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Welcome to Week 49 of The 52 Week Love Project – Acts of Kindness. The project designed to recognize 52 inspiring humans who are giving back to our community – whether in a small way or by creating a movement for change and inspiration.

Meet Julie the creator of ‘William Ready’ education products and sensory space for children with Autism. Created when Julie discovered that her son had Autism – she was determined to do everything in her power to make sure William has the same opportunities as everyone else in life, and that the people around him to understand and accept him just as he is.

 

WHERE DID IT ALL BEGIN?

After my son William was diagnosed with Autism just before his second birthday, I knew I needed to learn all I could about Autism, but more importantly, I wanted to make it my mission to be the expert in my son. To know his loves, passions, strengths and desires, but to also know his triggers, why he wasn’t able to express himself like others. Learning the early warning signs of a meltdown and helping piece together some of the confusion that I went through in the early stages of his diagnosis process.

It was the end of 2016, when we went through our first real rejection in the school system. They had let us down and did not see the potential in our beautiful little boy, so It was at that point that I approached my amazing sister Liz, who has been a Primary School teacher for 15 years.  I asked her if she would help prepare William for the transition to Primary School.  To create and run a school readiness program to enable him to be prepared to start Primary School. There was no hesitation, and that is where William’s real strengths started to shine through.

WHAT DO YOU DO?

We were fortunate enough to have a space not being utilised at the bottom level of our house, so we created a school like setting.

We had 3 different areas being a wet area, a learning area (complete with smart board, white boards, desks & reading corner) and a sensory room.  This is where Liz would work one on one with William every week for 2 years.

We created goals and then these were worked on and met. From as little as hanging his bag up and being able to pull out his chair to sit in it. Fine and gross motor activities, numeracy, literacy through to communication, sensory activities and social excursions.

This was a loving, supporting environment where William could be himself, a place where his strengths were celebrated, and his challenges were supported and guided. It was also a place where he wanted to continue to come to every week, because he had built such a wonderful relationship with his educator who he trusted and looked up to. He was learning and engaged every session and we were amazed to see how well he was progressing every week.

WHAT INSPIRED YOU?

My son William was my inspiration and always will be. I have two beautiful little boys (William who is on the Autism Spectrum and Ryder who is neurotypical) Both loved beyond measure and although their needs are different, my love for both of them is endless.

William inspires me to be a better person every day. To appreciate the small things in life and celebrate every milestone big or small.

I will do everything in my power to make sure William has the same opportunities as everyone else in life, and that the people around him understand and accept him just as he is.

I now wish those same opportunities for everyone else. To raise awareness, acceptance and understanding that its ok to be different and to always dream big.

HOW DO YOU GET PAST SELF DOUBT?

I used to struggle with this a lot. I still doubt myself on occasions, but I have my amazing husband (who is also full time in our business) telling me that I can achieve anything that I set my mind to. To give myself more credit by celebrating achievements every day (big and small) and to allow myself to be proud of what I have accomplished thus far. Over time, this has definitely helped.

After having my two beautiful sons, I have been able to let go of self-doubt. I don’t stress about the small, trivial stuff now, and I focus on what is important, what is positive and what is best for the people around me.

It’s crazy to think where life’s journey can take you, but I think now I am capable of so much more and I hope that I can inspire others to be that voice for their children.  To know that they are not alone. That there are other people out there going through the same thing and they should always believe that they are good enough.

 

WHAT ADVICE DO YOU HAVE FOR OTHERS WHO WANT TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE/CHANGE IN THE WORLD?

I remember reading a quote a few years back that said

‘Nothing good comes easy’ 

I now know that in order to be successful and to make a difference in the world you have to work extremely hard. You have to be extremely passionate and you have to believe it will work.

Anyone can fulfil a dream and make a difference if you believe you can do it.

Never in my wildest dreams did I think that I would have founded a business with my best friend/sister and husband helping my son, but then to go on to help many other children through educational products, sensory spaces & inclusion for all.

If you have a dream, go for it and don’t let anyone tell you, you can’t.

DO YOU HAVE A QUOTE OR EXPRESSION THAT YOU LIVE BY?

At William Ready, we truly believe that “small steps lead to great outcomes” and it is something that we live by every day.  We just keep working hard, pushing forward and ensuring that we are always taking steps forward.  We love seeing the steps that William takes every day towards achieving his ultimate potential.

