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Adelaide sleep consultant Kelly tells us about her solution for baby Alex’s short naps and poor nights.
Alex was a restless little man. He would cat-nap throughout the day, and then be an alert night owl at bedtime. His parents could forget about a good night’s sleep; Alex wouldn’t sleep for any longer than one or perhaps two hour blocks if they were lucky.
It was an all-too familiar pattern for his parents, who had willed themselves through sleep deprivation with his older brother… but not again!
Having survived 14 months of sleepless nights with Alex’s older brother, they knew it would just be too much a second time around. Although Alex was only four months old, his parents wanted to nip it in the bud and get a good sleep routine down.
Kelly meets little Alex
Alex’s Mum decided to give Kelly (Adelaide sleep consultant) a call and have her come in for a two hour in-home consultation. Kelly got to meet little Alex and learn more about his eating and sleeping patterns, and how he fits in with the rest of the family.
It was pretty clear to Kelly from the beginning that Alex’s sleep environment just wasn’t working for him. Alex would sleep when he felt like it during the daytime and then find himself wide awake come nightfall. He would also snack on milk intermittently without really drinking enough to help lull him into a good, deep sleep.
A quick makeover for the nursery
Alex typically napped in the lounge, but he was getting overstimulated by the people around him. So Kelly took Alex to the nursery, where she made a few quick changes to transform it into a nice, dark space for him to relax in. Alex was also swaddled for extra comfort, since he was still so small and enjoyed the sensation.
Alex’s older brother was three years old and doing what any self-respecting three year old does – making lots of noise. Fortunately, that problem was easily solved by introducing plenty of white noise in the nursery.
Kelly also noticed that there was one pretty major difference between Alex and his older brother that his parents hadn’t picked up on yet. Many kids, including Alex’s brother, find dummies soothing.
But Alex found the dummy agitating, and every time it was put in his mouth he would get upset. Putting Alex to sleep without the dummy actually worked far better for him.
A sleep routine was then key to getting Alex’s body clock to shift. Kelly worked with Alex’s Mum to come up with a schedule that included an afternoon nap for both toddler and baby, but was also based around Alex not sleeping as frequently during the day as he was doing.
Within only a week or two, Alex was waking up only once a night for a feed, “which is a completely age appropriate amount,” says Kelly.
I’m not coming back!
During the home consultation, Alex’s Mum asked Kelly how often she’d have to come back to help Alex develop his sleep routine. Kelly likes to jokingly respond to this question by saying “I won’t need to come back a second time, hun!” But behind the joke, the sentiment is clear. Kelly doesn’t have to come back, and the four follow up calls she did with Alex’s Mum over the next week or so proved that Alex had progressed incredibly well. Alex was having steady naps during the day and letting his parents sleep well at night.
Alex’s Mum was absolutely thrilled to have his sleeping habits sorted by four months, as opposed to the 14 months it took with his older brother. She told Kelly that she felt like a huge weight have been lifted, and felt “more in control with two kids than I was with one!”
Alex’s Mum also said: “Thank you so much for your help with Alex; you have literally saved my life! I used to dread going to bed at night, and how many wake ups we were going to endure, and now my husband and I can put both kids to bed at a reasonable time and watch a movie together with a glass of wine. Honestly, we cannot thank you enough.”
The 4 month sleep regression gets a bad rep. It is blamed for most sleep difficulties after 4 months, while parents patiently wait for it it to pass.
Unfortunately the 4 month sleep regression isn’t so much a regression as it is a permanent change in your babies sleep patterns, and it doesn’t always start at 4 months.
Lots of newborn are born very sleepy, they have a lot of melatonin on board which has come from mum across the placenta. This means often in the first 3 weeks we can get away with feeding them, wrapping like a burrito and popping them down for a nap, and they sleep!
After this blissful 3 week stage most newborns start to gradually “wake up”, as they do this maternal melatonin has worn off, and their bodies don’t catch up and start producing it’s own sleep hormones for a few weeks or months.
