When I was a little girl, I remember believing that anything was possible.
The world was a place of magic and possibility where the only limit was my imagination. Like all of us, my dreams and perceptions of who I could be evolved along with me.
From full-time princess to interdimensional astronaut, to marine biologist, and finally, spiritual psychologist, I discovered that my soul’s deepest longings and visions for my life were nurtured by two things; belief and trust.
It was belief and trust that helped to seed my 15-year old self’s vision of becoming a spiritual therapist and helping others into an actual reality.
It was belief, trust, and radical commitment, that kept me going even in the darkest of times when the easiest option was to give up all hope.
Magic is all around us, but it’s easier not to see it.
In our modern era where our time, money, energy, and attention are limited resources, it’s easier to let “make believe” stay make believe, and follow what feels more practical and pragmatic.
Many of us hold onto that seedling of hope.
As children, our light is like a blazing inferno. Over time, that candle flame slowly grows dimmer, dwindling within us every time we compromise and stray from what feels most true in our hearts and souls.
We become programmed in the languages of logic, fear, and limitation, rather than trusting where our intuition and heart are guiding us.
The majority of us were trained to shut down and ignore our more sensitive, intuitive, and feeling nature.
We were conditioned to believe that our wounds and sensitivities were weaknesses. I have discovered that it is our sensitivity and ability to feel so profoundly, that keeps the very magic we yearn for alive.
We need to learn to embrace our sensitivities and wounds, not as the weaknesses that society would have us believe them to be, but the precious gifts that are the keys to our deepest liberation.
Our sensitivities are our higher selves way of communicating what is in and out of alignment.
When we learn to listen, we are empowered to access the innate intel and higher wisdom already within us; a practice in redirecting our awareness from external to internal guidance.
Our wounds and sensitivities are the specific alchemical ingredients needed to align with our highest expression and purpose.
Where we feel weak, ashamed, resistant, unworthy, and vulnerable are the direct line to our greatest gifts and soul’s expressions.
These places point to the exact places that are confined by our perception of our limitation and hold the exact keys to our most authentic selves’ and greatest expressions of freedom.
How do we learn to wield our heightened sensitivity and empathic nature as a map to our highest and most freely expressed self and way of being in the world?
How can our heightened sensitivity and empathic nature be a direct line to our intuition and divine guidance by illuminating the exact alignment necessary to embodying our highest purpose and expression of service?
Are you a highly sensitive person, empath, visionary healer or leader who longs to learn to care for and honor your sensitive nature?
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Self-confidence is indicated by how strongly we believe in ourselves and in our ability to complete a task or speak up what we’re thinking and feeling. It is an assuredness in ourselves for who we are.
A confident person means what they say, and says what they mean.
A confident person is not someone who has mastered all things, but rather, someone who is comfortable with failure, with process, with figuring things out on the fly as they go.
When we first are still and sit in meditation, it is common for us to hear all our inner riff-raff share their ideas.
“Oh man I didn’t email that person back!”
“My mom’s birthday is next week – what am I doing for her gift?”
“I really messed up that report at work today, crap…”
“How long have I been meditating? This isn’t working!”
and on and on.
As we practice witnessing and not reacting to each of these thoughts, we start to discern which voices are really worth listening to, and which are just static.
Right now, as you are reading this, your eyes are focused on these words.
However, your eyes are also receiving signals from the rest of the screen as well as from the area around your computer or phone.
But you are focusing on these words only, and though you are aware the other things are there, they turn into background noise that we filter out.
This is what happens for us in meditation with our own thoughts. We learn to discern what is really worth our attention and what is just noise.
As we continue with our practice, the tinny, whiny, passerby voices reveal themselves as temporary wisps that talk a lot but actually have very little to say.
What remains beyond their chatter is our deeper, truer voice.
This voice is one that is always there. On some level, we always know about it, and always have known about it.
It is the voice that may quietly throw up a fuss if we decide to date that person, take that job, or have that next drink that our passerby voices are suggesting.
This is also the voice that knows we’re in love.
When questioned about our love, it doesn’t need explanation. We just know.
The answer isn’t, “Well, she buys me my favorite foods, and she is nice to my sister, and she has a cat, and her eyes are green…”
The answer is beyond words. It just is. We KNOW it.
