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Frame of Mind by Allan Friedman - 4M ago
INSIGHT OF THE WEEK “When one person changes their steps, the entire dance changes.”  -Kim Ades, President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching Does it Really Take 2 to Tango? Do you believe that it takes two to tango? Do both people need to put in the work? President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching, Kim Ades, shares her unique perspective. You’ve likely heard the expression, “it takes two to tango.” It means that in order for a relationship to run smoothly, in order to work well with someone or in order to overcome a conflict with someone, both parties need to put in the same amount of effort. It’s not enough for one person to do all the work. Or so you may think. Watch as Kim Ades, President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching, shares her unique spin on this old adage that many people live by. Watch! Does it Really Take 2 to Tango? - YouTube Transcription: Kim Ades: Many people believe that it takes two to tango. At Frame of Mind Coaching, we believe that it doesn’t necessarily require two to tango. If one person changes the steps in the dance, the dance changes. So what does that mean? When in a conflict with someone, many people think it requires both individuals to compromise. That it requires both individuals to agree to change. We suggest that if you change, the other person will either follow you or they will say, “I don’t like this dance” and they’ll leave. Either way, you are dancing the dance that you want to be dancing. It does not take two to tango. It only requires one person. When one person changes their steps, the entire dance changes. Prior to coaching, many of our clients wonder, “Won’t my partner, my colleagues, my friends and my family need to be coached too in order for my coaching to be successful?” Our response to them is this… When you begin to change through coaching – when you become more optimistic, more engaged, more confident, more decisive and more content – others will either come along for the ride or they will drop off the map. Those who are aligned with the new you will stay by your side, and those who have been holding you back will finally let you go. The post Does it Really Take 2 to Tango? appeared first on Frame of Mind Coaching™. ..read more
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Frame of Mind by Frame Of Mind - 5M ago
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INSIGHT OF THE WEEK “Usually when we choose affirmations, or we’re told to pick an affirmation, it’s a stretch.” -Kim Ades, President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching Why Affirmations Don’t Work An affirmation is a statement that we tell ourselves in order to make it our reality. Some examples of affirmations are, “Today will be a perfect day,” “I will crush my to-do list,” “I am a genius,” and “I am thin, fit and healthy.” Do you repeat affirmations to yourself every morning? Do you write motivational messages on your mirror? Do you scour the web for inspirational quotes to live your life by? While there is nothing wrong with surrounding yourself with positive messaging, there is a fundamental flaw with how most people approach affirmations. Watch as Kim Ades, President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching, shares why affirmations don’t often work and what you can try instead. Watch! Why Affirmations Don't Work - YouTube Transcription: Kim Ades: Why am I not such a huge fan of affirmations? Because usually when we choose an affirmation, or we’re told to pick an affirmation, it’s a stretch. We don’t believe it. If I look in the mirror and say, “I’m a beauty queen,” or “I’m going to be a model,” in the back of my head I say, “Who am I kidding?” The “who am I kidding” component trumps all. It’s the beliefs that lead how I view the world. I don’t want to pick an affirmation that’s so far fetched and create a greater distance between myself and that vision or that goal. What I want to do is trade up. What is trading up? Trading up is choosing a thought that is slightly better than my current thought. So if my current thought is, “Man, I look awful,” my next thought can be, “You know what, I don’t look so bad for my age. I’m OK. Compare me to all the other 49-year-old’s… I’m pretty good.” That’s a more believable thought. It’s not quite an affirmation, but it helps me climb the ladder of better feeling thoughts until I get to a better place where I go, “I’m pretty hot.” People often choose affirmations that they don’t truly believe, making it impossible for them to experience the desired effect. Instead, swap thoughts that don’t serve you for thoughts that do serve you (and that you believe), and go from there. At Frame of Mind Coaching, we call this “trading up.” This is one of the many skills we teach our clients so that they can reach their goals with speed and agility. About us Coaching Certification Keynotes Corporate Blog Podcast Results Contact Sign in Sign Up for FOM Coaching Content Receive the latest news, updates and podcasts Thanks! We look forward to connecting with you! Email Subscribe FollowFollowFollowFollowFollow © 2019 Frame of Mind Coaching Inc. All Rights Reserved. The post Why Affirmations Don’t Work appeared first on Frame of Mind Coaching™. ..read more