At the same time your babies sleep cycles are starting to emerge and develop as their circadian rythym is slowly starting to mature.
These sleep cycles start to emerge anywhere from 8-16 weeks on average. That is your baby who used to nap for 1-2 hours might start to wake up after 45 minutes and seem wide awake.
This is perfectly normal and to be expected. This is your baby neurologically maturing, and their sleep isn’t broken. You might not notice this development for a few reasons.
Your baby can already self settle, and they simply re-settle themselves back to sleep and you are blissfully unaware that they are waking and going back to sleep.
They have been in a consistent routine for a few months before the progression starts. Often these babies continue to sleep well since their sleep is very much a habit already.
Your baby naps on you, or in a carrier, so you assist them to sleep, and back to sleep when they wake from a short nap.
So can the 4 month sleep regression occur early?
The word regression refers to something getting worse or going backwards. Parents use the term 4 month sleep regression to describe the results they see after this neurological development of sleep cycles.
4 month sleep regression observations
45 minute naps
30 minute naps
Difficulty re-settling baby
Frequent wake ups at night
Regression in night sleep
2 hourly wake ups at night
Loss of nap routine
Yes we start to see these signs as early as 8 weeks, or as late as 6 months! A few of the signs are due to over tiredness which takes some time to occur as your baby gets progressively more and more tired as the weeks go by with these short naps. Sometimes it takes as long as 6 months for the result of over tiredness to show up (frequent night wake ups).
Each baby is different in how they respond to this change and development of sleep cycles which is why it appears like a regression which starts as early as 8 weeks for some people, or as late as 6 months for others.
Deciding to Night Wean at any age can be emotional for both mum and baby.
That love/hate relationship with getting up at 3am to nurse or warm a bottle is something all mums can relate to. Dragging our exhausted bodies into the nursery, desperate for more sleep, but then that feeling off a warm baby snuggled in your arms, there is something kind of addictive about that!
There is no right or wrong way to night wean, and there is no perfect age to night wean. We know that babies under 6 months usually require a night feed, so we don’t encourage night weaning before 6 months.
But after 6 months it can be quite individual as to whether your baby is ready to night wean, and whether you as the parent is ready! As with all things parenting related, there is no point starting out on a journey of change if you are not ready for that change, as this leads to inconsistent reinforcement, which we try to avoid in all parenting situations.
Some signs your baby is ready to Night Wean
Your baby is over 6 months old
Your baby is thriving in their weight and growth
Your baby has 4-6 breast or formula feeds a day (7am-7pm)
Your baby is NOT hungry or interested in their first feed of the day
Your baby has started solids and is having 1-2 meals a day
Your baby has started on protein (meat)
Your baby can self settle to sleep, and re-settle back to sleep
This list isn’t conclusive, but a guide for you if you are thinking about night weaning. Some babies will simply start to sleep all night and naturally night wean, this is another good sign.
All babies are different and your baby might meet this criteria at 6.5 months, but your best friends baby not until 9 months old, or even 12 months for someone else.
Some times we need to work on the self settling and re-settling skills as we work on night weaning as parents can’t re-settle without feeding. This is where a sleep consultant can be hugely beneficial.
Try not to compare your baby to everyone else’s, and just look through the lists and have a think about your baby as an individual.
What about Mum, are you ready?
When you do decide to night wean, you lose the breast-feeding hormones overnight. These hormones are Prolactin and Oxytocin.
Prolactin is produced as you breastfeed, its production also brings a feeling of well-being, calmness and relation, (helping you get back to sleep after a night feed). You won’t have this hormone present when you try to get back to sleep after re-settling during night weaning.
Oxytocin is also released as you breastfeed day and night, and it is a hormone commonly referred to as the love hormone, the decrease in both the prolactin and oxytocin when you drop night feeds can negatively impact your mood for a few days or a week as your body adjusts.
