification and make up, they seek transition to both hide behind as well as feel empowered through identifying with their abuser/s. They dont count on becoming more victimised by their own behaviours under the influence of testosterone. dirt
While Victoria Brownworth is on a future list of unSTRAIGHTening Lesbian, some tweets from her that crossed my timeline today angered me enough to do a quick post now, lets call it a PRE unSTRAIGHTening Lesbian featuring Victoria Brownworth.
If you arent familiar with VB or VAB as she's often sited:
Celebrated as an out Lesbian journalist despite being fully HETEROSEXUAL. Brownworth has even criticized Lesbian co-opters like herself:
That being said, the reason for this mini-post involves VAB recently yammering on her Twitter timeline regarding the #MeToo Uma Thurman thing, which she quickly (per usual) redirected toward herself (Munchhausen much?):
I have permanent scars too, but not from any sexual assault, but from reading VAB's Lesbian STRAIGHTBIAN smut she once pimped out like a common whore to titillate other warped fucked up STRAIGHTBIANS like herself:
Pretty funny VAB wasnt so traumatized she couldnt think up/write sick fucked up shit like this (tip of the iceberg or cock? I assure you)! What traumatized rape victim do you know dreaming about the SEXY WET TIP OF A MAN'S COCK who is about to rape her? Fucking NONE thats how many! And most certainly NO FUCKING LESBIAN UNDER ANY FUCKING CIRCUMSTANCE THINKS ABOUT A MAN'S WET TIPPED COCK, EVER! Yet Brownworth's erotic fiction/fantasy life is filled with Hetero rape fantasy shit!
There is nothing erotic about being raped, and there is NOTHING LESBIAN (erotic or otherwise) about Hetero(anything)sexual rape "scenes"! Victoria Brownworth isnt a Lesbian and there is NOTHING Lesbian in ANYTHING she has ever done or written! VAB is another STRAIGHTBIAN in a LONG line of STRAIGHTBIANS damaging/convoluting EVERYTHING society knows about Lesbians, including what Lesbians/Lesbian youth think/know about ourselves. Till now that is. dirt
Mrs Dirt and I are WARNING any and all readers/friends/family to BEWARE/be leery of bogus emails/Twitter accounts/Facebook accounts and any other Social Media forms impersonating the both of us.
We know at this point FOR CERTAIN that bogus Twitter/Facebook accounts were used to gaslight/attack various women, used to give false information about both of us, not limited but including we are biologically male, used to drum up drama, used to waste our time and used to gain a WARPED pathological link to Mrs Dirt.
If you or anyone you know has or receives ANY kind of contact that claims to be either Mrs Dirt or me, VERIFY it is in fact us by emailing me at email@example.com or Mrs Dirt at firstname.lastname@example.org. IF you do not receive a response from those and ONLY those email accounts, whoever you are dealing is NOT us! dirt and Mrs Dirt
I have written many years and many posts, but I dont recall ever having to begin a post with this:
If you are too sensitive/too close to child sexual abuse, do NOT read beyond this point. You are being warned!
Radical Feminists and other STRAIGHTBIANS who claim Lesbian, have long declared that there are many different ways that women come to living/identifying as (a) Lesbian. But whether dressed up in political rhetoric, draped in academic magniloquence or swathed in fishnets, short skirts and stumbling stilettos, the only lesbian they give birth to is both deformed and unrecognizable.
I do agree though, there are many different ways HETEROSEXUAL females come to think they are/want to be/need to be/desire to be/wish they were: Lesbian.
From Louise Armstrong's Kiss Daddy Goodnight, this is actually how millions upon millions of Het females came to/come to/will come to: Lesbian. For the sake of brevity I'm including only very relevant material, material that directly correlates to the principles of the STRAIGHTBIAN mind/STRAIGHTBIAN pathology.
It is understandable why Sandy wanted to get off the dizzying Hetero merry-go-round, one her father sickeningly forced upon her from the time she was a child. But as a Lesbian it is offensive, her idea of "gay" (sexual abuse) was the thing she could bond with other "gay" women like herself over, not actually BEING a Lesbian (diseased). Her trepidation of coming around (not out) to "gay" was because Lesbianism was (is) viewed/treated as a pathology. A pathology sexually abused HETEROSEXUAL females like Sandy (not of their own volition of course) forged through psychological needs/diagnosis. Sandy even has the luxury of keeping her "gay"ness under wraps because as a young Het woman, lesbian for her is only behaviour (two females having sex), unlike actual Lesbians who cannot hide our bodies/mannerisms. STRAIGHTBIAN Sandy's make up many of the worlds RadFem/Feminist groups past, present and undoubtedly future. Many may be found fighting for abortion rights, sex trafficking, sex worker issues, sisterhood, womyncentric, violence against women, #me too etc. Sex will figure HIGHLY somewhere in their life, their brains were irrevocably altered the first time they were violated as little girls, any sexual violation that came after further disrupted normal Het female brain growth.
