Missing our former partner may be the most defining emotion we experience after the end of a relationship. It’s absolutely natural to miss someone, especially if that person played a large role in our lives. And it’s also natural for this feeling to come and go rather unexpectedly. The end of the relationship also means […] The post Do you miss her, or do you miss how she made you feel? appeared first on Rapid Breakup Recovery ..read more

I worked with a business coach over the span of a couple of months. As of this writing we’re no longer working together and also not in touch with one another. The reason I think this story is worth sharing with you is because the storyline of a simple working relationship has some interesting things […] The post How I stopped working with my business coach and what it taught me about breakups appeared first on Rapid Breakup Recovery ..read more

I received an email from a reader and would like to take the time to respond. I will comment inline as I think that will give us all the most insights. Subject: Please help me get my ex back I hope this email finds you well. I’m going through pain and sadness. I’m hurting. I’m […] The post Why did she start doing X on social media? appeared first on Rapid Breakup Recovery ..read more

During a negotiation, one of the most powerful positions to have, is one where you have the power to walk away. If the other person needs something from you more than you need something from them, you will wield the majority of the power in the negotiation. We can use the same lens to look at […] The post Always be willing to walk away appeared first on Rapid Breakup Recovery ..read more

When we’re in love we feel amazing and we tend to think the person we’re in love with is uniquely suited to be with us. We believe they are irreplaceable. It takes a failed relationship (or several) to realize that this absolutist mindset is a built-in feature of love. It’s part of the diagnosis. It’s […] The post Feelings aren’t truths appeared first on Rapid Breakup Recovery ..read more

One of the most valuable lessons there is to learn about weathering the emotional storm of a breakup is realizing that the pain, the sadness, the negative emotions, all come in waves. When we’re experiencing the emotion, and the experience is such that we are “inside” the emotion, it’s easy to forget that what we’re […] The post Why does the sadness come in waves? appeared first on Rapid Breakup Recovery ..read more

Here’s another common trap I see guys fall into. They say something like this: I shouldn’t be feeling this way it’s been 6 months (or longer)! or I shouldn’t be feeling this way, we only date for 6 months (or shorter)! or I shouldn’t be feeling this way, she’s obviously moved on! What trap are […] The post I shouldn’t be feeling this way! appeared first on Rapid Breakup Recovery ..read more

I often get questions about what to do with gifts that were a present from the ex. Throwing away seems too harsh, or nonsensical (in the case of, say, a fine watch). Giving it back is a not a good idea because it can easily come across as being some type of statement. Plus it […] The post What to do with gifts? appeared first on Rapid Breakup Recovery ..read more

Hi Jesse, I think it’s sugar coating reality when you say she isn’t lying. Well I can’t agree with it. When a woman left you for another guy and goes into the relationship with him, you know, she didn’t pull him out of the closet, so he has to be around and to prove himself […] The post I can’t agree when you say she isn’t lying appeared first on Rapid Breakup Recovery ..read more

There’s a class of reasons for breaking up with someone that I call “The easy let-down”. It’s when someone’s feelings have changed to the point where they don’t want to be in a romantic relationship with the other person anymore (Passionate Love). At the same time they still feel camaraderie and Affectionate Love for the […] The post The easy let-down appeared first on Rapid Breakup Recovery ..read more