I have no one to talk to about this so here it goes. DD was a week ago, I caught my WP with his AP in his house. He had no idea I was coming, but I had a feeling he was lying to me that day. He said he was going to a family gathering in another city. My intuition and gut feeling told me to check and see if his car is parked at his house. And it was. I got the courage to knock on the door. He ignored the first knock and opened the second time (there’s no way to check who’s outside unless you actually just open the door, so he didn’t know it was me knocking). He opens the door and looked like h ..read more

D-Day was almost 4 months ago for me. I just found out my WS will be going overseas for a year. This is not his decision, but also something he can’t change. We’ve been going to MC, but I don’t see myself trusting him anytime soon. I just don’t know what to do. It all started the first time he went overseas. Then it happened again in the states. I’ve noticed him trying to change. I just don’t know. Part of me still wants a D and part wants to R. Is it even worth it if I’m going to be on edge for a whole year wondering what he could be doing again behind my back? This time, we have a baby who ..read more

I get frustrated. People need to stop saying they will regret it and miss you. They won't, and they won't call back. They did not care and won't care about the harsh reality I started realizing after 4 months post-breakup. He moved on with them, and Karma does not exist. We need to move on because we deserve someone who cares for us. submitted by /u/Expensive-Rope715 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

Been dealing with cheating for years. Last found evidence in like November of last year. He agreed to a tracking/accountability app both ways the other day. Right beforehand he mentioned his music phone broke. I had thought of it before but felt like I needed to check it after that. Came over today and it was by the couch like he was using it. He moved it to the place he put it yesterday. Looked at it when he laid down. There was a tinder notification. He had a few conversations from the beginning of April when we almost broke up. His data usage says it's been used since January. Also found a ..read more

TLDR: Cheated on my gf, she found out after I stopped cheating. We haven't broken up yet but we also haven't committed to rebuilding our relationship. She is great but since starting my masters abroad, I haven't had the best mental health and think very negatively about myself. I didn't enjoy cheating and it didn't bring me any comfort. I want to try and rebuild our relationship. How can we recover? Background: My girlfriend (23F) and I (23M) have been in a relationship for over 4 years. It has been the healthiest relationship I have been in (even though I've only been in one other relationsh ..read more

For those that have been cheated on and are still in the relationship with their WS, have you found communicating with your WS a huge amount of effort? I really have zero interest in discussing daily life (ie work, friends, life events). It seems pointless. We talk to people because we are interested in knowing what’s going on in their life, I have zero interest in knowing what’s going on with WS. I have a huge amount of anger, which I don’t see going away anytime soon, maybe ever. Just curious about others experiences. Thank you. submitted by /u/Low_Celebration_2431 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

Dday was 6 weeks ago now, she filled for divorce 10 weeks ago. We are stuck living together till its all finalized. We sleep in different beds/rooms. We have had sex twice since dday. The first time I was really hoping it was going to somehow change things (the classic pick me dance). The next day I felt a great deal of shame. This time today I was way more okay with it not changing anything. The weirder part too is while it was happening, I was having some thoughts of her cheating, but for some reason it didnt really bother me like I thought it would have or I read in The Betrayed Spouse it ..read more

The title says it all. Here is some context. I was in a 2 year long relationship. For several months I had an unsettling feeling that my boyfriend was cheating on me with a coworker. There were many red flags, but every time I confronted him, he would gaslight me. I kept telling myself that he could never do something like that to me. Looking back, I realize how naive that was. We broke up because the relationship fell apart. At the time of our breakup. I did not know for sure that he was cheating on me. About a week after we broke up he told me he booked a trip to Jamaica. He even kept in to ..read more

Hello, all! This is my reddit vent account, and since I have needed some support for unrelated to cheating issues, I opened it again and saw this community and would like to talk again about how things did get better. I don't even remember how much time ago was my D-Day, but I remember I couldn't really understand my feelings and this made me so confused. I remember being completely broken and asking over and over again if I'd ever feel better or find love again, if life would move or if I'd just stay broken and sad. This group, Chump lady and some other reddit communities have quite literall ..read more

I’m just wondering how you all handled Dday. Me personally, I lost my shit. I was yelling and screaming. We live in apartment. With my yelling, everyone in the home could hear it- the kids. Now, that’s being used against me with claims I involved the kids in our personal matters. My mind set, is it realistic to keep calm in that situation? How did you all react when you first found out? submitted by /u/Business_Ad_5821 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more