Our true, deep, inner voice has staying power. While all the others come and go with their yips and nit-picky complaints, this voice never goes anywhere.
Listening to this deep, inner knowing is a sure-fire way to self-confidence.
When we act on what our deepest knowing is telling us, our actions don’t really need long justifications and drawn-out defenses.
We simply know what we’re doing is right.
We just know it.
It’s not a matter that you will sit in meditation and will be instantly confident in yourself.
However, if you stick with the process, and let your thoughts fly around without hyper-reaction, your true, deep voice will be easier to discern.
Listening to that voice brings about a peace that emanates out as true, solid confidence.
When we are navigating transitional thresholds and expanding beyond our perceived doorway of what is possible, it is normal for our deepest fears and core wounds to surface.
As we begin to move beyond the old paradigm of our conditioning, it is natural to contract and reach back towards what was known and familiar.
In these moments, we might want to soothe ourselves through habits that may not feel the most supportive and nourishing.
Embracing The Magnitude of Our Light
Our addictive habits and patterns are indicative of stored shame and unworthiness still present within our system that distrust the state of grace, ease, love, pleasure, and freedom that is our natural birthright.
These wounded parts of ourselves arise to keep us safe. And they insulate us from further pain, wounding, and annihilation.
There is a sense of wanting to dilute our primordial essence and the incredible force of our true nature because we are afraid of the magnitude of our light and brilliance.
In these moments, how can you begin to make more conscious the subconscious impulses that are threatened by your expansion?
A Practice To Integrate Subconscious Impulses
As a practice, you can move your awareness to your bodies’ sensations and experience and notice:
Am I in my body and connected to myself right now?” “Can I actually feel myself right now?
If you notice yourself experiencing disconnection, can you take a moment to move towards the experience of your embodiment and the grounding force of your physical presence?
Once you move towards the experience of your embodiment, you can feel the deeper level feeling or underlying need that is present and yearning to be met.
The Choice That Comes With Attunement
Through this deeper listening and practice of attunement, we have access to a choice point.
We can allow ourselves to become hijacked by our fears and core wounded aspects.
Or we can empower ourselves to turn towards and soothe the part of us that feels threatened.
We slow down into an embodied presence and witnessing, listening with the full force of our loving awareness to the cry of the underlying need that has always longed to be seen, loved, and fully met.
We attune to, honor, and cherish ourselves in the way that we’ve always longed to be. We commit to being the parent, lover, and friend we’ve never had.
Showing Up For Ourselves
We recognize that as we profoundly show up for ourselves, the universe rises to meet us in the most spectacular, awe-inspiring, and magical ways.
We are no longer operating under the illusion that we have to struggle to be deeply met and actualize our greatest dreams and desires.
We recognize thatas we devote our whole selves to honoring and nurturing the wells of our internal reservoir, we naturally magnetize the energetic match and reciprocal for the resonance of embodied wholeness that we are vibrating on.
I would love to hear what practices support you in feeling the most resourced and connected to yourself as you are navigating transition and growing beyond your perceived version of what is possible?
Dr. Jeffery Martin is a founder of the Transformative Technology space, serial entrepreneur and social scientist who researches personal transformation and the states of greatest human well-being. He spent the last 10 years conducting the largest international study on persistent non-symbolic experience (PNSE), which includes the types of consciousness commonly known as: enlightenment, nonduality, the peace that passeth understanding, unitive experience, and hundreds of others. More recently, he has used this research to make systems available to help people obtain profound psychological benefits in a rapid, secular, reliable, and safe way.
His research began with over 1,000 individuals who claimed to experience PNSE. This resulted in the first reliable, cross-cultural and pan-tradition classification system for these types experience. It also led to the fundamental discovery that these were psychological states that had been identified and adopted for thousands of years by many cultures and belief systems. They were not inherently spiritual or religious, or limited to any given culture or population, and could be molded in many ways to shape the experience.
Jeffery’s current work involves helping people use what’s been learned to make the life-changing transformation into PNSE. His most recent study achieved strong validation, with approximately 73% of participants who successfully completed the program reaching ongoing non-symbolic experience in less than 4 months (FindersCourse.com). His interest in Transformative Technology comes from a belief that findings like his can be translated into mass consumer technologies and affect billions of lives worldwide. Since 2008 he has worked to bring together the stakeholders from academia, technology, business, finance, and public policy to create a sustainable technology space that dramatically improves human well-being.
