It will make everything so much easier and more enjoyable. I am a SAHD to a 2 yr old and 2 mo old. I thought having a few beers in the afternoon/evening would be a good reward and de-stresser, and help me get through the end of the day. Well it would always end up being a whole six pack of strong ipa’s… then that plus a tall boy, then two six packs.. Was waking up every day more miserable than the last. I’m a week into no alcohol and feel so much better it’s insane. Not waking up tired and grumpy, able to show up for my partner and the kids. Way less irritable and emotionally stable. It’s not ..read more

Hey, I’m new to this actually Reddit thing. So please forgive me and my grammar. I’ve been a stay at home dad for almost 2 years now, and recently I’ve been struggling a bit with depression and anxiety. I looked up if this is normal and anything I seen is for sahm (I’m assuming it’s the same for us men also) I just feel stuck at home and I have no freedom at all, I’ve lost all my friends because I’ve really focused on my family and kid. So I don’t have anyone really outside of my mom wife and child. I contently feel stressed and like I can’t unwind or relax. Even if I try to play some video g ..read more

I was reading the stay at home mom sub, the moms in there complained that their husbands were lacking in the parenting aspect but wanted the wife to be more active sexually. The moms were very hostile towards their husbands and acted like they were married not married but their husbands had become another child. My rant on this bs is I am a stay at home dad (started in 21 when I was finishing up my military career and she wanted to go work and away from children) I do all the housework (for the most part) I pack lunches, take kids to school, the Dr, to practice, I have dinner ready most night ..read more

Hey all. Just found this subreddit and looking for some insight. Up until 4 months ago I was the working parent for 3+ years with our first daughter. We now have two kids and swapped the roles up due to burnout on both me and my partner's end. Money is tight right now, as it seems to be for most people, and I am struggling with the thought that there is something more I can be doing to contribute to my family. I know being home with the kids is a job in itself and a very important one too. I have recently been looking into work from home jobs, but am coming to the conclusion that is impractic ..read more

So, I asked this question just as a in general. I personally dabble in many things (e.g., programming, networking, electronics, fixing stuff around the house) just enjoy learning new things. I want to teach my kids, using these hobby as gateway to teach them (or guide them) to learn various new knowledges. For example, I often take the kids around to fix stuff around the house to teach them how to use tools and measure things leaning numbers and such. Has any dad here able to get your kids involved? I want to maybe teach my kids electronics, but I’m finding it difficult where to start. Any on ..read more

Hi, My wife and I will be trying for our first soon. We plan on my wife being the primarily for our kids. Our biggest concern is the amount of attention and touch required. She's absolutely brilliant, knows 4 languages, career focused, and I'm confident she will be a fantastic mother. However, since she's on the spectrum she has touch and noise sensitivity and has a hard time expressing emotions. We believes she will be fine and she knows how to compensate. However, on the off chance she can't handle the role of primary, I will take over the primary role. I have previous experience with kids ..read more

Some back ground I am a nurse that works 3 12 hour shifts. With my first 3 children i work 2 days a week and every other weekend to satisfy my 36 requirement, and my kids would go to day care for 2 days a week. “Mental doing good with the 3 kiddos with this arrangement”. We were blessed with our fourth last July, to try to save money my wife and I decided to pull our kids from daycare and me be the primary caregiver with it oldest starting kindergarten last fall. During maternity leave my wife did get a big promotion and pay raise which lead to us deciding on me stay at home during the week w ..read more

To give some background: Have 2 kids and have been SAHD for almost 7 years. Second child will be starting school full time in the fall. I work a part time job, work 30 hours a week. Wife works very hard 55+ hours a week so I do all the cleaning, house maintenance, yard work, cooking, shopping, errands, laundry, etc. Numerous friends and family keep mentioning to me how much free time I will have once my second kid goes to school in the fall. I mostly just shrug it off and mention that I still have to work. The statement just bothers me and I feel like it's a stereotype SAHD or SAHM get once t ..read more

Am I (39m) overthinking being casually called insulting things by my wife (35f)? I was carrying my kid to bed after getting home from a drive and couldn't feel the keys in my pocket (car was still unlocked), so I asked my wife if she had them. "Why would I have them? You were driving. Stop being a spaz." I had to explain to my wife later that being called a "spaz" is hurtful and she apologized but said she didn't understand because she calls herself a "ditz" or "spaz" all the time. I had to remind her that anytime she does this in earshot of me I make sure to reassure her she's not. And I sur ..read more

Been with a group of moms and girls that are a bit older than my daughter for almost a year now. The kids took my daughter in despite her being 2 years younger than all of them because she towers over them in height so that must mean they’re the same age in their eyes. Well today we just lost almost every friend to school/ day care. Obviously my 2 1/2 year old doesn’t realize this now but man it’s really gonna be a bummer when she wants to hang out with friends during the day like we have been and they aren’t going to be at the park or library waiting for us. Also for myself too. Felt like it ..read more