Some mothers feel quite tearful, or struggle emotionally with this decrease in hormones, which in turn makes them question the thoughts around night weaning. If you “cold turkey”cut all night feeds, you will likely notice this change more than if you gradually cut the feeds down over a few days.
Dropping night feeds can also mean encouraging your baby to re-settle themselves if they have previously been relying on your breast or bottle to get back to sleep. This can be stressful or at the least difficult, especially at 1am when you are exhausted and just want to get back to sleep ASAP! This is why it is so important to be committed and completely ready to night wean when you decide to start.
Some other mum’s won’t feel ready to night wean even though their baby is “ready”, as they are back at work, and the night feeding allows them to continue that quiet bonding time. This is 100% ok and you will know when YOU are ready to drop those night feeds.
How do you Night Wean?
Depending on how old your baby is, and how many feeds a night they have, and whether its breast or bottle, you have a few choices.
You can gradually reduce down the number of breastfeeds you offer each night, re-settling at the wake ups where you don’t want to feed. This can be were a sleep consultant can be useful, as we can help you come up with a strategy to re-settle your baby as they are learning to go back to sleep without a feed. This doesn’t mean we leave them to cry it out.
If you are bottle feeding, you can reduce down the volume of each bottle you are offering, and then re-settle your baby if they continue to wake after the bottles have been reduced to less than 50ml. Again if you need help with the re-settling and teaching your baby to go back to sleep without a bottle, we can help with this.
If your baby is only having 1 feed a night whether its breast or bottle, you could consider cutting it cold turkey and re-settling your baby, and teaching them to go back to sleep without a feed.
Just be careful when ever you are working on re-settling without a feed, it can be tempting to try to get your baby back to sleep as quickly as possible, which can in turn create new sleep props which have to be changed. Examples of accidental sleep props I see after night weaning is rocking to sleep, holding to sleep, and offering bottles of water. Any re-settling needs to be done with the mindset of how you can progressively do less and less in order to encourage your baby to put them selves back to sleep on their own once they are ready.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help. We have helped thousands of parents night wean without cry it out, and we are all mums ourselves, we understand the emotional implications of night weaning.
The first thing to think about if you want to night wean your toddler is how they fall asleep at bed time. If they rely on the breast or bottle at bed time to go to sleep, this is the first place for us to work on change. There is huge physiological drive to sleep at bed time which makes this process successful quickly. I am not suggesting you cut this feed altogether, but that your toddler is awake after this feed, you could brush their teeth in their bedroom, or read a story after the feed, then settle your toddler to sleep without feeding. This creates a disassociation between feeding and sleeping, which in some cases means the toddlers quickly night wean with no more intervention from mum or dad.
But many toddlers will still wake for a feed through the night. Assuming your toddler is thriving and healthy we can choose to only offer nursing as comfort as we teach your toddler to settle in another way without a full feed, or we can have another parent settle your toddler back to sleep so nursing isn’t even an option.
The goals when night weaning a toddler is to be clear with them and verbally explain that there will be no more night feeds, only milk during the day, and that you will support them through this big change.
If you need help with the settling without feeding, click the link below and book a chat with our team, we have helped thousands of toddlers night wean without cry it out.
“I slowly weaned by only offered one side for one week at night – after trying to resettle, dummy, water first and making sure she was eating more during the day too by giving food and not offering boob, but if she wanted I would again only offer one side. She is now 18 months and has been sleeping 12 hour stretches. I never thought I would get more than 6 hours straight sleep in my life again. Persistence is key and remember, you are the boss.”
“Both of mine did it naturally by just dropping a night feed at a time. Oldest was about 7 weeks, youngest was 11 months, from about 7 or 8 months he was only waking for 1 feed a night then he just started not waking for it a few nights a week. He’s just turned 1 and he’s been consistently sleeping through since about 11 months.”
“Daughter was about a year before she stopped having a bottle in the night. My son stopped at 4 months. Occasionally he will need a bottle before midnight but that’s once in a blue moon.”