“Your own mind is a sacred enclosure into which nothing harmful can enter except by your permission.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Do you have days when you feel a little out of control? Maybe even a little crazy? I sure do. Sometimes events spiral out of my control (surprise surprise!), my emotional center veers off balance, and it’s like someone turned the world upside down.
I actually think that’s pretty common for a lot of us. Not everyone has the inner tools to quickly bring themselves back to center.
You see, the mind is wily. Like a toddler who manages to discover every opportunity to sow the seeds of chaos, our minds are calibrated, through both habit and evolution, to trigger strong emotional responses.
Recently I saw this depicted in a powerful way. Ruby Wax, the author of Sane New World, described the evolution of stress and how it relates to present-day reality.
Managing Our Primitive Mind
For millions of years, our bodies and minds were conditioned to trigger the release of adrenaline and cortisol (stress hormone) when we perceived a mortal threat, like a deadly Tyrannosaurus Rex. In those moments, we were gripped by the famous fight or flight response. It was an evolutionary response to danger.
But these days, according to Ruby Wax, we are still governed by that primitive conditioning. The mind still triggers the release of powerful hormones into our bodies, but now the threats are more subtle. Your boss says something unsettling, you see something horrific on 24-hour cable news, or someone cuts you off on the road.
The next thing you know, you are in the grips of a hormone-induced response. Your rational faculties all but disappear and you’re jacked up on adrenaline. Suddenly you’re ready to go head to head with a dinosaur or run for your life and you’re not even sure how you got into that state.
That’s the power of our biology to override our rationality and knock us off balance. And worse, this often happens when we aren’t so conscious of it. So then we get into a spiral with negative thoughts, anxiety, and we’ve truly jumped down the rabbit hole.
4 Tips For How To Center Your Mind & Your Self
So how do you reclaim your mind and your senses? How do you come back into balance? And even more to the point, how do you begin to train yourself to break some of these unconscious, reactive, and deeply ingrained habits that knock you sideways?
Because these things have a dramatic effect on your quality of life. And it’s not only possible to change the pattern. I think it’s critical if you want to thrive and live a life of mindful presence, balance, and growth.
And I’ve found that meditation and mindfulness are incredibly effective tools to bring you back to center. Here’s what I mean.
Mindfulness practice has shown me how I end up generating self-inflicted emotional drama. It has also helped me learn how to anticipate stress before it gets out of control. And it has taught me the power of relaxation. But perhaps one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is how to keep from losing my center.
So let’s break it down and look at these four areas where meditation and mindfulness can help you center your mind and your self when it matters most.
Diffuse Internal Drama
Relax, Relax, Relax
Stay Grounded & Centered
1. Anticipating Stress
Stress is a killer. It can sneak up on you. And of course, the media and our doctors have us told this. But do you take it seriously? For me, I notice it in the form of a pit in my stomach or an increase in my heart rate. And also, just the feeling of being amped up, unsettled, unbalanced, and not centered in my self.
Another thing about stress. It’s addictive. There’s a certain energy in stress that can make you feel important and useful. It can reinforce your sense of you, but that often comes with a physical, emotional, and psychological price tag.
Meditation has given me a reference point to notice stress. Meditation is the opposite of stress. It’s pure peace and surrender. To me, stress has everything to do with resistance. Each of us resists circumstances, events, feelings, and things we don’t like. Sometimes it’s very subtle. But it creates a lot of stress.
In contrast to that, meditation is about acceptance. It’s all about learning how to be ok with everything exactly as it is.
So meditation has helped me notice when I’m getting stressed, and it’s helped me to identify the sources of my stress. In that way, it helps you to stop resisting life on many levels. Some measure of stress is good, but for the most part, I don’t want it in my life.
So learning how to be mindful of the sources of stress has been a game changer for me. I think it will help you too.
2. Diffusing Internal Drama
Drama is a part of life. You can’t really avoid it. But an interesting part of drama is how we create it ourselves. A lot of drama is unnecessary. And if you’re interested in staying centered and grounded, it’s important to recognize how drama can mess with your balance.
