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A Fancy Affair blog is your source for fashion, beauty, lifestyle and travel written in English and Portuguese. I have a passion to inform others about popular trends, styles, tips and tricks! I love to empower women to look and feel their best at all stages in life.
I have been learning so much about myself lately! I’m so sensitive to every experience I’m encountering and all I can do is ask why? Why now? How much have I missed?
Lately, every situation I’m in I take a moment to self-reflect and all I’m wondering is why is this happening to me now? How many life lessons did I miss?Example… if you follow me on my social media platforms (@afancyaffair) you know I recently came back from a week long trip with my badass girl gang and we had a hella of a time, but there was a lot of aha moments. There was one particular day and time that I was so overwhelmed with all these emotions that I just had to stop, take a deep breath and talk to God. I then glanced over my friends and realized that we were all feeling the same way. Overwhelmed by the beauty of Portugal and yet feeling so grateful, thankful and appreciative. We shared our thoughts as we sipped on some delicious port, prayed together, cried, laughed and thanked each other for the opportunity.
This was that very moment.
At this very momemt I felt this immense feeling of thankfulness and God’s peace. At this very moment I felt this overwelming feeling of happiness and completion. I knew that the hardest days of this season I’m in were over. I shared with my friends then and there that sometimes we are in a situation where we feel so much pain and we get so consumed by our feelings and surroundings that we literally feel that this is it. My life sucks, this sucks and it won’t get better. I thankfully don’t suffer from depression and or thoughts of suicide, but it doesn’t mean that thoughts of such feelings don’t cross my mind. Those feelings of pain and hurt become so raw and real that I feel like this is it, this is my life and it will always be this one. But looking back at it, I conquered those awful days and sitting on that boat and looking up and seeing the beauty the world has to offer, I then realized that I can’t let those bad days consume me so much that I think that’s going to be my life forever. Happiness will come, the end of the tunnel will appear and better days are ahead. That’s just a season and with time, with help, with guidance, you get through it. It will pass and you will find joy and happiness again!
A few nights ago, I was listening to Brene Brown and her TED speech about “The Power of Vulnerability” (I highly recommend you to press play and get listening, it’s amazing!) and wow, I went to sleep with the thoughts of geez, I have a lot of work to do and I will leave that there. But the main point in my thoughts today are, why am I so sensitive to learning about myself so much right now, in this very moment. I used to watch and listen to TED speeches all the time and probably even heard this one and it never impacted me as much as it did this time around. And why not? Have I been living life in such a rush that I stopped self-searching?
To make myself feel a little better, I once heard someone say that in life we only hear the things we want to hear. We could be in the middle of time square and I can drop a penny and you could hear it hit the floor if I told you I was going to drop it. However, how many times have you been in the middle of time square and heard a penny drop?
Anyway, I’m sharing this because it’s currently where I’m at. I set two major personal goals for myself this year, first one was to..
she leaves a little sparkle wherever she goes
Have you ever been gifted something and as soon as you open it, it’s like love at first sight?! You instantly get this rush of excitement, but don’t want to be so extra and dramatic so you play it cool, but deep inside you’re like a 10 year old screaming of happiness?! Maybe you had to play it cool because you were gifted this item at a restaurant or by someone special. Well that’s what happened to me when I was gifted this beauty. As soon as I pulled it out of the bag my heart skipped a beat (I’m lying, I had a mini heart attack). I was shocked that someone that knew me for such a short time would know that this dress was so me. It had my name all over it. Was it just a coincidence? I don’t know, but still too shy to ask. It has a few of my favorite things….
First of all, it’s rose gold!
Secondly, It sparkles!
Third, it’s so me in every way. Extremely chic and has the right amount of sex appeal.
This beautiful sequin and sheer maxi dress is not a closet staple, it’s a statement piece. Truth be told I love a basic piece, but trendy items a little more.
Peep the heels for a second, I’ve had these for a few years now. I picked them up for my 30th birthday. (Gosh, I feel old). I needed something with a little sparkle and these were it. Do you remember that post? Let’s go down memory lane for a second, click here.