“After 7 months…I gave her a cuddle when she woke instead of a feed. If she woke again then I’d fed her. She rarely woke a second time once I started this. Now she’s (mostly) sleeping through at 10 months.”
“First 6 weeks on her own, second actively night weaned at 8 months”
“7 months for number one on her own and 9 months for number 2 actively reduced his feed overnight.”
“Mine slept through from 3 months and then she regressed around 6 months so we did sleep training and I didn’t feed her during the night after that as I was confident she didn’t need it as she was a very chubby baby.”
“My eldest I weaned his one feed around 7mths. no problem. my youngest is 14 months and will sleep through for about three days then wake for a feed. longest he’s gone us about two weeks of sleeping through. not pushing it cause he’s a little fella and just won’t settle without that feed usually. I try cuddles/water first.”
They say it takes a village to raise a child – but what if you don’t have access to one?
In a large state like Western Australia, this can often be the case, with new parents living in some of the smaller centres, or a long way from other family or services.
Despite having access to Mum’s groups, these aren’t always non-judgmental places that mums feel safe sharing, and the feeling of overwhelm can still linger… It’s in places like this that our phone consults really come into their own!
Lots going on for Lily
3 year old Lily had always been a relatively good sleeper, but some upheaval at home had caused some challenges. Not only had a new baby arrived on the scene, Lily’s mum’s pregnancy had been tough and she’d spent much of the last trimester in hospital in Perth (six hours away!)
While Lily was well taken care of by her dad and grandparents who came to help at home, and life should have been (relatively) back to normal with Mum and Lily’s little sibling now home, Lily was continuing to battle bedtime – sometimes for hours! She was also waking early, which although counter-intuitive, is also a result of taking a long time to settle at night.
Not only that, Lily was refusing her daytime nap. (get your free toddler nap routine HERE) Although she was probably ready to give up her daytime sleep altogether, her night sleep was not settled enough for this to be successful. Her mum had tried a really hands off, ‘cry it out’ method herself, but Lily was too strong-willed. Being well into her toddler years, and sleeping in a bed as opposed to a cot, she was getting up to far too much mischief when left in her room for the evening (opening the door, flicking the light on and off, even removing her PJs and nappy!)
How to teach a toddler new tricks
Lily’s parents engaged with Perth-based consultant Abby for a phone consult, which took place late one night so that both Mum and Dad could partake in it. It was quickly apparent that it wasn’t that Lily couldn’t settle or sleep; instead there had been a ‘perfect storm’ of upheaval that she needed help working through. The conversation quickly moved to what could be put in place to remedy things.
Leaving Lily to cry wasn’t working, so her parents wanted to explore other options. Because Dad was often away doing shift work, they had some concerns about the reality of a more hands-on approach to settling Lily for the evening, when they were also coping with a new baby – often with only one set of hands.
Because Lily’s sleep challenges stemmed from a need for security, Abby suggested an ‘in the room’ technique to start with. The sleep training was going to be more intensive at first – to get on top of her overtiredness – but that needn’t be the case for the long term. Lily’s parents picked a few days that Dad was going to be home and, after they got the baby down for the evening, started implementing Abby’s recommendations.
Consistency and clever techniques were key
Lily’s mum did the first two nights in the room with Lily, encouraging her – time and again – to stay in bed and to lie down, before Dad took over for a couple of days. That first night there was still a relatively long process involved in getting Lily to sleep. Toddlers are all about having fun, so there was a need for consistency in the approach and a few clever fixes like getting Lily a pair of drawstring PJ pants, which they put on backwards to dissuade Lily from removing them and her nappy.
Because of Lily’s age and cognition, there was lots that they could do throughout the day to instil expectations around how bedtime would go. They role-played and practiced with both Lily and her doll having a turn going to bed – and they talked about rules around bedtime, creating together a large poster that reinforced the agreed behaviours at bedtime.
