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Being a mom isn’t easy. You get woken up randomly at all hours of the night, you get sneezed on and spit up on, you are constantly worried about your kid(s), and on top of all of that it’s nearly impossible to find a pair of shorts that are both appropriate and cute. Who’s with me here? While I probably can’t solve all of your mom dilemmas I can share with you my favorite denim shorts. The unicorn kind that look cute and trendy while still providing full booty coverage and a very flattering high waisted cut.

See what I mean about the full booty coverage?

A little bit more about why I love these shorts and then I promise I’ll wrap it up. The button fly and high waist are extremely flattering, especially for moms who could use a little extra support around the middle. They hug your rear nicely. They’re the perfect color – not too dark, not too light. And they’re 100% cotton so that spit up I was talking about earlier will wash right out and they’ll look brand new in that perfectly distressed sort of way.

Do you wear shorts in the summer or are you more of a jeans all of the time kind of gal? I’d love to hear!

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Well friends, the results are in and I’m happy to say that I am thrilled with my results from following the FASTer Way to Fat Loss program for just six weeks. I wanted to wait until I completed one full round of the program before I wrote this post so I could share my full experience and RESULTS. I’m so excited to be able to share this with you and I’m always happy to answer ANY questions you might have so please, leave them in the comments below!

The RESULTS

I thought it would be fun to start with my results from the 6-week program. After all, if it didn’t work why would you keep reading?! These photos are all completely unedited and unfiltered.

Day 1 of the FASTer Way to Fat Loss

When starting the program you’re encouraged to ditch the scale and focus on measurements as your main measure of progress. While I totally can get behind that in theory I did still weight myself pretty regularly. Old habits, am I right? So here is where I started in the beginning, followed by where I’m at after one-round (six weeks) of the FASTer Way to Fat Loss program.

Beginning Stats:

Weight: 124.2 lbs
Waist at Belly Button: 32″
Waist 2″ Above Belly Button: 33.5″
Waist 2″ Below Belly Button: 30″
Upper Arm: 10″
Upper Thigh: 19.5″

Round 1 Stats:

Weight: 117.8 lbs
Waist at Belly Button: 28.5″
Waist 2″ Above Belly Button: 31.5″
Waist 2″ Below Belly Button: 28″
Upper Arm: 9″
Upper Thigh: 19″

My 6-week FASTer Way to Fat Loss results

I was definitely not sad to say goodbye to 8.5″ and 6.4lbs especially now that swimsuit season is upon us! My goal when starting the program was really to lose FAT – I was pretty close to my pre-pregnancy weight at about 9 months post-partum but my clothes were tight and I was not feeling confident in my own skin. I was tracking calories but wasn’t really paying attention to what I was eating or when I was eating it. I had experimented with intermittent fasting but my results were stalled and I knew I needed to try something different if I was going to see the results I was looking for. I am someone who seriously dislikes tracking my meals, planning my meals, limiting my food intake and on top of all of that I expect to see immediate results. Totally reasonable, right? While the results I achieved weren’t immediate I was able to grasp the meal tracking and planning after about the first week of the program and the results quickly followed. Once my clothes started fitting better after just a couple weeks and I was able to wear things that I hadn’t worn in almost two years, I couldn’t wait to keep going.

after one round of the FASTer Way What is the FASTer Way?

The FASTer Way to Fast Loss is a nutrition program that focuses on a few key things to drive the seriously incredible results that I experienced.

  • Intermittent Fasting
  • Carb Cycling
  • Macro Tracking
  • Strategic Workouts

Each “round” is 6 weeks long and starts with a prep-week which allows you to get familiar with the program. You’re given access to a portal that’s full of information on how to track your food, daily workouts, FAQ’s, and more. You’re also placed in a Facebook group with a coach and about 40 other women – this is your accountability group and I personally think this was huge in my success. You’re able to ask questions, connect with other women doing the program, and post your daily progress to receive tips on how to maximize your results.

What Did You Eat?

