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Before you consider how to stop shopping, it will help to understand why you want to stop shopping or to decide if you need to stop shopping at all.

A 30-day experiment to help you understand why you shop and if you should stop.

Buying things isn’t bad or wrong, but shopping to feel a certain way, or to prove yourself to others or because you think something will make you feel happier or more successful doesn’t work.

If you aren’t sure if you need or want to stop shopping, start by noticing your shopping habits. Pay attention to where, when and why you shop, how much you spend, and what you buy. You could estimate, but the most accurate, impactful method is to track your spending for 30 days. Carry a small notebook, and notice your shopping habits on paper. Don’t wait until the end of the day to add it up, but instead take a quick note each time you spend. Note what you spend and what you buy. For closer examination, write a few sentences about what’s going on or how you are feeling when you shop. You may be able to spot some patterns at the end of your experiment.

After tracking your spending for a month, or if you just know it’s time to stop shopping, write down your why. Why do you want to stop shopping? Do you want to trade shopping for …

  • more money?
  • less clutter?
  • more time?
  • less decision fatigue?
  • more energy?

Your reason may be different, or may include all of the above. Once you’ve figured out why, write it down and keep your note handy so you can see it whenever you are tempted to shop.

P.S. If you’ve realized shopping adds value to your life and it’s not a problem, find something more inspiring to read here.

How to stop shopping: 8 ideas that will save you time and money

1. Identify the real need.
Before you buy something new because you are bored, sad, frustrated or even celebrating, identify the real need. How do you want to feel? What could you do besides shopping to make you feel that way?

2. Remove temptation.
Remove temptation and encouragement to shop by unsubscribing from your favorite store newsletters. Steer clear of one-click shopping. Don’t help friends shop. Stop window shopping, reading magazines, and clicking through to lists of “favorite items” from social media or blogs.

Where do you enjoy spending money? Don’t go there.

3. Delay.
Timing is everything, especially when it comes to an impulse purchase. Delay your purchase for 30 days and see if you are still as excited about it as you were initially. Chances are the desire will pass.

4. Try a shopping ban.
Make a commitment to stop shopping for all non-essential items for 30 days, three months or for an entire year. If your closet is the problem, try minimalist fashion challenge Project 333. You’ll dress with only 33 items of clothing, shoes, accessories and jewelry and ban shopping in those categories for 3 months.

5. Watch your excuses.
If shopping excessively is part of your daily life, when you stop, you’ll find excuses to shop. From gifts, to convincing yourself that you need something new for an upcoming event, to just in case shopping, it won’t be hard to find a loop hole. Simply pay attention and when excuses come up, revisit your why.

6. Give.
If you want to shop your way into a happiness boost, stop. Research shows people who give away their time and money are happier than those who don’t.

7. Start a “what matters” fund.
What really matters to you? If you want to become debt free, support a local charity, spend two weeks in another country, take salsa dancing lessons, build a house, or change careers, start a fund specifically for that. When you are tempted to shop, ask yourself what matters more and make an intentional decision about how you want to spend your money. New purse or dinner in Paris?

8. Gratitude.
If you aren’t happy with what you have, you won’t be happy with what you get. More stuff doesn’t equal more happiness. Keep a gratitude journal or make gratitude part of your morning practice by silently acknowledging a few things in your life that you are grateful for. As the saying goes, it’s not happiness that makes us grateful, but gratefulness that makes us happy.

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We can’t stop worrying. Why do we do this to ourselves? Worrying doesn’t fix or change anything.

A worry story

Here’s an example. Let’s say you are flying from Los Angeles to New York City and you have a connecting flight on the way. Your first flight left late and you worry that you might miss your connecting flight. You imagine how you’ll have to run from one gate to the next for any possibility of catching your next flight. Next, you worry about what’s going to happen if you miss your flight. You think about how you’ll have to reschedule a meeting you are going to miss, and you remind yourself to cancel your hotel or ride service. You worry if the airline will compensate you for the delay. You worry about how hard it is going to be to find another flight especially when everyone else on your flight is delayed too.

And then you land early and everything is fine.

Everything is fine except you just spent the last two hours anticipating everything that could go wrong and now you are worn out because you worried your way into exhaustion. You imagined the worst and even though it didn’t happen, you are drained physically and emotionally.