Getting results: a toddler transformation
Lily’s parents stuck with it – ignoring the bad and rewarding or praising the good – and the results came quickly. After that first night, Lily still had her daytime sleep, but bedtime that night was still a battle so the next day, Lily’s parents pushed through the day and got Lily into bed much earlier. By the third night, the time it took to settle Lily to bed was just 45 minutes – a lot less than the more than two hours it had been taking initially.
For Lily, adjusting to her day without a nap took a couple of weeks, during which time she still seemed tired throughout the day. However, as her times to settle to bed at night continued to reduce and her early wake ups diminished, the eight or nine hours of sleep that Lily was getting overnight became closer to 12 hours of restorative sleep each night.
Abby continued to coach the family, providing phone and follow up support along the way and although it was a process (after all, one night of good sleep can’t erase accumulated sleep debt all at once!) the family are thrilled with the transformation in Lily’s sleep.
You can view and book your own phone consult HERE.
Little Abby was 14 months old, but still struggling with her sleep.
Not only was she very attached to her Mum, she was always either fed or rocked to sleep. Her two daytime naps were often done in the pram and her Mum would sometimes walk up to 12 kilometres a day, pushing her, in order for these to happen.
Not only that, Abby was waking 8 to 10 times a night; her parents (and Abby herself!) were exhausted!
A gentle approach
Abby’s Mum was very anxious about sleep training; she had already had the controlled crying method suggested to them, which she had tried and not had any success with. She was feeling a bit scarred by that experience and while she knew she wanted to get more help, she had reservations about what that might entail.
Melbourne-based sleep consultant Miriam did a 6pm to midnight consult with Abby’s family, which began with a big discussion with both parents. After talking through their options with Miriam, Abby’s parents decided that a gentle, ‘put down, put down’ approach was their preferred course of action. At Abby’s age, it was virtually impossible to guarantee a ‘no tears’ approach, but Abby’s parents felt better knowing this sleep approach meant that they could be in the room with her and physically supporting her to learn better sleep habits.
In there for the long haul
Because Abby was old enough to stand up in her cot, the first part of her sleep training approach was about getting her to lie down – and stay there. Miriam supported Abby’s Mum to do this in Abby’s room for over an hour that first night, using words to try to get Abby to lie herself back down, or physically putting her back down on the mattress each time she stood. As well as that, Abby’s Mum tried patting, singing, shushing – whatever worked to get Abby to go to sleep by herself in her cot.
This hard work and persistence paid off and eventually Abby fell asleep. Although she woke an hour later, it took only ten minutes of the same technique to support her back to sleep at that point. Another hour later, Abby settled herself.
It didn’t take long before Abby was consolidating her night-time sleep and, within five days of starting sleep training, Abby was sleeping right through the night! Her parents couldn’t believe such a “life-changing miracle” had occurred and were thrilled to have actually enjoyed dinner and a glass of wine together in an evening; a far cry from Abby’s Mum being stuck in the bedroom for hours trying to get Abby to settle for the night.
Having tackled Abby’s night sleeps – and achieving far more rest herself – Abby’s Mum is now applying the same techniques to Abby’s day-time naps, as well as moving these to better fit with the timing of a baby’s biological nap windows, as per Miriam’s plan. The impact on this family has been huge – and just goes to show that a gentle approach, that doesn’t compromise one’s personal parenting style, can still achieve incredibly positive results!
“She honestly saved us! We felt totally comfortable the entire time, she adapted a sleep routine to fit in with our family, 12 hours over night sleep and her day naps are going amazing! And there is constant support and check ups if needed..We can’t thank Miriam enough for her constant support & encouragement! Highly recommend these guys if your having any problems with bubs sleeping!”
Or phone her for an initial free chat 0416 248 778
How can I night wean my 12 month old from his bottles?
My son has 2 full bottles each night around midnight and 4am, if I don’t give him these bottles, he cries for what feels like hours!
Nutritionally speaking if your baby has a healthy and balanced diet during the day, and has 2-3 bottles a day, your baby definitely doesn’t “need” those bottles at night, so we should be able to drop them relatively easily.