This dress called for a very special occasion and to be photographed in a special place. Any guesses where? I recently featured it on my latest blog post (here).
If this was your dress, where would you wear it to? What special occasion would this little number be a perfect fit for? Let me know in the comments below as I would love to hear from you.
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Graced with effortless beauty and sophistication, this luxe landmark hotel in the Coral Gables district in Miami, Florida carries so much history and so much emotions and feelings in so many families hearts. This resort built in the 1920’s is a National Historic Landmark. It served as a hospital during World War II, a VA Hospital and campus of the University of Miami Medical School until 1968. And now, the number one venue to host your special event such as weddings, sweet sixteens’, barmitzvas, wedding receptions and all other special event that requires a memorable location.
This hotel invites the community on a weekly basis to their elegant, lavish and delicious Sunday brunch with live entertainment and bottomless mimosas. It also has an 18-hole, 71-par championship golf course for the gentlemen.
These halls will always have a special place in my heart because it’s where I witnessed my older sister marry the man of her dreams! It will always take me right back to the amazing memory we now carry in our hearts. We as a family had so much fun. Love was truly in the air that night and we have the photos to remind us.
Now let’s chat about these heels for a minute… Mr. Louboutin did say “it is not my job to create something comfortable” and he wasn’t kidding. The So Kate heels are so ‘effin sexy, but oh so uncomfortable to walk in. I’m really good with heels, I can rock from kitten heels to wedges to stilettos and I wear it proud. You will never catch me switching heels for flats half way through a night. That’s a total no no for me and yes, I judge all my friends for doing this. It’s rude to me and to the shoe God! I have my feet trained well, but these are a different story. I call these “from the car to dinner” heels. They are sooooo sexy, they look so good on and your posture changes completely, I personally feel classy, sexy, tall, and very confident. I still have the nude ones on my wish list, but they are definitely not on the top of my priority list. They are not the best investment piece I own, but I don’t regret buying them. I have chatted with other women that owns these beauties – so Kate and the love/hate relationship is mutual.
Do you own these beauties, sound off on the comments below. I would love to hear from you!
The Pete’s, Sean’s, Ricky’s and Malcolm’s may come and go, but your friends, if they are good ones- they stick around forever so keep ’em. So scratch all the exes, it’s next like contestants and invest in your girlfriends! Can you guess which song I’m obsessed with as of lately? Ariana Grande’s new friendship anthem “7 rings”. If you read my latest blog post, (Been through some bad sh!t, I should be a sad bitch) I couldn’t have done this last life season of my life without my sisters and girlfriends so a Galentine’s date with the besties is a must this year! Any guesses on what I’m giving them? A ring, duh! It’s a very trendy way to show my appreciation and love for each one of them. So for this outing I’m going for a very feminine romantic look. Red lips are a must. I’m wearing this one from Bite in Gazpacho. It’s been a strong fave of mine for a minute now. This dress is on major sale at Nordstrom and wearing pink for a GNO was a must. Lastly, I recently upgraded my high school denim jacket for this classic fit Levis. I have various denim jackets, with different fits, some embroidered, some with pearls, but my closet was screaming for a classic fit one and this was the one that won my heart and I’m so glad I got it. Its a classic, staple and must have. Kinda mad that I didn’t upgrade it sooner.
What are you up to this Valentine’s day? Is it a girl’s night out or a romantic evening with your love? Let me know!
Hi fancy friends,
So today is an exciting day for me. I’m relaunching my blog! Some of you may not have noticed and others message me over and over again about why I’m not blogging anymore. So here it is. We are all leading different lives, all with a story to tell. We all have a reason for being where we are at in our lives so here is my reason. I don’t feel the need to come on here and explain to anyone, but I also want to be very honest, authentic, open and transparent with you and those that have cared to ask.
