I’ve learned something over the past 9 months or so by starting this blog.
I’ve learned how to be vulnerable. I’ve learned it’s okay to not be okay. I’ve learned that the relationships I have in my life are what I value most. I’ve learned to love my body. I’ve learned to be grateful every time I see a new day. And most importantly, I’ve learned that there are many ways to do one thing.
So for this week I want to share one simple message.
There is no “perfect” formula. There is no perfect gym routine. There is no perfect diet plan. There is no perfect morning routine.
Life is always changing. Once you find something that works, a curve ball is thrown your way. Adapt.
Don’t be set in your ways.
Stop looking to Google to tell you how to live your life. Just try things. Fail at things. Sleep in, wake up early… binge watch movies, go on a walk.
There is no perfect formula..trust me, I’ve tried to find it. And while I was looking for something that didn’t exist, I found something better. I found my prefect formula: live.
The only thing life can guarantee you, is that it is always changing. Embrace it.
Hey guys! So at first I wasn’t too sure if I’d be sending a blog. I’m very picky with what I share, and I didn’t really have much to say this week until about 10 minutes ago. And like I’ve spoken to before, when you least expect an idea, there it comes. So here we are with this week’s topic.
I am a planner. I love planning ahead of time. I love knowing what my day looks like. I have a vision board. I love to manifest. I love to think of my future, what it looks like, and how I’m going to get there. For 25 years I have been a strong advocate of planning and having plans.
My struggle comes with planning a future and living in the present. I have a “Live Now” tattoo to remind me that the only time is the now, but I have all of these thoughts about my future and what it looks like. I am a walking contradiction. One day I’m doing my best to live for today, and in the same day I’m looking at houses I might want a few years from now. It’s exhausting.
So just like everything else in my life I’m learning that there isn’t always a this or that answer. Life isn’t as black and white as I’d like it to be. And for someone who has anxiety, trying to except the unknown seems near impossible.
Living day by day is a pipe dream for me. And honestly I don’t really want to be a day by day person. I can admire those who are, but realistically being able to plan in advance is in my blood.
The future is important to think about, but my ass takes it a little too far (no pun intended). So for now, I’m going to work towards being a week by week person. Think of things that are realistically in reach and set out to achieve them. By living week by week I’m hoping the anxiety eases and the future stays prominent.
This wasn’t the most “motivational” post, but I hope it helps someone stay a little more present. Anxiety sucks, do your best not to fuel the fire.
“In a world of instant gratification, find the joy in being patient.” -BeWeiss
Have you ever realized how quickly we can get things now a days? You want a date? Go on Tinder. You need a ride? Call an Uber. Need to get a hold of someone? Send a text. Wondering what your cousin by marriage once removed, ex husband is doing? Check Facebook. I think you get my point…
We live in a time where patience is not needed. And for the few times it is needed? Well, patience is a virtue most of us don’t have. We have these dreams and aspirations with unrealistic time lines. We lose sight of the journey because we are so focused on the destination. We want a house, a boat, and a six figure income NOW, not tomorrow. And because of this, it’s easy to forget that the most gratifying things in life take time, patience, and persistence.
Whatever your goals are; financially, spiritually, physically, enjoy the journey of transformation.
I personally have struggled with this message. Ironically enough, my reason for writing this was because I was googling “how to be a millionaire”, saw that you need multiple incomes, and then started looking up a variety or part time jobs I probably would’ve hated doing. I told my dad I was thinking about finding a part time job, this is what he said:
“You won’t get rich working for someone else. So look for something that you can turn from a hobby to a living, versus working for small amounts of money.”
Pffff mind blown.
I’m already doing my side hobby. I’m blogging and sharing my message to whoever wants to listen. I’m on my million dollar path and didn’t even realize it because my bank account wasn’t reflecting it.
Where you are in life, you are on your path. Take some time today to evaluate your goals and if you’re on the path to achieving them. Your journey is your journey. Don’t rush your transformation, embrace it.
“Surround yourself with people of good quality, for it is better to be alone than in bad company.” – Booker T. Washington
Hello everyone! I swear I haven’t forgotten about all of you. I’ve just been extremely busy living in the moment and unfortunately that means not blogging every idea that comes to my head lol
I’ve spent the past few weeks surrounded by individuals I adore. I recently turned 25 and my girlfriend and bestfriend threw me a surprise party! I spent a week in Aruba on a company trip (it was unreal). My parents were in town and we went to Canada to see some family for Passover. MY HEART IS SO FULL!
However, this week, I have a message.
Have you ever thought about how powerful a person can be? You can be in the best of moods, get cut off by some asshole driver, and then all of the sudden….mood ruined. Just like that. Your state of happiness is gone.