Honestly, what didn’t I eat?! One of the reasons why I typically dislike tracking my food intake is because I am a volume eater – I am not satisfied eating 1,200 calories/day and even if I am able to do it for a few days I just end up binging and going overboard at the first moment of weakness or temptation because it’s not sustainable. And one of the reasons I liked the FASTer Way so much is because you eat – A LOT – and with the carb cycling and macro tracking there’s a lot of variety in what and how you’re eating throughout the week. I was never bored and really did enjoy planning, tracking, and eating during the 6 weeks. I think my very biggest tip for success would be to try to plan out your meals as much as possible in advance. In the evening I’ll typically think about the next day, prep food to bring to work for lunch and also track my dinner to make sure I’m setting myself up for success and packing the right food to meet my macro goals. It also allows me to just track once a day and then eat what I plan the following day. Once I got the hang of it, it was incredibly easy to plan and follow through each day. Here are a few of my go-to’s that I’m still eating today.

Low-Carb Days

Monday and Tuesday are low-carb days. Your goal is to eat less than 50 grams of net carbs and have the rest of your calories come from fat and protein. The first couple weeks I really struggled with eating enough fat. It’s amazing just how much you can eat in a day and still lose weight and inches when following this plan.

Here’s a sample low-carb day:
Breakfast:
I put two scoops of collagen powder in my coffee and typically wait to break my fast until noon on low carb days. Low carb breakfast just isn’t as appealing to me so I hold out for a big lunch.
Lunch:
Cobb salad with salmon or shrimp, bacon, hard boiled egg, cheese, and Trader Joe’s siracha ranch dressing
Snacks:
Trader Joe’s Thai chili and lime almonds
Apple with peanut butter
Beef jerky
Dinner:
Trader Joe’s salmon burger patty
Broccoli with cheese sauce


Cobb salads have become my favorite way to get a TON of fat in with bacon, cheese, and salad dressing (YUM), snacks are usually a combination of nuts, peanut butter, fruit, and jerky, and dinner is usually a higher fat protein with veggies cooked in olive or coconut oil. Chipotle is also a great option for a quick lunch or dinner on low carb days!

Regular Macro Days

Regular macro days are the bomb {do people still say that}? On Wednesday, Thursday, and Saturday you eat your My Fitness Pal recommendation of 50% carbs, 30% fat, and 20% protein. As a self proclaimed lover of carbs, regular macros days ended up being my favorite.

Here’s what a sample regular macro day looks like:
Breakfast:
2 scoops collagen powder in my coffee before I break my fast
2 slices Ezekiel cinnamon raisin bread with Kerrygold butter
Lunch:
Chicken thighs with Trader Joe’s jasmine rice and artichoke hearts
Snacks:
Cookies and cream Quest bar
Strawberries
Dinner:
Trader Joe’s gyro slices on naan bread topped with Greek yogurt and a sweet potato


Do not adjust your screens – I ate two kinds of bread, rice, and a sweet potato and LOST WEIGHT! On regular macro days I also love overnight oats for breakfast, sandwiches for lunch, and a combination of rice, a protein, and veggies for dinner.

Low Macro Days

While not my favorite, low macro days really aren’t so bad. On Friday and Sunday you eat 25% less than your My Fitness Pal recommendation of 50% carbs, 30% fat, and 20% protein. Overall I ate very similarly to regular macro days, I just ate less. To survive these days I typically break my fast around noon or later and try to be as strategic as possible with what I eat.

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What About Workouts?

I had the best of intentions to incorporate the FASTer Way workouts along with the nutrition program however as it does, life got in the way. During the six weeks I only made it to my Orange Theory workouts twice. Which makes my results that much more incredible. Now that I feel really confident in my ability to stick to the nutrition plan I’m going to focus on working out at least 2-3 days/week. Even though I feel much leaner and am totally happy with my progress so far I want to continue to tone and become stronger and healthier.

But Did You Cheat?

Totally. Of course I did. The FASTer Way mantra is progress over perfection. During my first six weeks of the program we celebrated Easter, my sisters graduation, Mothers Day, and also went on a three day trip with friends. While I tried not to go crazy I totally indulged myself and didn’t track those days. I did however get back on track after every indulgence and did my best to continue the intermittent fasting at all times. I did eat out very often throughout the program and was able to stay on track with ease. My favorite quick serve options were Chipotle and Panera – they both have tons of options and very thorough nutrition calculators on their site which made customizing and tracking my meals super easy.

So What’s Next?