Now, let’s say you did in fact miss your connecting flight. How did the worrying serve you? Instead of losing yourself in worry or worst case scenarios,  you could have made a quick list of things you’d need to do if you did missed your flight and then carry on … calm, cool and collected.

I know we worry about bigger, scarier things than missing a flight, but in the end it’s the same story. We are usually worrying about things that never happen, making ourselves feel crappy in the process.

Five ways to help you stop worrying

Pick one or try all of these things when you feel like your worry is pointless (spoiler alert: all worry is pointless).

1. Acknowledge the worry.
The moment you notice you are worrying, acknowledge it. Describe to yourself what you are worrying about. Ask yourself if there is something you can do to remedy whatever you are worrying about. Ask yourself if worrying is serving any purpose.

2. Take some sort of action.
Make a list of things you want to remember to do if the things that you are worrying about happens. This will stop your mind from trying to think about all the things, which leads to more worry. Just write them down, even if they seem silly.

3. Distract yourself.
If you’ve asked yourself the questions above but can’t let go of your worries, temporarily distract yourself. Intentionally shift your mind’s attention by reading a book, listening to a guided meditation, calling a friend or watching a movie.

4. Create a daily practice.
To combat the pointless practice of worrying, create a daily practice that helps you calm your mind. Create a morning routine of stretching, meditating and writing, or an evening routine to help you prepare for sleep. Commit to consistency over intensity as you create a daily practice that will help your mind rest when it’s time to rest. It will also help you notice when you are caught in the worry trap so you can get out more quickly.

5. Get present.
The things you are worrying about haven’t happened. You’ve moved into the future … a future that you cannot predict or worry yourself in or out of. Bring yourself back to the present by placing your hands on your heart or by taking a big deep breath. Feel your feet on the ground.

How something ends up never depends on how much you worry about it. When you are worrying and when you are working your way out of worry, be gentle with yourself. Oncoming worry may feel like it’s out of your control, but you can ease out of it and after a while of intentionally letting go of worry, it will subside.

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We all understand the danger of “keeping up with the Joneses” — overspending, overdoing, and over proving ourselves so we can be as happy, successful and loved as our neighbors. It never ends well.

But what about the minimalist Jonses? What about keeping up with people who are living simple, beautiful, amazing lives? Is it ok if we chase that lifestyle?

Is it ok to keep up with the minimalist Joneses?

Yes and no.

Yes at first, if you are interested in simplifying your life. Seeing how someone changed their life, in this case by simplifying, can encourage you to make positive changes in your own life. You may be able to avoid some of the roadblocks by following other people’s advice too.

Do things that simplify your life if you want to simplify your life.

No, once you get the hang of things because you aren’t in this to have a simple life. You are in this to have a life. Your life … your life filled with the things that matter to you.

No, if you are trying to measure up. Comparing your success with minimalism by measuring it against the success of someone else’s minimalism isn’t helpful. It doesn’t tell you anything. It may feed your ego by telling you that you are good because you live with fewer items than someone else or that you are bad because you have too much stuff, but not accurate.

If you must measure, change your measuring system. You can’t measure your life and the person you are with someone else’s ruler.

Measure by the way you feel. If you feel less stressed, minimalism may be working for you. If you feel like you have more freedom, you might be heading in the right direction. If your heart feels full at the end of the day, keep simplifying.

Simplifying my life has allowed me to do things that matter to me but those things may not be part of the vision you have for your life. I’m often inspired by minimalist bloggers and podcasters to try new things and consider new ideas but eventually it has to come back to how those recommendations support the kind of life I want.

Maybe you are simplifying to be healthier, maybe not. Minimalism may be of interest because you want to work for yourself, or not. There isn’t one right way or reason to simplify your life.

The minimalist Jonses are still Jonses.

Be inspired and then do what’s best for you.

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If you want a look inside my closet, watch the Project 333 minimalist closet tour below. But first, learn how this fashion challenge goes far beyond fashion.

When I started Project 333, I didn’t know what to expect. I only knew that something had to change.

Something had to change because I was spending too much time, money and attention on what I was wearing. Even though I donated things from time to time, my closet was always (no pun intended) bursting at the seams.

