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We all know what interest means in general terms. Perhaps you aren’t interested in an activity, or maybe a certain new person in the workplace piques your interest, hopefully, this article is interesting! In the world of finance and economics, however, interest takes on a slightly different meaning.

Interest in the context of finance is essentially the cost of using someone else’s money. There are many factors that affect interest rates including the length of the loan and the credit history of the Borrower. Paying attention to Interest can save you a lot of money and headaches. When applying for a loan you may have taken your time to compare interest rates, and generally, lower is better right? Not so fast, interest can go both ways can even work to make you more money.

Some technicalities

Before we dive into interest rates and what to look for it will be useful to know some key terms. These acronyms and terms make the whole process seem complicated than it needs to be but knowing these terms will hopefully help you understand better. The first term I want to introduce is APR, APR stands for annual percentage rate. This is calculated when applying for a loan or opening a savings account. The rate referred to is the interest rate. The second term I would like to introduce is “principal” no, not that cranky man who ran your high school. The principal is simply the initial amount of money borrowed or lent.

When borrowing

Most commonly you will see interest rates being advertised on loans. The internet and Television are swamped with organizations trying to entice you into taking up a loan with them, and usually, the selling point is the rate of interest. Interest rates are usually calculated annually but this can depend on the loan. The rate of interest will tell you how much interest you will be paying along with the initial principal borrowed. Using a simple sum, we can see this rate taking effect. If you have borrowed $10000 at 10% APR, you will be required to pay back the principal plus interest, in this case, the interest owed for the year being $1000. Pretty simple stuff, but it can get more complicated. More on that later.

When applied a savings account

Your money can earn interest just like money borrowed. By placing your money in a term deposit or savings account, you will earn an interest rate on your money. Banks will “borrow” your money and use it to play financial markets etc. Because this money is generating income, some of this “interest” is paid back to you.

Savings accounts and term deposits usually attract a much lower APR as the risks involved with a bank borrowing your money are almost non-existent. Some financial intuitions offer fantastic interest rates on their saver accounts so don’t be afraid to shop around when looking for such a product.

Getting tricky

Remember when I said that calculating interest can get tricky? The interest we have been talking about is referred to as “simple interest”. A trickier and more interesting (hehe get it?) form of interest is compound interest. Compound interest is an important thing to watch out for and can really beef up your savings, but you must be careful as compound interest can work both ways.

Using our previous example with $10000 borrowed at 10% interest rate, let’s turn the tables and pretend we have put $10000 in a savings account. Because this is a hypothetical, we can use the same APR of 10% (a VERY generous interest rate offered on a savings account!).

In just one year, our $10000 has earned $1000 in interest, not bad at all right? But what about the following year? The amount of money in the savings account is no longer $10000 but $11000 (the principal plus the interest). When interest is calculated again it will be applied to $11000 meaning you will gain even more interest than last year.

Compounding

This compounding of interest can have a dramatic effect. Using our example, in five years’ time, our $10000 principal will attract $5000. This was calculated using simple interest. Each year the principal earns $1000, so five lots of $1000 total $5000. Simple! Doing the same calculations but applying compound interest, or principal earns an extra $1100.

What to watch out for

Compound interest seems pretty handy, right? Well, it might seem less magical to know that when borrowing money, you could be battling compound interest too so be wary when applying for a loan that uses compounding to calculate interest. Be wary of very low advertised interest rates too, as usually, they are too good to be true.

This also applies when taking out a term deposit or savings account. Some banks will offer a low introductory rate, also called a “honeymoon rate” which acts to entice customers in. After the first term is over, the rate can change to a lower rate, meaning these types of investments aren’t exactly set and forget as you will want to be cautious of the rate changes.

A common practice amongst credit card lenders is to advertise a monthly rate of interest. This is a sly trick that purposefully obstructs the whole picture.  A 2% interest rate seems fantastic, but that adds up to 24% a year! And that’s hoping the interest wasn’t compounded! Companies are legally obliged to tell you how the interest rate is calculated, if you don’t see ‘APR’ after the interest rate, some alarm bells should be ringing in your head.

Understanding interest rates can dramatically increase your financial success. Interest is everywhere and it’s up to you to find the best deals possible. Always compare the market when applying for a loan or opening a savings account for the best rates possible. The difference between manageable payments and crippling debt can be in your loans APR so be very cautious, and budget and plan accordingly.

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To be regarded as a well-dressed man, relentlessly following every single trend that comes along is not the right move. Instead, it’s better to rely on things that are tried and true. Then, if you want, put your spin on your style, such as through some well-placed accessories. Here are eight habits to follow if you want to be a well-dressed man.

1. A Healthy Reliance on the Classics

There’s something to be said for the classics. Even if that sounds boring and pedestrian to you, keep reading. Timeless pieces are those that are not trendy and will transition from season to season for years to come. They serve as good base pieces, and you shouldn’t be afraid to invest quite a bit of money into each piece. You will be able to wear the pieces over and over, so you will have no trouble getting a return on your investment.

2. A Well-Maintained Wardrobe

If you want to look stylish and be well-dressed, your wardrobe has to be well maintained. That means that you will likely need to dry clean some of your clothing. You will also need to hang and store your clothing in ways that don’t leave hanger marks or stretch out fabrics. You’ll also need to go through your wardrobe periodically to weed out items that are beginning to fade or that are developing pilled fabric. With this type of consistent effort, anything you pull out of the closet to wear should look pristine.

