Welcome to 2020!!! The year of great things. Its been a while since I jotted my dating exploits down. I decided to take a break somewhere around November 2019, to focus on the holidays and family. I mean lets face it, at that point, more guys out there are looking towards the holidays too and they are not really focused on seriously relationships, they probably look for someone to hang with for the holidays and that’s it (at least that what I think).  So I decided to take a break. To be honest it was refreshing not having to check dating apps, check for messages, swipe left, swipe right ..read more

So back to the dating sites and profile setup. When setting up my profile, I decided not to reveal too much or hold back too much. I wanted a profile that would reveal a bit of who I was, but also spark some interest and curiosity to those coming across it. So I give a hint of who I was, but also opened the door for questions from interested users. I tried to find some balance. So I set my preference in what I am looking for, made sure deal breakers were pointed out. Let’s face it, he needs to have a JOB. I can’t for the life of me figure out why someone would want to date a man (or woman ..read more

I can’t remember the last time I was excited to date. In fact, I have been so focused on my career, family, church, that a little flirting here and there constituted of “dating” for me. As a woman, a black and disabled woman, I find the “three strikes”, already against me when it comes to getting ahead. I have had to work twice as hard in a field that is mostly occupied by men (IT), and being black, I have to work twice as hard for that promotions or awards. Lastly, being a woman with a slight hearing impairment, I have had to work harder to overcome the stigma that comes with my disability ..read more

It has been a while since I wrote something about the dating scene. I have been battling what I thought was the flu, sinus infection and eventually diagnosed as Bronchitis. It has been a terrible couple of weeks, just pushing through the heavy congestion and cough. But thankful, I am feeling much better now and back to myself. So I got back online, trying to see what I have missed after these past couple of weeks ( I mean who cares about dating when you can’t even breath without using your mouth?). I really missed nothing. I did have a couple of messages that had me excited, but when I fina ..read more

It’s been a min since I did a post. The flu bug hit me for a week, then just when I felt I was getting back to myself, my sinus flared up. Writing was impossible, the headaches and the congestion did me in. I am back now, feeling much better and have so much to share. So first of all, last time we left off with my pending date with “James”, this never happened. I checked my in box to see when we would be meeting up, “James” was gone. Did he check this blog (oops)? I don’t know whether he felt I was not all interested, I mean we did have some great conversation, but I did not give him my ..read more

This week has been interesting. The “well” so to speak, was up and flowing once again. I have been chatting with about three different guys. Two of them are not people I would normally be attracted to. The other one is exactly “my type”. However, he seems to be showing less interesting in our conversation or in meeting. Why does this always happen though? It seems like the ones you are attracted to and want to meet are the ones that show the least interest, whilst the ones you are barely attracted to show the most interest!!!! Which brings me to the question of the day – “Should you go out ..read more

There seems to be a “famine” happening on the dating sites. I have not really had a good match the past week. In fact, for the past week, all I have had are “likes” from some very older men. Here is when this dating thing gets a bit hard. In the beginning, you are excited with all the “likes” and messages you are receiving, but once you start weeding out the “frogs” from potential “princes”, the pickings start getting slim to none. Times likes these the one thing I want to do is just sign off and give up. I mean is this really worth it, I ask myself. It just so happens I was watching an epi ..read more

So here we are, “Second Period”. I have been active on the dating sites the past few days. I have even done some online research about how to make your profile pop out, get the responses you want and so much more. I must admit it’s been a lot of fun so far. These dating sites are like grocery stores. There are endless aisles of “fruits” and “vegetables” to choose from. Of course you know, there are the good veggies and bad veggies. I sometimes watch people at the grocery store, you know how they pick up a fruit and sniff at it – as if the smell tells them “this is good” or “this is bad”. So ..read more

So what made the Pastor so excited to get on this love boat again you ask? Well, one of my favorite people (who we will call LovelyM) introduce me to someone she thought I should meet. She talked about this person a lot and got my interest piqued. So I decided  I would meet “Gary”. LovelyM passed out the digits to both of us. I started deliberating on when I should contact him; should I wait a day, or two, or three? You know how “they” say you should not try to appear to eager/desperate? Well he took that decision out of my hands, he called the same day. Now one of the main issues with dati ..read more