It's no secret that narcissists seem to operate from the same playbook, but to really emphasize this fact I've made a little breakdown. It's a breakdown outlining the anatomy of a letter/email/voice mail/whatever correspondence from a narcissistic parent after you've lowered contact with them. (And even if the narcissist in your life is not a parent, I'm sure you've seen this breakdown from whoever the narcissist in your life is.) Here's the general outline on what you've probably received: Part 1: Overly formal, guilt trippy, or love bomb-esque greeting Part 2: The play dumb sandwich with ..read more

This is a list of reasons I personally found it important to keep my low/no contact boundaries with my late narcissistic mother. I am now sharing this list with fellow survivors of narcissistic abuse! My intention for sharing this is for you to gain clarity as to why your boundaries with the narcissist in your life are important to keep. Feel free to bookmark this list and refer back to it any time you find you’re gaslighting yourself and need a reminder as to why you’re protecting your peace. To save my emotional and mental health I feel a sense of peace and calm I have never felt in my l ..read more

Narcissists are known for being self-absorbed and difficult to deal with, something you’re probably well aware of if you’re currently trying to set a boundary with one. You’ve been walking on eggshells for too long, you finally mustered up the courage to set the boundary in the most polite, easy to understand, thoughtful way. You’ve overthought about it weeks in advance, making multiple pros and cons lists, questioning yourself if you’re being reasonable, and finally deciding to go ahead and set that boundary. You expect them to be understanding, after all you’ve included very good reasons for ..read more

Narcissists are everywhere. Whether the narcissist in your life is the colleague who takes credit for work you did, the friend who always needs to be the centre of attention, the significant other you have REALLY good and REALLY bad times with, the family member who’s never wrong, or the parent who expects you to be an unlimited source of supply for them, the same cycle of abuse and manipulation tactics are happening behind different situations. If you’re dealing with a narcissist, you may feel confused and wonder what’s REALLY going on when things are going well. Is this person actually a nar ..read more