If your marriage is currently struggling, understand that many marriages struggle because they have never discovered this one little trick that will totally transform their marriage. Not knowing this, can be one of the biggest obstacles to an amazing and thriving marriage. Outside of God, this is probably one of the most important things that helped us in our marriage. In fact, until we fully understood this part,  everything we did only had minimal effects. But once we got this right, everything was so much easier. So, let’s jump right in then, shall we? It’s All About Mindset! What we a ..read more

Many couples struggle with poor communication because they are dealing (or not dealing) with some past resentments or issues. If you are still holding onto past issues and resentments, this exercise will go along way in helping you work through those things. So, let’s not waste any more time here. It’s Time to Put the Past Behind You– where it belongs! 5 Step Process to Destroy Past Resentments Forever! Pick a time and place to discuss the issue or past resentment. Plan for a time when no one is around in a quiet space with no technology, no kids and no interruptions! You also want to fi ..read more

The Silent Treatment is another one of those games that some people are far too good at. Some people like to yell, some like to use sarcasm and wit and others like to use silence to make their point. When on the receiving end of the silent treatment, it can seem like an extremely unfair tactic- especially if you are a talker. But I would like us to take an unconventional look at what the Silent Treatment might actually mean and how to use it for the benefit or advantage of our marriage. Silence As A Tool Okay, so let’s be honest, some people may use the silent treatment as a tool or tactic to ..read more

THE BLAME GAME- NOT FUN! He said… she said… he did… she did…it’s the oldest game in the book. It’s the BLAME GAME— but it’s not very fun! The blame game and pointing the finger goes well beyond our marriage. In fact, it is a game that every culture, every language, and probably every person on the face of this planet knows all too well. It starts off as kids. If you have children, you already know what we are talking about! But even if you don’t have children- take a journey back in your mind to when you were a kid, or just look at any group of children today and you will see that they already ..read more

Good Communication can be tricky in almost any situation but in marriage it can become almost impossible sometimes. Then there are those times when it DOES become impossible. For one reason or another, one or both spouses either shuts down or just won’t shut up. When this happens, there is very little that can be accomplished. Let’s take a look. When Your Spouse Shuts Down What to do when your spouse shuts down! So, you are in the middle of a conversation, you feel as if you are beginning to make some progress and then your spouse just shuts down. What do you do? Or every time you begin to dis ..read more

“Things will never be right between you and your spouse until you get things right between you and God”  I will never forget the day I heard those words. They completely changed the course of my marriage . . . and my life. Almost 25 years ago, my wife and I were separated for the 3rd time and headed straight for a divorce. Six hundred miles and five months of no talking separated us from any chance of reconciliation- all hope was lost. Then a chance meeting with a minister. His name was Clifford Smith. He was an unqualified counselor (his words). But what my new friend, Cliff told me chan ..read more

If your marriage is currently struggling, understand that many marriages struggle because they have never discovered this one little trick that will totally transform their marriage. Not knowing this, can be one of the biggest obstacles to an amazing and thriving marriage. Outside of God, this is probably one of the most important things that helped us in our marriage. In fact, until we fully understood this part,  everything we did only had minimal effects. But once we got this right, everything was so much easier. So, let’s jump right in then, shall we? It’s All About Mindset! What we a ..read more

There are lots of well-meaning counselors and relationship books who will tell you to never use the words ‘never’ and ‘always’ when having an argument.  You know how it goes- she says “you always treat me this way…” etc. Then he says “well you never give me any credit…” etc. The fact is that those words are rarely true and only serve to provoke the argument even more. So it is a good principle to try and not use those words- BUT we are not talking about that principle- we are talking about something completely different! ALWAYS AND NEVER ***There is one always and one never I want you to ..read more

If your marriage is currently struggling, understand that many marriages struggle because they have never discovered this one little trick that will totally transform their marriage. Not knowing this, can be one of the biggest obstacles to an amazing and thriving marriage. Outside of God, this is probably one of the most important things that helped us in our marriage. In fact, until we fully understood this part,  everything we did only had minimal effects. But once we got this right, everything was so much easier. So, let’s ..read more

PUT THE PAST BEHIND YOU Many couples struggle with poor communication because they are dealing (or not dealing) with some past resentments or issues. If you are still holding onto past issues and resentments, this exercise will go along way in helping you work through those things. So, let’s not waste any more time here. It’s Time to put the Past BEHIND YOU- where it belongs! 5 Step Process to Destroy Past Resentments Forever! Pick a time and place to discuss the issue or past resentment. Plan for a time when no one is a ..read more