I realized at a certain point that certain ways of thinking would create inner drama. Some patterns of thought would trigger strong emotional responses and then I would ruminate on those thoughts, stirring the pot even further and stoking anger, rage, fear, depression, etc.
At a certain point, I realized that a lot of my unpleasant moods were self-generated. Not all of them of course. But I started to see the ways in which I was contributing to my own inner drama and how deeply that would pull me out of myself. It was distracting and exhausting. And most importantly, I didn’t really like that version of myself.
Meditation and mindfulness can help you objectify these patterns of thought and rumination. They enable you to create space so that the choice whether to go down that road is more obvious and clear. And that’s been priceless.
The thing about drama is that it steals your focus, your resolve, and your personal power. Mindfulness puts that power back in your control.
3. The Power of Relaxation
Do you consciously relax? I’m serious. Not everyone takes time to really let go. But it’s more important than most people think. That’s especially true in an age when many of us are addicted to stress and have abandoned many of the rituals where relaxation was central. Think big family meals, quiet Sundays, etc.
The thing about relaxation is this. It’s a simple and powerful mindfulness technique that can restore your sense of balance and equilibrium. And you can do it anywhere at any time.
I’ve been meditating for nearly two decades, and that’s been incredible. Meditation has allowed me to be at ease in ways I never imagined. There’s a natural confidence that arises spontaneously out of deep ease. That confidence is your natural state—relaxed, self possessed, and fully grounded in your life and self.
So one way to bring yourself back to center is to focus on relaxing. It’s as simple as taking a few deep breaths and consciously letting the stress and tension melt out of your body. A few minutes of conscious relaxation can change your mindset and your entire day. Don’t underestimate it.
4. Staying Grounded and Centered
This is my favorite. Staying grounded and centered is a real art. But like most things, you can make it a habit.
Think for a moment about someone you know who is really centered. What are their characteristics?
This is what occurs to me. She’s relaxed and self-possessed. She isn’t stressed out. Her words come from a deeper place. She’s ok with being wrong. And she has gravity.
Those are a few things that spring to mind when I imagine deeply grounded and centered friends. But this kind of grounding takes real practice. For me, meditation and mindfulness have been essential tools for learning how to stay centered in myself and to keep my mind whole and healthy. Here’s how.
I’ve noticed how easy it was to be swayed by other people’s opinions. I often give other people’s words and opinions more value than my own. But at a certain point, I noticed that this had a huge effect on me. It pulled me out of my own center.
Mindfulness practice helped me to see that. And it also helped me to reclaim my center. It helped me to remember that at the deepest level, I am alone. I am a sovereign being. We all are. As the quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson alluded to, I have control over what I let into my mind and which currents of thought I listen to.
So remembering that I am truly alone is deeply grounding. It reminds me that in the end, I came into this world alone, and I will go out alone. That’s an essential truth and it’s grounding. It brings me back to center. Like an existential reset button, it reminds me that my own true north is within me. It’s never ever outside of me.
Meditation is all about being deeply alone. But it’s the most nourishing aloneness you can imagine. It gives and doesn’t take. It’s generative and restorative. It grounds you in the here and now.
And perhaps most importantly, it helps you stay true to your own true north. What is that exactly? Well, it’s you.
The profound opportunity of meditation is to completely let go of any adherence to your current interpretive framework.
All of the experience we have, every sensation that runs through us passes through an elaborate and largely unconscious interpretive mechanism.
Our experience doesn’t just show up.
It shows up as something.
It shows up predefined, but of course it’s not really predefined.
It is interpreted.
It only feels predefined because we’re not aware of the interpretation.
We don’t see the interpretive processing so we assume that things are the way they appear to us.
We believe we are seeing reality as it is and not through elaborate lenses of interpretation.
Letting go, truly letting go, not only of our conscious ideas about everything, which is already hard enough, but even of our unconscious interpretations of everything, is the profound opportunity of meditation.
And there’s no way you can do this through an act of will. It’s something you can allow to happen, but it is not something you can do consciously because it’s not happening consciously.
The only way you can let go is by not engaging with anything that is going on in your mind which means anything that you feel and any thing you think about what you feel.
