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I managed to write things down in my calendar, so I didn’t forget about it, AND arrived to my important appointments bc of that. Also, I finally went to the bank and ordered a new debit card after months of it not working!!
I was putting off an email I needed to send for an internship and it was getting to the point where it was almost late, but I was able to work through my anxiety and finally send it and everything worked out!! :) I’m really happy
I got my liscence fully done! Just did, and passed, my last road test! Its been one of my biggest fears because people told me I wouldnt be able to drive ( i used to have bad eyesight but surgery fixed it- and other medical junk) and with the new adhd diagnosis I thought they’d give me a hard time but I did it!!
I usually hate going out in crowds, but now that I go to food pantry every Tuesday, I get to actually do something good for others and just knowing that what I’m doing by going out of my comfort zone is benefitting others helps me feel more comfortable about going out! :D
Hey! My first Terrific Tuesday post! This week I’m proud to have finally made a push in my career by starting some online classes over the weekend. And this week I’ve already been applying some of the new things I’ve learned.
I have social anxiety along with adhd and I tend to close myself off from meeting new people because I’m afraid people think I’m a bit of a weirdo which means I get pretty lonely. Today I went to my school’s Queer Resource Center and talked to some people there. I didn’t stay long and mostly talked about how to join the QSA but it was the first social interaction I’d had outside of my family in like a week. So I am very proud of myself for taking that first step.
We’ll do it again next Tuesday. Please feel free to reblog and compliment the people who submitted their accomplishments. Remember, even if it’s a “small thing,” if it was a challenge for YOU, it counts and it matters, and we will want to hear about it next week!
Send us an Ask or a Submit with anything you are proud of having accomplished in the past week and mark it as being for TT. You can be anonymous or not, we don’t mind! We’ll collect them into one post and share them at the end of the day. Then hopefully other people will reblog and let you know that they’re proud of you, even if you’re anonymous!
Remember, anything and everything counts - we don’t care if you finally remembered to feed the cat last night or if you got all of the laundry done for the first time in a year or if you wrote a term paper and turned it in early or anything else you may have done! If you are proud of it, you can (and should!) share it with us, because then other people who understand how huge your achievement was will be able to rejoice with you!
What is your Mission this week? That is, what is your goal that you would like to pursue, or a value or theme that you would like to try and emphasize in your life? Sometimes giving words to these things helps to make them real and allows us to make important changes and decisions!
Executine Dysfunction and motivation! I have all these things I want to do but I get so frustrated and down in myself because I feel like that old dog new tricks thing for trying to encorperate schedules and that 1-2-3-go technique. I keep trying to ask at my college but they dont really have any helpful info or even understand what I am asking. Does anyone have ideas or some tips to stay positive with trying to start the new change?
it doesn’t seem like much, but my adhd prevents me almost all the time from 1) starting a task and 2) reaching the end of it. I’ve always struggled with starting a task but these times I have difficulties finishing anything, and my hyperfocus seems to fade away everytime I reach the end of a task. Any tips?
My parents believe my brother has adhd (I agree with them) but I am a very different person to him so my parents won’t even listen to me when I say that I think I have adhd and I want to get tested :( idk how I’m supposed to get them to listen to me
Trying to help the family come up with some ideas and plans to deal with emotional disregulation in a young kid(just shy of 10)- still waiting on his official dx but its the exact same as how his older brother was (now almost 30) who is now dx’d. Trying to get the young one into a schedule and give him resourses and plans to self soothe and self regulate but theres some family miscommunication and not sure where to start to begin with.
I’m doing a senior thesis for undergrad and I have to just make myself stick to my timeline because there’s no actual due dates in the middle and it’s so hard :( I went weeks without working on it and now I’m having to spend the entire long weekend working to not miss the deadline I set myself and I got two hours of sleep last night and there’s so much left to do still! This was supposed to make me better at working without deadline pressure but instead I’ve just been going back and forth between weeks of ignoring it and days of nonstop work. I scheduled a whole year almost down to the week but I just ignore the smaller deadlines ughhh
Executive dysfunction is really kicking my ass lately. I’ve been wanting to clean my room but I can’t and it’s starting to make my depression even worse.
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It depends on what you mean by dissociation. Some people consider “spacing out” to be dissociation (which it technically kind of is, so they aren’t wrong), but most people use the term to mean “emotionally and/or psychologically distancing oneself from what is happening to them in the moment,” and that distancing can happen in any number of ways.
