Let’s be honest.  Most of us enjoy knowing where are headed tomorrow, where our next check is coming from, whether or not we can see family or plan trips.  Unfortunately, that it not a luxury that most of us have right now. Living in uncertainty is hard.  I would say that most of the fights, arguments, and issues that we have been facing in the last months have been because we don’t know how to deal with not knowing.  Thinking you know what will happen is like thinking you have a sense of control over a situation. All we can do is wait for a job to come, or wait for and une ..read more

There is a saying that goes “let your haters be your motivators.” It might sound like a good idea…right? Take the negative and use it as motivation. Although it may sound good, it’s a terrible idea. I have never liked or agreed with this quote. Photo by Julias Torten und Tu00f6rtchen on Pexels.com Hatred is not good for your spirit. Jealousy and envy are bad. The energy they bring is bad. Going out of your way to make people envy you and hate you bring along with it the vibrational energy of hate. It is just as bad as being envious of someone or hating them. Everything is energy. Everything is ..read more

Projection happens when people try to mirror their inner conflicts on to you. It happens all the time. When I say all the time I mean all the time. It’s a way a person defends themselves and attributes the traits that they are secretly unhappy about in themselves onto you. I wasn’t always so cognizant of what was happening when people were projecting negativity onto me. Spiritually it feels like your being a punching bag for something that you didn’t deserve.  I noticed it coming from every angle and didn’t know how to stop it. Ironically, it doesn’t matter if a person has less than you ..read more

Heyy Friends! I have been gone from writing for a while because I’m expecting a baby boy! His father and I are very excited!  When I found out that I was pregnant I had so many emotions that I didn’t feel like writing anything for a long time.  It was a happy time for me, but I soon realized that the people around me wouldn’t take it so well and/or started doing the rudest things. March is Women’s History month, and today is actually Women’s Day! In light of that I would like to share with you… Things Not To Say To A Pregnant Woman “He’s going to be so big” I don’t know if this is ..read more

If you have been with me for a while, then you know that I vowed to give up weave. I had many reasons why. If you would like to see all of my various reasons please read my previous blog “Why I Won’t Be Wearing Weaves For A While.” Long story short, it all started when I found out that women across the world were being exploited, physically harmed, and not compensated for the collection of their that is being sold. I thought to myself that can’t be good for a person’s spirit. You pray, meditate and overall try to have the most positive energy around you…yet on the very top your head is exploit ..read more

I have been dating my Black British boyfriend for a little over a year, and the assumptions that people make and the questions that people ask can get to be pretty ridiculous.  I get mad sometimes, but then I realize that media often portrays people in a very limited way (as they do all over the world.)  Don’t get me wrong… if given the two options I would always prefer a person to ask a question that is stupid and get an answer than to make and assumption. All of these questions made me wonder what other questions and stereotypes about dating outside of American culture there are. I ..read more

I will start by saying that I value friendship. My close friends are like family to me. I am not the girl who says “I don’t have any female friends” or “I don’t get along with women.”  I do not feel that my gender is inferior. Women are more than capable of getting along with one another. I do not believe that being friends with women is any more difficult than being friends with men. Now that I’ve gotten that out of the way, while I value friendship it can be exhausting.  Being a friend to someone comes with a level of forgiving and turning the other cheek that can be a lot to ..read more

A lot has been going on. I haven’t written in a while because I am someone who only likes to write when I have something to say. I hope that all of you are doing well and staying safe. If you need to talk make sure you email me heyyfriendblog@gmail.com As an introvert I was doing well with the beginning of Covoid-19.  I have never needed to be near people.  I am friendly and I have a lot of people around me at times, but I don’t need them to be.  The older that I grow, the more that I don’t like to have people with negative energy around me.  In the beginning it was so much ..read more

I remember my first experience with online dating. It was back in the days on MySpace. It was a time when everyone thought if you dated someone online then they were crazy. I even thought it was crazy at the time.  A guy sent me a message and we started conversing. To my surprise he was a lot nicer than the guys that I was coming in contact with in person.  This is when I realized that the internet opens you up to greater possibility. You can meet people outside of your general neighborhood or workplace. I have online dated on and off for years. As I got older I was less and less int ..read more

Serves: 2 Prep time: A while! Please be patient. Total time: Forever… once you get started you will have to continue. Ingredients Attentiveness | 2 drizzles Kindness | 3 cups An Open Mind | 1 whole unbiased mind Humility | 1 whole soul Patience | A dash of calm Compromise | 1 pinch (to taste) Directions Grab your patience and attentiveness and blend well.  You could try to use substitutes for this step, but the outcome will not be the same unless you use these specific ingredients.  You will need both your patience and attentiveness to listen and not to just react on impulse. You ma ..read more