I’m totally all-in on the FASTer Way to Fat Loss approach to eating. I love switching out my nutritional focus on a daily basis from low carb to macros, intermittent fasting, and always striving for progress over perfection. I also love how easy it is to incorporate into my very busy life and get back on track if {and when} I slip up a bit. I’m also definitely going to work on incorporating more exercise into my daily routine.

If you’re interested in trying the FASTer Way to Fat Loss for yourself, you can sign up for the next round here – prep week starts Monday, June 3. I’d love to be a resource for any questions or concerns you might have before getting started – trust me I’ve probably asked or experienced them all!

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Ken and I are heading to Mexico in a few weeks for our first parents only vacation in nearly two years. That might not seem like a long time but I can assure you with two kids and a puppy at home I’m counting the seconds until my bootie is in that airplane seat! Since we’re in the thick of winter here and I was very newly postpartum with Jojo last summer I’m in desperate need of a new swimsuit or two. I’m still working on my mom bod and want to feel comfortable yet still a little sexy on the beach and have found myself struggling with where exactly to shop for swimwear for this stage in my life. That’s where you come in! Like always, my Instagram tribe has my preferably full coverage back so without further ado, where to shop for a mom friendly bathing suit as recommended by YOU!

These are in no particular order except alphabetical because I’m type-A like that.

Aerie. I’ve made a few activewear and loungewear purchases from Aerie but never swimwear! I love how inclusive they are featuring women of all sizes. This suit is full coverage but still super cute and I love the yellow! Plus it’s ribbed which is usually more flattering than a smooth fabric.

Albion Fit. These suits are a bit pricier but seem to have a cult following and I can see why! I absolutely love the color and pattern of this one. I also really love this rash gaurd, perfect for being outside in the sun all day with littles!

Amazon. I mean really, what don’t they have?

Anthropologie. I think of Anthro for a lot of things but not usually swimwear. This suit is actually on its way to my house today and one of my Instagram friends commented that she has it and in her opinion it’s the perfect mom suit. Fingers extra crossed that it works for me! I also love, love it in this print.

ASOS. I bought a maternity suit from ASOS last year and loved it. It ran small (or maybe my bump ran big?) but it was probably one of the cuter maternity swimsuits I came across. As far as non-pregnant mom suits go I really love this one, it’s from their fuller bust line, perfect for nursing moms!

Athleta. One of Gap’s sister brands, Athleta is (spoiler alert) an athletic wear store that carries some really cute suits! I thought this one was adorable, especially for a boy mom, and loved the sportiness of this one.

Cupshe. Women love Cupshe for it’s wide variety of affordable, trendy swimwear. I can’t personally speak to the coverage or fit of their suits but for under $30 a suit it’s definitely worth a try! You can also find them on Amazon. I’ve had my eye on this wrap style suit since I saw another blogger try it on last week.

Everything But Water. I’ve actually shopped with my mom for a suit here before and I know they have a super large variety and lots of options if you’re looking for something specific. I love the textured fabric and snap front on this one.

Figleaves. I had actually never even heard of this site but hello tummy control and adorable print! Also really in love with this one.

J. Crew. J. Crew has been my preferred swimwear for years but after trying on a few of my J. Crew suits recently they just don’t have the support I’m currently looking for.

Kortni Jeane. I have a Kortni Jeane two-piece and I tell everyone about them, especially if you’re looking for family matching swimwear! Their adorable high-waisted bottoms are my favorite.

Lily Pulitzer. I am admittedly not a huge Lily fan but this print could not be cuter and I thought it had a Mara Hoffman vibe (for much less)!

Macy’s. This recommendation was specifically for Ralph Lauren suits from Macy’s. I’m not really a tankini person but thought this one was super chic.

Mara Hoffman. I have lusted over Mara Hoffman swimwear for years but I’ve never been able to justify the price. If you can please buy this suit and wear it for me!

Naked Wardrobe. Another site I wasn’t familiar with until someone suggested it. How pretty (and affordable!) is this suit?

Robin Piccone. Hi friends, the next time you know of an adorable swimwear brand like this one please tell me sooner, ok? I’m not sure I can live without this suit in my life.

Shop Lidgett. A brand new swimwear shop designed for all women, they’re currently accepting pre-sale orders! You guys know how much I love citrus prints!

Summersalt. The cutest swim shop! The sidestroke style was specifically recommended and I’m going to be honest after reading the description it sounds darn near perfect!