I took a very long, but much needed break from blogging and posting. I continued to casually post images, but I’m talking about the continuous need to communicate and stay active with all my social media channels. I would wake up and if I felt the need to post, I would and if I didn’t, I wouldn’t. I stopped forcing it. When working with brands and accepting collaborations you have this stress and also this need to post and deliver to their expectancy. So as soon as I wrapped up all my collaborations, I decided that it was time to be real, truthful and honest with MYSELF. I decided to fast all social media, it was no longer an option but a need.
Since after the 4th of July 2016 through the end of last year, I was in a dark place. In a place of pain, hurt, my heart was aching and I was on a very emotional roller-coaster. I had good days and weeks and bad days and weeks, I just couldn’t balance it all out. I tried and just couldn’t find the joy I once had. I realized that as much as I wanted to keep going (I’m not a quitter, but sometimes we need to learn how to quit on the things that are not doing us good) I had to stop and rest.
I’ve been blogging for over 8 years now and shooting with Vanessa and Johnny for about 2. I realized that something was wrong when I was out shooting with Vanessa on an early Saturday morning (on 3 hours of sleep) surrounded by beauty, and Vanessa looked at me and said “Amanda, you have to smile”. Those words have never come out of her mouth. Every once in a while she’ll tell me the opposite, “Give me a serious face to add some intensity to the shot.” We always have such a fun time shooting, sneaking in to buildings we are not supposed to that you forget it’s work, but when those words came out of her mouth, my heart dropped. Those words were said with no malicious intent, but it killed me because she expressed what I was feeling deep inside and at that moment, I realized that it was time to get off this emotional roller coaster. Something had to change. I remember getting in my car and breaking down. That 45 minutes drive home that felt like 2 hours became the place that I argued and wrestled with God. I’ve always been a very happy person, always smiling, always done the right thing and with as much peace as I had in my heart, why was I still so sad? I remember praying and asking God then and there “Lord, please take this pain away. Bring back that joy that I have always had. Heal my heart,” and as cliché as this sounds, I asked God to “take the wheel” because I no longer knew who I was, I was lost and needed help. God needed to do something extreme and take full control because I was exhausted and tired of hurting. I couldn’t bare the pain and the stress I was carrying anymore. I wish I could tell you that I felt an instant healing like magic, but negative. Not what happened at all. It was a process. It took time and the only thing I felt that was right was to simplify my life. I felt this urge to sit back, analyze, prioritize, self-reflect and couldn’t do it with so much on my plate. Even if it meant to stop blogging and close down my dream which was my boutique. I had it open for two full years and as much I loved it, I couldn’t carry all the responsibilities by myself anymore. I needed peace and quiet in my life so I slowly started working on that. Closing my shop and pressing pause on the blog was so hard, but it was sucking literally the life out of me, I was working so hard, waking up at 7am to go to the office, to then go to the store and then work my night job 4-5 days a week just to survive and make ends meet. Working all those hours and resting 4-5 hours a night had officially taken a huge toll on me, mentally, physically and clearly emotionally. I needed to take a step back and let the pain settle, to sit back and analyze, prioritize and see what brought me joy and what didn’t.
I love working hard. Hard work doesn’t scare me. Long hours don’t scare me. In a weird way, it makes me feel alive, but when it started to affect my physical, mental health and emotional state of mind, that’s when it scared me. When Vanessa had to remind me to smile, my heart sank and I realized that I no longer had joy in my life, I felt so distant from God and for me that’s a scary place to be. I was surrounded by so many people that loved me, but still felt alone. I became so good at smiling and faking it on the outside. I was longing for joy and not just happiness.
