"Emotional labor refers to the process of managing feelings and expressions to fulfill the emotional requirements of a job or a social interaction. It involves suppressing or downplaying one’s own emotions and displaying the appropriate ones. Emotional labor can happen in formal settings, such as serving customers or clients, or in informal settings, such as being treated like a therapist or being asked to explain issues that affect one personally. It’s an essential aspect of many... Who does perform more emotional labour ..read more

Met a guy from online dating. I am an INFP. And from the first date, it was very clear we got along very very well. We both love intellectual conversations usually about science and shared hobbies. but the problem was some peculiar behaviour from his side. Despite amazing conversations in person, a physical connection (felt like a pull between us), lots in common and really fun dates. He would tell me ‘we get along so well don’t we!’ It was after the datesthat would confuse me we’d part... INTJ man said we’re not the right fit ..read more

Ugh, I have to go to something today that I don't want to at all. I asked Artie to go with me weeks ago to act as a social buffer, but not like in being the front man for conversation or anything, but more like the human equivalent of wearing earbuds in public. Naturally, even though we spoke about it previously and he never gave me a no, he's not responding, and is likely not going to go (he actually already came over this week). But this is depressing the shit out of me and I realized... Would you hire an escort ..read more

…and I am kinda freaked out about it some. I’ve never been with a really big guy before, the two previous guys I’ve been with were both very small in that regard. I don’t know if I’m ready for him or if I can even take him and don’t really know what to do or say. Help please!! ~ Amanda ..read more

Hello, INFJ here. I have a dear Friend who is an ENTJ, he's everything I am looking for in a husband, He checks off everything on my list. We have amazing deep conversations; he's refreshing to me as he is much more intellectual than emotional. (that makes it much harder for me to read him, but, I also love that about him.) He has shown me a gentle warmer side to himself that not many in our friend group know about, we share core values, basically we match so well in so many ways and I... INFJ needing advice about ENTJ ..read more

I just thought I'd post this here in the hopes that I could get some objective perspectives/advice. I'm basically at a place in my love life where I have no clue what to do next... A bit of backstory, I'm a gay INFJ that always wanted to feel a deep love but because I had to be in the closet as a teen I eventually gave up on it. It wasn't until about 24 that I decided to start dating and look for a serious relationship, even a husband. After going on countless dates from dating apps and... Advice on where to take love life next ..read more

To start with please be patient with my Te trickster, I'll try my best to make it as comprehensible as I can. Chapter 0: Super-shortened, watered down version that doesn't explain things properly but might help some people. TL;DR: Nobody starts mature - everyone is deluded by their skewed perception and they don't know it. The patterns for this are analogous for every type - it's not an individual matter. Everyone projects but not everyone is wired the same way, leading to... The perfect MBTI type romantic pairings Ver 10.5 (Read the OP and prove me wrong if you can; Chapter 0 has the short ..read more

What do you think? Personally, I think if I had a SO, I'd prefer us to have our own places. It's probably just another reason I'm incompatible with most women. That's okay, I'm used to it. I understand of course that sometimes financial restraints make it impossible to live alone. But I'm talking here about if you have the financial means to live alone, and you have a SO, would you prefer to live with them, or live alone ..read more

ENFP here, I'll just get straight to the point cause it's late and I want to go to sleep. I have a crush on this (very hot) ISFJ girl. I don't have much classes with her, so I couldn't talk to her that much. Because of that, my first move was just straight up asking her out. She said no, which I should have seen coming. Anyways, I didn't quit. I kept making moves, almost every opportunity I could. I once caught her looking over at me when I was talking to my friend about my projected height... ISFJ Crush ..read more

Recently I have seen some guys "define" masculinity through action/achievement, and femininity as something you can "just be". But this seems strange in whichever way you view femininity... If femininity is 1) tied to womanhood, thus inherent, so must masculinity be inherent 2) performance, then it definitely is achieved through actions and takes effort to maintain... Is there a third way to view this? Thoughts? Alternatively, tell me what you think femininity is ..read more