Photo by Markus Spiske from Pexels Where do I fit? This is a question that I’ve been asking myself a lot lately. I’m sure most people have asked themselves this question at some point in life, but this has been a question plaguing me for the past couple of years. While I’ve tried to push that question out of my mind, it’s always been there, hovering in the back like a ghost. Some people might attribute my questioning where I fit to the confusing state of the world, the fact that I’ve been confined to my home (for the most part) for months, or just that I’m getting older and pe ..read more

Photo by Toa Heftiba on Unsplash In my last post, I discussed how I was feeling left out, behind, and forgotten. I’d done everything I was “supposed” to do and hadn’t received what I thought I’d “earned” because, as you know,  I am still single. It’s something that we single people deal with (some of us from time to time and some struggle with these very real feelings every day). While I know that God has bigger things in mind for our lives and probably spends very little time focusing on our relationship/ marital status, as humans we are prone to temptation and turmoil when we see what o ..read more

I want to start off by saying that this post has been a difficult one for me to write. Not because I am reluctant to share my experience, but because I’m still on the journey to discover exactly what it means. I’ve been mulling it over for days and have come back to it several times because I’m unsure exactly what I want to say. I’m not sure how to explain my situation and I’m not sure what God has planned for this post, but the compulsion from the Holy Spirit keeps leading back to write something. I apologize in advance if it’s a bit haphazard, but this is a real moment that I wanted to shar ..read more

Photo by Milan Popovic on Unsplash The chaos of the shelter in place orders is starting to settle (at least in my state) as many of us try to establish a sense of normalcy with the drastic alterations to our daily lives. This is my third week of sheltering in place and while I know that there are several more weeks to go, I’ve already learned some very valuable lessons. While this post is not specifically pertinent to my usual topic of singleness, I feel like it’s valuable to discuss what can be learned from this strange and somewhat frightening experience. Rather than wallow and worry, I’m t ..read more

Just in case you’ve been in the desert and cut off from the rest of society for the past few weeks, let me be the first to tell you that the world has officially turned upside down! With all of the craziness surrounding COVID-19 and, depending on where you live, earthquakes, quarantines, toilet paper shortages, and general panic seem to have stricken our world. So how are we to cope?  I’ll be honest, as an introvert I’m not struggling with this quaratine as much as my more extroverted friends. With technology, I’m able to be in touch with my friends and family at least as much as I was befo ..read more

Featured image photo by Stefan Spassov on Unsplash Photo by Priscilla Du Preez on UnsplashDear fellow Christians: We all know that many Christian churches are great places to grow in a community and develop deeper relationships with Christ and His followers. Churches are places for Christians to improve themselves and learn. Places where we are prepped for our greater mission, to spread Christ’s love to others. It’s difficult, however, to grow and develop in a healthy way when you belong to a less “traditional” Christian demographic. (I realize that this can apply to several different ..read more

Photo by Daniel Reche from PexelsIn our modern world full of every influence imaginable, we will inevitably be exposed to both positive and negative messages. Our society tends to thrive on capitalizing on the fears and insecurities that people have. Marketers use those insecurities to sell us their products. People use those fears to exploit our emotions and manipulate us. And satan tries to use those insecurities and fears to drive a wedge between us and our ever loving Father. When you’re single, some of these lies can hit you hard and make you question things that you know to be true, e ..read more

Photo by Mwabonje from PexelsValentine’s day was this week (or Single’s awareness day, as I like to refer to it). Valentine’s day may be one of the more difficult times of year to be single because it highlights the couples around you and often makes those of us who are single feel all the more alone. It’s even more difficult if you don’t have many single friends to spend it with. I’ve been fortunate that I’ve always had at least one single friend to commiserate with on Valentine’s day. In this post, however, I wanted to highlight the things that we singles often hear from our well meaning mar ..read more

Photo by Andrew Neel on UnsplashIf you didn’t know, I am a big fan of musicals. There’s just something about when the ensemble cast breaks into song that always gives me the chills. This past New Year’s Eve, my sister and I got the chance to see the show Dear Evan Hansen and it was amazing. The show explores the angst of high school and the loneliness that many teens (and even adults) often feel. While not explicitly about the loneliness associated with being single, the message about feeling alone (especially in our overconnected world) still resonated with me in a more powerful way than I h ..read more

Guest Post by Corey Farr (The following is an excerpt from Corey’s book manuscript, “Single and Proud.” Check out Corey’s blog at https://www.coreyfarr.com/blog/categories/singleness ) “Wait, you’re a virgin?” she said to me. We hadn’t seen each other since high school. This isn’t exactly the kind of question you’d expect to come up in random small talk with a girl you haven’t seen in eight years and hadn’t been all that close to in the first place, but she had noticed the silver cross-engraved ring on my right hand and asked if I was married. “Nope, that’s the wrong hand,” I said wit ..read more