3. A Willingness to Accessorize

If you’re not comfortable with accessorizing, it’s time to start stepping outside of your comfort zone. No well-dressed man is complete without at least a few accessories. But those accessories have to be the right ones for you. You can play it safe with low-key accessories, or you can go for a more bold look. For example, you might be able to pull off a gold chain, such as the ones found at Gold Urban.

4. A Signature Scent

This could be one of the most difficult tasks to achieve, and it could take some trial and error to achieve. However, finding your signature scent is key to being a well-dressed man. Having the perfect scent to accompany your look can help you present yourself in the best possible way. One way to find out whether a scent works well for you is to visit a shop that sells men’s fragrances. Another way is to order sample vials and try them at home. If you’re planning to order in samples, it could pay off to do some research beforehand on the different types of scents that are available and which fragrance brands embody each type of scent, so you’ll have a better idea of brands to order.

5. Regular Grooming

A well-dressed man is the total package from head to toe. That means regular grooming is non-negotiable. It’s best to find a licensed barber who has a knack for cutting people’s hair in the most flattering way for their head shape and features. Otherwise, you might just get a standard haircut that does nothing for your overall look. Don’t forget about your eyebrows, and if you have facial hair, it needs to be attended to as well.

6. A Relationship With a Tailor

If you think about the well-dressed men that you know, they probably have one thing in common: They get their clothes tailored as needed. Rarely will find stylish clothing that fits right off the rack — especially if it’s a suit or dress pants. If you’ve never tried having your clothing tailored, try it. You’ll likely be surprised at how well your clothes can fit and how much more flattering they can be.

7. Knowing Your Body Type

Not every style and cut of clothing will work well on your body type, and it’s important to understand what works for you. For example, if you have larger thighs, you won’t want to try to squeeze into slim-fit pants. And if you have some extra pounds around your midsection, fitted shirts just won’t flatter you. Tailored clothing that’s cut to flatter your particular body type is the best choice to pull off a well-dressed look.

8. A Willingness to Go Off-Brand

If you’re a diehard fan of a certain brand, and you vowed to yourself and others that you’ll never wear anything else, stop now. There are plenty of stylish clothing lines that don’t have a prime designer label. And by denying yourself access to those types of clothing lines, you’re not helping your cause.

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It’s difficult to find a person who wouldn’t have an account with one of popular email clients these days. Emails are used to exchange information, store important data with the help of attachments, and send folders of files. In one day, a person gets about 15 messages in average. Imagine how much mail you’ll get in a year or two? And sometimes, there are instances when people decide to change email clients and move elsewhere. What to do with thousands of already existing files in this case, though?

Eml is one of the most common types of email messages that are supported by numerous email clients. If you want to transfer lots of files at once, doing it manually is nearly impossible, especially if your initial email account is several years old. Fortunately, it’s possible to move Eml to Outlook with the help of a converter that has been developed specifically for these goals. All you need to do is pick a license and purchase it.

How Does Eml to Outlook Converter Work?

One of the best things about Eml to Outlook converter we’re offering is that it works quickly and effectively, with no flaws that could hinder the process or damage your files. How does it stand out from the rest? There is quite a list of characteristics that make our converter special.

  • It’s 100% safe, meaning that we guarantee the security of your files transfer.
  • It’s meticulous. Other converters often fail to transfer files in their entirety, with messages being disrupted right in the middle or files you get refusing to open. It won’t happen with our program. Every message will be transferred properly and wholly.
  • It supports converting of email encoding automatically, so you can transfer files from Mac to Windows, etc.
  • It allows you to split PST file into smaller bits, which is incredibly useful in terms of time saving.

In addition, our converter can cope with files of any size, up to 64 TB. You only have to follow a few steps to move your files. After buying a license, you can start using it right away, with only a few clicks needed from you.  Pick a folder where you want your files to go to and that’s it! Your work is half-done. Just activate the process and wait until it’s ready.

Licenses to Choose From

We offer three types of licenses that you can use for Eml to Outlook transfer. They include Home, Business, as well as technical ones. Of course, you can simply convert your files without a license, but that will prove to be more expensive. One gigabyte costs 1$, plus there is a fee of 4.95$ for payment processing. Licenses, in turn, are much cheaper. You’ll have to pay 24.95$ for Home license, 39.95$ for Business license, and 365$ for Technical one. Read about each type and pick one!

With these options, you can complete your Eml to Outlook transfer effortlessly and cheaply. Pick a license and start your migration! Your files will be absolutely secure.  

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Every human being on this planet is trapped in a bubble of negative thoughts. This bubble doesn’t let you escape the emotional status of anger, fear, resentment, frustration, anxiety, etc. Besides, it shreds you down as a person and makes you feel incompetent. Do you know the more time you will be stuck in this bubble of negative thoughts, the difficult it will be to recover from the same?

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There are a plethora of articles on the internet that suggests you meet a psychiatrist, engage yourself in different activities, etc. What if those negative thoughts bounce back after a certain period? Hence, look for a solution that has permanent effects on the body and is inexpensive. Yoga is your best alternative. Apart from conveying positivity, it will bring a myriad of benefits to the mind and body.

Well, yoga actually helps you in converting negative thoughts of your bubble to positive ones. It rewards the body by helping you regain self, makes you feel enthusiastic, happier, confident, compassion, etc. The 200 hour Yoga Teacher Training in Rishikesh has a yoga sequence especially to gain positivity. It also trains your mind and body and aids you physically, mentally, psychologically and socially.