WHAT ELSE DO YOU DO?

My life is William Ready!

Before having my 2 boys and the creation of William Ready, I was an accounts clerk for various law firms but after William’s Autism diagnosis – I finished up work and dedicated my life to early intervention and best practices for him.

I love what we have created, but when I’m not working on our business, I enjoy exercising – going out for a run to clear my mind always makes me feel better.

Being a mum is my greatest achievement and I feel very lucky to have two beautiful, healthy boys who will grow up knowing that they can achieve anything they set their minds to.

HOW CAN OTHERS HELP/GET INVOLVED?

If you know someone that has Autism, they can visit the William Ready website here:  www.williamready.com.au

Connect on Facebook:

Instagram: @williamready2017

Linkedin:

Youtube: William Ready

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Week 47 of The 52 Week Love Project – Acts of Kindness.

The project designed to recognize 52 inspiring humans who are giving back to our community – whether in a small way or by creating a movement for change and inspiration. 

In celebration of Mother’s Day – we took to the streets of Melbourne and spoke to 52 people about what makes their Mum’s so kind and amazing. Click the video to see their Stories….

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The short answer – Absolutely! It’s totally fine to be dating more than one person at the same time – in fact, I encourage it!

That’s part of dating. Dating more than one person brings an array of benefits :

  1. Helps to increase your odds of finding the right partner
  2. Enables you to take your time and not rush into a relationship
  3.  Stops the neediness that can come from dating one person as you are keeping your options open
  4. Can reduce the ‘waiting around’ time for that text or call from the one you are dating
  5. You have a mindset of abundance when you are dating more than one person

There are of course some guidelines that apply that come with dating more than one person concurrently. Respect for those that you are dating and an element of transparency.

On the first few dates:  you do not need to declare your dating activities and the number of dates you have lined up.  If, however, you are asked directly if you are dating others, it’s important you answer honestly.

At that stage, it’s up to the other person to decide what is acceptable for them and if they want to continue to date you or not.

Depending on where you are at in the dating stages, it maybe the conversation that helps you to decide whether to move forward together or to continue focusing on dating others.

If you have made a commitment to be exclusive to someone then it is time to stop dating other people. This allows your other dates to find their potential partner and you the opportunity to give your new relationship the commitment it requires.

On the other end of the spectrum, be mindful that dating and chatting to, too many people at the one time can turn into a dangerous game of ‘always seeking greener pastures’ and dating becomes a game. Such an easy thing to do in our modern swipe culture that has the potential of ruining something that could be great!

With everything – a balanced approach, being respectful of those that you are dating, matching their investment is the key to dating more than one person at the same time.

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Welcome to Week 46 of The 52 Week Love Project – Acts of Kindness. The project designed to recognize 52 inspiring humans who are giving back to our community – whether in a small way or by creating a movement for change and inspiration.

Meet Sandeep Kumar Aggarwal – the founder of a Charity Project called: Here We Come.

When I asked Sandeep what advise he has for others that want to make a difference/change in the world – he said: 

“Make the choice every single day to exemplify honesty and empathy. You form a legacy through intention and purpose, which can be applied to every life you touch. With each act of kindness, you change yourself and the world. Live responsibly. Be kind, because when you are, you open the door to reaching genuine happiness.”

WHERE DID IT ALL BEGIN?

My window into empathy began with my own humble beginnings in Punjab, India, where I was born into an impoverished family of modest means and eventually given an opportunity to live in America.

Years later, while volunteering on a trip to India, I encountered what too much of the world must deal with each and every day. When my arm was badly lacerated by a rickshaw wheel, which side-swiped me on a crowded street, I went to a small, local clinic to receive some much-needed attention. Even though I was bleeding profusely, I was turned away, due to a lack of medical supplies. I was not alone, however, as I saw many sick and suffering local residents turned away, also because of an acute shortage of basic, fundamental first-aid equipment. This broke my heart. I felt hopeless, not just for my own problem, but because I knew that these people had no other options. Fortunately, I found the care I needed, and my arm is still with me and doing fine. Before I left India, however, I made a promise to myself and the clinic, which wanted to treat me but couldn’t. I pledged to return so that I could provide relief to the people there who needed it most.