Target. I bought a suit from Target after having Jojo last summer and if it still fit me I’d definitely be wearing it this year too! Does anyone want cute one-piece black suit in a size medium? Let me know!

Tommy Bahama. This came with a recommendation for the Pearl line of suits and after finding this one I can see why, it looks so flattering!

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When I first started out in my career {13 years ago, yikes!} I did a fair amount of traveling for work. Anytime a new project required someone to head out of town I’d happily volunteer, racking up frequent flier miles, personal and professional life experiences, and sometimes even stamps on my passport. While that feels like a literal lifetime ago that I’m sometimes nostalgic for I’m very fortunate to not have to travel for my job nearly as much as I used to. In addition to missing my kids like crazy and worrying about how my poor husband is going to juggle drop-offs, pickups, bath-time, and bedtime, as a nursing mom pumping while traveling is the pits. Since I haven’t had to pump and fly since Annabelle was a baby I recently asked my Instagram community for their very best tips and tricks for pumping while traveling. Whether you have an overnight work trip coming up or you’re heading out of town for a long weekend with your sweetie, I’ve got you covered. Have anything to add? Leave your questions or comments below! Xo

At the airport
  • Download the Mamava app, it can help you find thousands of approved places to pump (or nurse)!
  • Allow yourself extra time to get through security, while you shouldn’t have a problem sometimes they check and/or test every bottle of milk.
  • To that point, if you’re able to freeze your milk before going through security they don’t even have to test it.
  • Lay your milk flat to conserve space.
  • Print out a copy of the breastmilk policy from the TSA website and stick it in your pump bag. While every agent should be familiar, some are not and this will be extra reassurance.
On the plane
  • Bring a nursing cover in case you can’t pump in a private place, you’ll still have privacy.
  • Choose an aisle seat so it’s easier to get in/out/adjust as needed.
At your hotel
  • Request a room with a refrigerator/freezer so you can store your breastmilk safely.
  • If you’re hotel can only provide a refrigerator and you’re staying for more than one night, ask if they can store your pumped milk in a freezer.
  • Bring freezer bags for easier storage/transportation.
  • Bring ice packs if you are able to get a freezer in your room and bring ziplock bags as a backup, you can fill them with ice before you leave and pack them along with your milk in a cooler bag.
A few more tips
  • Bring extra pump parts in case of emergencies and also more parts = less washing.
  • Soap is your best bet for sanitizing pump parts if you have access to a sink but you can also bring pump wipes in case you don’t.
  • Write down your pumping schedule or put reminders in your calendar, if you’re distracted and not following your normal routine it’s easy to forget when you need to pump!
  • Call Milk Stork! I had never heard of this amazing service and honestly my mind is blown – you sign up before you travel and they ship a cooler directly to your hotel. Pump and pack your breast milk into your cooler unit from the privacy of your hotel room and then ship it home using a prepaid label right from the hotel lobby. Isn’t living in 2019 amazing? Make sure to ask your company if you can expense the cost!

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Perhaps I’m speaking only for myself here but my dad is always one of the hardest people to buy for. He’s actually one of the easiest people to be around but when it comes to gifts he just doesn’t need or want anything. It’s infuriating and endearing all in one. So this gift guide goes out to dads everywhere, hopefully you find something just perfect for the dad in your life!

  1. A camo sherpa sweatshirt, so he can be cozy and stylish while blending in. I bought this for my dad! $65
  2. A monogramed whiskey set, practical and just the right amount of fancy. $105
  3. Water resistant slippers, perfect for walking to the couch or the mailbox. $49
  4. A memory foam pillow with over 10,000 5-star reviews that will make your mom instantly jealous. $64
  5. A wireless charging tray so that he always gets your texts. $175
  6. A travel neck pillow so that he can relax just about anywhere. $49
  7. cologne sampler so he can take his time picking his favorite, it includes a voucher for a full size bottle! $65
  8. An ancestry test to make your family bond even stronger. $68
  9. A bluetooth speaker that’s waterproof, dent proof, crack proof, and grandchildren proof too. $99
  10. A stainless steel tumbler that doesn’t sweat, just like him. $19
  11. A smokeless indoor grill so he can impress the family with his skills year round. $279

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Welcome to the very first of my holiday gift guides! I’m so excited to share a few of my favorite picks for the very most important lady in your life, your mama! Happy shopping!