You just allow it all to simply pass by without getting involved at all.
That means every physical sensation, all of the feelings that arise, your thoughts, your thoughts about thoughts, even the thoughts that feel like you talking to yourself, you have to let them all just rise up and pass away.
If you can do this you will inevitably fall through and beyond all of the interpreted experiences of the mind.
So in meditation I invite you to be as physically still as you possibly can, and let every single thing that arises in consciousness pass away without touching it, without getting involved in anyway whatsoever.
No matter what arises in consciousness you let it go.
You don’t discriminate between anything and anything else.
You just let it all go by, untouched.
And if you recognize that you’ve gotten involved with something you don’t even need to look to see what it is you’re involved with.
As soon as you get the very first recognition that you’re involved with something, you just let go and you move on. You allow it to pass away.
If you can do this with enough focus, you’ll start to feel like you’re becoming dislodged from the world.
If you start to feel that, let it pass away.
Don’t get involved with trying to see what’s happening.
The temptation to want to see how you’re doing is ever present.
Let the temptation pass away without touching it.
As soon as you realize you’re touching something, let it go.
I teach a form of meditation that can act as a leverage point to catapult you into a different reality.
In order to open ourselves up to the profound spiritual transformation that meditation makes possible we must begin to realize that our perception of reality is made up of a hopeless tangle of sensation and interpretation.
In other words, what we assume to be reality as we look out at the world is not objectively real in the way we’ve been taught.
It is a perception of reality interpreted through a lens of ideas and attitudes that we have acquired through our personal experience and inherited from the culture we live in. And to a large existent we are blind to the ideas and attitudes that are shaping our experience of reality.
The journey of spiritual transformation can be seen as an escape from our current set of assumptions about reality.
As we will see in this book the practice of meditation is an invaluable aid to spiritual transformation because it allows us to relax our habits of interpretation so we can see beyond them.
If our interest in meditation is fueled by a desire to transform at the deepest levels of our being then it is essential that we deconstruct some of our assumptions about what is real before we begin to explore the practice.
Otherwise our meditation practice will remain embedded in the very same set of assumptions that we want to be liberated from.
Process of Deconstruction
One way to begin the process of deconstruction is to realize that almost all of us believe in an outdated myth.
This myth is the unconscious belief that we are standing on some solid ground of truth from which the rest of our understanding is built.
This belief gives us confidence in what we think is true, because we assume that underneath our ideas about reality there is something authentically real.
Look around you right now. Don’t you assume that you are looking at reality. You assume that the things you see are actually real things.
In fact, the reality of what you see is what differentiates reality from dreams.
In a dream we see things that we think are real, but when we wake up we realize that none of it actually was. The dream was an illusion of reality created by our minds.
Dreams Vs. Reality
Spiritual transformation is often compared to waking up from a dream in the sense that when you wake up spiritually you realize that so much of what you thought was real never was.
So much of reality was simply constructed by the filtering and interpreting habits of our minds.
In order to pursue meditation to the depths of awareness that will allow us to see the illusion of the only reality we have ever known requires a profound commitment and penetrating clarity of intention.
In order to cultivate the depth commitment and clarity of intention necessary we must first know beyond any doubt that we are not seeing reality as it is.
The 20th Century philosopher Wilfred Sellers coined the phrase The Myth of the Given to describe our underlying assumption of a reality that exists independent of our perception of it.
Sellers described The Myth of the Given as the belief that underneath our perceptions, conceptions, derivations and interpretations about reality, there is something that is objectively true and independently real serving as the foundation of it all.
The assumption that when we look out at the world we are looking at something real that exists out there separate and apart from us, is the primary obstacle to spiritual transformation.
Why? Because the belief that I am an independent entity looking out at a world that is separate from me is the core of the illusion that we want to be free from.
This is the initiation point of the illusion of separation that keeps us from realizing the inherent unity and wholeness of life.
To go just a bit further with this inquiry I want you to realize that the experience you are having right now as you look at this book, or scan the room in front of you, is, as the philosopher William James put it, thick with interpretation.
You think you are looking at a room, but there is no such thing as a room.
A room is an idea, a concept.
We think it is a real thing because we are trained to interpret our experience in terms of our conception of reality.
We live in a conceptualized world.