It’s crazy to think that people have such an impact on us. And as much as we would like to think “I’m blind to the bullshit.” we are all human and let others effect our state of being.
I’ve always been a believer that my attitude is one of the few things I can control. I can choose to let things go, I can choose to ignore a random jerk on the streets, but as much as I’d like to choose happiness all the time, I fully understand life isn’t like that.
So here’s my advice: Choose the people you’d want to ruin your day.
Is your mind blown a little bit by that statement? Let me explain..
Choose to hangout with people who love you. Choose to surround yourself with individuals who lift you up. Choose to be with people who push you to be better. Hangout with those who tell you what you need to hear, and not always what you want to hear. And when you’re choosing these individuals, ask yourself if they’re worth having a rainy day over.
People aren’t perfect. Your closest allies are going to hurt your feelings once and awhile. Make sure they are worth that heart ache.
We’ve all had that friend or relationship and said to ourselves “this shit isn’t worth it.” So then stop. Stop picking who aren’t worth it.
When it comes to the people you choose to be apart of your life, quality over quantity will never steer you wrong.
I love reading. I start every morning diving into a book. I love waking up before the sunrise. I love being the first one in the office. I love watching one episode, of whatever my girlfriend is in the mood for, before bed. I love going to the gym. I love meal prepping. I love getting monthly massages. I love hanging out with my best friends. I love hand-written notes.
So many little things in life make me genuinely happy. I know when I wake up early and make time to read before I have to be an “adult”, I’m setting myself up for a great day. I know that if I go to the gym after work I am going to come home feeling accomplished. All of the things that make me a happy person, I do on a daily basis.
So here’s my question for this week’s blog:
What makes you happy? What truly brings you happiness?
What relationships/friendships bring you joy? What daily activities add to your happiness? Think about those things right now.
Now think about how often you are participating in activities that make you happy. Do you incorporate happy things into your daily life?
No? Well, why not?
When it comes to happiness most people know exactly what makes them happy. You ask someone what makes them happy and a thought comes to mind…a person, place, or thing.
If you were to ask someone why they don’t do those “happy” things every day, the most common excuse is “I don’t have time..”
Well, make time. Your happiness is important. Every day there are things being thrown at you that are meant to bring you down. Find time to do the things that bring you up. Find 15-20 minutes to read. Find 30 minutes to stretch and meditate. Find the time to cook a homemade meal.
You don’t have to check off every happy activity in a day, but you should aim to do at least 2-3. Think of the smallest things that make you happy. Little wins make a big win.
When you zoom out, the things that make us most happy typically take 30-60 minutes. With 24 hours in a day there is plenty of time, to make time.
A few weeks ago I was told about a study that showed mothers who tried to be “perfect” actually hindered the growth of their baby. Mother’s have this connotation of never being “good enough”. It’s not enough to feed and cloth their child, they must also provide a safe environment filled with unconditional love. It’s not enough to tuck their child in every night, they must also sit there and read a bed time story. While striving for perfection she is coddling her child and not letting them have time for self exploration. What seems to be “perfection” in her eyes, is actually destruction.
This concept was eye opening. Not because I am thinking about the future mother I would like to be, but more so because the idea of “perfection” is something many people, including myself, struggle with. Nobody is perfect, and I feel like the majority of us understand perfection is an unattainable destination. What we don’t realize is that we have these ideas in our head of what we “should be doing”. You should work out, you should eat healthy, you should go to bed by 9:30pm. We create these set of “perfect” standards in our head…or better known as unachievable destinations. We’ll bust our ass everyday trying to reach perfection, and never be satisfied by being “good enough”.
Shooting for perfection will land you close to it, and if you ask me, being “close to perfection” is good enough for me.
The line between drive and driving yourself crazy is becoming thinner and thinner.
Reflect on a time when “good enough” was not enough.
I’m sure you can come up with a few…
Imagine the moment and picture it differently. Instead of beating yourself up, imagine building yourself up. Instead of knocking yourself down, imagine being your biggest cheerleader. We forget that sometimes starting is the hardest part.
I would never tell you to settle. I would never tell you to lower your standards. All I’m saying is that sometimes “good enough” is enough.
Earlier this week I was told that I have a tendency to “bang my head against the brick wall.” Although I was not completely taken back by this statement, I was intrigued by what it meant exactly.
I was told that there are times where I’m so stuck in my ways that instead of trying to find another way around a problem, I keep pushing through the same brick wall. Part of it comes from my “never give up mentality”. I just keep trying until it works or in most cases, doesn’t work. I work harder not smarter.
The other day I was driving to work and the route I normally take had a detour sign. A detour sign is not the end of the world, but when you’re in a rush and already having a rough start to the day the last thing you want to see is that bright orange sign.