I returned home to Weehawken, New Jersey, and with the assistance of colleges and friends in the medical industry, I collected basic hospital supplies and started saving them in my office. By personally paying the shipping expenses, I was able to send a container carrying these donations to India. I was sad that I couldn’t deliver them in person, but it marked the birth of “Project: Here We Come,” which is now leading the way in developing new avenues for organizations all over the world to donate high-quality medical supplies, equipment, and even food to resource-limited communities across the globe.

Today, the mission of Project: Here We Come is more important than ever. We are aiming to bridge staggering health resource gaps in the developing world by empowering doctors and nurses with the tools they need to treat disease, deliver vaccines, perform life-changing surgeries, and ensure safe childbirth. The compassion of our generous supporter’s targets hospitals, rural clinics, and community health centers, which can now offer quality care and critical medical services to their most vulnerable patients, especially women and children.

WHAT DO YOU DO?

I am a founder of multiple businesses. I also teach leadership skills for public departments of education and have started a cooperative learning program with my local high school. I am a proud board member of Weight Zero, MD, and serve on its Philanthropy Leadership Council.

WHAT INSPIRED YOU?

I always thought that “success” brings happiness, but I eventually realized that watching my bank account grow was a lonely affair, that real fulfilment can only come from giving back. Fortunately, I am in a position to reap the benefits of doing that, and I have only just begun.

I believe that service is an essential part of my life. Its mission shapes my identity and defines my arc of happiness. When I see inequality or suffering, I make it my goal to be a conduit of change by working to lift up the most vulnerable people in society, giving them the strength they need to combat challenges and fulfill their dreams. I am also deeply invested in maximizing the leadership capacities of future generations who have the intelligence, courage, kindness, and humility, which is required to help our world flourish. 

HOW DO YOU GET PAST SELF DOUBT?

I remind myself each day to be grateful for the mere gift of my beautiful existence, as I try to never take this for granted. When I dive deep into gratitude, I can tap into spiritual energy, which teaches me that anything can be overcome when I put my heart into it.

WHAT ADVICE DO YOU HAVE FOR OTHERS WHO WANT TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE/CHANGE IN THE WORLD?

Make the choice every single day to exemplify honesty and empathy. You form a legacy through intention and purpose, which can be applied to every life you touch. With each act of kindness, you change yourself and the world. Live responsibly. Be kind, because when you are you open the door to reaching genuine happiness.

 

DO YOU HAVE A QUOTE OR EXPRESSION THAT YOU LIVE BY?

“Be the change you want to see in the world.”

Mahatma Gandhi

WHAT ELSE DO YOU DO?

It’s actually fun to do things, which help to make the world a better place. Currently, I am creating a kindness app, called “I AM KIND.” It’s designed for people to donate and share things they don’t need, all kinds of things, which others may benefit from having. Imagine you have a baby stroller you don’t use any longer. Instead of tossing it, you can put it on the kindness app and help a family who can’t afford one of their own. This act of benevolent recycling serves multiple purposes for the environment as well as people’s well-being.

HOW CAN OTHERS HELP/GET INVOLVED?

I welcome all generous souls to our journey, as we aim to fulfil our mission and take our contribution model to the next level. We need more people to help us solve problems of the future and to share in the work that still needs to be done right now.

With the help of so many who share the same passion and commitment to helping those in need, Project: Here We Come continues to deliver health and hope to the world. We also offer numerous domestic and international volunteer opportunities. If you want to get involved inquire within.

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Linkedin: Project: Here We Come

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Hi my name is Gianna and I am a recovering lust-aholic. 

Intoxicated. A drug hit like no other. But already I was yearning for my next high—ready to sell my soul to get it. All for a warm embrace. This behaviour was extraordinarily out of character. I had to face up to the harsh reality that I had completely lost control—I was a lust-aholic.

If only there were a class for those of us with elevated lustfulness, those of us in a lust-driven relationship. A class where we could get support and understand the chemical imbalances driving our appetites. Perhaps, a place where we can get some assistance in how to recognise the signs—what the triggers are—so that we can be prepared for and embrace the sudden intense changes in our bodies and characters or, instead, choose to run for the hills and avoid it altogether.

I had already been lucky enough to experience the exquisite pleasure of amazing sexual encounters and thinking that I had explored all there was to explore I was surprised to learn there were untapped pleasures. I was suddenly consumed by inappropriate thoughts, a longing for this new man’s touch. All I wanted to do was stay in bed with him, talking was overrated and food merely a necessary source of energy for stamina.