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INSIGHT OF THE WEEK “When you think about any relationship, whether it’s with a business partner, a spouse or a friend, identify the characteristics that you’re looking for.” -Kim Ades, President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching Shopping for the Right Business Partner Have you been shopping around for the right business partner? President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching, Kim Ades, shares how to find someone who is the perfect fit. As you have grown your business, you’ve likely made many advantageous partnerships and connections along the way, while some people you’ve chosen to work with may have led you astray. Or perhaps you’re in the dating game and are finding yourself exhausted with the lack of viable candidates. Choosing a partner can sometimes feel impossible. Watch as Kim Ades, President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching, shares how to find a partner that is the right match for you. Watch! Shopping for the Right Business Partner - YouTube Transcription: Kim Ades: Imagine yourself shopping at a grocery store. You’re taking things off the shelf and putting them in your cart. You don’t go through the shopping center and say, “I don’t want that, I don’t want that, I don’t want that, I don’t want that.” You pick the things that you do want. So when you think about any relationship, whether it’s with a business partner, a spouse or a friend, identify the qualities and the characteristics that you’re looking for. It’s like putting things in your cart. What you focus on grows. And so you want to focus on what you want, not what you don’t. Too often, we focus on what personality traits we don’t want in a partner instead of focusing on what we actually do want. But as Kim reminds us, we don’t shop by looking at all the things we don’t want to buy! Instead, we go straight for what we know we want. We need to take the time to identify exactly what we want in a partner before we even start looking. That way, when the right partner finally comes along, we know with absolute certainty that they’re the one. About us Coaching Certification Keynotes Corporate Blog Podcast Results Contact Sign in Sign Up for FOM Coaching Content Receive the latest news, updates and podcasts Thanks! We look forward to connecting with you! Email Subscribe FollowFollowFollowFollowFollow © 2019 Frame of Mind Coaching Inc. All Rights Reserved. The post Shopping for the Right Business Partner appeared first on Frame of Mind Coaching™. ..read more
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Frame of Mind by Allan Friedman - 5M ago
INSIGHT OF THE WEEK “When one person changes their steps, the entire dance changes.”  -Kim Ades, President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching Does it Really Take 2 to Tango? Do you believe that it takes two to tango? Do both people need to put in the work? President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching, Kim Ades, shares her unique perspective. You’ve likely heard the expression, “it takes two to tango.” It means that in order for a relationship to run smoothly, in order to work well with someone or in order to overcome a conflict with someone, both parties need to put in the same amount of effort. It’s not enough for one person to do all the work. Or so you may think. Watch as Kim Ades, President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching, shares her unique spin on this old adage that many people live by. Watch! Does it Really Take 2 to Tango? - YouTube Transcription: Kim Ades: Many people believe that it takes two to tango. At Frame of Mind Coaching, we believe that it doesn’t necessarily require two to tango. If one person changes the steps in the dance, the dance changes. So what does that mean? When in a conflict with someone, many people think it requires both individuals to compromise. That it requires both individuals to agree to change. We suggest that if you change, the other person will either follow you or they will say, “I don’t like this dance” and they’ll leave. Either way, you are dancing the dance that you want to be dancing. It does not take two to tango. It only requires one person. When one person changes their steps, the entire dance changes. Prior to coaching, many of our clients wonder, “Won’t my partner, my colleagues, my friends and my family need to be coached too in order for my coaching to be successful?” Our response to them is this… When you begin to change through coaching – when you become more optimistic, more engaged, more confident, more decisive and more content – others will either come along for the ride or they will drop off the map. Those who are aligned with the new you will stay by your side, and those who have been holding you back will finally let you go. About us Coaching Certification Keynotes Corporate Blog Podcast Results Contact Sign in Sign Up for FOM Coaching Content Receive the latest news, updates and podcasts Thanks! We look forward to connecting with you! Email Subscribe FollowFollowFollowFollowFollow © 2019 Frame of Mind Coaching Inc. All Rights Reserved. The post Does it Really Take 2 to Tango? appeared first on Frame of Mind Coaching™. ..read more