Here are a few yoga poses that will be helpful in converting negative thoughts into positive thoughts:

  • SuptaBaddhaKonasana (Reclining bound angle Pose): This pose is meant for deep relaxation of the mind as well as body. Performing SuptaBaddhaKonasana and holding it for at least a minute promotes blood circulation in the body. It releases tension from the muscles and rejuvenates the nervous system which induces good sleep. This pose also has therapeutic effects on the reproductive and digestive system. Moreover, it energizes the body to perform day to day activities.
  • Chakrasana (Wheel Pose): Though this pose focuses on the frontal part of your body, it leads your mind towards joy, fearlessness, and courageousness. Practicing Chakrasana envelopes your heart with positive energy and channelize the same to your body. Apart from reducing depression and energizing the body, this pose also strengthens your arms, legs, abdomen, buttocks, shoulders, hamstrings, lower back, etc. It cures asthma, infertility, and osteoporosis. Moreover, it also stimulates thyroid and pituitary gland.
  • Chakravakasana (Cat-Cow Pose): This pose performs osmosis in your bubble and replaces negative thoughts with the positive ones. Chakravakasna uses fluctuations to release tension from your mind and body. This pose massages the internal organs of the body for enhanced functioning. It activates the adrenal glands for enhanced fight or flight response of the nervous system. It also improves digestion and manages the blood sugar level in the body by stimulating the pancreas. Moreover, this pose is best suited for pregnant women as it helps in keeping calm during the delivery.
  • Parsvottanasana (Pyramid Pose): Negative thoughts break you down mentally and the first thing you need to do is free your mind from such thoughts. This pose helps in bringing a sense of freedom to your mind and sets you free from fear, negativity, and failures. In fact, such thoughts disturb the alignment of your body which can be corrected by Parsvottanasana. Apart from bringing tranquility and relaxation to your mind, this pose also stretches the shoulders, wrists, spine, hamstrings, and buttocks. It enhances the posture and develops balance in the body. Moreover, it activates the reproductive system and manages menstrual as well as menopause symptoms.
  • SalambhaSirsasana (Headstand Pose): Practicing this pose and holding it for at least a minute releases stress and calms your mind. Regular practice of SalambhaSirsasana can cure mild depression. It strengthens your arms, legs, and spine and cures back pain. It activates pineal gland which improves your sleep patterns. It improves issues of the digestive system by massaging the abdominal organs. It also works on the reproductive organs to enhance their functions and treats infertility. It alleviates pain during the menstrual cycle and looks after the symptoms of menopause. Moreover, it boosts the lung capacity and treats asthma; it also cures sinusitis.
  • Balasana (Child Pose): This pose is one of the best restorative poses as it speeds up the blood circulation that relaxes and calms your mind and body. The stretch in the pose relaxes the back muscles and eliminates pain in the back, neck as well as shoulders. Balasana also gives a good stretch to the tendons and muscles of the legs and knees which eventually alleviates joints pain. Maintaining the pose for at least a minute comforts the body from fatigue and therefore, must be practiced regularly. This pose corrects your breathing pattern and trains your mind and body to be calm during rough situations

Practicing these poses will exhibit results. Then, it will be easier to believe the fact that yoga can convert negative thoughts into positive thoughts. Moreover, it may convince you to join yoga teacher training programs for traditional and deep yogic learning. If you plan to enroll for a yoga certification program yoga teacher training in Kerala can be one of the best options you can choose from for overall learning of yoga combined with Ayurveda.

Author Bio:

Bipin Baloni is a yoga teacher from India and his core specialization is in Hatha and Ashtanga Yoga. He organizes 200 hour yoga teacher training in Rishikesh. Bipin Baloni conducts Yoga Teacher Training in India in different cities. He loves writing and reading books related to yoga, Meditation, Ayurveda and Health.

Website: https://www.rishikulyogshala.org/

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Embarking on an adventure to South Africa can be one of the best decisions of your life. The continent of Africa has always been a place of mystique and adventure with a lot of unchartered territories waiting to be discovered and an undeniably inviting atmosphere. The reason South Africa is one of the most popular tourist destinations in the world is that it can almost accommodate everyone’s taste. 

When you have the opportunity to visit a country like South Africa, which has an area of 1,200,000 square kilometers, then there is no way you can pass up on this once in a lifetime experience. Before you pack up your things and buy the plane tickets, it’s better to plan ahead because you can easily find yourself lost in this massive country, which isn’t a bad thing when you think about it. Ask yourself a few questions; are you there for the huge majestic landscapes? Do you want to sneak a few peeks at the wild animals in their natural habitat? Maybe you want to do every single activity there is and get to know as much as possible about the people and country, which is the right approach to get yourself ready to be blown away by the magic of South Africa.

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Once you decide that you want to go on safari, Kruger National Park should be the first destination you check. Famous for its wildlife, this 19,500-square km park is almost as big as a small country. Leopards, lions, elephants, buffaloes, and rhinos are all famous residents of this park, in addition to a lot of different species of animals that inhabit this land. The animals aren’t the only majestic element in the park, this vast landscape is filled with calmness and tranquility. The acacia trees provide a mesmerizing backdrop to the beautiful landscape. More than one river crosses the savanna providing water to most of the animals and trees in the park. It’s very hard to resist going on this safari if you’re a fan of wild animals and jaw-dropping adventure.