STRAIGHTBIANS like this woman are clearly some of the MOST dangerous, to themselves and to others, especially other females. Her pathology verges on the violent, her seething masochism warped and ready to sadistically harm any female child she has power over. Its unlikely a Lesbian would get involved with a STRAIGHTBIAN like this, but never say never. Its clear from her letter that the women she was involved with were also STRAIGHTBIANS. So while STRAIGHTBIANS with this sadistic pathology towards females (children) dont pose a real threat to Lesbians, most will wind up in mental health facilities (as did she) and will identify themselves/or be identified as Homosexual/Gay/Lesbian to psychiatric clinicians all too ready to maintain Lesbian as pathological/diseased. Further reinforcing Homosexuality as child molesting/sex obsessed freaks who should be locked up or put to death.
Annabelle's story (this is only a fraction) is (for me personally) slightly more sad/tragic than the others here and in the book. The Annabelle's of the world nearly always end up in the sex industry, as is obvious here, this young woman was groomed since birth for it. STRAIGHTBIANS who suffered this level of child sexual abuse are the ones who willingly do girl on girl porn (real/simulated), they get into live sex shows (think Annie Sprinkle), prostitution, stripping, internet porn, dominatrix etc. These STRAIGHTBIANS will utilize Lesbian as a marketing tool, putting Lesbian on along with their garter belts and corsets and taking Lesbian off as easily as it was put on. Many like Annabelle will eventually distance themselves from men/sex with men in personal relationships and gravitate toward sexual relations with women. All, regardless of careers are in danger of STDs, drug and alcohol issues, eating disorders and suicide.
There is a great deal more horror stories in Louise's book, I chose the three for this post because we see so many STRAIGHTBIANS who grew out of similar horrors. Obviously the roads that led these women (women like them) to Lesbian are by no means the ONLY roads, but sadly child sexual abuse is the common denominator for STRAIGHTBIANS.
Despite years of systematic sexual abuse where one would think nothing intelligent, or good or beautiful can possible come out of that, there were/are many highly intelligent and talented (albeit tortured) STRAIGHTBIANS. One such example is the artist Jordie Hudson, who terrible beginning turned into a terrible end, and whom has haunted Mrs Dirt (particularly) since we witnessed her story on ID channel's See No Evil nearly two weeks ago. We will never see Jordie or any STRAIGHTBIAN as a Lesbian, but that doesnt mean either of us are blind. We see you Jordie and remember even amid the horrors of child sexual abuse, YOU showed us beauty exists and still blossoms. RIP Jordie Hudson
Along with our UnSTRAIGHTening Lesbian series, I'm going to begin a similar series of posts focusing less on the individual and more how STRAIGHTS/STRAIGHTBIANS have DICKtated everything known (historically to present) or believe to know about Lesbians, everything EXCEPT what was Lesbian then, what is Lesbian now and what will always be Lesbian!
I'm going to illustrate via the table of contents and the odd quote, from merely two books mind you, how overwhelming Het privilege/presumptions and immense Het ignorance's have been Hetsplained to Lesbians AS Lesbian by Hets/STRAIGHTBIANS.
The first book is Dyke Life: From Growing Up To Growing Old, A Celebration Of The Lesbian Experience by Karla Jay. The description of this book is as follows:
Written by lesbians of different ages, races and religions—and compiled by one of the gay movement’s best-known writers and activists—these original essays give vibrant voice to the diversity of the lesbian experience. Celebrating the many ways in which the lesbian experience is unique from all others, many of these pieces focus on specific lesbian concerns such as sexual practices, raising children and higher incidence of certain illnesses. Beyond pointing out these differences, the essays also provide a comprehensive view of the many phases of lesbian life by covering diverse topics like body piercing, coming out and work. Short narratives—“To Mother or Not to Mother,” “Confessions of a Lesbian Vampire,” “About Being an Old Lesbian in Love,” and more—complement and enrich the main essays, adding a unique personal tone to the collection. A mix of the serious and the irreverent, Dyke Life is an important contribution to gay and lesbian literature.
