Inhale... exhale.... inhale.... exhale - This is the current theme of my life. I'm taking it day by day and breath by breath. It's been long enough since my divorce, that I probably shouldn't reference it anymore... however there is not a set time on trauma recovery. I have healed (mostly), my ex and I are in a good place, my kids are doing amazing and I'm moving forward with my life. The most difficult thing that I face now - is myself. When I look in the mirror, I see the demons that I've allowed to speak to me for the last almost 4 years, and they are ugly. They say ugly things, try to get ..read more

Have you ever felt so frustrated with life that you just want to scream as loud as you can to the top of your lungs and then punch something as hard as you can - Yes, you have - because you are human. If you are currently there, then let's make a club. You know one of those funny named clubs we used to make in middle school that only a few people knew about. My 8th grade friends group made one and named it Family. We labeled everyone in the group as mom, dad, brother, sister, aunt, uncle and so on. It was ridiculous... but really we just wanted to make our crush the "dad" and us the "mom". If ..read more

Don't you hate it when someone posts something on social media that only gives you half of the story? They share a poem or a meme that you know is meant for someone to see and hopefully get the point they are trying to make without having to say it to them directly... only to leave the rest of us completely clueless as to what the heck is going on in their life. I apologize in advance... this blog is like those posts. Greetings my precious readers. Forgive my hiatus. I know I haven’t blogged in a while… and truth be known - I have a lot to blog about. Unfortunately, I’m torn between the rock a ..read more

If you've heard a Taylor Swift song, are a single woman and are honest with yourself... then you can most definitely relate to Taylor's tell it like it is lyrics. I am one of those honest women... I remember when I first separated... I didn't tell anyone outside of my immediate family and my bestie. I was feeling embarrassed, ashamed, hurt and not ready to talk about the split. Lots of processes to go through after a tragedy... and one lie we tell ourselves - we have to keep up appearances. We don't - but we feel like we do... Anyway, I digress -  One Thursday night my unknowing work crew ..read more

Ladies do you ever find yourself having a bad day and no matter what you try it just won't turn around? And I'm not talking about a bad hair day... I'm talking about from the time you wake up til the time you go to bed, if it could go wrong, it went wrong, bad day.  Bad days are part of life. We have good days and bad days and meh days and extraordinary days and everything in between days. We seem to handle the good days well and most of the bad days pretty well but then there are those days that just knock the wind out of you.  I won't bore you with my overly dramatic details of bad ..read more

Day by day... minute by minute... one breath at a time. This has been my New Year's resolution to myself. With the way my life is going, I couldn't imagine committing myself to anything as crazy as losing 20lbs, buying a house, paying off all my debt or even checking off a fun thing on my bucket list. Don't get me wrong - I'm inspired by all of my friends getting up at 5am and hitting the gym, those committed to getting that promotion this year, planning that dream vacation - but for me - waking up, taking a shower and remembering to brush my teeth means I'm living my best life... LOL. Okay ..read more

When you have to practice what you preach... sometimes you eat your words. About one month ago tragedy struck our home. Tragedies come in all shapes and sizes and affect everyone at some point in their life... or many times throughout our lives. Some of us feel like we can't get through one tornado before another one strikes. Life certainly isn't always easy... but God never promised us easy. He promised us something greater. An eternity with Him. I will not share the specifics of this particular battle our family is facing but you can insert your own experiences and we can empathize with one ..read more

Blogging is not for the faint of heart. I must admit, when my blog started to incorporate my divorce/dating journey, the feedback from others increased tremendously. This has definitely helped me grow some thick skin. The feedback (sometimes good... sometimes not so good) that has come from sharing my personal stories, opinions and experiences has definitely helped me see that not everyone sees things the way that I do in the dating world...lol... It appears I have struck a lot of nerves, in a lot of people, and those people don't mind letting me know. I try to take it in stride and keep pushi ..read more

 As Christmas is quickly approaching and we are in the thick of the season I find myself feeling more grinchy than jolly. I work in retail. We've been playing Christmas songs since November 1. The decorations have been up since before Thanksgiving and the shoppers have been less than kind this year.  I love what I do - I sell diamonds - but I'm reminded every day of how materialistic this world has become. Now don't get me wrong. I love gift giving and receiving just as much as the next person... but for me Christmas is about the love of God and His gift to us... Jesus. And - since t ..read more

I posted this meme on my social media page a few days ago and it caused quite a stir. What seemed like a very cut and dry meme to me was the complete opposite for some others. Apparently it opened some wounds that were not quite healed, provoked unforgiveness lingering in some and made me a "bad" Christian for sharing. I've grown some pretty thick skin since my divorce... so with my formidable defenses in place I decided to respond to the comments on my Facebook page and share my heart. This action is second nature to some, but the old me would have simply deleted the post and moved on. I ha ..read more