How had I become addicted? What was possessing my usually strong, creative mind and driving me to reckless abandon? I Googled madly in search of an answer, in search of a cure.  After all, it couldn’t continue, one cannot live on ardour alone!

There it was. Oxytocin! The thing responsible for creating this exquisite pain. A simple long hug is all it takes to release this beast and turn my world upside down. I started to blame him for the delightful and indulgent kisses, knowing that recovery would be torture.

When I was at the pinnacle of my addiction, I could have easily convinced myself there was something more, something worth perusing in the name of a deeper bond. Oxytocin—damn you for the power you have to mess with people’s fragile emotions!

You may find yourself in a similar situation. This is how to identify whether you too are a lust-aholic:

Conversation is Overrated

Sure, there are giggles and shared jokes, but the joy of a shared conversation is not the driving force behind why you want to see them again. You aren’t stimulated by what they have to say, the deep conversations that create the foundation of a great relationship are lacking and life’s day to day details are shared sparingly.

Don’t Want To Share Yourself

You have no desire to share the inner depths of your soul and open up yourself to this person. You walk together in make-believe-land. The thought of reality setting in is dull and enough to turn you away from your lust-driven antics.

Keeping it Physical

Everything is great between the sheets; however, when the times come that you need to get vertical it just doesn’t seem to function the same. The attraction is solely physical, whether the whole package or a single body part!

No Plan to Meet the Parents

Without ‘partner’ status there are no plans—immediate or distant—to meet the parents or blend your social networks. All encounters are kept separate from the rest of your lives.

I was happy to become an addict. For a while. With the knowledge that it would be short, it would be adventurous, it would be stimulating, and by gosh it would be fun!

If you find yourself in a lust-aholic situation, be sure to protect your heart, but also embrace the high and embrace it while it lasts!

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Unfortunately, people don’t come with a user manual detailing how they best like their communication served, what pisses them off, and what turns them on and off. Some people may deem this part of the excitement of getting to know someone, whilst others will commonly struggle with the dreaded ‘not knowing’ and then interpret awkward dating moments incorrectly, based solely on their own internal user manual and not that of their date.

It is inevitable, no matter how great the communication is, that all dating couples will be faced with awkward moments—it’s simply part of the ‘getting to know you’ process. We explore some of the most common moments and how to best navigate these when staring awkwardness in the face.

Meeting Family and Friends

It’s a given that family and friends will want to offer their insights into your new-found flame and willingly provide advice and guidance to you along the way.  Generally, this is carried out with the best of intentions, these being to assist you in navigating the dating stages and to determine if they are the right one for you.

How to deal with it: It’s great to hear others’ opinions. Take what you need from a conversation and leave the rest. Other people’s feedback is generally formed from their own dating experiences and how a particular scenario unfolded for them.  Don’t let someone else’s past be the determining factor in your relationship future.

Misunderstanding

When there is a misunderstanding between those that have started dating it can simply be a matter of ‘lost in translation’. Reading body signals incorrectly or picking up a tone which you believe to be less than desirable can spiral into something major if you allow yourself to obsess/overthink/worry about it.

How to deal with it:  The simple answer is communication. Instead of doing your head in and wondering or guessing what they are thinking, the best way forward is to talk about it. Although in the initial stages of dating this is a difficult conversation to have because you lack insight into how your partner is likely to respond, it beats living in uncertainty. By being upfront in the early stages, it will assist in setting the tone for communication in the relationship where you can both operate out of openness. The key when faced with this scenario is to keep it light, never attack.  Start off with ‘I wasn’t sure what you meant when you said <insert comment>, can you please elaborate?

Expectations are Not Aligned

When we first enter into a relationship it’s easy to be swept up in the excitement of a new soul that you want to share only special and fun moments with. At times this results in some couples being hesitant to show their hand first and have an open and honest conversation about their expectations. Then a few months down the track both parties are completely surprised that issues have cropped up.

How to deal with it:  Here’s the thing! Do you really want to get 6 months down the track and find out you both want completely different things from your journey and that your expectations are in no way aligned? If one is up for a casual liaison and the other looking for a life partner it is bound to end in disaster. There is simply nothing wrong with having this conversation in the early stages and defining whether your expectations are aligned.