Cape Town

Cape Town is considered one of the most beautiful cities in the world with an arsenal of virtues that make visiting it an experience of a lifetime. Snow-capped mountains and cliffs that look they’re rising out of the ocean, valleys that extend from the mountains to vast forests, miles upon miles of golden sandy beaches, and countless Winelands and vineyards. If you feel like taking a dip with schools of dolphins riding the waves, you can pay a visit to Simon’s Town or Robben Island, in addition to actual penguin colonies that populate the area. A seasoned wine taster should never miss a round of the nectar of the gods provided by the vineyards in Paarl and Franschhoek; making wine has been the tradition of these lands for over 300 years.

Johannesburg

It’s hard to mention the cultural hub, Cape Town, and leaving out the other South African pulsating heart, Johannesburg. This economic powerhouse is the most visited city in the whole country. It’s filled with facilities and amenities that can accommodate a huge number of visitors every year. Johannesburg is a transportation hub, making it a viable and strong start to your domestic trips in South Africa. Most of the flights of the country starts and ends here. It’s a good idea to do some research beforehand so you can figure out which airlines would work best for you. In general, you’ll want to keep flysafair airline’s pink and blue planes as your domestic companion to help get you from one amazing place to another in South Africa. They have a good reputation in terms of service and punctuality and this will go a long way in making your experience go hassle free. Get yourself familiar with the history of South Africa by paying a visit to the Hector Pieters Memorial or the Apartheid Museum in the heart of Johannesburg. 

Amazing Cuisine

You can tell a country is culturally-rich by the number of official languages spoken, and South Africa happens to have 11 of them. Global food influencers consider South Africa as their hub with its native cuisine that’s more diverse than most other cuisines. Expect to have the most delicious sausages of your life called boerewors, usually cooked at BBQs or food trucks. You can hardly go wrong with bobotie, a ground beef brewing with spices and topped with eggs, then baked to perfection; you’ll be able to find restaurants that make these dishes almost everywhere in the country.

South Africa isn’t just a tourist location for you to go and take a few pictures and call it a vacation, it’s more like an adventure than can change the way you view life and nature. There’s nothing more awe-striking than looking through your plane’s glass and seeing the heart of Africa from above 30,000 feet in the air.

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We all need opportunities to let our hair down, to be weak, to be sad, to be childish, to be crazy – sometime, somewhere, with someone. That place, hopefully, is at home, with an intimate. A sound relationship permits a range of expressions from anger to affection, without fear of condemnation. Thus, we can be as we really are: weak when we feel weak, scared when we feel confused, childish when the responsibilities of adulthood become overwhelming. Relationships that cease to provide sanctuary are those in which weaknesses are used as weapons, so that acting “out-of-character” is quickly suppressed.

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Take Pam and Arnold, a couple living very traditionally. Arnold doesn’t acknowledge Pam’s existence unless she behaves in a certain way. The desired behavior is not clearly defined, although Pam knows that what Arnold wants – “an understanding housewife who is efficient and charming’’– isn’t always how she feels. When Pam insists on being herself, which is sometimes needy, inefficient, and not-so-charming, she is told by Arnold, “You’re mistaken. You’re not the way you think you are. I know you. Deep inside you really are anon-demanding housewife.”

Actually, a non-demanding partner may be a dream wish for some of us, but it does not exist. At times all of us are going to be needy. It would be ideal if we could easily and without consequence let our hair down in our primary relationship. The reality is, intimacy – being able to be fully transparent with a loved one – is something most of us want in life, but it can be stressful. That stress can be overcome before it overcomes us and our relationship. Confronting yourself through your own reflection and expression, as well as through the eyes of your love partner, will almost certainly call on you to draw from your inner resources. No one is without vulnerability, anxieties, and problems.

Being Self-Supportive

The most important principle of growing – and this applies whether or not the relationship is supportive – is self-empowerment. Each of us is in charge of our own growth. Taking charge involves turning inward and accessing your own resources to steady your emotional balance. This is called self-soothing: your ability to be in control of your emotions, to comfort and care for yourself without excessive indulgence. It is the process of putting the change and growth that is going on with you – which can be frightening – into perspective.

Indeed, managing our emotions is something of a full-time job. Much of what we do – from reading fiction or watching TV to choosing our friends ­– is in the service of making ourselves feel better. The ability to soothe ourselves is a fundamental life skill; most of us in the psychological professions view self-soothing as one of the most essential of psychic tools. In fact, it is difficult to envision being able to survive without the ability to withstand the emotional storms that are part of a deep love relationship. The emotional tool for managing relationship stress is self-soothing.

