Notes from the podcast: Acknowledging the Struggle Yes, dating feels like navigating a labyrinth without a map. Whether you’re reentering the dating scene after some time or feel like a novice in the era of texting and online dating, the challenges are all too real. From the overwhelming presence of seemingly inadequate partners to the ghosting, scams, and emotional baggage, finding and maintaining a connection seems an uphill battle. The Trap of Self-Blame It’s easy to fall into the pit of self-critique, wondering if there’s something inherently wrong with you. This is a crucial moment to rem ..read more

Notes from the podcast: Are you navigating the single life, feeling increasingly frustrated and hopeless? You’ve tried everything, yet nothing seems to change your status. The sense of running out of options, fearing a future of eternal singleness, looms large. But what if the issues you believe are holding you back are actually leading you astray? The Misdirection of Our Struggles Many of us are wrestling with what we perceive as the root problems of our singlehood—our shadow or decoy issues. They’re the easy-to-blame factors that we and our friends often affirm, reinforcing beliefs that stee ..read more

Notes from the podcast: In relationships, a hard truth remains: no one is perfect. This acknowledgment sets the stage for a phenomenon I’ve come to call the “Near Miss” phenomenon, where apps and social encounters introduce us to potential partners who tick most of the boxes yet seem to fall just short in certain areas. In these gaps, many of us, armed with the best intentions, fall into the trap of believing we can mold, shape, and ultimately ‘fix’ these near misses into our ideal partner. But here’s a crucial intervention: Stop. Just stop. This strategy, though often embarked upon with the p ..read more

Notes from the podcast: In the ever-evolving world of dating, finding the perfect match can feel like navigating through a maze with no apparent exit. It’s easy to find reasons to dismiss potential partners at the slightest hint of a red flag. After all, the dating pool is filled with individuals who, for various reasons, might not make the cut. The temptation to swiftly move on—dubbed as “NEXT-ing” someone—is a reality many face in the quest for love. However, the danger lies in becoming too selective, dismissing individuals who might have been compatible partners. This fear of making the wro ..read more

Notes from the podcast: Everyone has an ideal partner checklist that might include attributes like “6 foot, 6 figures, 6 pack abs.” Yet, posing the question, “What do you want in a partner?” uncovers a fundamental challenge in dating that many fail to answer correctly, if at all. It’s common to assert confidently, “I KNOW what I want,” but do we really? Research reveals a striking contradiction: individuals often fail to pursue or show interest in potential partners who meet their stated preferences. This discrepancy suggests that many people don’t truly understand their own desires in relatio ..read more

Notes from the podcast: Endings are hard. The conclusion of a relationship, whether it fizzles out or comes to a sudden halt, brings a wave of emotions that can leave us feeling lost, lonely, and engulfed in pain. The ache of loss can feel unbearable, prompting a desperate search for a way to make it stop. Yet, the journey through heartache is not about clinging to familiar suggestions or remedies but embracing a new perspective that promises healing and growth. The Pain of Loss We often find ourselves adrift in a sea of emotions when a relationship ends. Feelings of sadness, depression, and a ..read more

Notes from the Podcast The heart is a powerful force, relentlessly pursuing what it desires, often without our conscious realization. This pursuit can lead us to engage in a deceptive practice called F.I.B.ing—Filling In Blanks. This clever acronym reveals a troubling behavior pattern where, without concrete information about someone, we optimistically fill in the gaps with wishful thinking rather than reality. This behavior undermines our success in finding genuine connections and significantly increases the risk of heartache. The Three Main Ways We F.I.B. Ourselves 1.The Early Stages of Dati ..read more

Notes from the podcast: As successful women, the approach to finding love is nuanced, requiring a blend of self-awareness, Patience, and strategic action. Today, we delve into the unconventional yet profoundly effective secrets to attracting love that resonates with the essence of a successful woman. #1. Embrace Your Standards: The Magic of Not Being Liked by Everyone The journey to love starts with a profound yet simple truth: not everyone will like you, and that’s not just okay—it’s necessary. You set a standard by prioritizing your own needs and desires over the mere approval of others. Thi ..read more

Notes from the Podcast: Have you ever found yourself perpetually in relationships that feel “close, but not quite”? Do you yearn for a meaningful connection yet struggle to make it past the initial stages of getting close to someone? Perhaps you’ve been hurt before, and now, the walls you’ve built to protect yourself seem insurmountable. If these scenarios resonate with you, you may be experiencing avoidant attachment, a subtle yet powerful force that shapes how we interact in our romantic lives. The Importance of Understanding Attachment Attachment theory illuminates the profound impact of ou ..read more

Notes from the podcast: Having a wing woman can be an invaluable asset in the dynamic world of dating and social interactions. Here’s how to be a fantastic wingwoman (share this with your fellow wingwomen!) #1. Highlight Non-Physical Traits The essence of a great wingwoman lies in emphasizing your friend’s non-physical attributes. Planning ahead is key. Understand your role (like being the social butterfly) and focus on qualities that showcase your friend as genuine, supportive, kind, caring, and a good listener. These traits build meaningful connections far beyond superficial physical or sexu ..read more