But really, are you still remembering to date? It can feel impossible to squeeze a date in if we don’t make it a priority. With the adjustments to our new daily norm, schooling my three most of the day, working, kids on Zoom, me on Zoom, altered work schedules, dishes, cooking, we had just forgotten to make it happen. We schedule date nights when life is in normal time, but realized we weren’t being intentional about us with the adjusting that we had done, and work demands got the best of us. We definitely have felt the need and desire to connect ‘kidless‘ since our norm is not so norm. So, no ..read more

If you are being proactive, you are making things happen, instead of waiting for them to happen to you. Mamas, I’ve been thinking of you and all of the adjustments you’ve been forced to make unexpectedly in your home to your norm during this time. Everyone’s typical daily life looks different than usual, as we all know, so we’re finding our groove and what works for our family as we move along. What we might have typically planned out and orchestrated, been proactive about, was just put into our laps whether we were ready for it or not. The reality is, it’s new and different for all of us and ..read more

When I see people broken, broken in spirit, broken in heart, it makes my heart hurt. It pokes at me because I know that it didn’t happen over night. It was a series of events, or a lack there of that led to this hurt. I know it’s a little deep, but it’s just a reminder to me to continually aim and pry to get to the heart of my kids while I have the chance, even when they shut down and don’t want to share how their heart is feeling. In life we have many opportunities, or moments, to build trust and connect with others. It was Brené Brown who refers to these moments as marble jar moments to bui ..read more

As the saying goes, ‘Aim at nothing and you’ll hit it every time.’ This can apply to every aspect of your life, right? Whether it’s growth in your personal life, your spiritual walk, your education, your profession, your physical goals, your marriage, if you have no goals or expectations for yourself, how are you going to get there? If it’s not clearly defined, determined, stated, or proclaimed, how do you know, and work towards that goal? My husband and I both feed off each other, our wheels turn in different capacities, but we are continually trying to define and refresh our goals, and targ ..read more

Kids, in general, are need of a whole lot. I’m not talking about material things or the basic necessities, but what they need from us regarding their character building throughout their life. This is a reminder to not become weary of doing good. Are we being intentional about character training and instilling and modeling the virtues that we as a family stand for? Children, our children, that have been put in our care to be trained and raised to become the adults they will once be, are affected greatly by us. Daily, they need our patience (or at least our best attempt at it), our long-term vi ..read more

Things, you, people, circumstances, bad habits, perspectives, marriages, finances, outcomes can change if you choose to admit it, seek wise counsel and put the work in. Are there some things we just don’t have control of? Absolutely. I’m not saying you can do anything and change everybody, and everything in your path, we are not the Creator or determiner of all, obviously, but I’m talking about the things we do have control of, or the ability to have an impact on. This thought came about when my husband and I were talking about our kids’ personalities and the different ways they are wired up ..read more

I talk about perspective a lot, and it’s because I truly believe it matters. It can change your daily mode and outlook each and every day if you choose. It’s a choice, your choice. It’s not always easy, but it takes intentionality and practice in order to make it a rhythm and habit to become a norm, your norm. Something we say in our home is, practice makes permanent. So if you are practicing for yourself, you better believe your tribe will catch it too. When you start seeing the world, battles you’re facing, stresses, tough relationships, or frustrations, with a different lens, it helps take ..read more

We love our babies more than we could ever vocalize, right? Like we would jump in front of a car and risk our own life for them kind of sacrificial love. It’s a type of love that we are unable to put into words kind of love, you get it. We have so much love for them that it hurts our hearts to see our kids in pain or muddle through tough waters, but we know, as mature and seasoned adults that bumps and valleys are a normal part of life. Our children will need to be ready and equipped to face their own bumps as life goes on. The truth is, life will go on despite of the hurdle that we need to pe ..read more

This is for you mamas who are in the trap of letting others, and their comments or opinions, dictate your self-worth, or make you question your abilities in the role you possess. Your heart is beautiful, and your intentions are rooted in love for the ones you deeply care about more than anyone else. I’m sure there has been a time or two when I have been talked about for going against the grain, or against someone else’s preferences, it’s inevitably going to happen in life, right? There’s a strength and boldness that clothes you when you are grounded in knowing who you are, and why you do what ..read more

Imagine you were told you had one year left to live, or perhaps even five. I’d assume many of us would instantly make a bucket list and anxiously begin to check those items off! I bring this up not to be sad and solemn about it, especially when this is some people’s real reality and news they’ve been given, but to realize that this is reality, we just don’t know yet. Truly, our time here on Earth in not guaranteed, so don’t miss those opportunities. I’d assume you’d make some phone calls, or possibly reallocate your time and what you choose to spend it on, maybe you would find it in your heart ..read more