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INSIGHT OF THE WEEK “Emotional resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity with speed and agility and to leverage that adversity.” -Kim Ades, President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching Emotional Resilience: A Strategic Advantage Having a high level of emotional resilience is a HUGE strategic advantage for leaders and entrepreneurs, but what exactly is it and how can you leverage it? President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching, Kim Ades, explores the concept of emotional resilience. Frame of Mind Coaching clients are highly successful leaders and entrepreneurs who are struggling in one or more areas of their life. They come from all different industries, but what they have in common is their frustration. They are frustrated that no one in their personal life truly gets them. They are frustrated with their team and their lack of results. They are frustrated with themselves for not reaching their goals fast enough. What they don’t realize is that this frustration is keeping them from their success. Snapping out of this state and using it to their advantage is one of the many skills we help our clients master. We call this skill emotional resilience. Watch as Kim Ades, President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching, explores the concept of emotional resilience. Watch! How to Measure Emotional Resilience - YouTube Transcription:Kim Ades: Emotional resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity with speed and agility. In fact, those with a high level of emotional resilience don’t only bounce back with speed and agility, they leverage their adversity. So something bad happens to them, they fall and then they say, “OK. I’m done falling. I’m getting back up. How do I turn this into something good? How do I leverage this? How do I make it an advantage as opposed to a disadvantage?” We see a lot of entrepreneurs who have great skill in doing that. Many leaders, many great leaders, take their negative experiences, learn from them and turn them into a strategic advantage. About us Coaching Certification Keynotes Corporate Blog Podcast Results Contact Sign in Sign Up for FOM Coaching Content Receive the latest news, updates and podcasts Thanks! We look forward to connecting with you! Email Subscribe FollowFollowFollowFollowFollow © 2019 Frame of Mind Coaching Inc. All Rights Reserved. The post Emotional Resilience: A Strategic Advantage appeared first on Frame of Mind Coaching™. ..read more
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INSIGHT OF THE WEEK “Usually when we choose affirmations, or we’re told to pick an affirmation, it’s a stretch.” -Kim Ades, President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching Why Affirmations Don’t Work An affirmation is a statement that we tell ourselves in order to make it our reality. Some examples of affirmations are, “Today will be a perfect day,” “I will crush my to-do list,” “I am a genius,” and “I am thin, fit and healthy.” Do you repeat affirmations to yourself every morning? Do you write motivational messages on your mirror? Do you scour the web for inspirational quotes to live your life by? While there is nothing wrong with surrounding yourself with positive messaging, there is a fundamental flaw with how most people approach affirmations. Watch as Kim Ades, President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching, shares why affirmations don’t often work and what you can try instead. Watch! Why Affirmations Don't Work - YouTube Transcription: Kim Ades: Why am I not such a huge fan of affirmations? Because usually when we choose an affirmation, or we’re told to pick an affirmation, it’s a stretch. We don’t believe it. If I look in the mirror and say, “I’m a beauty queen,” or “I’m going to be a model,” in the back of my head I say, “Who am I kidding?” The “who am I kidding” component trumps all. It’s the beliefs that lead how I view the world. I don’t want to pick an affirmation that’s so far fetched and create a greater distance between myself and that vision or that goal. What I want to do is trade up. What is trading up? Trading up is choosing a thought that is slightly better than my current thought. So if my current thought is, “Man, I look awful,” my next thought can be, “You know what, I don’t look so bad for my age. I’m OK. Compare me to all the other 49-year-old’s… I’m pretty good.” That’s a more believable thought. It’s not quite an affirmation, but it helps me climb the ladder of better feeling thoughts until I get to a better place where I go, “I’m pretty hot.” People often choose affirmations that they don’t truly believe, making it impossible for them to experience the desired effect. Instead, swap thoughts that don’t serve you for thoughts that do serve you (and that you believe), and go from there. At Frame of Mind Coaching, we call this “trading up.” This is one of the many skills we teach our clients so that they can reach their goals with speed and agility. About us Coaching Certification Keynotes Corporate Blog Podcast Results Contact Sign in Sign Up for FOM Coaching Content Receive the latest news, updates and podcasts Thanks! We look forward to connecting with you! Email Subscribe FollowFollowFollowFollowFollow © 2019 Frame of Mind Coaching Inc. All Rights Reserved. The post Why Affirmations Don’t Work appeared first on Frame of Mind Coaching™. ..read more
