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Reddit » Raised by Narcissists
4d ago
This is maybe a major duh for everyone else here but it hit me today: I do not have to forgive someone who hasn’t stopped doing the thing that they need forgiving for.
Forgiveness is a big part of my belief system and for years I have been struggling with the fact that I simply can not move on from the way my Nfather treats me and everything that has happened in the past. Today, I realised that it’s not just because he has never accepted any accountability for the past but also because he continues the same type of behaviour whenever he is near me. So I dont need to forgive him.
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Reddit » Raised by Narcissists
4d ago
I’ve been treated like shit my entire life by people. Im 21, I was sexually, mentally, emotionally, and physically abused by my family my entire life. This caused me to be extremely hyper sexual and naive to abuse when I was 12-17. I was groomed and abused by older men. Abused by people that in my naive mind I believed were “friends”. And, funny enough, mistreated by people I never even new that well.
It’s like, my whole life I’ve been an emotional (and physical) punching bag for selfish people that don’t know how to control their emotions. I’m aware of it and do my best to actively avoid the ..read more
Reddit » Raised by Narcissists
4d ago
I posted few days ago about my moms story about my upcoming wedding, which she thinks is a fake wedding I made up just to torment her :D
Here is another "funny" story from when I was about 12. I had an access to my mothers email and I checked it from time to time (when she went out drinking, I sometimes went through her desk, because it was a good way to predict what is going to happen in the next few weeks (like trips that she didn't bother to tell me about etc). I am not proud of snooping around someone elses stuff, but my life with her was so traumatic that I felt the need to at least know ..read more
Reddit » Raised by Narcissists
4d ago
I was watching this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VOEFh5042JQ and something super interesting came up.
If you were a truth teller or a scapegoat of the family, Dr Ramani says that your qualities unconsciously triggered the narcissist's shame. For example, my Ndad is very 'charismatic' (putting on a facade for others), is very loud, brash and 'over-powering', while I am quiet, introspective and I don't really care for 'showing off'. I'm pretty lowkey and have studied psychology and see though BS. I'm also not afraid to be emotional and cry, and I don't know if you guys experience this ..read more
Reddit » Raised by Narcissists
4d ago
Hello everyone, not sure if I am on right sub but here it goes. My parents were great while I (31M) was growing up, or at least so I thought. They provided me with all I needed materialistically but what I lacked the most was their support. None of my actions, ideas or deeds was met by support, only criticism and them trying to stop me because why would I be bold, creative or freespirited if I could just follow their outdated ides about good life. On the other hand they really liked (and still do) to get too involved in my life. Most recent example: I am getting married next year and since my ..read more
Reddit » Raised by Narcissists
4d ago
hi 20 (M) so i currently have a 2015 honda civic and my mother drives a 2021 nissan altima. i was looking online to buy a 2022 mercedes benz she tells me she would not allow me to continue living with her if i bought a car like that to her house i help her pay rent as well does this make any sense????
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Reddit » Raised by Narcissists
4d ago
Absolutely nothing wrong
How did I come to that conclusion?
Self love. Self acceptance.
Because there’s nothing wrong with being yourself.
If we are labeling by society standards, an average male or female. There’s nothing wrong with that as long as that is you are being yourself.
I put so much pressure on myself to be accepted, and to be “better” and I ran myself through the ground. I don’t have to be or do anything that doesn’t align with who I am. That is what a healthy life looks like
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Reddit » Raised by Narcissists
4d ago
I'm listening to "I'm glad my mum died" Jeanette McCurdy on Audible.
I'm so angry for her. Omg. It's worth the read and it's worth the listen. We relate to it a lot. Especially as someone who was CONSTANTLY picked at and picked at and picked at for my weight. The worst thing I could have been to my Ncaregiver is fat. Like she was barely five foot and weighed only 60 kgs and barely anything above that. Where as I was a healthy 75kgs at fifteen and was almost five foot ten so I wasn't small.
I don't know what is it's about toxic diet culture and Narcissists but they LOVE it.
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Reddit » Raised by Narcissists
4d ago
Who else struggles with paralysis?
Paralysis of choice makes life super difficult
I feel lost and confused I don't know what I enjoy doing I feel like paralysis has taking over
My normal hobby is gaming but I don't enjoy really difficult games tbh a lot of singleplayer games I put cheats on mostly because i get easily agitated but I still enjoy gaming.
I've been contemplating minecraft a lot I always feel repulsed wanting to play the damn thing.
I probably do just need a new hobby
The way I see it, sometimes I get an overwhelming urge to do something sometimes I crash almost immediately while ..read more
Reddit » Raised by Narcissists
4d ago
I'm typing this all out very fast so I'm sorry its not perfect, I really really need support and perspective right now.
I was severely abused and neglected. I moved out on my 18th birthday and never looked back. I am 25 now, I am feeling extremely depressed (like haven't left my house or gotten dressed in months type of depression). I don't know what I was thinking, I think I hoped she would give me some comfort, she never has I don't know why I thought she would. I also thought if I do end my life, maybe I want to talk to my mom one last time.
Well I call her just now, and it was a bad bad d ..read more