You are a spiritual being, whether or not you consider yourself religious. Spirituality is all about connecting with a unifying loving force more significant than you. Anytime you are out of balance with Spirit, you will not make the best decisions. Spiritual burnout is when you start to feel depressed and hopeless and have the feeling that God has abandoned you. You begin to wonder if life is worth living. You walk around with a sense of heaviness. You find it more and more difficult to do anything. Spiritual burnout builds up over time. If you are not aware of your gradual decline, you will ..read more

We live in a chaotic world. It is hard to separate our work and business life because of smartphones, computers and social media. Beating burnout is a lifelong process. People expect to hear back immediately when they text or email you. Organizations pressure their employees to produce and expect them to work overtime at home. Churches put more pressure on their leaders to keep their doors open. As congregations decline, more expectations are put on their ministers. How pressured do you feel to work on your days off and your holidays?  Do you fear losing your job if you don’t put in the e ..read more

Remember when you felt the strong call to go into Christian Ministry?  Testing your call through your denomination and theological school was a long process. Can you remember the day you were ordained or commissioned?  Seeing the increasing pressure church leadership faces in mainline denominations today is concerning. With the shift in cultural values, where the church is no longer the focal point of communities and congregations are dwindling, it seems ministers are too often the target of blame. This trend is worrying and deserves our attention. You are now at a higher risk of bu ..read more

What is the difference between coaching and counselling? Will a coach or counsellor best meet your needs at this time? Each practitioner brings something unique to their practice. Whether you choose a coach or counsellor, you must find someone you can trust and feel comfortable sharing. What is a professional coach? Anyone can start a coaching business with or without training. Find out from any potential coach what their training and experience are. They may have training from a few days to a year or more. Often coaches come into this field as a second or third career, meaning they come into ..read more

You have an Inner Critic: The inner critic has good intentions. It wants to keep you safe. Unfortunately, it can become a problem because it wants to limit you to only doing what is familiar. You will notice that the negative voice of the inner voice gets louder whenever you are doing something new. Are you ready to move from listening to the inner critic to the inner coach? The first step is to recognize when the inner critic is speaking. Until you become more self-aware, you won't likely notice the negative voice because it is all you hear. You are convinced this is the truth, so why fight i ..read more

Going through a divorce may have been one of the most challenging times in your life. Now that you are through the divorce, you can move ahead. You now have a fantastic opportunity to do a life reset. Now is a time to heal and discern what is most vital for you to live your life. It is time to claim your new life after divorce. Here are 10 steps to recover from a divorce: 1.      Self Care: You are physically and emotionally tired. It might feel tempting to ignore your own needs. You do need to bother. You are worth it! Caring for yourself is essential to claim your ne ..read more

How to connect with God. It takes time and intention to open yourself to the Spirit. God is a big word; there is no one definition of God. God is a powerful source of wisdom beyond anything we can understand. God is the living energy/spirit that gives life to everything and connects you with everything. God is much bigger than all the great religions of the world. Together, all of them help us to name the mystery of God.   God has names such as Father, Friend, Oneness, Allah, YHWH, Jehovah, Elohim, Adonai, Hu, and El Shaddai. God is not something you can put in a box. In Christianit ..read more

We live in a complex world, yet we want to divide people into two genders. We expect men to be masculine and women to be feminine.  With modern psychology, we have learned that we have both within us. It is a like a continuum with masculinity and femininity at either end of the spectrum. Most of us land in the middle of the continuum. We all need a healthy masculinity and femininity. Until recently, children have been raised to behave in specific ways depending on their gender identity. Girls were brought up to be caring, maternal, gentle and obedient to parents, particularly men. Boys we ..read more

You hunger for relationships. It is so exciting when you find the right person. Yet you are scared because your relationships never last longer than two months.   When your relationship gets near the end of two months, your inner critic works hard to end your connection to prevent you from being hurt.   Becoming self-aware of your inner critic will help you to stop self-sabotaging relationships. The good news is that you can have long-lasting relationships.  With greater awareness, you will notice when you get caught in the old stories that get you into trouble in your relations ..read more

It takes courage to ask for help and be willing to explore what is going on within your mind, body and heart.  Good for you if you have chosen to work with a therapist. Finding the right therapist is like finding the right partner. You need to find a person that you trust. If you pay attention to your inner wisdom, you will know when you have met the right person because it will feel just right. Remember, though: Your therapist is not a god, and it is always okay to disagree with them. Read More on Your Tango: Click Here ..read more