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INSIGHT OF THE WEEK “When you think about any relationship, whether it’s with a business partner, a spouse or a friend, identify the characteristics that you’re looking for.” -Kim Ades, President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching Shopping for the Right Business Partner Have you been shopping around for the right business partner? President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching, Kim Ades, shares how to find someone who is the perfect fit. As you have grown your business, you’ve likely made many advantageous partnerships and connections along the way, while some people you’ve chosen to work with may have led you astray. Or perhaps you’re in the dating game and are finding yourself exhausted with the lack of viable candidates. Choosing a partner can sometimes feel impossible. Watch as Kim Ades, President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching, shares how to find a partner that is the right match for you. Watch! Shopping for the Right Business Partner - YouTube Transcription: Kim Ades: Imagine yourself shopping at a grocery store. You’re taking things off the shelf and putting them in your cart. You don’t go through the shopping center and say, “I don’t want that, I don’t want that, I don’t want that, I don’t want that.” You pick the things that you do want. So when you think about any relationship, whether it’s with a business partner, a spouse or a friend, identify the qualities and the characteristics that you’re looking for. It’s like putting things in your cart. What you focus on grows. And so you want to focus on what you want, not what you don’t. Too often, we focus on what personality traits we don’t want in a partner instead of focusing on what we actually do want. But as Kim reminds us, we don’t shop by looking at all the things we don’t want to buy! Instead, we go straight for what we know we want. We need to take the time to identify exactly what we want in a partner before we even start looking. That way, when the right partner finally comes along, we know with absolute certainty that they’re the one. About us Coaching Certification Keynotes Corporate Blog Podcast Results Contact Sign in Sign Up for FOM Coaching Content Receive the latest news, updates and podcasts Thanks! We look forward to connecting with you! Email Subscribe FollowFollowFollowFollowFollow © 2019 Frame of Mind Coaching Inc. All Rights Reserved. The post Shopping for the Right Business Partner appeared first on Frame of Mind Coaching™. ..read more
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Frame of Mind by Allan Friedman - 5M ago
INSIGHT OF THE WEEK “When one person changes their steps, the entire dance changes.”  -Kim Ades, President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching Does it Really Take 2 to Tango? Do you believe that it takes two to tango? Do both people need to put in the work? President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching, Kim Ades, shares her unique perspective. You’ve likely heard the expression, “it takes two to tango.” It means that in order for a relationship to run smoothly, in order to work well with someone or in order to overcome a conflict with someone, both parties need to put in the same amount of effort. It’s not enough for one person to do all the work. Or so you may think. Watch as Kim Ades, President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching, shares her unique spin on this old adage that many people live by. Watch! Does it Really Take 2 to Tango? - YouTube Transcription: Kim Ades: Many people believe that it takes two to tango. At Frame of Mind Coaching, we believe that it doesn’t necessarily require two to tango. If one person changes the steps in the dance, the dance changes. So what does that mean? When in a conflict with someone, many people think it requires both individuals to compromise. That it requires both individuals to agree to change. We suggest that if you change, the other person will either follow you or they will say, “I don’t like this dance” and they’ll leave. Either way, you are dancing the dance that you want to be dancing. It does not take two to tango. It only requires one person. When one person changes their steps, the entire dance changes. Prior to coaching, many of our clients wonder, “Won’t my partner, my colleagues, my friends and my family need to be coached too in order for my coaching to be successful?” Our response to them is this… When you begin to change through coaching – when you become more optimistic, more engaged, more confident, more decisive and more content – others will either come along for the ride or they will drop off the map. Those who are aligned with the new you will stay by your side, and those who have been holding you back will finally let you go. About us Coaching Certification Keynotes Corporate Blog Podcast Results Contact Sign in Sign Up for FOM Coaching Content Receive the latest news, updates and podcasts Thanks! We look forward to connecting with you! Email Subscribe FollowFollowFollowFollowFollow © 2019 Frame of Mind Coaching Inc. All Rights Reserved. The post Does it Really Take 2 to Tango? appeared first on Frame of Mind Coaching™. ..read more

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