If we just stick to our visual perception we can see this.
Look out at the world. What do you see?
What do you really see?
You might think you are looking at chairs, and books, and tables, and carpets, but are you really?
What do you really see? Isn’t it all just shapes and colors? Isn’t everything else an interpretation?
Sensation Vs. Perception
As we get started in our transformative mystical journey we have to realize that there is a difference between sensation and perception.
We are trained to filter and interpret our sensations to form meaningful perceptions of the world. We take the shapes and colors in front of us and turn it into a chair.
What happens when you see something that you have never seen before? You don’t have any conception about what it is and so you look more deeply.
You see more fully what is there. If at some point you realize what you are looking at, your senses relax.
When we talk about meditation we often talk about beginner’s mind.
On the one hand this means always being a beginner in meditation so that you never get too comfortable in the practice so your senses always remain alert and full.
At a deeper level meditation invites us to become innocent about life. It means seeing everything including ourselves as if for the first time, free of preconceptions and assumptions.
The whole point here is to say it is natural that we will want to approach our meditation practice using the same tools of logic and rationality that have served us so well in other parts of our life, but those tools will not serve us in the quest for spiritual transformation.
As we embark on the journey of transformation we will naturally want to build on our current understanding of reality, but path will not ultimately work.
The shift in awareness that meditation offers is so fundamental that it can only be experienced wholesale. It is an instantaneous flip into a new way of seeing.
You can’t work into step by step. It just happens and a strong meditation practice makes it more likely to happen.
Even though we are wired for love, being in love may be the scariest thing one can experience. We desperately want that one fulfilling relationship, yet we go to great lengths to avoid rejection and heartbreak.
Love and fear don’t mix.
Reflecting on my own life, I noticed how often I closed in an attempt to protect myself.
I shut people out.
I isolated under stress.
I didn’t want people to see I was having a hard time. Or worse, try to fix it.
Deep below the surface, I felt unworthy.
I thought I had to earn love.
Note: You don’t have to earn love. You are love.
I projected into the future. I saw the pain and isolation that would come if I continued down a path of fear.
I needed to make a change. I promised I would open my heart despite any pain, fear or disappointment.
I would not close, at any cost, at any discomfort.
Here, I share my process and ah-has that have helped me move through fear and live with an open heart – to live in the presence of love. And as it so happened I attracted an unbelievably big, beautiful, loving relationship.
The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer served as my guide.
Realize your unending source of inner energy.
Inner energy is real.
“What you will see, if you watch carefully,” says Michael Singer, “is that you have a phenomenal amount of natural energy inside of you. It doesn’t come from food and it doesn’t come from sleep. This energy is always available to you. At any moment, you can draw upon it. It just wells up and fills you from inside. When you’re filled with this energy, you feel like you could take on the world.”
There is no limit to your inner energy.
Inner energy isn’t tangible, but it is very, very real.
Don’t underestimate it. Realize that it is always accessible and limitless.
Once you understand the truth about your inner energy, the next thing you must do is do everything in your power to keep your energy flowing.
Realize you’re always trying to avoid pain.
“The heart is where pain comes from. And this is why you feel so many disturbances as you go through the day. You have this core of pain deep in your heart. Your personality traits and behavior patterns are all about avoiding this pain.” – Michael Singer
When you attempt to avoid pain, you stop the natural flow of energy.
Pushing pain away does one thing – locks it inside. Nothing can get through.
Still life continues. Experiences get stuck. Layers build up. Fear intensifies.
It becomes so real you fight to control what’s happening around you.
If you are fighting life, you aren’t living it. Eventually, you become afraid of life itself.
Realize there’s nothing worth closing your heart over.
The voices in your head will tell you to close.
Your mind will replay the trauma of past events, pain, frustration and disappointment.
You will be deceived that the pain is too great and you must protect yourself. If you listen to these voices, your heart will close. Closing buries wounds and shuts out life.
Resist the temptation to avoid pain.
The price you pay for any temporary relief in the moment is too high.
Can you remember a time in the past that by closing you achieved a state of lasting joy and happiness?
Realize pain is a temporary shift in your energy.
It is possible to learn to relax in the midst of pain.
When you notice the first sign of constriction, become aware of where the painful experience is coming from. Watch the source of it. Let it pass through you.