My closet contributed to stressful mornings, lots of debt, and worse, a constant feeling of discontent. I’m not proud to admit this but even though I had way too much, I never felt like I had enough. I always seemed to need “one more thing” which always led to wanting more.

When it came to my closet, or what I thought other people would think about what I was wearing, or how I felt in my clothes, it was never enough.

Once I made my first list of 33 items for 3 months including clothing, accessories, jewelry and shoes, boxed up the extras and hung my items in the closet, I realized that this was going to be a big change. My closet looked empty and I felt nervous. Was this going to work? Were people I worked with going to notice? Would I have enough?

Spoiler alert: Yes. No. Yes.

While Project 333 dramatically changed my mornings, my wardrobe and how I thought about my clothes, it changed so much more.

Minimalist Fashion Challenge Project 333 affects so much more than your closet.

In the planning stages, it was all about the closet and clothes, but I started noticing benefits outside of the closet almost immediately. Some took more time, but dressing with less continues to surprise me even nine years later.

Here are a few ways that Project 333 has changed so much more than my closet:

Confidence. I realized those feelings of “not enough” about my clothes were really about being comfortable in my skin, not in my clothes. By removing the pressure to prove who I was by what I was wearing, I felt more confident and comfortable. Additionally, when I noticed that no one noticed I was dressing differently, I realized I didn’t need to care so much about what other people thought … about my clothes or anything else.

Money. I was underestimating how much I was spending on clothes, shoes and accessories. Even though none of my items were very expensive, my spending added up. When I stopped shopping completely for three months, I was shocked by what I had saved.

Fear. My relationship with fear changed. I had fears about what would happen if I dressed with less. Not running from a tiger fear, but tiny fears about what people would think, or what I’d do about laundry or weather or other things that were never a problem. I realized that most of the fear I experience is about anticipating what could happen and not what actually does happen. It’s given me a lot of freedom for what I like to call “fear and …” meaning that I can feel fear and still move forward. Earlier this month, I went paragliding for the first time. Seriously! Here I am flying through the air. I felt all the fear and ran off of a cliff. I can’t wait to do it again.

Flexibility. Now that my wardrobe is smaller, I naturally travel with fewer items and can get ready for anything more quickly. Navigating the world (when traveling or just day-to-day) carrying less allows me to be more flexible and open to change and opportunity.

Attention. Because I’m not giving as much attention to what I wear and how I look, I have more attention for what really interests me.

Here are a few other perks of a minimalist wardrobe.

Try Project 333 and create your own minimalist wardrobe.

Based on my own experience and by hearing from others taking on the challenge over the last nine years, I’ve realized that this fashion challenge has very little to do with clothes or fashion.

We start a brand new season of Project 333 on July 1st. Summer is the easiest season of all because in most (not all) locations, you don’t need a hat, gloves, winter coat or extra things to keep you warm.

If you want to see exactly what’s in my summer Project 333 capsule collection, watch the minimalist closet tour below and take a look inside my closet. I share the challenge rules, more benefits, when Project 333 (the new book) is coming out, why I include a sweater and warm scarf in my summer collection and answers to lots of great questions.

Minimalist Closet Tour on YouTube

Minimalist Closet Tour on Instagram

Minimalist Closet Tour on Facebook

You can find the Project Rules and other information here.

P.S. If fear is holding you back from Project 333 or any other challenge or change you are considering, please remember that you can do both. Fear and …

Fear and Project 333. Fear and challenge. Fear and change. You’ve got this!

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Have you ever overreacted? Did you ever kind of lose your mind about something that didn’t warrant a total melt down? I have.

My overreactions never helped. In fact, they always added fuel to the fire; more drama, stress, confusion and chaos. Not only didn’t they help the things I was reacting to, but my overreactions wore me out.

By overreacting, it was like experiencing the same thing twice. Once when it happened and again when I brought all of my outrage to the situation. With that, my heart felt double the weight of any circumstance.

I’m not suggesting you dismiss your feelings about something, but for the sake of your health and sanity, thoughtfully consider how you turn those feelings into action. For instance, instead of screaming through your windshield at someone who cuts you off in traffic, maybe listening to your favorite song or taking a few deep breaths will suffice. Or, if someone says something hurtful to you that isn’t true, ask yourself if their words are more reflective of something they are going through instead of how they really feel about you. Not that you should tolerate being mistreated, but if it’s not about you, perhaps you can react with less emotion and investment.