Each contributor was vetted to the point sexual orientation could be determined. This book boasting of Lesbian experiences was written by nearly ALL STRAIGHTBIANS. Not simply STRAIGHT women, BUT DAMAGED STRAIGHT Women! Take a few random quotes:
I literally had to read that first line several times and ask Mrs Dirt does this say what I think it says! The ONLY humans known for "incessant processing" are Het Women! When in all your born Lesbians days have you seen Lesbians sitting around trying to figure out their feelings, their partner's feelings, let alone going to relationship "therapy"! NEVER! Thats when! These Het women wind up in therapy because they're damaged Heterosexual women trying to make a romantic relationship work with usually another damaged Heterosexual woman or occasionally the odd Dyke!
Daughters of Bilitis? Really! A STRAIGHTBIAN club ran by two STRAIGHTBIANS ( Del Martin and Phyllis Lyon)!!!! Both whom will be featured in a later UnSTRAIGHTening Lesbian post.
Need we wonder why there are now men in the Ladies? RadFem STRAIGHTBIAN bullshit like this, yanked the door off the frame of biology, flooding once biologically separate public spaces with potentially dangerous elements. STRAIGHTBIANS have done nothing different, their Hetero ineffectualness has yet again been trumped by male directness and moreover male cooperation, all though at the expense of Lesbians.
Next up from Hetsplainer Karla Jay is Lesbian Texts and Contexts: Radical Revision, described as: Lesbian writers include some of the most innovative and adventurous writers of this century, but only recently have they been given their due attention in terms of critical study. This book is the first anthology to discuss the subject of lesbianism as it relates to the critical interaction among readers, writers, and literary critics. It explores lesbian texts in terms of identification, meaning, and interpretation, and examines the complex entanglements of identity, voice, intersubjectivity, textualities, and sexualities.
There are more than a century of these Hetsplained Lesbian conglomerations cluttering academia, building the careers of STRAIGHTBIANS, lining the pockets of STRAIGHTBIANS, clouding society of Lesbian accuracy and muddying the minds of any Lesbian reading this shit. Books like the two mentioned here are navel gazing to the point of disappearing. Perhaps thats the point. But Lesbian it is NOT!
Obviously this doesnt need to be said for any Lesbian readers, but for STRAIGHTBIANS (mentally/emotionally/sexually damaged Het Females) whose entire guiding light to lesbian is any two females (regardless of biology) bumping uglies.
A Lesbian reader of both myself and Mrs Dirt sent us this screencap from a STRAIGHTBIAN sub-tweeting pure unequivocal codswallop last year, while she was searching Twitter for Tweets about Butch Lesbians:
Interestingly and purely as an aside, we had another STRAIGHTBIAN more recently say something similar about us, even using the very same word (INFILTRATORS) to describe us:
Anywhoey, back to the sub-tweet the Lesbian reader sent us, this all too obviously Het female tweeter claimed that copious amounts of "women of colour" Butch Lesbians LOVED and still LOVE to STRIP for a sexually hungry audience. The Het female tweeter fighting a losing battle against Lesbians tries to unearth Lesbian biological certainties by trying to remove/render impuissant our (myself & Mrs Dirt's) input (as two white Lesbians) by reeling in an all too common Het female gambit:
There has NEVER been in the entire human history, a Butch Lesbian who prostituted herself (via stripping or any other sex for $$$ exchange) period, no matter what race. The colour of skin doesnt magically remove Lesbian biology/that which governs Lesbians, in this case Butches. A Butch wouldnt strip for a lover anymore than she would strip for a crowd. It isnt within the realm of possibility, because it isnt within the possibility of Butch Lesbian biology. Trees dont give birth to puppies and billy goats arent theorizing String Theory.
As Lesbians, we know we are far out numbered by STRAIGHTBIANS (mentally/emotionally/sexually damaged Het Females) and we cannot combat/refute every single Hetsplained Homophobic article, idea, book, movie, tv show etc, but we do hope where, when and those we do are useful in helping Lesbians now and future in navigating the harrowing waters of Heterosexuality in all its many wretched dysfunctions. dirt
The flip side of the frigid/anti-sex/passion is political/eschewing sex and femininity STRAIGHTBIANS are the STRAIGHTBIANS who embrace sex with both arms and every orifice, LOVE sex sex sex, try anything once or twice sex Het women. In years past these STRAIGHTBIANS were on the opposite side of Radical Feminism; their feminist liberation was to be found, not in squatting over a mirror looking at their vaginas, BUT in using their vaginas to find power! They convinced themselves that through sadomasochism, where they could explore/control sexual proclivities (some of which were) derived from child sexual abuse, they could find the power robbed of them as girls/women.
