Chump Lady
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Chump Lady is the alter ego of blogger, cartoonist, and journalist Tracy Schorn, author of "Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life -The Chump Lady's Survival Guide." Chump Lady is NOT about saving your relationship - this is a support site to save your sanity. Chump Lady is your friend who shoots straight, decodes manipulation, and tells you to put down the hopium pipe.
Chump Lady
22h ago
Her cheater ex-husband requests changing the schedule so he can bring his affair partner to their child’s performance. Someone misses the pick-me dance… *** Dear Chump Lady, I am 18 months out after discovering I was a chump extraordinaire. After uprooting our family of four for a new job that required I sacrifice a tenured...
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Chump Lady
2d ago
His cheating wife doesn’t want a divorce. Instead she’s blaming him for quitting on their marriage and not abiding by their commitment. That’s rich. *** Hi Chump Lady, I could use your UBT right now. It’s been months since I messaged you and you answered my letter, which itself was months since I first started...
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Chump Lady
5d ago
Chaos making can be a deliberate strategy cheaters deploy to keep you off their trail. The Friday Challenge is to discuss this form of manipulation. *** I’ve often said the Mindfuck Only Has Three Channels — rage, charm, and self-pity. Recently, I was upbraided by a self-professed cheater. I’ll tell you: You’re spot on with...
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Chump Lady
6d ago
What do married men tell other women to entice them into an affair? An inquiring chump wants to know. *** Hi Chump Lady! I would love you to write about “What married men tell other women, to get them to join them in the affair.” Such as my wife doesn’t pay attention to me, we...
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Chump Lady
1w ago
Don’t suffer — ask your doctor how they can help you deal with betrayal trauma. It’s okay to ask for medical help after a D-Day or while leaving a cheater. The letter below comes from a physician, Kimberly, who told me part of her medical practice is dealing with the newly chumped. We all know...
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Chump Lady
1w ago
The Bitch-Be-Crazy is a red flag you should never ignore. If someone describes all their exes as insane and they’re the common denominator? Run. *** Here’s a situation I’ve encountered many times among dating friends. Friend will swoon with excitement over new man in her life. Man is divorced. Being the horrible Chump Lady killjoy...
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Chump Lady
1w ago
Did anyone see this viral TikTok video of the tradwife who regrets her life choices? “My financial security was dependent on that man being in love with me. I never realized that him liking me or not liking me or finding me sexy… meant whether or not my children would eat.” Married and had children...
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Chump Lady
1w ago
Her husband is obsessed with his coworker, but swears he isn’t cheating. He just wanted the Other Woman to “like and appreciate” him. *** Dear Chump Lady, My story is long but I want to summarize as best I can. I discovered my husband of 35 years (he was 65 years old at the time)...
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Chump Lady
2w ago
She wants to know how to coparent with a man child who wants to spend holidays together after he walked out for his affair partner. Why does she have to keep playing the heavy? *** Dear Chump Lady, I’m having a hard time with the concept of co-parenting and “what’s best for the children”. My...
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Chump Lady
2w ago
The Other Woman mailed her a copy of Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life to get her to leave her husband. She did. Now what? *** Dear Chump Lady, I’m sure you’ve heard similar outrageous stories before, but your book was anonymously mailed to me two years ago by my husband’s affair partner. She wanted...
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