Sex

Sex with a new partner can be a combination of exhilarating and nerve-racking.  With legs and arms flying in different directions, don’t expect to get it right the first time and certainly not like the hot movie scenes where we are lead to believe that everything just works!  Awkward sex moments are pretty much a given with a new partner. It may not be the first time you take a rumble but awkwardness is bound to happen.

How to deal with it: Depending on the level of sexual awkwardness, laughter is generally the best way to get you through this one. If you need to chat about it then do so and deal with it powerfully. Sweeping it under the carpet and pretending it didn’t happen may result in you thinking about it endlessly and restraining yourself next time you hop between the sheets—which could create further awkward moments.

Not all awkward moments are created equal. What is sometimes difficult for women doesn’t event register on the male radar and vice versa. This is the big reason why you need to get it out there—something she is obsessing about may have been completely unintentional or misconstrued or he may have taken something badly and she hasn’t noticed at all. Don’t stew in it.

You can either dance through the awkwardness in the knowledge that it happens to the best of couples or let it be the killer of a potentially great relationship. It’s a no-brainer.

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Welcome to Week 45 of The 52 Week Love Project – Acts of Kindness. The project designed to recognize 52 inspiring humans who are giving back to our community – whether in a small way or by creating a movement for change and inspiration.

Meet Yana!  She is committed to fundraising for Support Kind Organization who have been operating for over 10 years and have helped over 16,0000 unaccompanied and vulnerable children.

She was propelled to make a difference after the US’s policy on separating families at the border – leaving children alone and vulnerable.  

WHAT DO YOU DO?

I initially set-up an advertising policy in the Facebook group that I run. Any promotions would first have to make a direct $25 USD donation to supportkind.org.

This not only helped raise money for the charity but also cut down on the number of ads we were receiving in the group (which came from all over the world).

It also helped the advertisers because they were fewer ads so theirs got more attention. I tagged all the advertising posts so that they can easily be found in the group and pinned new ones to the top of the Facebook group. Lastly, I shared a thank you post to the advertiser for supporting our cause.

WHAT INSPIRED YOU?

It wasn’t so much inspired but propelled. I was devasted by US’s policy on separating families at the border. I remember my husband giving me a few hours off so I can take a break from my job and childcare – and I strolled around our neighbourhood trying to enjoy the walk. All the smiling folks going about their lives like nothing was wrong just made it hurt more. All I could think about was little kids ripped from their parents. Their stuffed animals and pacifiers taken away. Not allowed to hug their siblings. I came back from my walk in tears.

HOW DO YOU GET PAST SELF DOUBT?

Family Separations can be a divisive issue, so I first polled the facebook group to see who they want to support. I had a local food pantry charity on the list. I was relieved they chose this non-profit to support.

WHAT ADVICE DO YOU HAVE FOR OTHERS WHO WANT TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE/CHANGE IN THE WORLD?

Just do it! The world needs people who make a difference now more than ever.

DO YOU HAVE A QUOTE OR EXPRESSION THAT YOU LIVE BY?

Just be kind. We all have one shot at life.

WHAT ELSE DO YOU DO?

I run a marketing/design consultancy called 9AMConsulting.com. Most of my work is for-profit businesses, but I’d love to do more work for non-profits. I recently relocated back to New York from Hong Kong where I founded Jumpstart, a print/digital startup magazine.

HOW CAN OTHERS HELP/GET INVOLVED?

You can do the same for Facebook groups anywhere in the world and support your own charities. If you want to promote your business to moms in New York, feel free to do so here.

You can also make a direct donation to

 

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Welcome to Week 44 of The 52 Week Love Project – Acts of Kindness. The project designed to recognize 52 inspiring humans who are giving back to our community – whether in a small way or by creating a movement for change and inspiration.

Meet Josephine – she has a special birthday tradition ‘Donating to Nine Strangers’- the phrase coined by her mother. Every year on her birthday, Josephine seeks out nine strangers to make a difference through giving. 

WHERE DID IT ALL BEGIN?

Growing up in Indonesia, I noticed the disparity gap ever since I was a young girl.  You can easily spot homeless people and beggars on the street. Young to old, sick to healthy, any kind. I was lucky that I grew up in a middle-income family. Although I am the only child, I was taught not to be selfish.

Visits to orphanages to donate items such as books and clothes are common weekend activities for us. Similarly, my mother was, and still is actively participating in various charity events as well as volunteering her time in any possible way she could.