  1. A figure flattering jacket for everyday wear. $65
  2. The most festive slipper slides for her to sparkle around the house. $78
  3. A charm bracelet that you can always add to for future gifts and occasions! $65
  4. The cutest time capsule for her to pass on all of her infinite wisdom. $10
  5. A sleepwear set that’s as comfortable as it is chic. $98
  6. A digital frame that you can load photos of her grandchildren onto via an app, perfect for a group gift! $297
  7. An empowered bracelet to remind her how strong {or grateful, fearless, empowered, inspired, or brave} she really is. $38
  8. An elegant tunic that’s hassle free. $75
  9. A birthstone ring to remind her of all of the most important people in her life, we got my mom one for every member of our immediate family for her 60th birthday! $190
  10. The softest hooded lounger for lazy weekends around the house. $95
  11. A textured knit that she can dress up or down. $148
  12. A perfume sampler so she can take her time picking her favorite, it includes a voucher for a full size bottle! $65

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Oh hey! I haven’t been this excited about a new clothing line in a long, long time. I have honestly been on pins and needles awaiting the launch of the Atlantic-Pacific x Halogen collection by blogger extraordinaire Blair Eadie since first hearing about it a few weeks ago. I tend to go through a period of re-evaluating my personal style after I have a baby and if I was able to eloquently articulate what my post-Jojo style is it would be THIS COLLECTION. Blair took the thoughts right out of my head and turned them into real clothes that I can buy at Nordstrom! I had two calendar reminders set this morning and all of my favorite pieces bookmarked and I’m thrilled to report that I only missed out on two items – which I am praying will be restocked soon! Do you want to see what I bought? Read on, dear reader! xo

Dresses & Skirts

Dresses and skirts are my postpartum jam right now. You’ll see that I purchased zero pants – and for a good reason. I still have those pesky last 10 lbs. to lose so I have not been buying pants for my “current body.” I do have a few pairs of jeans that fit along with a great pair of Ponte pants from Old Navy {why hadn’t anyone told me about these – they’re awesome!} but I’m not investing in any new pants. Hopefully in the spring I’ll be ready to take the plunge into things that zip but for now, dresses and skirts! Here are my favorites.

x Atlantic-Pacific Bow Detail Lace Midi Dress $159

x Atlantic-Pacific Fringe Tweed Dress $149

x Atlantic-Pacific Colorblock Pleated Midi Dress $149

x Atlantic-Pacific Polka Dot Tulle Maxi Skirt $129

x Atlantic-Pacific Tiered Tulle Midi Skirt $99

x Atlantic-Pacific Crinkle Midi Skirt $99

x Atlantic-Pacific Crinkle Midi Skirt $99

x Atlantic-Pacific Dot Mesh Half Slip $59

x Atlantic-Pacific Tulle Half Slip $59

Tops

What mama doesn’t need a few new cozy sweaters and breastfeeding friendly blouses in their fall and winter wardrobe? This one does! You’ll notice that the blouses match the skirts so they can be worn separately or as a set – I cannot wait to see them together!

x Atlantic-Pacific Stripe Turtleneck Sweater $79

x Atlantic-Pacific Ribbed Polo Sweater $69

x Atlantic-Pacific Hidden Placket Blouse $79

x Atlantic-Pacific Hidden Placket Blouse $79

Outerwear

I actually invested in a ton of coats last winter but there were a few I just could not pass up! I’m planning on wearing the green coat for our holiday photos!

x Atlantic-Pacific Double Breasted Long Coat $249

x Atlantic-Pacific Bow Detail Tweed Jacket $169

x Atlantic-Pacific Double Breasted Wool Blend Blazer $169

Shoes

This morning I told myself that I didn’t need any new shoes but oh my gosh if all of these are not perfect?! Also, I recently realized that after having Jojo I cannot wear stiletto heels anymore. Block heels or bust for this mama!

x Atlantic-Pacific The Flatform Derby $119

x Atlantic-Pacific Double Strap Flat $99

x Atlantic-Pacific The Slingback Pump $99

Accessories

Chic accessories are some of my most favorite pieces to invest in. A pop of color or a fun texture can be the best addition to any outfit! Also the colored tights are actually what my dreams are made of.

x Atlantic-Pacific Stripe Cashmere Wrap $199

x Atlantic-Pacific Colorblock Faux Fur Stole $89

x Atlantic-Pacific Cashmere Beanie with Faux Fur Pom $55

x Atlantic-Pacific Faux Fur Wrap $49

x Atlantic-Pacific Opaque Tights $18

x Atlantic-Pacific Shimmer Ankle Socks $10

Have you shopped the Atlantic-Pacific x Halogen collection yet? I’d love to hear what you got in the comments below! I promise to check in on Instagram when my order arrives so we can try everything on together!

