On Attachment
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Join relationship coach Stephanie Rigg in On Attachment, where she delves deep into all things attachment theory, love, relationships & intimacy - sharing her wisdom and experience to help you start making real changes in your life & relationships.
On Attachment
1w ago
Are you someone who tends to go from 0 to 100 at the start of a new relationship? In today's episode, we're exploring how to not lose yourself when you start dating someone new (although the advice also applies to people already in an established relationship who feel they've lost touch with themselves). This dynamic is particularly common among those with an anxious attachment style, who tend to become overly fixated on a connection at the expense of other areas of life.
Tune in for tips on how to pace yourself in the early stages of a relationship so that you can deepen into a connection in ..read more
On Attachment
2w ago
In today's episode, I'm sharing some reflections from my recent experience of pregnancy and birth on self-trust, control and surrender. These are themes that most folks with insecure attachment patterns struggle with, and learning to trust in your capacity to navigate life's ups and downs with confidence and agency is a huge step on the path to building secure attachment.
For more episodes on building trust, check out:
Ep 130: The Pillars of a Healthy Relationship with Self
Ep 124: On Trust, Risk & Vulnerability
Ep 111: The Pillars of Trust & Trustworthiness
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On Attachment
1M ago
In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts on how to navigate a partner pulling away. If you're someone with anxious attachment patterns, a partner's withdrawal or disengagement can feel extremely distressing - and yet, many of our go-to strategies for managing that distress can ironically have the effect of pushing someone further away.
We'll cover:
what to do when someone pulls away in an early dating context
why we feel drawn to pursuing connections with people who are inconsistent
how to navigate a partner repeatedly leaving and coming back
what to do when a long-term part ..read more
On Attachment
1M ago
In today's episode, we're talking all about self-soothing and anxious attachment. For most anxiously attached folks, self-soothing and self-regulation can be a real struggle. This typically shows up as an over-reliance on others (often a partner) to be our sole source of safety and reassurance when we experience emotional distress, and an accompanying sense of helplessness and panic if and when they are not available to perform that role.
We'll cover:
why anxiously attached people struggle to self-regulate
how an inability to self-soothe impacts our relationships
mindset shifts and pra ..read more
On Attachment
2M ago
This episode is part two of a two-part series on 20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style. I'm going to be running through some of the less obvious expressions of the anxious attachment style, as well as the underlying drivers of these patterns.
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On Attachment
2M ago
Today's episode is part one of a two-part series on 20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style. I'm going to be running through some of the less obvious expressions of the anxious attachment style, as well as the underlying drivers of these patterns.
⭐️ JOIN THE WAITLIST FOR HEALING ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT ⭐️
Further Links & Resources
Join the waitlist for Healing Anxious Attachment ⭐️
Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations
Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE)
Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PH ..read more
On Attachment
2M ago
In today's episode, I'm delighted to be joined by James "Fish" Gill to talk all things conflict and conscious communication. Fish is a coach, teacher and facilitator whose work offers a compassionate paradigm for relating to and transforming moments of conflict in all of our relationships.
We cover:
why we so easily end up in conflict and opposition with people we love
how we unconsciously escalate conflict
using compassion and curiosity to understand someone else's perspective
holding both positive intention and unintended impact as true
reframing defensiveness, withdrawal and o ..read more
On Attachment
2M ago
In this week's episode, I'm joined by my partner Joel and we're exploring some common misconceptions about avoidant attachment. Avoidant attachment is frequently misunderstood and misrepresented in a lot of online content, and it's so important to me to dispel some of those portrayals and offer something more humanising and more honest about what's going on for avoidant folks.
We cover misconceptions around:
avoidant people not wanting to be in relationships
avoidant people only caring about themselves
avoidant people never experiencing anxiety in their relationships
avoidant people being un ..read more
On Attachment
3M ago
In today's episode, I'm delighted to be joined by Julie Menanno. Julie is a couples therapist, best known for her hugely popular instagram account @thesecurerelationship where she offers nuanced and insightful takes on attachment dynamics and how couples can overcome negative cycles to build secure relationships. She has just released her first book, Secure Love, which offers couples a roadmap for building thriving relationships that last.
Our conversation covers a lot of ground, including:
a deeper look at the fear of abandonment in anxious attachment
key challenges of avoidant attach ..read more
On Attachment
3M ago
In today's episode, we're talking all about getting back together with an ex. Facing the prospect of rekindling after a relationship has ended can bring up so many conflicting feelings - longing, optimism and hope, together with fear, worry, self-doubt and anxiety.
In helping you navigate the messiness of these situations, I'll be sharing some good reasons and some not-so-good reasons why you might consider getting back together with an ex, and how you can best approach that decision to support yourself and your relationship going forward.
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