Formula at this age can be a great way to get nice and easy calories and extra vitamins and minerals in, especially if your 12 month old is a fussy eater. But the bottles during the day will be plenty of milk, and we can confidently night wean at this age.
Before we contemplate night weaning, we need to assess if there is any habitual hunger.
Habitual hunger vs Genuine hunger:
Genuine hunger is the wake ups your child experiences despite getting as many calories as possible during the day. They can’t eat anymore throughout the day until they are older and the night feeds are genuine hunger, we can’t usually drop these feeds. Often these wake ups to feed will be at different times or varied times each night.
Habitual hunger is the feeling of hunger your child has due to habitually having night feeds. They are old enough to eat enough throughout the day to drop these night feeds, but due to the habit of eating at night, they continue to wake and feel hungry. We can’t cold turkey drop these feeds despite your child’s age as your child is experiencing feelings of hunger.
Gradually reducing the amount your baby drinks each night gives your baby a chance to compensate in the day, and gradually increase calorie consumption during the day. Your baby might start to eat more solids, have bigger portions, consume slightly more protein, or their bottle volumes might increase.
Knowing they need to increase their day time calories, offer slightly more food at each meal, and increase the volume of your babies bottles, so they have the chance to eat more and drink more.
I recommend you reduce the bottles over 3-4 nights, this will give your baby time to get used to the reduction and not be too upset.
Sleeping through after night weaning:
Some babies, once you cut or reduce their night bottles they start to sleep through, linking their sleep cycles independently and you don’t have to do anything. Other’s it’s not so simple. You might successfully night wean, but your baby has been using these bottles to re-settle themselves after a sleep cycle overnight for quite some time. (See graph below for more information)
They need to learn a new way of falling back to sleep, and you might have to spend a few nights teaching them. If you want some one on one help with this, check out our packages HERE.
Night weaning doesn’t have to be stressful or involve weeks of crying and not settling. If your baby is ready to drop their night feeds, the process should be relatively stress free.
Signs your baby is ready to night wean?
Your baby is over 8 months old.
They are eating 3 solid meals a day.
They get and age appropriate amount of milk during the day (bottle or breast).
They are not hungry in the morning when they wake up.
Night feeds are causing your baby to become unsettled and wakeful at night.
Toddlers are tricky – no doubt about it!
They may be little, but often their personalities pack a big punch. They can infuriate us one minute and leave us laughing and thinking how lucky they are, that they are so damn cute the next!
When it comes to sleep – toddlers can be a little bit sneaky and clever. They are infamous for exerting their independence and creating every stalling tactic you can think of, as to why now is not the right time to go to sleep!
My 5 Toddler Sleep Must Knows… What are yours?
Let me know in the comments.
Don’t move your toddler into a big bed too soon – I suggest somewhere around 3 years of age is ideal. Toddlers do not have a lot of impulse control and as much as they know they are not meant to get out of bed – they just can’t help it! That new found freedom is just too exciting and you are now within easy reach.
Don’t enter into a negotiating battle with your 2-year-old – it is never going to be productive! Preempt their desire to negotiate and have everything prepared before you put them to bed. Have a nice wind down time before nap time and overnight sleep and by keeping this consistent your child will understand the routine, know what is coming and what is expected of them.
Toddlers have very little control over their world, as we are constantly setting the rules and boundaries for them. When it comes to sleep, we often find them trying to push for some control – hence the “I need a drink”, “I want another cuddle…” demands that they are so famous for! Giving them some control during the day with basic things that won’t have an impact on what you want them to do, can often help with this e.g. Try limited choices. Would you like to wear the blue or red t-shirt today? Would you like some banana or a pear for morning tea? Allow them to choose 2 stories before bed time and let them decide if we should read them on the chair or on the floor… By giving them a little control – they will be more inclined to follow your rules when you set them around sleep.