Self-soothing does not involve overindulgence, emotional regression, or bingeing on food or substances. It does involve taking care of yourself while you’re stretching the boundaries of openness and honesty with your partner. Self-soothing permits you to quiet and calm yourself; it’s self-care, but not self-indulgence. The process requires that you not give up on yourself, or tell yourself it is too hard to settle your emotions down. It may be hard, but not too hard. You have to stick with yourself, just as you would with a friend going through a difficult time. Here are some specific suggestions for soothing yourself: 

Self-Soothing
  • If you are having a hard time – especially if you are uncovering painful issues from your family of origin, as often occurs when you are allowing yourself to be fully known to a loved one – as much as practically possible, reduce the number and complexity of tasks confronting you by notifying those around you, including your children, to temporarily make fewer demands. Work-related projects and extra responsibilities (e.g. volunteer activities), which add to a hectic, pressured schedule, should be postponed for the time being. In a sense, an ailing psyche, like an ailing body, requires special attention and energy until it is strengthened.
  • You may have to break off or reduce contact with your partner to self-repair when the exchange between you and your partner is consistently too unsettling. At the very least, attempt to do less together and enjoy it more rather than the reverse. The duration and degree of physical separation are determined by your emotional state: how badly are you feeling and how quickly can you recover from contact? Make it clear to your partner that your time-out is for self-repair, not withdrawal. Once replenished, you are in a better position to renew your efforts to regain connection with your partner.
  • Do your best to stop the negative mental tapes. Stop “awfulizing” the situation and/or telling yourself, “How could he (or she) feel this way?” Accept the present reality and settle down. Quiet yourself instead of exacerbating your very emotional state and losing perspective.
  • To help regulate your emotions, look at your past history and recall challenges that you faced successfully. Remind yourself that you are resilient. If you can’t regulate your emotions, control your behavior. Once again, try to regain some perspective; reactions and situations don’t last forever. Behave in a productive manner that you’ll respect afterwards, even if your emotions suggest otherwise. In other words, ask yourself, “If I felt better, how would I handle this?” Then, do your best to at least approximate that behavior. In contrast, take your own advice when you start saying, “Maybe I shouldn’t do that, but…” or “Maybe I shouldn’t say that but…”
  • One of the most effective things you can do to release your emotional pain is to write about it. Set aside some time, and write letters to everyone in your family who you feel hurt you or let you down. No one needs to see these letters but you, so don’t hold back, censor yourself, or worry about how well the letter is written. Just put all the hurt and rage that’s been festering inside and contaminating your system on the page. You may also want to write a letter to yourself. An important aspect of self-soothing is to stop punishing yourself for past mistakes. Instead, write a letter of forgiveness. Look back at regrettable actions; recall who you were at the time. Remind yourself that you are a work in progress, ever evolving, always learning, and fallible. Perfection isn’t for human beings.
  • Create a peaceful place inside you. If you can tap that source, you can stop distress from building up, allowing your mind to clear and focus more sharply. There are numerous ways to create calm: yoga, meditation, a walk in nature, a hot aromatic bath, a good massage, soothing music, prayer, deep breathing, pleasant memories, and so on.

Do not expect the suggestions above to be easily or quickly soothing. When the wound is deep, the greatest trap is to expect too much healing to happen too soon.  Particularly during a period when the hurt is acute, it is wise to fortify yourself on the nourishment that friends and individual interests provide.

Author Bio:

Joel Block, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist specializing in treating couples. The author of more than 20 books on love and sex, his latest work focuses on giving couples an effective and accessible relationship-healing tool they can use at home in just 15 minutes a week: “The 15-Minute Relationship Fix: A Clinically Proven Strategy That Will Repair and Strengthen Your Love Life.” 

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A lot has been said about becoming a gentleman that repeating would turn the whole topic to be cliché. However, one thing that you should have in mind is that being a gentleman will never be too common for one’s good. Owning the gentleman tag comes with responsibility and honor bestowed upon you and dictates that you operate in a certain way showing civilization.

One part of a gentleman that speaks more about him is his dressing part apart from demeanor. When it comes to pulling the don look, here are some essentials that is a crime to miss from your wardrobe.

1. A Nice Fitting Suit

A suit loos like the converging point of all gentleman and looks like an agreed dress of choice by their imaginary committee. Follow the wind and getting a nice fitting piece complete with a waistcoat and a tie. You may opt for a bowtie depending on the occasion and situation.

The point of emphasis is nice fitting. Do not go for too tight or baggy suits as it is a statement of ridicule to the dressing code. Also, go for non-screaming colors which do not scream for attention wherever you pass.

2. Casual But Smart Wear

You cannot always be in a suit and tie. Some moments are best savored in some casual wear to break the monotony while still doing justice to your demeanor. You can invest in a nice fitting pair of jeans and a casual shirt or t-shirt to complete the look. A hat thrown into the mix brings the best out of the whole dress code.

When going casual, simplicity is key to pulling a noble, laid back style. Do not sag your pants or go for ill-fitting pairs. Additionally, make your colors controllable as too much color may portray you as an attention seeker more so if you do not know how to match the colors.

3. A Watch

A gentleman without a watch is a shade of disrespect towards the movement. A timepiece speaks of the responsibility aspect of the man and also brings some fashion sense to him. When donning a watch, you need to look at the occasion or activity you are taking part in.

There are sports watches, formal and casual watches each meeting the needs of a different setting. Hublot watches can do the trick for you with their versatile pieces which also have a noble touch to them.

4. Perfume

Your scent is part of your character and you would not want to taint your character by not having a pleasant scent. Even if you are in the best of your attire, your fragrance can either work to your bets or against you. As such, you need to invest in a classy cologne that makes your peers nod in approval.

Do not overdo it when it comes to fragrance. A little serving is enough to make a worthy statement.

Conclusion

In conclusion, being a gentleman is not such a daunting task and is very easy to pull. On top of your attitude, boost your outlook by investing in the above essentials to get the respectable tag.