If you want to protect your heart, your sleep and the people around you, consider the following steps the next time you feel like overreacting.

Underreact with these 5 steps and your heart will thank you:

1. Stop taking things personally.
This one thing will almost always help you underreact. Before you make it all about you and create stories about how the situation you are dealing with is going to impact your life, stop. Tell a different story. Imagine that it has nothing to do with you, that it isn’t about you. Usually, it’s not.

2. Determine if an action or reaction from you is even appropriate. 
Most things don’t require (or deserve) your attention and energy. (I have to remind myself this about 84 times a day.) When you choose not to react at all to gossip, drama and controversy for the sake of controversy, you conserve your precious time and energy for what really matters.

Begin to notice how things unfold when you remove yourself. Without your struggle, control or attempt to fix something, how does it turn out? When you see that things have a way of working themselves out, you will feel more comfortable, relieved even to let go more often.

3. Do what you can, then let go.
Consider the best course of action, do what you can and then let go. Don’t insert yourself all the way through, every step of the way. You may have to come back and make adjustments but you don’t have to obsess and control and give everything up to handle most things (that’s overreacting).

4. Recognize what else is going on when you overreact.
Do you overreact out of habit or because you are one of the following:

  • Hungry
  • Tired
  • Drunk
  • Overwhelmed
  • Sick
  • Worried

All of those things are going to lower your ability to underreact. Take care of yourself so you are experiencing those things less or not at all.

5. Separate the outside from the inside.
There will always be outrageous, unfair, and upsetting things happening around you. When the world feels crazy and chaotic, remember that while much of it is outside of your control, what is in your control is you. Just because everything is crazy around you, doesn’t mean things have to be crazy within you.

After practicing the steps above, overreacting to things won’t resonate with you anymore. Underreacting will better serve your heart and the hearts around you. When you remove the over from your reacting, you can move more quickly towards a reasonable solution without wearing yourself out in the process.

Your heart will thank you.

​P.S. Join me for an Instagram Live call today, June 19th at 5pm ET on how to slow down your summer, and Monday, June 24th at 5pm ET for a Project 333 summer wardrobe closet tour. 

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Are you struggling to simplify your life?

I get it. You’ve got a lot on your plate. You have a bunch of tasks, to-do’s, appointments, interests, and issues. Same here. We may be able to do it all, but we can’t do it all at once.

Everything can’t matter at the same time.

It can’t all have your attention.

Seth Godin wrote that only ten words of the 1000 we write will get attention. I’ve already written more than 70. Are you still reading?

If you notice that you’ve been skimming email or books or other things in your life, consider what you are allowing in — into your life, into your brain and into your heart. Next, think about what’s most important to you right now. Where does that fall on your list? Is it even on the list?

If you let less in, could you give more of yourself to what’s most important.? Could you trade some of your skimming for a deep dive?

How might that change your life?

If you want to simplify your life, dive into the most important thing.

Think about the most stressful area of your life. If you could simplify that one thing, it would likely simplify everything else.

Here are a few things that might be stressful in your life. Pick one. If you struggle with all of them, still pick just one.

Then dive in.

Health: 8 things to consider if you are sick and tired.

Debt: Becoming debt-free: a 21-day guide to help you get started.

Clutter: Decluttering 101: 10 rules to help you live with less stuff.

Work: 7 things to consider if you hate your job.

Busyness: The essential practice of doing nothing.

Boundaries: Setting boundaries and what to do if you feel guilty for saying no. 

Wardrobe: 10 steps to end closet chaos (and what you must give up to be free).

Mind: One simple way to declutter your mind.

Heart: Heart calling: a wake up call for the real you.

Start with one of the resources above and make that one thing your priority. Feed that change every single day with tiny steps. Choose consistency over intensity. Don’t worry about how long it takes. Dismiss your self-doubt and negative feedback from the people around you. Dismiss it and dive deeper.

Skimming doesn’t serve you. It distracts you.

Choose deeper over wider and immerse yourself in what matters to you.

Get lost in what you care about. That’s where you’ll find everything.

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Happiness is a state of mind but joy is an event. For instance, even when I’m not experiencing happiness, when I spend time with this guy, it’s all joy.