Once I got out of the driver’s seat of my car and literally that emotional ride, I made the decision to stop, take a step back and do my part so God could do his. Slowly, but surely things started to change. I’m in a great place now. Standing firm in joy. I have this sense of certainty and confidence. I’m taking it back to the basics and doing the things that used to bring me joy such as volunteering, running, and spending time with family and friends. For so long work was a priority, it kept me busy and with no time to think about the pain I was experiencing. I pushed away anyone and everyone that would ask me about my state of mind and being because I was avoiding that question at all cost. I didn’t want to stop and think about my feelings and emotions. That’s such an unhealthy way of thinking and this year, prioritizing my life and having joy is my goal. Being happy, healthy and find pleasure in the oddest things like taking Penelope for long walks, stopping the car by a field and watching the sun shine, cows and horses, lying in bed and reading a book and most importantly spending time with my friends and family. During this crazy journey I was in this past year and a half, I can hands down tell you that I’ve had an amazing circle of friends and sisters that kept me grounded, sane and loved. I’ve also met some great people along the way that showed me this immense love when I was at my worst, I will forever be grateful for each one of them.
I’m sure many of you are wondering about my divorce and all I have to say about that is was very hard to deal with. I lost my best friend. I was mourning the loss of a person that never died. And let’s just say that social media didn’t help either. I would avoid checking my DM’s for weeks because I had people sending me screen shots of him acting out. While being in so much pain, my other half was enjoying life and posting about it all over social media. I don’t blame him, he was also hurting and dealing with the separation/divorce. I remember getting continuous calls and text messages of people asking me what was happening because of what they saw on social media. That was so hard, but in the midst of my separation/divorce I experienced peace with my decision. I loved him and always will, but I love myself more, enough to know that I deserve better. Coming to the decision to leave after being together for 16 years, with whom I thought I was going to grow old with was very hard, but I knew I had to do it. I feared that it would affect a lot of people, but I needed to be able to lay in bed at night feeling loved, appreciated and share a bed and my safe haven, with someone that I knew “we” were his main priority. When I felt that our home and bubble had been compromised I had to walk away. Walking away meant hitting rock bottom financially, physically and mentally. I remember having to decide if I was going to eat lunch or put gas in my car with the $5 I had in my account. The decision was hard and the journey was even harder, but I was tired of hearing the excuses when his actions spoke louder. I was tired of being in pain caused by the one I loved most.
For those that have asked me if I’m going to have a divorce party, the answer is no. I would never want to celebrate a failure. Even though I don’t carry the guilt of this failure anymore, I would never want to celebrate that. I’ll tell you what I’m celebrating, the new beginning of a new life. I have been given a second chance at life and love, I will rejoice in that. And I’m not going to lie, sometimes thinking about starting all over again at the age of 34 scares the crap out of me, but I also refuse to let that fear stop me or push me to make decisions like settling down when some things just don’t seem right. I’m finding bliss in traveling and enjoying the friendships God has blessed me with. I have a huge yet so tight and special group of friends that love me. I cherish each one of them and want to love on them, spend time with them and make up for the time I pushed them away. I couldn’t have done this season of my life without my sisters, brothers, sister and brothers in law, my best friends and my little Penelope that has a party for me every time I get home and reminds me that someone is excited about seeing me.
What does this mean to the blog, get ready ( you’ve been warned) I’m back! I’m at it again and in full force. Blogging was a huge part of my life, styling, trying new products and sharing all the details with you all brought so much joy in my life so like I said, going back to the basics.
And lastly, I’m so thankful for YOU, the ones that stood by my side through all of this. I promised myself during this time of searching that I would be more honest with the ones around me and with myself and share more.
I love to look my very best at all times. I love having my nails done, hair done and even go the extra mile to always look put together to run errands, to go to the pool, yoga class and even to go grocery shop. Looking fly at all times makes me feel like a million bucks. But, you know one thing that can quickly put a damper in my parade and ruin it all for me? Dry, flat, pale, dull and patchy skin! Pimples on my face, dark under eyes and blemishes can really mess everything up for me. Everyone makes fun of me because my morning and night skin care routine can easily take me 10 minutes. I just love to take the time and care for my skin. I love the feeling of getting out of the shower and applying toner, serum, eye cream and the list can go on forever… being a daughter of a super model, my mom always encouraged my sisters and I to take care of our skin. (Legit! My mom earned her living as a full time model in her younger days… before she decided to give it all up to have kids… 5 that is!) Something she told us all the time was that aging is a fact of life, but looking your age is not. Yes, sounds a little vain, but it’s the truth. It’s never too early to take care of skin and I’m forever grateful for her teaching me that at such a young age. She always told us to love our skin because beautiful skin doesn’t come from makeup. If your skin is looking sad, your makeup will too.