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Although we may feel like zoning out through social media or a handheld video game when we need a mental break at work, those practices aren’t exactly condoned by the people you work under. But, let’s face it, you DO need a mental break from time to time to destress, refocus, and redirect the energy you need to be effective back into your work.

Relieving stress is incredibly important for your overall health, and you may have wonderful approaches to doing so when you are away from the workplace, but what steps are you taking to do so in the office? Workplace stress contributes to effectiveness on a job, and over 40% of Americans complain that stress at work is the top contributor to many of their problems. But what is being done to end this problem? Read on to see what personal steps you can take to help relieve stress while at work.

Dangers of Stress

You don’t need a doctor to tell you that stress is not good for your health. Consistent stressors lead to chronic headaches, high blood pressure, skin conditions, anxiety, insomnia, depression, and taxes the heart- to name a few. In the workplace this can lead to poor time management, an inability to stay organized, a lack of focus, and problems with communication. It also can become a dangerous hazard as workplace accidents generally occur to those who are suffering from a lack of sleep, low energy levels, and have trouble focusing.

Ways to Destress and Refocus at Work

Luckily, you can meaningfully manage stress at work whether it be a regular occurrence or something that you only feel during certain times of the month. The most important thing to recognize is that you are feeling stressed so you can better address the problem. With some regular practices you can also help keep these incidents from occurring as well through being prepared in advance with a more relaxed mindset.

Essential Oil Diffusion

Many essential oils provide mental stimulation through a calming effect to help you refocus and destress. Diffusing oil with a diffuser of some sort can create a relaxing, more peaceful environment. There are many essential oils for men that provide a more neutral or masculine smell than floral or fruity that are worth considering.

Meditation

Even five minutes of controlled breathing can bring your mind and body back into balance. Try turning off or dimming the lights and sit still for a brief period of time. Allow your mind to empty, or let it wander- but don’t dwell on any lingering thoughts. Rather recognize them and allow the next thought to take its place.

Movement

Get up and move around. Many stressors cause anxiety and and raise the heartbeat, but you can take this physical response back into your control with purposeful movement. Take a walk around the block or office, climb the stairs to the next floor, or simply stand up and stretch out your body.

Eat Healthy

It’s easy to load up on fast carbs and sugars to get us through the day, but try to replace your regular snack food go-to’s with fresh fruits, hummus, and almonds. Also, if you love caffeine, try to avoid it at least 6 to 8 hours before your regular bedtime to allow it to leave your system.

Exercise

Get regular movement in each day if you can before or after work. Get in a brisk 20 minute walk if that is all you have time for, or start a running program; whatever you do it will help improve blood circulation which aides in healthy brain responses.

Get Enough Sleep

Adults need 7 to 8 hours of uninterrupted hours of sleep each night to be able to function properly. Otherwise our mental and physical responses become sluggish and problematic. Create a healthy sleep environment with proper exercise, cutting caffeine after certain times, and steering clear of technology an hour before bed.

Kick Bad Habits

If you smoke, drink a bit more than you should, or have trouble tearing yourself away from your screen, then you may want to try kicking the habit. Habits that are not required for day to day function often become more of a focus than may be healthy, and can be a source of anxiety throughout the day. As your body becomes stressed, due to physical exertion or mental stimulation, you may automatically feel like turning to these habits- but are unable to due to being at work. This only intensifies your stress.

Conclusion

Become an expert at kicking stress back to where it belongs and learn to better cope and approach your work with focus and attention with a few simple habits- GOOD habits. Creating a less stressful immediate work environment, using movement and mindful meditation, and introducing some regular physical activity and eating habits are all ways to influence a less stressful day.

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Finally being recognized for his growing list of credentials over the last few years, Zach Avery is taking his career to the next level with an array of movies soon to be released in 2019. Avery’s next film finds him largely into a lead role in the horror thriller, TRESPASSERS, in which he stars alongside Angela Trimbur and Fairuza Balk. Centered around Avery’s strange neighbor (Balk) in the film, the characters must fight to keep the house’s secrets contained and away from the public to stay alive and keep the area safe. Avery has also been in Virginia this summer filming THE GATEWAY, a film that depicts the troubles of a single mother and a social worker who cross paths with the mother’s husband, who recently got released from jail. THE GATEWAY also stars Olivia Munn, Bruce Dern and Frank Grillo.

Presented by IFC Midnight, Trespassers begins as an innocent weekend getaway to a dream home until they hear the doorbell ring.  Two couples, each working through relationship issues, rent a gorgeous Airbnb in the desert for a sex-and drug-fueled escape from reality. Sarah (Angela Trimbur) and Estelle (Pretty Little Liars’ Janel Parrish) are longtime best friends looking forward to reconnecting after a period apart; their boyfriends, Joseph (Zach Avery) and Victor (World War Z’s Jonathan Howard), however, are immediately wary of one another. As tensions escalate over the course of their debauchery, things take an unexpected turn when a woman (The Craft’s Fairuza Balk) claiming to be a neighbor with car trouble shows up at the door. She seems harmless enough…or so they think. As the twists and turns pile up so does the body count in this stylish, blood- and neon-soaked thriller that hits with the furious force of a machete to the skull.