What I found ironic is that when I saw this sign, although it may not be the most convenient thing in the world, I continued with the drive and used an alternative route. I rerouted without thinking twice about it. The route might have taken longer than expected, but my destination was the same.
Life has a funny way of rerouting us at times. We put in our destination, see the route, and know exactly how to get there. A few miles into our journey, road block. Time to reroute.
You’re starting a new workout routine and everything is going smoothly, and then you’re slammed at work and can’t find time to make it the 6 o’clock spin class… reroute.
You want to have healthier eating habits so you try the Paleo Diet just to find that it’s hard to keep up with and you don’t have the time to cook for yourself. Do you give up on eating healthier? No. Reroute.
You have a goal of reading 15 minutes a day, so you set your alarm to wake up early, but when it goes off you’re hitting snooze. Do you give up on reading more? No, reroute.
There are multiple moments in our life where we start to bang our heads against a wall. My suggestion to you is that you stop trying to go through the road block, instead go around it.
For all of you reading this, I apologize for missing last week’s blog. In all honesty, I had the blog written and just never sent it. Life got in the way a little bit. I went out of town to meet my girlfriend’s family. It was an amazing time and that will be a story for another blog post.
Last week’s blog post never got sent, not because I didn’t write one, but because there was apart of me that felt like I “had to” send it. This might be a little rebellious sounding, but I did not send a blog because I felt like I had to send it.
I started writing because I had this big picture of helping those who read it, and now it felt like homework. I found myself scrambling to find something to write about. Some week’s I’d stay up late hoping an idea would spark. I would stress myself out. It was no longer the therapeutic release it started out as.
Think of a time you felt the same.
The gym routine I started so I can live and feel healthier was great at first. And then I started beating myself up when I’d miss a day. I spent an hour everyday reading before bed, I loved it! And then I found myself watching Netflix instead and hated that I stopped reading. I would eat healthy for a few weeks, and then the one time I eat a chocolate bar I can’t stop thinking about it.
Once again this is a reminder that you are not alone. We all feel this way at times. Life is meant to be lived so don’t beat yourself up for doing so! Health, both mentally and physically, is important so take care of yourself, but also remember to indulge from time to time.
Remember why you start something. Remember that for the most part, we start a new venture to improve our own quality of life. Beating yourself up, putting yourself down, and feeling like a failure isn’t adding value to your life, it’s taking from it.
The next time you find yourself turning passion into pain, stop yourself. Remind yourself why you started and then start again.
Yes, you. Hi. I want to tell you that you’re doing a great job. Life is hard. Shit is tough and sometimes you aren’t sure if you’re doing good, bad, or enough. And that’s okay. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Easier said then done of course, but seriously..cut yourself some slack. If you can be better, do better. If you’re doing your best, pat yourself on the back.
Having “Drive” is sometimes a blessing and a curse. Sleepless nights, endless thoughts, never being satisfied, curse. Seeing your hard work pay off, being able to support yourself, staying motivated, blessing.
This is a new week and with it will come it’s own troubles and triumphs. Live each day with intention. Wake up in the morning ready to attack, and if for some reason shit goes to shit, then tell yourself it’s okay.
Sometimes we think the “struggle” in life comes from the situations that happen to us. But that’s wrong. Life is hard not because what is thrown at us, but more so on how we respond. Getting knocked down is easy, standing up is hard.
If you get knocked down, get up. If you see someone else down, help them up.
What you give to life you will get in return.
Be your own best friend. Be your own motivational speech. Tell yourself you are okay.
I once was told that the difference between being married for 30 years and divorced in 3 is something called “the breaking point”.
Essentially the “breaking point” is just that, the point in which shit goes to shit and it’s sink or swim.
When I heard this something sparked, and well… now here I am with this week’s blog topic. It made sense that couples who last are able to work out their differences and darkest moments, but I think it goes further than that. I think getting past the breaking point in anything is what separates those who make it and those who don’t.
In any new journey, chapter, adventure..there’s going to be some rough times. You’re going to hit obstacles, walls, unexpected bullshit…these things are inevitable. If you ask anyone “at the top” how their journey to get there went, I guarantee there were some horror stories along the way.
The difference between those who raise and those who fall is the inner strength to keep going.Expect things to suck, this way you’re ready. Expect road blocks to happen, this way you can reroute. The only thing you need to be clear on is your end goal. How you get there is something out of your control.
Mentally prepare. Mentally prepare now for the dark times that haven’t happened. Be grateful for sunny skies and clear paths, but don’t be naive in thinking storms won’t come. Don’t be afraid when things get tough. Embrace the feeling of “lost” because one day you’ll find your way. How do I know? Well, because you were brave enough to start a journey in the first place.
Those who are brave enough to start are strong enough to finish. Get through the breaking point.