Joy is here for you, but when your calendar is all booked up and your to-do list looks more like a novel, you will not be here for joy. If you want more joy and delight in your life, do these two things:

1. Notice joy. When you are in joy; when you see it and feel it, notice it. Give joy your time and attention and it will fill your heart.

2. Let go of the things that stand between you and joy. These might be things that drag you down, hurt your heart or keep you distracted and exhausted.

Instead of holding on to things you don’t care about and projects that exhaust you, grab on to intuition, love and gratitude. Instead of keeping a tight grip on negative (but useless) emotions like guilt, regret and resentment, really think about how you want to invest your limited time and energy.

Sometimes we hold on to things that don’t serve us because we want to be “good” and we’ve been taught that quitting or giving up is “bad” — but what would it look like if we stopped judging and started trusting ourselves to know what’s best for us?

What’s so good about being good anyway?

7 Things Standing Between You and Joy

1. Clutter
Instead of focusing on clearing the clutter from your entire house, work on one drawer, one closet, one room, or one surface at time. Being free from clutter allows you to see what’s important in your drawers, and in your life. Make room for joy.

2. A toxic relationship 
Holding on to someone who always brings you down may be good for them, but not for you. The time you spend with others should inspire you, not depress you. Remember there is a difference between helping someone who is going through a tough time and a toxic relationship. Once a relationship becomes damaging to the way you act, feel or think, it is time to let go or rethink your rules of engagement.

3. Unhealthy measurement systems
Using numbers on the scale or numbers of likes, comments and followers on your social feeds is no way to measure your self worth. Not even for a second. If you notice that any of these numbers change the way you feel about yourself or affect your mood, stop. Give your scale away and/or take a social media break.

4. Concern with what other people think
What they think has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. Knowing that, the next time you share something that brings you incredible joy, and someone shoots it down (and attempts to steal your joy) say, “thank you for your thoughtful feedback,” and walk away in joy.

Usually it’s not what people say, but what we think they will say that keeps us doing what we should, attempting to be good and loved. All that shoulding is a big wall standing between you and joy.

5. Doing it all
If you are overextended, exhausted and too busy to do anything for yourself, you will never have time for joy. You’ll never know what really lights you up, or what matters to you. If you want to change, but don’t know how, try the Busy Boycott.

6. Resistance to change
Like it or not, everything is changing all the time. Change brings both opportunity and uncertainty. Your propensity for both joy and happiness is directly connected to your willingness to be open to change.

7. Goals that don’t fit anymore
Letting go of goals and dreams in the name of joy can be the most challenging of all. As our lives change, we change, and things that seemed so important years ago may slowly fade away. Instead of beating yourself up for not achieving your old goals, focus on your new dreams and develop goals or bucket lists that reflect who you are right now.

When you read the title of this article, 7 Things Standing Between You and Joy, you may have thought of a few things in your life. If you are paying attention, you can identify the things standing between you and joy and let them go. It won’t always be easy, but the joy that is waiting for you is worth it.

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It may take some time to declutter your life, but it will be time well spent. As you let go, you’ll begin to really understand what matters to you. You will likely notice that the stuff that surrounds you, and demands your attention and energy isn’t as important or meaningful as you think.

That’s exactly what happened to me. When we downsized a few years ago from a big house to an apartment less than half its size, I wasn’t ready to let go of some things. I sealed up five boxes of stuff I thought was important. I wrote the following in big letters on the top of the box. “Put in storage. Decide later.”

When we found our new apartment, there wasn’t any storage space so I let those five boxes go. Today, if you offered me one million dollars to tell you what was in those boxes, I couldn’t do it. I don’t remember. The stuff wasn’t important.

Letting go of my stuff helped me remember what mattered to me. Letting go helped me decide how I wanted to live. If you’d like to let go and declutter your life, these quotes will help.

Declutter Your Life: quotes that will help you let go of your stuff 1.

Less stuff. More love and connection. Ok?

2.

If you don’t use it, let it go. If it doesn’t add value to your life, let it go. If you can’t afford it, let it go. If you don’t want it, let it go. If it weighs you down, let it go. Own what you want but remember, it owns you right back.

3.

