What is Love in an Abusive Relationship? According to the Women’s Equality Party, 1.2 million women suffer Domestic Abuse each year in the UK. In the recent Sally Challen case, the verdict was changed from murder of her husband, to manslaughter. Despite the years of abuse she had suffered at his hands, Sally said how much she regretted the whole incident and that she missed her husband and still loved him. ... but I still love himI have been told by people who work with abused women, and have heard it myself, that they often finish their sad tales with the words ‘…but I still love him.’ T ..read more

What do you think of Female Led Relationships? You may or may not have heard this term before. I encountered it while creating my How to Find Love in Middle Life course. I was surprised how often the term Female Led Relationship is Googled. The meaning of the words speak for themselves but they are easily misinterpreted. The default understanding is of a bullying wife and a hen-pecked husband who does his best to keep out of the way and avoid trouble by agreeing to anything. Also, we often hear the expression ‘She wears the Trousers’, meaning what she says goes! This modern defi ..read more

Hello  Here is a video of the live talk I gave from stage about The Changing Face of Love and the different approach that Midlife Women should take to get the lifestyle and lovestyle they want in later life. Click here to watch it  I hope you like the result (just under 10 minutes) and will give me your candid feedback. Click here to watch it  Love                  M The post Video -The Changing Face of Love and How to Find it in Middle Life! appeared first on Love & The New Midlife Woman ..read more

Midlife …What? What is your immediate thought following the word ‘Midlife’?A friend on Facebook drew my attention to the most likely answer which is ‘crisis’, as in Midlife Crisis.  Probably 9 out of 10 people would give that answer. Yet for the last few years I have been promoting the term Midlife Woman and I didn’t mean that she is in crisis. . I didn’t invent the term Midlife.  It comes from one of my heroines, Marianne Williamson. She wrote the book The Age of Miracles – Embracing the New Midlife first published in 2008.Although the Midlife con ..read more

Hello Many midlife women would prefer not to be reminded about St Valentine’s Day because it reminds them of the love they are not getting. If this rings with you, you aren’t alone. Lots of Midlife Women are experiencing a Love Deficit. That means they feel they are giving out much more love than they are getting back. The most important source of love is your intimate partner. You may have a supposedly ‘loving partner’ but you know you are not going to get a Valentine’s Card from them. You look back to earlier times, when that love was hot, and wonder where it went? Should I go or shoul ..read more

Recently a midlife woman friend asked me where does the idea come from that a Prince Charming character will come along to take care of and provide for you? In her life of several partnerships, she had to do most of the caring for him and the family, and often do the providing too. Her experience may not be common but nonetheless there’s a deep-rooted belief that a Prince Charming will come along, sweep you off your feet and take care of you and the family for the rest of your life. I am sure it has been known to happen, but it is not that typical. And when it comes to midlife relationshi ..read more

Most of love songs and poems claim that their love is undying and will never change.  However, experience and observation tell us that love changes as we grow older, a. Cupid and Love are blind, so watch out! Many couples who experience that heady romantic love end up living together but barely tolerating each other’s company. They stay together because they fear that they won’t find anything better. A few couples stay together in a lifelong loving relationship, but the nature of that love changes. The best way to illustrate this is to look at the way a couple of teenagers love each oth ..read more

If you are a midlife woman looking for love, you may be confused and disappointed at the way most midlife men come across. Unfortunately, it is an occupational hazard for midlife women to find themselves looking for a new love partner. It may be that your long-term partner dies or walks out. Or, perhaps your partner is still around, but love has walked out. Maybe you have already started looking round for a replacement partner to provide the love you need. How have you found it? Have you been disappointed or confused by the attitudes and behaviour of the midlife men who have come your way? Do ..read more

RIP Jeanne Moreau – Classic New Midlife Woman Last year we heard of the death of Jeanne Moreau. She was, to my mind, one of the best examples of a powerful but feminine midlife woman, both in the roles she played and in her independent minded personal life. You have to be ‘of a certain age’, as the French say, to remember her breakthrough portrayal of an independent minded midlife woman in the 1962 film ‘Jules et Jim’ – see pictures.   It could be said she broke the mould and set the tone for the new woman of that time.  Even today is a wonderful model for the New Mid ..read more

What do Midlife Women Want? My First Radio Interview Just did my first radio interview about my book, Love Sex and the Midlife Woman, and the New Midlife Woman Community on Salford City Radio. Not as daunting as I feared thanks to the cool professionalism Dena and Bonnie. Click here or on the picture for the recording.   It is only just over 8 minutes long. Let me know if you have any feedback. Please email jean@lovemidlifewoman.com Love The post What do Midlife Women Want? – Radio Interview appeared first on Love & The New Midlife Woman ..read more