Today we're talking about what it means to "settle" in a relationship. We'll be discussing if it's okay to settle and what realistic expectations of a relationship should be, compromise, and whether or not we should hold out for a perfect relationship. We're going to look at research and surveys about finding partners who meet expectations, weigh some pros and cons of compromising versus never settling, and how someone can know if they're settling or being too inflexible. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory ..read more

This week we're tackling a question about sneaky hierarchy, aka sneakiarchy. We're talking about how to recognize it in future relationships, how to recognize when you might be creating it by accident, and more. If you want your question answered on a future Q&A episode, consider becoming a member of our Patreon community! Visit www.multiamory.com/join to sign up. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multia ..read more

Today we're talking about love languages, and taking a critical look at them to discuss whether or not they're actually as important as we make them out to be. We're going to go over some of the key assumptions behind the love languages and of course, look at what the research has to say. And finally, we discuss both the potential benefits and the possible pitfalls of relying too heavily on the love languages as a framework. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, gr ..read more

This week's Q&A episode is discussing couples' privilege and how to be cognizant of when it may affect interactions with other potential partners. If you want to submit a question to be answered on one of the extra Q&A episodes we're doing for the next few months, become one of our Patreon supporters at www.patreon.com/multiamory. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Wi ..read more

Today, we're talking about feeling possessive over a partner, the psychology and science behind it, and how even when non-monogamous, possessive feelings can still arise and create challenges for us. We'll even be discussing some times when a little bit of possessiveness can be a good thing! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Treat yourself to some stories to turn you on or help you drift off to sleep with an e ..read more

This week's question from our Patreon supporters is discussing initiating sex, foreplay, and mismatched communications. If you want to submit a question to be answered on one of the extra Q&A episodes we're doing for the next few months, become one of our Patreon supporters at www.patreon.com/multiamory. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily ..read more

This week's question from our Patreon supporters is discussing initiating sex, foreplay, and mismatched communications. If you want to submit a question to be answered on one of the extra Q&A episodes we're doing for the next few months, become one of our Patreon supporters at www.patreon.com/multiamory. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily ..read more

Nobody LIKES feeling uncomfortable...but today we're going to be looking at a few ways we sometimes avoid discomfort that may be making the problem worse instead of better. We're taking a good hard look at the emotions a lot of us prefer to avoid, how distractions and quick fixes aren't the best things to do all the time, and explore some techniques for reclaiming your ability to feel your emotions and improve your relationships. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episode ..read more

This week's question for our Q&A episode is addressing mismatched desire during busy, long-term partnered life and being stuck in "practical mode." If you want to submit a question to be answered on one of the extra Q&A episodes we're doing for the next few months, become one of our Patreon supporters at www.patreon.com/multiamory. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker W ..read more

Today we're joined by Jeff Guenther, also known online as TherapyJeff! Jeff has joined us to talk about what he does, therapy, non-monogamy, and much more! Jeff Guenther, aka TherapyJeff, is, according to him, the most handsome therapist on the internet and is an international treasure who made Portland Oregon cool when he moved there in 2005. Jeff dedicates his time to creating short videos for TikTok and Instagram, and hosting his weekly podcasts, 'Big Dating Energy' and Problem Solved.’ Honestly, we can’t believe he is on our show. What a blessing! Learn more about him at TherapyJeff.com ..read more