Depending on if sexual abuse was suffered as a child, how long it occurred, how it was dealt with or ignored and natural temperament, determined each STRAIGHTBIAN'S role in BDSM. For some STRAIGHTBIANS that role may be as the submissive (many will co-opt (High/Femme/Bottom/Baby/Girl to imply that) for others that role will be as the dominant (many will co-opt Top/Butch/Daddy to imply that), and still others will play at a Daddy/boi/boy sex-play. A number of STRAIGHTBIANS who gravitate toward the dominant roles have/will also transition. This STRAIGHTBIAN type's pathology on cross sex hormones will often increase their warped sexual appetites as well as their sadism during sex scenes. This STRAIGHTBIAN type, despite the sheer fear and powerlessness they felt as sexually abused girls, first identify with and later become (through transition/hormones) the all powerful abuser of their (mostly) willing equally disturbed partners. Some of these dominant STRAIGHTBIANS will even lobby for less strict laws around child/adult sexual relations aka Pedophilia. Aside, many dominant STRAIGHTBIANS will have had at some point/s identified as gay men, most will have been/are FagHags, including having sex with Gay men.
Some of the more mentally damaged STRAIGHTBIANS in this group will even act out (repeatedly) sexual abuses done to them as a child; one partner will role-play being a baby girl while the other partner pretends to be the Daddy who thensexually abuses his/her baby girl. Both parties derive their own warped feelings of power during these bizarre scenes. Power, by being the person holding the safe word which can stop everything on utterance, and the other feeling power/full by taking power over the other and having the power to bring the other to sexual heights/climax/es; exchanges that both parties tightly wrap in a yarn of believed ultimate/superior intimacy and trust. But the intimacy/trust are nothing more than a mutually shared delusion that can quickly unravel at the slightest fray.
As neither party is actually Lesbian, these particular STRAIGHTBIANS fetishize "lesbian sex" (sex between females) through their own Heterosexuality/Het norms.
Many STRAIGHTBIANS in this group for varying reasons are hypersexual, and sex will figure some way in nearly all aspects of their life. They will join or forge self created careers in some aspect of the sex industry. They may be sex educators/experts, strippers, prostitutes, sex facilitators/consultants, burlesque performers; they may make lesbian porn videos/photo shoots etc. Most of these STRAIGHTBIAN types will have a sexual pathology, but even those where this is absent, because none are Lesbians, ALL have a pathological need/drive to sexualize themselves with a female partner/s. Lesbian to ALL STRAIGHTBIANS must involve another female, but particularly for this type.
Without sex or even the idea of sex between two females, these STRAIGHTBIANS disappear. Therefore, fetishizing lesbian is not only a product of their pathology, its at the root of their self. Like Transgender self-hood, these STRAIGHTBIANS rely on constant external validation/reinforcement, even if that is nothing more than personal photos of themselves/their female partner kissing/touching/sexing etc. Many will exhibit public displays of affection bordering on the sexual, they dont simply want the public to look, they NEED the public to look. They NEED lesbian approval even from strangers, be that at a restaurant while having dinner or on Social Media.
Unlike actual Lesbians (who do not require external validation to tell us who we are), lesbian approval for this STRAIGHTBIAN type isnt approval for being a Lesbian. These STRAIGHTBIANS require approval for behaviour they FEEL to be Lesbian (via their Heterosexuality), feelings they need to strengthen their foothold of THEIR thin grip on LesbianIDENTITY. This tenuous grip being so fragile, even if they have 1 naysayer among a 1000, they may mentally/emotionally implode! Even demanding validation and/or vilifying naysayers through conferences/sex wars/Social Media battles/books/articles published/tickets sold etc that they ARE Lesbian! As an aside, many of these types will have romantic/sexual photos of themselves around their home with a former/current partner; a daily reminder that these girl on girl visuals MAKE them lesbian.
Past Straightbians in this group fancied themselves on being sexual outlaws/sexual renegades, turning sexual mores on their heads; queering lesbian through stealing Gay male cultural norms/tropes to wet their warped sexual perversions in one hand and lining their pockets through theorizing lesbian as the ultimate subversive act in the other. This Past STRAIGHTBIAN group believed/preached that through the bondage of ropes and chains (het) women could FREE themselves from the shackles of Patriarchy.
Today's version of this STRAIGHTBIAN type merely mimics the straight male's wet dreams lining the shelves of porn hubs everywhere. This STRAIGHTBIAN version preens, prances, pouts and performs lesbian per Patriarchy's fantasies; their lips never speak of Liberation, only licking pussy. This group doesnt even have the mental wherewithal to look beyond what they see everyday: HeteroSEXuality. Somewhere between IQ and the internet, today's STRAIGHTBIANS lazily believe that by performing Het male lesbian cliches for global attention/identity reinforcements that they are subverting social norms! These STRAIGHTBIANS spend less time trying to smash the Patriarchy and more time bending over for it! They tell themselves their sexual displays are personal, but their copious look at us, look at us, look at us cinches their Het female narcissism that is ALWAYS looking for a looker.