Imagine yourself relaxing and releasing.
When you sit with pain and refuse to participate in the disturbance of your inner energy, a piece of pain leaves. Slowly you open your energy to the free-flow of love.
Develop a relationship with your inner energy.
There is a trade-off between fear and love.
New experiences are always unfolding. Your energy is always shifting. Become friendly with the whole of life. No expansion can take place without change.
At the same time, change is often uncomfortable. Remember, you are the magnificent human you are today because of all of your life experiences.
If you want more energy and want to have more love flow through your life, there is only one thing you must do: always keep your heart open.
Everything you desire is on the other side of fear: peace, joy, creativity, beauty, love.
As spiritual seekers and trailblazers with an insatiable craving for truth, many of us are always leaning into an inquiry of how to discover and maintain balance and alignment in our lives.
As beings who are in a continuous process of evolution, our relationship with balance and alignment can look vastly different at every growth stage.
As we grow and change, our needs, values, and boundaries also evolve along with us.
We feel the pain and discomfort most intensely when the shifting and transformation of our inner world begin to create ripple effects within our outer world.
Have you ever noticed the more conscious and self-aware you become the more you can perceive with blazing clarity what is out of balance and misaligned within your life?
It feels great to make progress on our spiritual/life journey and be able to directly perceive how much we are growing as individuals.
On the flip side, the more profoundly we connect with our deepest essence and truth, the harder it is to ignore when we aren’t living in alignment and honoring our true self.
The process of awakening can be a scary, vulnerable, and uncomfortable process.
As we awaken to our deeper truth and our internal growth begins to impact our outer environment, we might start to feel a sense of disease and discomfort.
It’s as if we are shedding an old skin and have yet to fully grow and acclimate to the new form birthing into being.
When we begin to feel a fundamental change in ourselves that feels drastically different from the way we have ever experienced ourselves, it is easy to feel that the very nature of our metamorphosis and transformation is a threat.
Don’t fight change
During these moments of transitional instability, it can feel challenging to find our sense of internal alignment and balance.
What once felt familiar and comfortable no longer feels like it fits in the same way.
We might notice that as we internally change, our relationships and exterior circumstances begin to transform.
We might feel like we can’t connect in the same way with our loved ones and friends.
We might discover that our career isn’t fulfilling us in the same way.
We might recognize that certain habits and patterns we have no longer support us in the same way, or the way that we have been caring for ourselves is in need of a major overhaul.
If you are finding yourself at the precipice of a transitional threshold where the current circumstances of your reality no longer feel like a match, there is a high probability that you are transitioning from an old paradigm way of being that is no longer alignment.
The discomfort and pain you are experiencing is a sign you are in a process of growth and being offered an opportunity to connect to the vaster innate truth of who you really are and what you are most deeply passionate about and value.
Stay the course
As we ascend into a space of more profound alignment, our tolerance for what is no longer in alignment shrinks.
We can no longer blindly ignore and engage in actions and choice that aren’t in our highest service.
We are fundamentally shifting from a vibrational resonance and energetic patterning that isn’t serving us to a vibrational resonance and energetic patterning that is a match for the signature and coding of our soul’s deepest essence and highest expression.
As we align with our true north and inner guidance system, we naturally begin to energetically, emotionally, and physically detox.
We are clearing the way so that our soul’s higher intelligence can come through and we can fully embody the divine conduit we truly are.
Take a breath
If you are finding yourself facing extreme resistance and fear, allow yourself to stop for a moment and take a breath.
See if you can allow yourself to slow down and move towards the experience of sensation in your physical body.
Allow yourself to feel the support of the ground beneath your feet and the physical power and presence of your body.
Notice how you are naturally and effortlessly held and supported here with you having to do anything.
You are supported by your life’s breath, the gravity, and force of the earth, and the actual physical container and vessel of the intricate and brilliantly designed ecosystem that is your body.
Feeling fear and resistance in the midst of great change and transformation is completely natural and normal.
What would it be like to welcome the fear and resistance in this moment, rather than resisting it?
What might happen in the invitation to not only connect with and fully welcome the truth of the fear, while opening into the excitement and majesty of the change and new growth that is guiding you into deeper intimacy with your true nature?