Spacing out is definitely part of ADHD, but the other is often a response to trauma (either the moment is traumatizing or it is triggering memories of past trauma). I have also dissociated simply because I was depressed, and watching my life happen was a lot easier emotionally than actually living it at the time. (Not sure if that makes sense.)
Dissociation is typically an attempt by the brain to shield us from something, but it may not be immediately clear what it’s protecting us from. For example, I have heard of people dissociating due to sensory overload.
A quick look at some resources tells me that dissociative disorder (not dissociative identity disorder, that is related but different) is something that is fairly common with ADHD. I can look up some studies if you’d like some data to look at, but in essence, if your dissociative episodes are interfering with your everyday life it might be worth talking to a professional about them to figure out why they’re happening and maybe find some ways to stop them.
Followers, what is your experience with dissociation?
one thing i like abt my adhd is that blurting out disjointed thoughts and making stupid noises while stimming sometimes gets a good laugh and it makes me happy inside bc its not like i was purposefully making someone laugh, i just acted as normal and it caused joy in someone else ☺️
I think having a terrible attention span makes me appreciate things that manage to catch my attention or pull me into hyperfocus even more, because if there’s a book or a show that I finished all the way (without being distracted and then never coming back), I *know* it’s something that I must be really intrigued by. ADHD lets me filter out a lot of “noise”. Or in this case, mediocre content!
Hyperfocus combined with short attention spans have made me good at so many things!! I dance and I act but I also do chemistry internships and orthopedic research and knitting and writing and I really love that!!
I’ve always found hyperfocus to be super useful. I was always terrible at remembering to do my essays until the last minute, but then hyperfocus would kick in and I could write the whole thing in a couple hours. It… basically saved my GPA. Even now, it’s also useful at work and for my hobbies.
my brain connects concepts in quicker and unique ways, allowing me to ask questions other people wouldn’t have
because i get excited and hyper focused on unusual topics, it has made college papers a lot easier to write
While yes, my ADHD is a pain most of the time, I get the feeling that if I had NOT had it, I may not have realized how much I honestly enjoyed drawing, since that is what I use as an outlet when ADHD goes out of wack! Especially since my imagination relies mainly on my disorganized and random thoughts that comes with the inattentive part, too! :)
Got diagnosed at 21. It was hard growing up with undiagnosed ADHD, but my “out of place” feeling fueled my interest in psychology. I wanted to know why and how I am the way I am. But I began to really appreciate psychology as a discipline and it’s become a great, helpful hobby of mine. I got a college degree in psychology and it’s making me a better writer too. If I hadn’t been an ADHDer I may never have discovered this passion! Now I can use this knowledge to help myself AND others!
We’ll do it again next Friday. Please feel free to reblog and discuss how you experience the things people are talking about in this post. Do you also find them helpful or at least “not horrible”? If you think of something between now and Friday, please send it in and mark it for FGF!
Okay, using a planner takes a bit of setup and getting used to the process, but once you’ve done the preliminary work it’s not too bad to keep going. The big thing is getting it worked into your schedule.
Note that what I’m about to give you here is how I use my planner.
Write all of your deadlines in here, all of your meetings, any appointments you have, everything. If there’s a time and/or date attached to it, you write it on the calendar.
The Task Lists
You’ll want to keep a couple of lists. One is things that you need to do regularly: daily, weekly, monthly, yearly. The other is whatever goes with your current projects. Divide this second one by project, and note the project deadline along with it.
A Note About Projects
When you’re assigned a new project, note the deadline for completion on your calendar. Then break the project down into smaller steps, and assign yourself deadlines for each step along the way. Note the step deadlines on your Project Task List, and work on a step every day until it’s done (hopefully on or before the deadline you assigned). You can put step deadlines on your calendar if you want, but it may clutter things up too much.
Using it All Together
Every evening, check the calendar for the next day’s events and deadlines, and write them on the corresponding daily or weekly page.
Every morning, check the day’s events and deadlines to make sure you don’t forget anything.
Look at your task lists and figure out where you can slot in that day’s regular tasks, then block out time to work on your projects. It can be really helpful to use colour coding (see below) and draw blocks around parts of your day using a corresponding highlighter. Then you can check your schedule (keep your planner open on your desk) and see what category of tasks you’re supposed to be focusing on at any given time.
It can be really helpful to use colour coding for your different tasks. When I was working as a church secretary, I divided my tasks into five different categories and assigned each a different colour. Then I was able to highlight my list and see at a glance what categories had the most tasks, and I could prioritize things within each category.
This is just a quick overview. You may need to tweak things somewhat to work for you, or you may need more details about something in particular. Feel free to ask for more help if you need it!