When I was around 12 years old, my mum read a book (which unfortunately she doesn’t remember the title of) about gratitude. The book says that on our birthday, the more we should be grateful because we are given another year of life. She then created a family tradition whereby during the month of our birthday, we have to donate something useful to nine strangers. I am not sure whether she came up with the idea herself, but the moment I heard it, I agreed to it without a single doubt.

WHAT DO YOU DO?

Firstly, what do I mean by something useful? Let me illustrate this. In Indonesia, rice is our staple food yet it is quite expensive to feed a family of four or more. Thus, we chose to give out rice and canned biscuit to nine strangers.

Secondly, another tricky thing to do is the ‘strangers’ part. It has to be someone that you do not know, which means that sadly, giving to patrolling security guard in our area doesn’t count because we know him personally. However, this is not a  real challenge. You can easily spot people such as road sweepers, homeless, beggars almost everywhere.

Why 9? Because it’s the largest numerical number. My family embraces the idea of ‘the more you give, the more you receive’. This might not necessarily be money, but could in terms of blessing, opportunity, or luck. Regardless of what we give and to whom- the feelings are always the same.

WHAT INSPIRED YOU?

My mother inspired me to continue the tradition. Even when I moved to Singapore and currently in Sydney, I make sure that I do this every year.

Moreover, by doing this, I learned more about the country. For example, while it is common in Indonesia to find homeless people, this is a rare sight in Singapore. While I commonly donate to road sweepers and beggars in Indonesia, I helped construction workers in Singapore.

HOW DO YOU GET PAST SELF DOUBT?

I would say that I am a shy person. I find it difficult to start a conversation with strangers, let alone donating item(s) to them. When I started this, my family would always be by my side, helping me find someone, explained to them that it was my birthday and as part of the celebration, I would like to give them something. I watched and learned. Soon enough, I was brave to have a conversation and giving them the item.

Being alone in Sydney, I was quite reluctant doing it and almost resorted to online donations. Not that I have something against it, I prefer donating face-to-face. That’s a challenge for me. Furthermore, I have to consider the culture of giving in that particular country. People living in Singapore are more reluctant to receiving donation item from strangers. Being the first country that they are, it is uncommon to find someone donating items to other people. In Sydney, I find it easier to give money instead of object(s).

After sorting out the right location, person and item to give, it makes me feel better. Furthermore, I fight my self-doubt stage by stepping back and think about the reason why I do this. I want to make a difference in someone else’ life; I want them to feel appreciated and happy. That’s what keeps me going.

WHAT ADVICE DO YOU HAVE FOR OTHERS WHO WANT TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE/CHANGE IN THE WORLD?

Helpers high: feeling good by doing good. Doing a selfless act does have a benefit to both the recipient and the giver. Essentially, altruism isn’t entirely selfless. It makes you happier in a way that I can’t describe. It’s a different type of feeling happy from a salary raise, a new car or new laptop. You will feel genuinely satisfied that you make a difference in someone else’s life as well as grateful for what you have.

DO YOU HAVE A QUOTE OR EXPRESSION THAT YOU LIVE BY?

I always start and end my day with ‘minutes of gratefulness’. I take a short moment to take a step back and say thank you for everything that I’ve achieved and owned.

WHAT ELSE DO YOU DO?

I am a digital marketer and blogger. My next project would be having a chat with those who are the houseless and stellar individual’s that makes earth a better place through their actions. I share their stories on social media to create awareness about their presence.

HOW CAN OTHERS HELP/GET INVOLVED?

Donating to nine strangers might be a big step for those who are not used to doing charity. I encouraged everyone to try giving back to society, regardless of the amount you intended to give.

I am currently open to any opportunities for a not-for-profit organisation. I want to make a difference for people who are in need. You can contact me here:

Website: joseygolucky.com

Instagram: @joseygolucky

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/josephineadriana/

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Welcome to Week 43 of The 52 Week Love Project – Acts of Kindness. The project designed to recognize 52 inspiring humans who are giving back to our community – whether in a small way or by creating a movement for change and inspiration.

Meet Kara:  Amongst other things, she is an ambassador for Trees for the Future, a non-profit that battles climate change and extreme poverty by giving impoverished farmers the tools and resources they need to build sustainable forest gardens, which allows them to profit while also healing the Earth. 

WHAT DO YOU DO?