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When Annabelle was born the thought of giving her a bath was so daunting to me as a new mom. I remember watching the nurses give her first bath while we were in the hospital and wanting to ask them if they made house calls because there was no way I had the skillset to bathe a teeny tiny baby. I probably don’t need to tell you this, but I eventually mustered up the courage to give my first baby a bath and I learned a few tricks along the way so when our second sweet bundle came along I found myself a bit more prepared to take on what happens to be a really special task. This blog post is in partnership with Baby Dove but all opinions are my own.

Bath time is fun

Ok, maybe not for all babies but both of our girls l-o-v-e the bath. Thank goodness. If you’re a mom-to-be you’ll learn someday soon that sometimes you just run out of things to do with your little loves. I’m going to let you in on a little mom trick, a bath can be a great way to turn a frown upside down for almost any baby. We like to turn it into a little spa day – get the water temperature just right, add lots and lots of bubbles, and then after wrapping her up in the coziest towel we treat our lady to a little massage. Baby Dove Sensitive Moisture Tip to Toe Wash is hypoallergenic and is tear-free formula so everyone leaves the bath happy. 

Babies look really cute in the bath

Even if you’re the furthest thing from a professional photographer it’s hard to take a bad picture of a baby in a bath. They make the cutest little expressions and it’s so fun to see how much they’ve grown from their very first bath. I would recommend having two parents on hand when taking photos for safety but giving our kids a bath is usually a family affair in our house anyway. Baby Dove products are created without dyes, parabens, phthalates or sulfates so while you do have to worry about dropping your phone in the bath while snapping a pic you don’t have to worry about that baby soft skin getting irritated at all. 

When you find a product you love, stick with it

This is my most important rule when it comes to baby products. It’s actually surprising how loyal I am to the baby products that I love. As someone who likes to constantly try new makeup, skincare, etc. when it comes to my kids once I find something I like I will use it forever – and recommend it to all of my mama friends! It almost seems like an unspoken rule of motherhood. Mama’s love to share the products that work for them and their babes, especially when another mama is in need. Baby Dove cleansers and lotions are made with 100% skin-natural nutrients, and are ultra-gentle for newborn skin. I especially love the rich and creamy lather that the Tip to Toe Wash creates. The more bubbles the better, I always say! 

It goes so fast

It’s hard to believe that in just a few months we’ll probably start combining bath time for the girls and retire our little tub forever. I love having this special time with Jojo right now, especially since so much of my time with her is shared with her big sister. I’m intentionally trying to relax and be present in every little moment since I know how fast it goes. A bath is a wonderful opportunity to bond with your sweet baby and create memories that will last a lifetime. Both of our girls have sensitive skin so Baby Dove will be part of our routine for years to come. Baby Dove Sensitive Moisture Baby Lotion is good for all ages and provides 24 hours of moisture and soothes dry skin from the first use.

If you’d like to save money on future Baby Dove products, click here.

Thank you to Baby Dove for sponsoring this post.

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It’s something so many moms face at some point early in their parenting journey, going back to work. As someone who enjoyed two lovely twelve week maternity leaves and then jumped back into the full-time workforce I’m here to tell you, it’s going to be ok. I can’t promise that your experience going back to work is going to be wonderful but I can tell you what’s helped to make my transition easier. I’m going to use my works carefully when speaking about this topic because I never want to mislead you. Going back to work has been one of the hardest things I’ve done in my life.  It was definitely harder as a first time mom. I remember the first few weeks after I went back to work the first time. I would come home and cry to Ken because I felt so guilty. I felt guilty that someone else was spending so much time with my tiny baby instead of me. I felt guilty that I would go and think about something other than her for hours at a time. I pleaded to sell one of our cars, move into a smaller house, stop shopping {ha!}, anything so that we would no longer need my income and I could stop working all together. But as the weeks passed things got easier, we got into a routine, and those thoughts went away completely. Fast forward a few years later and now as a mom of two, as my maternity leave was ending I really tried to shift my focus. Instead of being sad I used my energy to be prepared and find the positives in the situation. Whatever stage of motherhood you’re in I’m sending you a great, big, virtual hug. You’re doing such a great job mama. You’ve got this! 