A Midwesterner at heart, Zach spent his teens playing football and dabbling in high school theatre, ultimately playing for Indiana University until an injury ended his NFL dreams. Avery was a massive Pittsburgh Steelers fan while growing up and his dream was to play for them professionally. While the arts continued to be a hidden passion, upon graduating he entered the Doctoral program at the Chicago School of Professional Psychology. While there, he was also attending underground comedy shows and joined local theaters groups, which ultimately led to the decision to shift gears and take a leave of absence from his schooling to pursue acting full time. To fund his goal of moving to LA, he began selling Quickbooks software door to door in the Chicago suburbs and finally made the move west on New Year’s Eve 2011.

Acting classes have helped for Avery get acclimated to LA and meet up-and-coming industry leaders and future directors. This led to Avery being able to work closely on shorts and indie films, realizing that his cultivating and established relationships have been the most effective way for him to get roles. Avery’s networking finally paid off in 2017, when he landed a major role in the film CURVATURE; co-starring alongside Lyndsy Fonseca and Noah Bean. CURVATURE focused on a scientist who broke into a top-secret facility to gain access to a time machine to help her to travel back in time to prevent a murder. The film was the winner of the “Best Sci-Fi Feature” award at Shriekfest, while also winning the awards for “Best Director” and “Best Sound” at FilmQuest Cthulhu. Andrew Levitas, the California based film producer, was integral in helping Avery land a role in this film, with more characters being developed on his behalf. One of the more respected films that Avery was apart of, “FARMING,” was a film festival darling in 2018, directed by British film actor, Adewale Akinnouye-Agbaje. FARMING portrays the story of a young Nigerian boy who is shipped off to a white British family in hopes of a better future. This film starred Kate Beckinsale and Damson Idris. Beckinsale is perhaps the most established actor that Avery has worked with to date, and he felt it was extremely beneficial to his acting skills to be able to learn from her. Over the last year, he also worked with Levitas and actor turned director Ralph Fiennes on the biographical Cold War story of famed male ballerina, Rudolph Nureyev. Nureyev faced many challenges when fighting his way to be the top ballet dancer in all of Russia, and this film depicts the specific obstacles he had to overcome in his pursuit of freedom. THE WHITE CROW also stars Oleg Ivenko and Sergei Polunin and is slated to hit theaters in the fall of 2019- potentially being one of Sony Pictures most anticipated films of the year. Avery played a journalist covering the ballerina’s story and believes that this is one of the better movies he has been a part of, as it was named the winner of the “Special Achievement Award” in the Tokyo International Film Festival while also being nominated for the “Best Film” category. His next upcoming starring role is opposite Mr. Robot’s, Carly Chaikin, in the psychological thriller, LAST MOMENT OF CLARITY. This film’s plot focuses on a New York man’s girlfriend getting killed by the Bulgarian mob, causing him to spend the majority of the film revising and carrying out an established revenge ploy to avenge his fallen partner. LAST MOMENT OF CLARITY is set to be released around Winter time, which will cap off an incredible year of progress and learning for Avery’s acting career. 

However, Avery considers his greatest role to date to be that of a husband and a father to his toddler son named Jax. Avery’s wife, Michelle, focuses on being a mom and stays up to date with the latest trends she’s picked up as an LA transplant while also being a fitness and cooking connoisseur. Michelle is keen on teaching her husband to cook, which she believes is a valuable trait to conquer. An outdoorsman at heart, Avery also enjoys spending his time hiking, skiing, scuba diving and enjoying nature with his growing family. Avery and his wife currently don’t have any immediate plans to grow the family, but they both acknowledged that it wasn’t out of the cards for the future. Since Avery was once a prolific football player, he still tends to be a major sports fanatic. Currently living in Los Angeles, Avery has shifted his love from the Steelers to the Rams and the Lakers and any other professional teams from the surrounding area and when he’s in town he attends as many live sporting events as he can. As for other interesting facts about Avery, his favorite actor is Tom Cruise and he is a huge fan of folk music. Avery believes that Cruise has the ability to command the screen in any role he takes on, and that has always fascinated him, seeing him as a dream project to work with along with being a part of the Marvel Cinematic Universe, landing not he top of his list of all-time acting goals. 

Avery expects his acting skills to grow with each film he takes a role in and he still recognizes that there are many acting traits he has yet to master. Avery is climbing on the right path towards a major acting career, with his upcoming films to be a steppingstone into a brighter spotlight in the motion picture industry. 

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Almost three-fourths of Americans prefer to hug a pillow on their side, and it’s not surprising, as it’s very comfy.

But side sleeping can actually even help you score a couple more years of a healthy life because it’s packed with different health benefits.

So, if you’re a stomach or back sleeper who is trying to switch to snoozing on your side, this article is for you. It can provide you with useful tips to make your transition to everyday side sleeping smooth and comfortable.

Reasons to Switch to Side Sleeping

Even though the supine position is considered the best sleeping position for spine health, it’s the only potent advantage this sleeping style can provide. Side sleeping, on the contrary, becomes unbeatable when it comes to health benefits, especially if you give your preferences to the left side.

