Some people argue men don’t like drama. Is this entirely true? Two months ago, Susan Winter brought up a topic that bothers many people: Why do some men claim not to want drama but are attracted to such endeavors? https://susanwinter.net/ To understand why this happens, we must comprehend how attachment styles play a role in these dynamics. The answer is: It’s not you, it’s them. Bear in mind that being a good partner will never be a threat to someone, despite internal insecurities, and will remain in your dynamic to work things out. However, do not demonize these folks. Remember, if you are ..read more

Dr. Catherine Wilkins’ book ‘The Soul’s Brain offers readers a new background about how intuition works, leading humans to unexplored territories, freedom, and biodiversity. How much aren’t we enmeshed with troubled thoughts by somebody else conversations, dressing down our possibilities to grow outside of our valley? Intuition is more than clairvoyance, telepathy, or empathy. It is a clear sense of integrity and the possibility to express a more expanded version of ourselves. Therefore, when deeply connected with our foresight sense without fear, we move ourselves outside an emotional hypoch ..read more

It has been a long time since I wrote my last article on ‘Ouso Escrever’. Teaching took all my time, in a positive way for sure, but I also felt like not having anything to say. Curiously enough, thoughts emerged in my head after hearing some people in the coffee shop talking about life and relationships, reminding me of Susan David’s “People these days have dead people’s goals” quote because they don’t want to risk anything or get any trouble from life. Isn’t that an impossible task to achieve? False positivity is feeding an intrinsic false sense of self and perfection myth. It is also curiou ..read more

Returning to a teaching career has been a great experience, not only because I love my students but also because I’m saying goodbye to my country, positively impacting and serving those around me. I’ve gone through moments of profound introspection, but since yesterday I’ve been feeling a deep sadness surrounding my body and mind. Ten years have passed since my grandfather left this world, and I miss him (terribly) today. Looking back, I wouldn’t change a thing about my life, but as far as I can see/feel, I’m not starting from zero because I’ve got all those experiences inside my pocket. Confu ..read more

Relating with another human being can make or break us. I’ve written here that our attachment style shapes all areas of our lives: romantic relationships, friendships, workplace relationships, and other social circumstances, even the way we deal with or think about money is influenced by it. Therefore I would like you to listen today to Thais Gibson’s video, where she talks about how someone (man or woman) might feel when having a relationship with a dismissive avoidant individual. I might add that now that I am teaching again, attachment style and knowing about it can be a positive tool to de ..read more

As Mirren Stallen et al (2018) pointed out in their study called “Neurobiological mechanisms of responding to injustice” when the human brain faces injustice or unfairness, the anterior insula, the amygdala, and oxytocin play a significant role in how we feel towards a particular situation. Unfortunately, injustice happens every day, but what are the damages to the “victims”? And why are violators blessed with impunity? When we look at social hierarchy, it is evident that unfairness and injustice begin when those who govern our countries create laws enabling corruption. But harshly persecute ..read more

This question can be ridiculous for most of us, but is it that ridiculous? When talking about job opportunities or even the money some “stars” earn on the internet without any qualification, it’s easy to understand that in this present society, in some cases, the possession of university qualifications isn’t equal to receiving a decent salary.  More ugly is the proliferation of Onlyfan and TikTok accounts, with thousands and millions of followers feeding impressive digital creators. Yes, the creator is the word they use to describe themselves. Is a porn Onlyfan account prestigious for the ..read more

Recently the world has emerged in what I call the madness era of pronouns, the nightmare of well-perceived narcissistic tendencies of people from both barricades emerging from the darkness. Never in our history have we seen so many entities talking about genes, human biology, hormones, and other stuff to justify their positions. Some of these “experts” with dead careers have found a way to emerge and perhaps get sympathy from ignorant portions of society, feeding the political and dreadful environments where LGBTQI+ organizations and conservatism coexist. This ‘conversation’ about what a woman ..read more

The kindness of strangers movie directed by Lone Scherfig amplifies the meaning of kindness. But also what really means empathy. If anger can take away joy and freedom of the spirit, empathy and kindness have the power to transform lives while giving some hope. The lightness washes away the perpetual feeling of emptiness. What separates us from others, if not the irrational need to contempt instead of just saying: “I need your help”. What about stonewalling? Aren’t sometimes vocabulary a way to strip others from their dignity? Every single day we are facing cases of domestic violence around th ..read more

This article won’t be long demagogy about what is correct or not because it’s obvious to everyone that this war between Russia and Ukraine is the result of profound disregard for the sovereignty/autonomy of one nation. However, everyone should learn something from it and apply the lesson taken into their lives. We are all part of one cultural, social, and family system. But we cannot be judged for being part of that system just because it represents our nationality. Vladimir Putin doesn’t represent all Russians, but all Russians will suffer the repercussions of his decisions and actions. Is i ..read more