Never feeling good enough, no matter how hard you try, can make you feel like a fraud, ruin your self-confidence, and cause a massive amount of stress and anxiety. And most of the time you will blame yourself. And sometimes you may even hate yourself or believe that you are a failure. When in fact, it isn’t your fault at all. Because your feelings of never being good enough are merely a logical, and unfortunately unavoidable, consequence of the way we were all brought up. But there is ONE thing you can do to ban the feeling of "not good enough" from your life and finally overcome anxiety and l ..read more

“If one more person tells me to love myself first, I am going to punch them in the face.” I had been talking to a lovely, young man who was having trouble finding love. He told me that he couldn’t love himself if nobody else did. And I had just suggested that his worth did not depend on whether others loved and accepted him. And that, maybe…just maybe, it was time to focus on loving himself first before he could find romance and a relationship with somebody else. And the above was his answer. Reading Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani's new book "Becoming Flawesome" recently reminded me of this episode. A ..read more

For years, I have wanted nothing more but to leave my day job behind. And earn a living doing what I love, by helping and supporting others, providing healing and information so they can improve their life. But somehow, it never happens. Because all my attempts are half-hearted and whenever I do see progress, I self-sabotage. Simply because I am scared. I fear the consequences of leaving a job that pays well, even if it is boring and I am not passionate about it. I worry that I will fail if I give my own venture an actual, serious try and that would mean game (and hopes) over. So, an unsurmoun ..read more

I had big plans for the beginning of 2022: Launch this year’s round of the BREAK FREE from Low Self-Worth online course. Create a thriving new Facebook page for The Self-Worth Experiment. And start work on a new online course to teach people who suffer with fear and anxiety practical techniques of how to find peace and calm. And then my Grandma died. And I found myself travelling to Austria for the funeral instead... The post What to do when life is suffering – a eulogy appeared first on The Self-Worth Experiment ..read more

People often ask me how I can be so vulnerable and disclose so many of my struggles, issues and anxieties on my blog and in my emails. “Aren’t you worried what other people will think of you?”, they ask. “Won’t people believe you are cuckoo when you talk so openly about your many problems and the battles that go on in your head?” “Aren’t you scared your employer will read what you write and think less of you?” “What if your friends and family find out about your problems with anxiety and low self-worth and judge you for it?” All valid considerations of course. And a few years ago, I would have ..read more

How many things in life have you missed out on because you were too scared? And how many chances have you not taken because of fear? My whole life, fear stopped me from doing so many amazing things that I would have enjoyed, that would have enriched my life. I could never travel because I was terrified of trains and planes. And I was anxious of going places I had never been before, of the risks, traps and threats that awaited me at my unknown destination. I couldn’t drive a car. Because I was horrified I might stall the car at the crossroads and everybody would think I was an incompetent imbec ..read more

“Stupid, stupid, stupid!” How could I have made such a mistake? I fought the urge to bang my head against the wall. My heart was being crushed by a furious fist. I gasped for air and wiped the tears off my cheeks. My mind was spinning out of control, replaying the screw-up and worrying about its consequences. I shouldn’t have told Emma that Jen’s boyfriend dumped her. It just slipped out. What if Jen told me in confidence? What if she didn’t want anybody to know? What if Emma called Jen to offer support? Jen would know I had spilled her secret, broken her trust. Would she be mad? Disappointed ..read more

How long have you been trying to feel good about yourself? How long have you struggled to be more, become “a better version of you”? So, you can feel worthy of other people’s love and acceptance. And your own. And for how long have you felt ashamed of yourself, disappointed in yourself because you still feel worthless? Because no matter what you try, which path you walk, how much effort you put into it, you always fail. And even if you know, theoretically, that you ARE worth personified, it seems impossible to find your true worth in your heart. You repeat the affirmation, but it’s empty words ..read more

For most of my life, I felt not good enough, inferior to others. And I believed that I couldn’t have what I truly desired because of it. I yearned for a life of purpose and adventure, for excitement and extraordinary experiences. But I didn’t think I was special or brave enough. I wanted to become a fiction writer since I was 8 years old. But I didn’t feel talented, creative or eloquent enough. I ached to express my true Self and claim my place in this world, to just be me without apologies, doubts or fears. But I was never confident enough to pull it off, always too worried what other people ..read more

Twenty years ago, I lived in a constant state of “not good enough”. I felt inferior to everyone I met, which caused social anxiety and forced me to avoid social gatherings and meeting other people. I never believed in myself or my abilities. Low confidence and self-doubt shot me down whenever I attempted something new and worthwhile. Which kept me stuck in an inescapable state of mediocrity. And made me beat myself up for my failure to become more than the pathetic disappointment I was. I lay awake at night, worrying about the awful things other people may say or think about me. Overanalysing ..read more