I’m a blogger and ambassador for Trees for the Future, a non-profit that battles climate change and extreme poverty by giving impoverished farmers the tools and resources they need to build sustainable forest gardens, which allows them to profit while also healing the Earth. To date, they have sequestered over 190 thousand tons of carbon by planting over 150 million trees. Their forest garden program has changed over 26,000 lives and 86% of families are food secure one year after entering the program.

I also blog about romance novels. I write reviews, articles, and interview authors. I use affiliate links to Smashwords and Indiebound whenever I can to support indie authors and bookstores, and I donate 50% of my affiliate earnings to Trees for the Future.

I also do review requests, interviews, and other book and blog promotional content in exchange for small donations for Trees to the Future.

WHAT INSPIRED YOU?

There were a lot of things that inspired me. One of them was reading I Am Malala by Malala Yousafzai. It was really inspiring to see a girl my age being able to make such an impact and help change the world and it made me want to do the same. There also seemed to be a lot of regular people around me doing extraordinary things at the time.  One of my sister’s friends was selling homemade lip balm to raise money for another friend’s college tuition. I loved exploring tiny thrift stores that supported local food pantries, and I was fascinated by an eBay seller who sold used items to raise money for homeless veterans. My sister inspired me to start a blog because she had recently started a fashion blog.

HOW DO YOU GET PAST SELF DOUBT?

To be honest, I’m still working on this one. I want to do a lot more. Like, it would be awesome to go on a cross-country road trip and interview local bookstores and raise money for every mile I travel, or create a reading app with ads that generate money for Trees for the Future, but I don’t have the influence or resources for these projects.

But I remind myself that it’s a learning process and takes time and patience to grow a sustainable blog. Sometimes I look at my blog analytics to reassure myself that I’m getting more views every year, meaning every year I’m creating more exposure for local bookstores, authors, and Trees for the Future, which is progress, as slow as it is.

WHAT ADVICE DO YOU HAVE FOR OTHERS WHO WANT TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE/CHANGE IN THE WORLD?

The biggest advice is to just do it. Anyone can make a difference, no matter how much time or how many resources they have. Learn from others making a difference and accept that no matter how much research and planning you do, you’ll make mistakes and experience setbacks along the way (that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t research and plan, though).

You won’t make a difference right away, and maybe not even in the first year or two. Remember to be patient and keep working at it, whatever your cause is or how you’re supporting your cause. Because as cliché as it is, every little bit helps, and even doing something in the hopes it will make a difference down the road is  exponentially more effective than doing nothing at all.

DO YOU HAVE A QUOTE OR EXPRESSION THAT YOU LIVE BY?

“Be the change you wish to see in the world” is one that I try to live by. It’s credited to Mahatma Gandhi.

WHAT ELSE DO YOU DO?

I’m a college student at Polk State College in Florida where I’m working on getting my degree in marketing. I also work part-time at a theme park in Orlando and I’m writing a young adult novel. I published my first novel, Swapping Secrets, last year. You can read it for free on Swoon Reads.

 I’ve interned at Columbia Lighthouse for the Blind and the Borgen Project to learn more about marketing and writing. I also do a little bit of slacktivism, which are minimal effort ways of contributing to charity. I have Tab for a Cause and Ecosia search engine installed as Google Chrome extensions so whenever I search something or open a new tab, I earn a little money through ad revenue for various charities. I also raise money for She’s the First through an app called Charity Miles, which donates some money for every mile you walk, bike, or run. So if anyone’s looking for the bare minimum effort needed to make an impact, albeit a tiny one, these three programs are it.

HOW CAN OTHERS HELP/GET INVOLVED?

The biggest way you can help is by purchasing a book through one of my affiliate links on . Not only will you be supporting me and Trees for the Future, but you’ll also be supporting either an indie author or your local independently owned bookstore (or both).

 If you have a book, blog, or anything else you want promoted in exchange for a small donation to Trees for the Future, then you can learn more details here: . I’m willing to do reviews, spotlights, interviews and social media shout outs.

Or, if you want, you can just donate directly to Trees for the Future. Even a small donation can make a huge difference. One tree only costs ten cents to plant. And 50 dollars is all that’s needed to provide one family with all the seeds, tools, and materials they need for one year. You can donate and learn more about Trees for the Future here:

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What You Need to Put in Your First Text So That She Will Reply

So, you got her number. Smooth. But now comes the BIG question: What should you text her?