Challenging myself to dress with less with Project 333 changed my wardrobe but more importantly it changed me. I realized that no one cared what I was wearing and that I could feel confident, smart, beautiful and loved without buying anything new because I am confident, smart, beautiful and loved. Not because of what I own, or what I wear, but because of who I am.

You are too.

4.

We have to stop believing our happiness lies in the next thing we buy, or the next thing we do, or the next person we see, or the next goal we accomplish or expectation we meet. Happiness isn’t waiting for us. Happiness is within us. It’s not always available to us and it can be fleeting but it is not something you can earn, buy or find.

5.

To clarify, a full house not counting people and pets, just all that other stuff.

6.

You have to organize your things over and over again, but you only have to de-own them once.

7.

Don’t save the good stuff for a special occasion. Life is a special occasion. Use the good dishes. Wear and enjoy your favorite things. Let go of the rest.

8.

Think about how you really want to live in your home. Then you’ll know what to make space for.

9.

I know it sounds obvious, but time after time, we declutter after the holidays or for spring cleaning, or because we are sick of all of our crap and then what do we do? We fill up all the spaces. Stop filling all the spaces. The next time you make a little space for yourself, fill it with all the ways you really want to do life. And if you don’t know what you want to do with the space, just sit with it. Take your time. Answers will come.

10.

Simplicity = clarity.

For more inspiration to declutter your life, reduce stress and live well, join me here on Instagram. I’m hosting a live call there today at 5pm Eastern and I’m happy to answer any questions you have.

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Books are a sensitive subject for aspiring minimalists. Some people assume because I recommend letting go of your books, I don’t like books. That couldn’t be further from the truth. I love books. I wrote a book. I love reading books, sharing books and giving books away. What don’t I like about books is storing them, moving them and forcing myself to read them when I don’t really feel like it just because I own them.

Here is my minimalist approach to books. Once I’m finished reading a book, instead of putting it on a bookshelf to collect dust, I pass it on. I give it to my daughter or another friend. Or, I give it away on Instagram or donate it.

When I first started simplifying my life and decluttering, books were off limits. I never dreamt I’d get rid of hundreds of books. Instead, I focused on the easier things like clothes I didn’t wear, empty picture frames, measuring cups, and spatulas (so many spatulas). Once all the easy clutter was gone, I started to feel differently about my books. What purpose were they serving? I had either read them or avoided them. I moved them when I moved. I installed shelves or purchased furniture for them. I dusted them (occasionally).

My books were there to prove I loved reading, but I wasn’t reading the books I owned. Once I realized that, I let them all go. I let go of the books and embraced my love of reading.

I purchase books to support authors and check books out of the library too. I’m usually reading a non-fiction (daytime) and fiction (nighttime) book at the same time and am listening to an Audiobook when I’m walking or traveling.

Here are the books I’ve read recently or plan to read soon.

1000+ Little Things Happy Successful People Do Differently

Unlearn: 101 Simple Truths for a Better Life

Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms

Beyond Beautiful: A Practical Guide to Being Happy, Confident, and You in a Looks-Obsessed World

Daily Rituals: Women at Work

Drink: The Intimate Relationship Between Women and Alcohol

Away & Aware: A Field Guide to Mindful Travel

Daisy Jones & The Six: A Novel

Maid: Hard Work, Low Pay, and a Mother’s Will to Survive

Outer Order, Inner Calm: Declutter and Organize to Make More Room for Happiness

WOLFPACK: How to Come Together, Unleash Our Power, and Change the Game

I love giving books away!

If you’d like to win one of these books, comment below with the title of a book you are reading now or one of your all time favorite books. I’ll pick a winner on 5-28-2019 and send you a book anywhere in the world. (Note: please don’t email or comment anywhere other than on this post or your entry won’t be eligible.)

If you win, I’ll email you to find out which book above you’d like me to send to you.

Books are meant to be enjoyed. Read them, love them, learn from them and pass them on. I’ve written more about books here, here and here.

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Decluttering your mind isn’t usually the first cluttered area that gets your attention. Usually it’s a countertop, junk drawer or an entire garage. I think that’s for the best. When you first start to declutter, I recommend starting with the easy stuff.