It’s no secret that I love Clarin’s products! I have talked about their products for years now, shared it on here and on my YouTube channel. (Remember this post , this one and this one ?). The smell of their entire skin care line is amazing, (it reminds me of when I went to Paris) but the main reason why I love it so much is because I see results! My skin reacts very well to each product and my one favorite item is the double serum, DUH! I’ve dedicated a few posts to this specific product because I’m a strong believer that not only does it work, but you can see results after 7 days of using it. My skin looks radiant, smoother, firmer and this list can go on forever after using it. Feeling good about your own skin is important because you never know when you’re going to need to run out of the house and just apply some gloss and call it a day. Being comfortable in your own skin is so sexy and ever since I started using Clarins double serum, my skin texture and appearance has improved so much! It is an all-in-one serum for all skin types, age and concerns. It is a super powerful anti-aging serum that truly fits into every skincare routine. Double serum has 21 skin-nourishing plant extracts, including Turmeric, known to protect and restore skin.
Granted we all have our hormonal breakouts and life is not always glitz and glam. But even when life isn’t perfect, your skin can be! Just give it some love, it will definitely thank you later! Using Clarins double serum has really made me feel comfortable in my own skin. It makes my skin look glowy, hydrated and here’s a tip, you can use it on your hair too. If I’m going away and need to pack light, I always just take this and kill two birds with one stone…
This post is all about exterior beauty and yes, I’m a strong believer that exterior beauty without depth of a kind soul is merely decoration, but when my skin looks good, I feel good. When I use the double serum, I can get away with running out of the house and just applying a bit of gloss, mascara and calling it a day.
If you haven’t tried this, you must get some and give it 7 days and thank me later! ha ha…
It’s been a minute since we’ve chatted about hair on here! As you all know, I love a healthy, shiny, full, luscious hair… A bad hair day for me means a bad day period! It’s been this way for me since I can remember and the more I chat with people about hair, the more I realize that I’m not the only one.
Do you remember watching America’s Top Model show with Tyra Banks? Do you remember when she would chop certain girls hair and they would cry, throw a full blown grown up tantrum? Hair can really boost someone’s self esteem and confidence. It doesn’t necessarily means it needs to be long. Just a certain hairstyle, certain length can really make you feel a certain way.
Invest in your hair, it is the crown you never take off!
Being a daughter of a hairstylist and someone who loves and embraces changes, I love doing something to my hair. I’m always trying different trends, hair colors and so on… Let’s go down memory lane for a second here… I’ve gone from short to long, platinum to blonde to brunette. From purple to deep red to pink and a full circle right back to doing it all over again. The amount of bleach, highlights, low lights and extensions I’ve gone through in my life is insane. And with that comes the heat styling and damage that this poor hair has gone through.
I loved and embraced each color and style, but after so many years I decided to just let my hair rest a bit. I slowly stopped bleaching it and styling it with heat. Ever since high school I noticed that this poor hair wouldn’t grow past my shoulders and it lost its body and thickness. It slowly got shorter and shorter and thinner. So now that I’ve decided to let it grow, it hit a plateau space and it’s been sitting on the same spot, right above my shoulders. I started taking biotin and oh the joy of biotin. If you have taken this supplement before you know the struggle. Yeah, your hair grows, but it grows everywhere. You go from shaving every other day to every day. Yeah, it’s great, but you can’t tailor it to treat your head hair only. So when I found out about the Keranique Hair Regrowth for Women Treatment I was all over it. Sign me! I want it and want it NOW!
Bad hair! Ugh, ain’t nobody got time for that!