Offer lots of positive reinforcement – toddlers thrive on praise so be sure to give it to them when it’s due. Rather than focus on what they didn’t do quite right – let them know what you are super proud of. If they went to bed without a fuss, put their PJ’s on nicely, brushed their teeth well, stayed in their bed the whole night – let them know and be super animated about it – they will lap it up and this will encourage them to repeat the behaviour.
If you are having difficulty with your toddlers sleep and your toddler is not settling easily for the night, waking in the middle or the night or early for the day – you may need to take a look at their routine and address this and/or pop a settling technique in place. Toddlers have a great deal of stamina and so when changing things or implementing a new settling strategy at 3am up remember to be patient, super consistent and limit your interactions, toddlers thrive on attention!
Miriam is our Melbourne based certified infant and child sleep consultant. She is a mother and understands how lack of sleep can affect the entire family. Miriam is available for home and phone consults if you live outside of Melbourne.
Call Miriam on 0416 248 778 for a free no obligation chat about your toddler or babies sleep.
Praise for Miriam:
“After 3 nights of routine that Miriam gave us, we were back to sleeping through the night. We had a phone meeting with Miriam and she set the scene. She was very approachable and so helpful and helped us every step of the way. I highly recommend Miriam and have to thank her for some great non-interrupted sleeps over the last couple of weeks.” ~ Kirsty
“I am beyond thrilled and pleased to have contacted baby sleep consultants and use their incredible service. It has been a lifesaver. Miriam is very patient, understanding and very knowledgeable when it comes to the key to baby sleep consistency and I couldn’t thank her enough for helping us regain a peaceful nights sleep as well as for our daughter. I can’t thank her and the service enough. I truly was sceptical but desperate to try anything after seeing real results I can’t put a price on what this has done for us as a family. To any sleep deprived parents who have been through everything without avail, you will not be dissapointed. Thank you so much. ” ~ Aleksandra
Even co-sleeping wasn’t getting this family the sleep they needed. Nervous about cry it out, but experiencing hourly wake ups overnight, and cat naps throughout the day, this family new something had to change.
There is a big misconception that sleep training is all about causing distress and abandoning your child all night.
Once we have fully evaluated why your child is waking so frequently, and why their naps are still so short, our plan can be designed to take into account every change needed to holistically work on your child’s sleep.
Causes of 1 hourly wake ups overnight.
Short day naps.
Hormones due to over tiredness, cortisol and adrenaline.
Inability to self settle after a wake up.
Habitual wake ups contributing to over tiredness.
Cold if no sleeping bag provided.
Pain if baby has reflux.
Being put down in cot asleep rather than sleepy, or awake.
“I would like to take this opportunity to thank Kelly for her advice and guidance in helping us with our 8.5 month old.
For months I had fought with the idea of ‘sleep training’ as we were very iffy about letting our son ‘cry it out’ or causing unnecessary distress on our baby. But when enough is enough we had to do something or at least get some advice on what we could do to help our son sleep as well as get some rest ourselves.
Our son is exclusively breast fed and had been rocked/patted to sleep from day one.
He was not napping well during the day (45 mins tops), over tried by 5pm, and waking every hour through the night for 3 months. (4 & 6 month regression is REAL!)
We thought we had tried everything, even Co-sleeping didn’t work! I contacted Kelly when our son was 7.5 months. We booked in a 2 hour in home consultation where she would also help us settle our son for a nap. We thought it wasn’t ever going to happen, but we got our son to fall asleep in his OWN cot in 40 mins.
Yay, no more little feet kicking me in my back!!!!
More importantly Kelly showed us a gentle sleep training technique which we were very happy about. That night we tried it ourselves and to our surprise we got our little one to sleep in 15 minutes.
As the days progressed it took less time to settle our little one. NOW, he will happily go to sleep on his own, in his own cot with very little to no assistance required.
No more tears!Winning!
He is now a great napper, where he naps for 2 solid hours at midday (sometimes we have to go wake him up!). Our boy still wakes for a breastfeed in the night (common for exc BF babies), but we have surely come a very long long way, so we are very HAPPY with the progress thus far!