Getting rid of clothes you don’t wear or extra coffee cups is often easier than an attempt to declutter your mind. Working on the stuff around us is less challenging than working on the stuff within us. That said, to reduce stress and live healthier, happier lives, working on both the outside and the inside are important.

In the Soulful Simplicity Course, we start with the heart because that’s where everything starts.

Why it’s important to declutter your mind

We are really good at holding on to things. We hold on to our thoughts, to what other people have said to us, to what’s happened to us and to our fear and concern about what may happen to us, or what other people may think of us.

Then we layer on things like guilt, regret, expectations, disappointment and sadness. It’s one thing to experience these things, but then to store them and hold on tight is something else completely.

At some point all of that holding on gets heavy, too heavy. It begins to disturb our sleep, which then changes our moods and impacts how we feel about ourselves and how we treat others. Sometimes, we don’t even know what’s bothering us because we’ve been holding on to it all for so long.

One simple way to declutter your mind (and heart)

Here’s one simple way to declutter your mind and heart. It’s not the only way but it is a good place to start. Try this right before you go to sleep. Write down what’s on your mind and heart. It can be happy things, sad things, heavy things or light things. Write them all down and promise to revisit the list when you wake up. This promise gives your mind permission to let go overnight. When you wake up, honor your promise and review your list. Is there an action you can take to resolve anything on the list? If there is, take it. If there isn’t, let go. Symbolically let go of everything on the list when you let go of the list itself.

Each night, make a new list. You might repeat something from the night before and that’s ok. Continue the process of writing everything down, making a promise to revisit in the morning, and then taking action when you wake up.

Over time, you’ll notice that some of your worries begin to fade, or you take action to resolve them or forget about them completely. You’ll begin to notice that it’s not worth holding on to things you have no control over.

Even though you can’t see the results of decluttering your mind as easily as you can see a decluttered countertop, you can feel it. You can feel it on the inside, and it will change your view of the outside.

A course to help you declutter your mind and heart

Today is the last day to register for the Soulful Simplicity Course. All along, I’ve been saying that this is not a decluttering course, but maybe that’s not completely accurate. What I mean is that we aren’t going to spend the entire time decluttering the physical clutter in your home because I know that you know how to do that already. You might not want to, and it might be hard, but logically you know how to do it.

We are going to do some decluttering though.

You will learn to declutter your mind and begin to let go of busyness and expectations (of yourself and others). In the live calls we’ll work on letting go of worry and other emotions that keep your mind spinning.

You will learn to declutter your heart and begin to let go of guilt, regret and judgement (of yourself and others). I’m going to share a practice with you that will help you connect with your heart, remember who you are and what matters to you.

We’ll tackle other things too in the making space and making time modules. You can see what else is included here on the course page, or read below …

Module One: Making You

  • An in-depth look at my personal story and how simplicity changed my life
  • Thoughtful questions to get you unstuck so you are able to do what you really want to do
  • Encouraging tips to help you move past any roadblocks and build healthy habits that support your new life
  • Discover the gift of presence and being more attentive so you can make the most of every day
  • An introduction to a heart practice that can help you align yourself with what your heart really wants

Module Two: Making Space

  • Practical strategies that will help you let go of clutter, including photographs and sentimental items
  • Embrace space in your life by bringing fewer things into your life with the 3 Myths of Ownership
  • Step-by-step help to clean out your closet as well as any emotions you have in your closet
  • How to create a “Simplicity Summit” where you have an intentional discussion with loved ones and grow closer together
  • Reconnect with your heart so you can also reconnect with yourself

Module Three: Making Time

  • Make personal boundaries and learn to honor them so you can be happier and healthier
  • Say no in a respectful and meaningful way to take better care of yourself
  • Give yourself more space, energy, and fulfillment by changing how you use your calendar
  • How to unplug from digital devices and connect more to your heart and your loved ones
  • Find more clarity, happiness and ease from lingering longer and avoiding busyness

Course registration ends today at midnight (Pacific Time). When you sign up you’ll have immediate access to a few intro videos and the Soulful Simplicity Community. We’ll all start together with Module One on Monday, May 20th.

You can learn more or register for the course by clicking this link.

P.S. Try the practice above to declutter your mind and heart and consider joining me for six weeks of growth, change, laughter and probably a few tears. Registration closes today so if you have any last-minute questions or concerns, please let me know by responding to this email.

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