This is a big question and a life-changing moment (alright maybe not life changing) BUT while getting her number is obviously a big deal and worthy of a small celebration, the real hard work starts now.

After all, there’s no guarantee that she’ll even reply to your text.

I know – that sucks.

But it’s okay, because in this article I’m going to show you how to start texting a woman so that she replies – and keeps replying.

First of all, here’s what you shouldn’t do:

Don’t Say “Hey”

Just hey? Just hey?

Forget about it. In the age of Tinder she’s got lots of options and a lot of “Heys”. AND “hey” isn’t going to go anywhere!

Don’t Text Without A Purpose

Got no real reason to text her, no end game? Got no idea where you want this conversation to go? Wait until you’ve got a purpose to text her, otherwise, the convo could die super quick and be super forgettable. Get creative and find your purpose and keep your end game in mind! NOTE – this only applies to your initial text – when you know here a little better then random texts are a clear winner!

Don’t Wait Three Days

I don’t care if macho players tell you they wait three days before texting their “babes”. You shouldn’t wait. If you do, you won’t be fresh in her mind anymore and she might not be so reciprocal.

Text her either that same night or the next day (but not too early in the day – after all, you wanna look busy and chilled.)

Don’t Send a Topless Pic

It’s really not okay to start by sending her a topless pic of you, no matter how amazing you look. This also extends to any other body parts.

Don’t Send any Pics Without a Caption

If you just send a random pic without a caption, it’s going to confuse the heck out of her. Even if it’s a sunset or a nice meal. If you send a pic as your opening message – I strongly recommend that you add a caption so that she’s got something to pick up on.

Don’t Adopt Text Slang

It’s massively unattractive and probably won’t net you a reply.

Got all that? Okay.

Now here are the things you should do as you learn how to start texting a woman:

Do: Introduce Yourself!

This doesn’t mean that you should be ridiculously formal.

The difference between a great intro text and an average one:

AVERAGE: mean, you shouldn’t write something like “Hey, it’s Rob Jones who you met last night. How’s it going?”

It doesn’t leap off the screen at her in such a way that she thinks “OMG I NEED TO REPLY RIGHT AWAY.”

Be funny and engaging with how you introduce yourself. Refer back to the conversation you guys had or a joke you shared.

GREAT INTRO: let’s say you two had a conversation about how you like Vikings and wish you could have lived in that era. You could write something like “Hey, it’s Rob the Viking from last night (yes I totally am a Viking).”

Regardless of how you introduce yourself, don’t be boring – but at the same time, keep it short. I’d suggest using three sentences at the most.

Do:Ask a Question

Questions are secret weapons. If she wasn’t going to reply to a simple “hey!” she’ll most likely definitely reply to a question.

Naturally, you don’t want to get heavy with the questions right away. Avoid all political, personal, religious, philosophical or career-related questions for now. Keep things light with a simple “do you have Whats App?” type question.

You could even ask her how she is, provided the rest of your text is sufficiently gripping. If “hey, how’s your day?” is all you’ve got, it isn’t going to cut it.

Try something like this instead:

“So… I just had a mind-blowing idea – you/me and ice cream one night this week… what’s your favourite flavour? “

In this way, you’re catching her interest, giving her something to pick up on, and you’re also asking a question. It’s not the most in-depth question in the world – but it isn’t supposed to be. Anything too heavy will instantly put her off.

Do: Keep It Simple

I can’t stress this enough. If you fire off a six- sentence text that asks two different questions and covers two to three topics, you will confuse the heck out of her.

I know you want to impress her, but you can impress her with brevity.

There’s an art to doing this without being boring.

If you write too much in your first text, you can seem desperate and overwhelming. The key is to keep it simple, cool – but interesting.

Never go over three sentences. Be punchy. Cut out the weakest sentence if you happen to write more than three at first. Cover two topics at the most – the introduction and a question works well.

Do: Be Funny

NOTHING gets a girl interested as much as a funny dude.

If you can make her laugh with your first message, there’s, like, a 95% chance she’s going to reply.

Not kidding. Funny wins.

The easiest way to be funny is to be self-deprecating. Now, you don’t want to be TOO self-deprecating, as this makes it look as though you lack self-esteem. But you could mention something hilarious that happened to you today and use this as an ice breaker before asking how she is.

Ready to hit send? Good luck!

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