See for yourself:

  • Acid reflux elimination. Left side sleeping puts your stomach slightly below the esophagus and keeps gastric juices from damaging it.
  • Overall digestion improvement. Sleeping on the left side puts liver, pancreas, and gallbladder in their anatomical positions, so they can produce enzymes and digestive ferments more efficiently.
  • Snoring prevention. Contrary to back sleeping, snoozing on your side keeps the upper airways open and decreases the chances of snoring or getting an apnea episode.
  • Lymphatic drainage. The left side is also dominant for your lymphatic system because the spleen — the central organ of this system — and some large lymph nodes are located on the left. Thus, by snoozing on your left side, you promote healthier lymph secretion, which results in the reduction of swelling and a total body cleanse.
  • Brain cleanse. This one is tied to the previous. The lymphatic system also cleans your brain from waste and byproducts it had accumulated through the day. To do this, your body creates a specific cellular pathway during the deep sleep stage and flushes out all the toxins with cerebrospinal fluid. When you’re lying on your left side, you help your body do all of this naturally.
  • Blood pressure reduction. Sleeping on the left side helps your heart pump your blood more easily because of direct flow without any obstacles. Thus, your blood vessels will get more relaxed too.

Sleeping on the left side is highly beneficial for pregnant women. It promotes blood flow to the uterus and reduces the load on the liver, thereby eliminating bile outbursts followed by heartburn.

Most Common Variations of Side Sleeping

Not only side sleeping is highly beneficial, but it can also be very flexible. There are several different positions, and you may choose the one that gives you the biggest comfort:

  • Fetal position. This one is the most common and, apparently, the most comfortable. Curling up your knees towards your chest provides the feeling of relaxation, so you typically fall asleep in minutes.
  • The Log. This sleeping style literally resembles a log, as you sleep on your side with your arms along the body.
  • The Yearner. In this sleeping position, you stretch your arms slightly in front of you, as if you’re trying to reach out for something.
  • The Thinker. This looks very similar to the fetal position, except you put one of your hands under your cheek.

Research has also found a certain connection between a preferred sleeping style and personality traits of a given individual.

Tips for Mastering Side Sleeping Like a Pro

So, you have a strong urge to incorporate side sleeping into your life but your efforts don’t seem to be successful?

Don’t worry!

In fact, most of the global population are mixed sleepers, meaning that they switch at least two sleeping positions during the night. So, you, too, probably sleep on your side at some point of the night.

But if you arm yourself with these tips below, in just a few weeks, you will find yourself snoozing on your side more often and will start feeling a lot more comfortable in this position.

#1 Be Sure to Get a Suitable Mattress

Memory foam mattresses are a very common choice among side sleepers. The most obvious reason for that is that memory foam is great at relieving pressure in pressure points and may even reduce back pain. This material conforms to your body curves, especially those in your hips and shoulders, and promotes healthy spine alignment, so you won’t wake up with stiffness.

The main drawback of memory foam, however, is heat accumulation, meaning that you’re more likely to sleep hot on such beds. Given the fact that side sleepers — especially heavier ones — typically sink more deeply into their mattress, you might end up sweaty and grumpy because of disrupted sleep.

So, if you’re a large sleeper or just prone to hot sleeping, opt for a hybrid or latex mattress. Whichever material you choose, make sure your mattress is on the softer side (about 5 out of 10 on the firmness scale). This way, there will be less pressure in your hips and shoulders and hence more comfort.

#2 Don’t Forget About Pillows

Aside from hips and shoulders, another weak point of side sleepers is their neck. Your head is pretty heavy, and if your neck doesn’t receive proper support while you are snoozing on your side, it can get strained and give you pain in the morning.

An ideal pillow for a side sleeper should combine the following:

  • higher loft (or the ability to adjust it);
  • dense fill that would maintain its shape;
  • breathable materials that won’t make you sleep hot.

And by the way, you may not limit yourself to just one pillow.

If you’re trying to sleep on your side more because you have some health issues, certain types of pillows might be more beneficial for you.

For example, use wedge pillows that create an incline and elevate your upper body. Wedge pillows work great for individuals with GERD, acid reflux, or sleep apnea. Also, you can put this pillow under your legs to reduce swelling.

Also, you may want to place a thin pillow between your knees if you’re prone to hip pain. The pillow will compensate for the tension in your pelvic bones, and you will get the relief you need.

#3 Help Yourself Stay on Your Side

The next couple of tips will come in handy if you have problems staying on your side while you’re sleeping and continually turn to your back or stomach.

So, here’s a couple of recommendations for back sleepers:

  • Sew a tennis ball to your old pajamas. This is an old but effective trick. A tennis ball around your lower back area will create the obstacle if you decide to turn on your back. For the same reason, this trick can be useful for loud snorers, as sleeping on their side rather than their back may help them reduce snoring.
  • Switch to sofa sleeping for a couple of weeks. Sleeping on a narrow sofa won’t give you too much space to toss and turn, so you will stay on your side eventually.

Most people will probably find sleeping on a sofa uncomfortable. If you’re one of them, you can invest in a mattress topper that will eliminate the unevenness of the sofa.”

Now, if you’re a stomach sleeper, here’s what you can do to train yourself sleep on the side:

  • Sleep facing the wall. You may even want to move your bed to the wall so that it would be easier for you to pick the right position. In this case, when you decide to roll onto your tummy, a wall may prevent you from doing this, and you will stay on your side.
  • Hug a pillow. Hugging an additional pillow kills two birds with one stone: it prevents your hands from going numb and tingling and helps you stay on your side, as the pillow will balance your body weight.

#4 Check Your Progress and Be Consistent

Finally, track your sleeping positions during the transition phase. Of course, you don’t need to control any position change, but writing down the sleeping position you wake up in would be helpful.

Also, don’t give up soon if you aren’t noticing any differences. It is believed people need 21 days to form a new habit. But this may vary, so don’t get desperate and just keep going — you will see the results eventually.

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