So here we are, I started this regrowth system a few days ago and will document the process. I want to put it to the test, but most importantly I want it to work. I want to see results and why not document the process with you! I know I’m not the only one that wants to have longer, thicker, fuller, healthier-looking hair. Many people swear by it and if it has worked for them why can’t it work for me?! The complete Keranique Hair Regrowth System is a four piece kit that is super easy to use and has been approved by the FDA, so you can regrow your hair naturally without expensive surgery or painful procedures.
In three easy steps, we can have the hair we’ve been dreaming of.
Keranique Shampoo & Conditioner: Hair that is thinning, prone to breakage and split ends needs a shampoo and conditioner that is specifically formulated to fight those conditions. The Keranique Scalp Stimulating Shampoo and Volumizing Keratin Conditioner work together to gently shampoo away build up and reinvigorate the scalp, then condition and penetrate every strand to thicken, strengthen and help repair the hair shaft, reducing frizz and breakage, mending split ends and restoring shine.
Keranique Regrowth Treatment: Specifically designed to work with a woman’s body chemistry. The Keranique Regrowth Treatment contains the only FDA approved and clinically proven non-prescription ingredient to regrow hair and revitalize hair follicles. And it is so easy to use with the new patented Easy Precision Sprayer, designed to target the regrowth treatment precisely in thinning areas.
Keranique Lift and Repair Treatment Spray: A combination treatment and styling product that adds lift and style to your hair while also protecting it. This unique multi-benefit heat activated spray protects against damage from styling tools and environmental factors, infuses hair with the proprietary Keratin Amino Complex, helping to repair damage, restore shine and create an invisible support system for touchable volume. A third party clinical study has proven this revolutionary formula gives 24 hour frizz control while it mends 96% of split ends by sealing the hair shaft.
Invest in your hair, it is the crown you never take off!
Have a great hair day and I’ll catch you on my next post.
This past weekend I got to spend my Saturday soaking up the sun with a delicious mango mojito on hand, toes in the water floating around in a huge tropical pineapple. If you follow me on my social media platforms (@AFancyAffair) this is no new news for you.
The weather couldn’t be more perfect and the mood was just right! I truly believe I was made for sunny days. Being sun kissed is my therapy. Legit, it just relaxes me and it really makes me smile from the inside out, happiness comes from the bottom of my heart.
So of course, when I was invited to hang out at The Gates Hotel pool in South Beach to #UnlockSouthBeach, it was an automatic yes. If it requires a bikini, my answer is always yes.
There’s nothing that relaxes me more than a day at the pool. There’s just something about the cool water and the relaxing sound of the wind that just does it for me. I had such a great time at the pool when the sun hid and the Miami showers came, I wanted to cry! Lol… But hey, this shouldn’t surprise anyone that lives in Miami, these showers are a constant during summer days here.
I sipped on the mango ( I highly recommend that you try!) and passion fruit mojitos and munched on some fresh guac and chips! Coming to Miami? You must check out this adorable hotel and its attractive vibrant decor. I can’t wait to go back. I’m taking one more trip before summer is over. Can you guess where I’m going next?
HUGE!! Summer Try-On Haul || H&M, Target, Forever21 and Fancy Boutique || Amanda Tur - YouTube
Hey fancy friends!
I was made for summer days! This is my favorite season of the year. Yeah, it’s a really hot and sometimes sticky and sweaty, but not gonna lie, I love it! I love all the vibrant colors, the happy vibes, the long days and all the fun pool, bbq and beach parties! And of course, all the shopping. For some reason, this season inspires me to shop. I feel inspired by all the colors, prints and cool trends that summer brings. I like the easy, breezy outfits. High slits, cropped tops, the showing of the legs and all the fun accessories. Summer is my jam! So I went to Forever 21, H&M, Target and also picked up a few things from my store Fancy Boutique and wanted to share it with you. I got sandals, accessories, athletic wear and vacation outfits that can be mixed matched for brunch or any day event to a fun night out. The best part is that they are all under $40 dollars outfits. Isn’t that great?
Hope you enjoy this huge summer try on haul video!
Thank you for stopping by and ill catch you on my next post!