Think about YOU

You’ve just spent weeks and probably months thinking almost exclusively about someone else. Which you’ll absolutely continue to do when you go back to work. But! You’ll also be tapping someone else {daycare, nanny, friends/family, a post for another day!} in to help so for a minute, let’s think about you. Without a baby in your arms you can get a lot done! Do you like coffee? Make sure you grab a piping hot cup of it on your first day back on the job and enjoy it. How about your co-workers? Do you like them? Reach out and plan lunch for your first week back. Eating with both hands is a luxury no mom should ever take for granted. You know I love me some clothes, maybe you do too? Treat yourself to a few new items that include none of the following: yoga pants, your husbands t-shirt, flip-flops, a robe, etc. You get where I’m going. Your old work clothes might not fit. Whatever. Get some new clothes and feel good about wearing them. Put on some fancy shoes that you’d never wear to the park. This moment is about you. And don’t worry, your yoga pants will be waiting for you when you get home.

Oh the things you will do!

I’m going to let you in on a little secret. Going back to work doesn’t have to be all about work. I don’t know about you but it seems that the more I have on my plate the more productive I am. I’ve been that way ever since high school, when I’d go to school full-time, have a 3 hour cheerleading practice, work as a receptionist at a hair salon for a few hours after that, and then still find time to do my homework and chat with my girlfriends. Gosh, those were the days! Anyway, back to real, adult life. Once you get into a groove with your routine you’ll find ways to run errands that you might never get done if you were home with the kid(s) all day. Need to drop something off at the post-office? Great, do it on your way to work. Gas tank near empty? Leave work a few minutes early and take care of it. Running low on milk, eggs, or other groceries? Run out on your lunch hour! Even better, when it’s cold enough outside you can just leave everything in your car.

A good routine fixes everything

You need to prepare to run your household like a military base {or so I would imagine, I’ve never actually been to one}. When dealing with a baby, a toddler, or any combination of the two you must be prepared for everything and anything to go wrong. Which means everything that you can control you must prepare ahead of time. Here’s a quick rundown of how I prepare during the week to ensure our mornings run as smoothly as possible.

  • If you’re using frozen breast milk, take it out 24 hours before you’ll need to make bottles and thaw it in the fridge. For us, this means I take out enough breast milk for the next day the morning before I need it {and then freeze whatever I pump at work to use at a later time}.
  • If you’re using freshly expressed breast milk or formula, make up your bottles the night before.
  • If your kid(s) are eating food, make their lunches, snacks, etc. the night before, fill up their water bottle(s), pack their lunch bags, bottle bags, etc. Everything in the refrigerator should be ready to grab and go the next morning.
  • Wake up before your kids. This is a big one. For so long I let Annabelle be my alarm clock {she used to be a very early riser} and every morning I was left feeling scattered and behind because I had zero time for myself. Now I make sure to set an alarm and wake up before my kids. Does it happen every morning? No. But when it does I feel like I can conquer the world. Depending on the day I’ll either workout and then help get everyone fed, dressed, and off to school with Ken doing drop-off or I’ll get myself ready so that I can get everyone fed, dressed, and off to school with me doing drop-off.
  • Pack your workbag, your kids school bag, and every other bag {there are so many bags} the night before, line them up near your door, or even better put them in your or your significant others car.
  • Keep breakfast simple. Yogurt pouches, granola bars, dry cereal. You don’t have to be a hero you just have to make sure your kid isn’t starving.
  • Pick out clothes the night before. This is hit or miss for everyone in our household. Jojo is the easiest since she doesn’t have an opinion and wears some combination of a diaper, pajamas and socks most days. Annabelle is a bit harder. For her we alternate between picking out her clothes the night before and selecting her clothes and getting dressed first thing in the morning before she can do anything else {eat, play, talk about her hopes and dreams}. Since picking out clothes can be a very emotional situation for a lot of kids we like to get this out of the way ASAP. Then we can listen to Taylor Swift, watch P.J. Masks, or read a book before school.
Help is on the way!