The new routine is very easy to follow and has settled into our household perfectly.
Rocking my stroller through the night | Now brilliant night sleep
“I spent the first 8 months of Lucy’s life rocking her stroller every 30 minutes throughout the day, and way too frequently at night…..
I actually thought I was developing post natal depression. I dreaded waking up in the morning and starting every day again, walking and rocking the stroller just to force some naps to happen and to stop the crying.
Lucy was thriving and healthy, everyone told me how lucky I was. But the crying and lack of sleep was really taking its toll on me.”
“I spoke to the Baby Sleep Consultant team after registering for a free chat. I didn’t really hold up any hope I felt like I was a lost cause, and no one could help me. But Abby reassured me that Lucy simply had a rock to sleep association, and that I needed to create a new association for her.
We booked a phone consult and Abby called me the next day.
She was so calm and reassuring. We spoke about Lucy’s sleep dept and my frustrations with trying to settle her to sleep. I explained to Abby I was sleeping Lucy in her stroller even at night, as I had no way of settling her if it wasn’t to rock her to sleep. Lucy had never spent a full night in her cot.
We put a plan into place to teach Lucy to sleep in her cot, and support her as she developed new associations away from her stroller and the rocking.
Her nights got better and better. In just a matter of days she sleeping through the night and in her cot all night!
I couldn’t believe it…..
I had put off asking for help for so long. I think partially due to the depression I was feeling.
Once I asked for help with Lucy’s sleep, I actually started to feel better, but I also felt more confident in asking my Dr for help with my depression.
I never thought fixing Lucy’s sleep would have such a positive impact on my life, not only in the fact that I was getting more sleep, and Lucy was getting more sleep, but I was so much happier in myself!
Who would have thought having a phone consult would be so life changing!” ~ Erin Rosser
The phone consult package is comprehensive, holistic and has proven results.
Give us a week, and we’ll turn your sleep around.
Miriam – Melbourne Baby Sleep Consultant helps her 6 month old client go from waking 1-2 hourly to Sleeping Through The Night!
Kristina and her husband were exhausted when I went to see them, they had been surviving on such minimal sleep, they were only just holding it together.
Their son had regressed in his sleeping habits around 6 months old, and his over tiredness had compounded which had led to more and more sleep debt.
His naps were tricky, his days long, his temperament grumpy and tired. This boy needed sleep, the entire family did!
I love sharing our clients success with you, especially when they take the plunge, trust us 100% and invest in a home consultation. This tells me they are all in, they are committed to better sleep and they always work so hard for their goals and make me so proud!
“Our precious 1 year old son decided from 6 months of age that he was going to start waking every 1-2 hours during the night!
So after 6 months of my husband and I being severely sleep deprived we decided that neither us or our baby could continue on like this with such terrible sleep patterns and I approached Baby Sleep Consultants.
Thank God we did! Miriam was our sleep consultant and what a blessing she has been! From our first phone call to the home visit and correspondence via phone/emails Miriam has been nothing but warming ,supportive and caring!
By night 2 of following Miriam’s recommended schedule our son slept through the night and we have not looked back! Its like we have a new baby and I cant begin to tell you how refreshed my husband I feel,because we now (after 6 months of surviving on 3 hours sleep) can rest uninterrupted!
I without a doubt highly recommend Miriam, if you are having sleep issues with your child fix it sooner rather than later! From the bottom of our hearts thank you Miriam for you have truly given us our life back!”
Six months of 3 hours sleep a night!
That level of sleep deprivation is next level, and I am so happy for Kristina, her husband and their son! Their bodies will be getting back to an even setting, stress hormones will begin to calm down, their appetites will regulate again.
They’ll be healthier and experience less illness this winter, and emotionally they will feel so much better. I am so happy for them! Sleep is so amazing!
Miriam is a Melbourne based Baby and Child Sleep Consultant
Call Miriam on 0416 248 778 to discuss your needs today