But both types, past and present, can only occupy lesbian through male tropes (gay or straight). Meaning even the ways in which they suspend their Heterosexuality, IS Heterosexual!
A look at STRAIGHTBIANS in this group from the past:
A look at STRAIGHTBIANS in this group today:
While this goes without saying, obviously consenting adults (Lesbians) can engage in bed (any) room games that might make some of us blush without their fun being pathologised, by us or anyone. We arent criticizing what anyone does in bed, we are saying that STRAIGHTBIANS have a specific pathology that is discernible to anyone paying attention. Dirt & Mrs Dirt
We are closing this year out with a series of posts we've been asked by many Lesbians to write, and which we feel will be informative for the unSTRAIGHTening Lesbian series.
We havent written a great deal on STRAIGHTBIANS and sex, but where mentioned we have focused primarily on RadFem STRAIGHTBIANS whom (for varying reasons) eschew sex with men, and more often than not, eschew sex...period.
If you took a Women's Studies course or such, you will recall the great "lesbian sex wars" back in the late 70's/early 80's, those erring on the side of the anti-sex group consisted primarily of staunch RadFems. Het women who routinely patrolled other women's sexuality/sexual behaviours, quickly ousting dirty RadFems who preferred penetration to pussy licking or the preferable platonic love. But human nature being human nature, there are new generations of Het women who continue to fall into that RadFem anti-sex category. And depending on sexual abuses/temperament/dominant handedness/emotional baggage/education/politics etc a percentage of those Het women will seek out to date/partner with other (mostly Het) females.
These Het women will claim Lesbian, define Lesbian, publish books/articles as Lesbians/about Lesbian issues, and be professionally known as Lesbians, all the while being/thinking/functioning Heterosexual. They may don a short 'do, sport sensible shoes, and own a flannel shirt or two or three, an acceptable "lesbian" outfit that they believe says dont look at me, look at what I do. An outfit defined/created by RadFems before them, serving the same purpose.
These STRAIGHTBIANS usually do not know or associate with actual Lesbians, and when they encounter us, they quickly snub us. They believe they are intellectually superior to Lesbians (they believe they are gifted academics and perceive actual Lesbians to be Blue Collar/beneath them socially/morally/intellectually and therefore dismiss/despise any Dyke who dares to question THEIR hetsplained version of lesbian). These RadFem STRAIGHTBIANS also incorrectly perceive themselves to be ideologically/politically superior/cognizant to actual Lesbians (they CHOSE to be womyn centered and would not dare debase/objectify womyn with sex/sexual thoughts, which they believe is similar to the dreaded Male Gaze holding less fortunate females hostage everywhere).
These types of STRAIGHTBIANS chant, preach and promote the personal IS political, yet their entire political system springs from their own personal damaged pathology. A pathology not just rooted in the Heterosexual, it IS Heterosexual! BUT a Heterosexuality (at least where relations with males are concerned) THEY do not want! Unlike most Het females who naturally feel quite passionate (including romantic sometimes) with Het females in their lives, these STRAIGHTBIANS take these feelings to a whole other level, wrapping their pathology and warped political theories into romance with another female. Because their self proclaimed political reasons for their female romances usually dominate their lesbian relationships, sex usually takes a backseat or worse, the trunk (for you Brits-it gets put in the boot of the car). Attraction for these STRAIGHTBIANS is an attraction to the other person's politics, rather than raw passion itself. The passion is political, not the personal and depending on each Het woman's politics, that joint political may last years, decades or till death. BUT it isnt LESBIAN!
RadFem's past who fit this category (think Dworkin/Rich etc) and who fit it today (think Bindel/Jeffreys) can usually be found bitching/moaning (usually ineffectually) about porn, prostitution, abortion rights and identity politics. Instead of having healthy relationships/friendships with men, since they CHOOSE to be lesbians for the good of Womankind (yeah right), they find other ways of having passionate relationships with men, via fighting with them. In the past these RadFem STRAIGHTBIANS lobbied against pimps, porn moguls and politicians, today these fervent feminist fracases take place all over Social Media, much to the same result as RadFem's past-nought.
For STRAIGHTBIANS like this, sex is sublimated for politics. Dirt and Mrs Dirt
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