You’re going to need some help. I’m sure there is a unicorn mom out there who can literally do it all but I’m not her and you’re probably not either. So, in no particular order here are a few of my favorite time saving tips and tricks.

  • Grocery shopping. Does anyone shop for their own groceries anymore? From Instacart, to stores that offer curbside pickup, to Amazon Prime Pantry, and more, this is a really easy one to outsource. Don’t spend your weekends at the grocery store. Please, don’t.
  • The dishwasher. I throw everything in the dishwasher. If it’s not dishwasher safe it is not for me. We do have a sterilizer that I’ll run once a week for bottles and pump parts but it’s definitely not necessary. Come home, put everything you can in the dishwasher, run it, and be done.
  • Cleaning. Can you afford to hire someone to clean your house? Do it. By the way, Amazon does that now too! 
  • Two by two. Just like Noah, buy everything you own in pairs of two. Ok, maybe not everything but make sure you have extra bottles, lunch boxes, sippy cups, pump parts, etc. so that if something is in the dishwasher, gets left at school or work, or plain old disappears you don’t have to worry or modify your routine. Extra everything.
  • Label all the things. We use NameBubbles labels on everything. Put your sharpie away.
Give yourself grace

The very first thing I tell a mom who’s returning to work is you are going to be exhausted. Even if your baby is sleeping through the night. Even if this is your second, third, fourth, fifth kid. Even if you didn’t get into the habit of taking naps while you were on maternity leave. Side note, if you are currently on maternity leave please take a nap every day. Even if you’re not tired. You won’t get this chance again anytime soon. I’m not saying this to scare you, actually the opposite. The transition from full time stay at home mom to full time work outside of the home mom is mentally draining even if it doesn’t feel like it should be. For the first few weeks it’s ok if you have cereal for dinner, order way too much takeout, or lineup a few HelloFresh meals {which is what I did}. Was your baby previously on a schedule and now you’re struggling to keep them awake after you get home? Do they want to eat all evening and get some extra snuggles in? It’s ok. Your schedule will be there waiting for you once you start to adjust. Just do whatever feels right for you and your babe and your family. If you’re nursing and pumping you might experience a dip in your milk supply when you go back to work. This is totally normal and chances are exclusively pumping during the day is new for you. I’m going to work on another post to discuss boosting your milk supply and building a stash but just know that usually any challenges are temporary and you will get back on track! If you have the option try to have your first day back in the office be mid-week so you have the weekend to look forward to. And ask your childcare provider to send lots of updates and pictures. It’s ok to ask for updates from them throughout the day too!

I did receive quite a few questions on Instagram the day before I went back to work so I just wanted to capture a few more of them here in case they’re helpful to you.

  • What kind of daycare do you use? We send both girls to a Christian child care center. This is the absolute best fit for us {we previously sent Annabelle to an in-home daycare after I went back to work with her}. We love the structure and the faith based curriculum.
  • How many bottles do you pack and how many ounces in each? With both girls I started by sending them with one 4oz. bottle for every 3 hours that they’d be at school which for most days is 3 bottles. The first few days I’d send an extra bottle just in case, and our school allows us to keep a few frozen bags of breastmilk just in case they need an extra bottle for whatever reason. After a week or so I increased each bottle to 5oz. and it seems like that’s the perfect amount for Jojo at 14 weeks old. With Annabelle I never put more than 6 oz. in a bottle which was at her peak consumption around six months.
  • Do you use a sleepsack? Yes! At home for the most part Jojo sleeps in her Snoo which has it’s own swaddle but for school I bought two Love to Dream swaddles and we love them!

This post got really long, really fast. Whew. Thanks for making it to the end and I really hope some of what I wrote is helpful to you. Every mom, every child, and every situation is very different and you will find your own way. You’ll also forget things, learn things, change things, and grow a lot as the days, weeks, and months go by. Find a community of moms that you trust and feel comfortable asking questions and asking for help. We’re all in this together and you should never feel alone. You were created to do this job. You’ve got this!

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