Because Mother’s Day is coming up, I thought it would be fun to collect our thoughts about why we’re thankful to be a SAHP. It’s a rainy Friday afternoon and back before I quit my corporate job to stay home with my two little kids, I would’ve been sitting in my cube, staring at the clock on the computer. I’d probably have some snacks on my desk, even though I’m not hungry, just something to pass the time. I’d be staring at the window (because I was “lucky enough” to get a window seat….overlooking the parking lot) I’d probably be getting ready to do my 4:30 Friday sneak out, hoping no one sees ..read more

I am a first time mom, currently 24 weeks pregnant. My baby is due in late August and I have started SAHM life now. I’m hoping to adjust and begin a routine of daily and weekly chores that I can then adjust as needed when baby comes. Routines and habits don’t come easily for me, as I have severe ADHD so I want to give myself time to get into a swing, rather than winging it like I do now, knowing that I will have to adjust when baby comes. Having a foundation of good housekeeping habits now will help me prepare for what’s to come. So what chores / tasks do you take care of in your home daily v ..read more

We have 5 kids, 4 of which are in school. About 75% of the time he takes two (to the same school) and I take the other two (to different schools). Mornings where he has a trial at 8 or is out of town, I take all 4. Which is no problem! I would just like notice beforehand, because I have to get up slightly earlier and then have the kids get dressed/ready slightly earlier. Tonight I was speaking to one of my son’s speech therapist on the phone and told her “oh, I’ll be taking S to school by himself tomorrow, so I can ask him what he thinks”. About 45 min later my husband says “I heard you telli ..read more

I'm trying to decide if I should join my spouse on their work retreat. It is a 15+ hour flight. I would most likely have to bring at least one or both kids with me (ages 5 & 2). The only way to leave one child would be to fly them across the country (5+ hours) then fly to the destination from there. If not for the kids, I would go in a heartbeat as I love to travel. However, my concern is more that my spouse is there for work, even though it's more for the team-building aspect. Worth pursuing for the (possibly) once-in-a-lifetime destination, or is it insane? Thank you! submitted by /u/T ..read more

it was randomly brought to my attention the other day that my partner is possibly financially abusing me . but honestly i’ve had wayyyy worse ACTUALLY abusive partners and im not perfect either so idk , he’s perfect in every other way, this is a tough predicament . i feel like if im not perfect he doesn’t have to be either. and i don’t think he’d intentionally abuse me ? im aware that atleast half of yall are probably scoffing at me right now but i can’t start over again. plus maybe once i get a job everything will take a turn for the better. submitted by /u/Asleep_Owl_3100 [visit reddit] [c ..read more

For those of us who are often providing 100% care for more than 1 child in the evenings, how old was your youngest child when you started combining their bath time with your older child(ren)? Tips for success? (I have a 2mo and a 4yo and it currently seems unsafe for the baby to combine their bath time so they are separate—but I’m thinking… maybe 6mo for the baby?) submitted by /u/awkwurd [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

i absolutely love the library! but dang every child activity they host is always at 9 or 10am and my 9mo just can’t swing that. she would love to participate but needs her morning nap. i can’t wait until she drops to one. i am hoping sooner than later ? submitted by /u/Physical_Koala_850 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

I looked in our account, and there it was. Recognition for all of his hard work. The long hours on the job. The price he is paid for getting it done. He deserves it, and we need it. Boy, I’m thankful. But I don’t get the same for my job as a stay at home mum. I work so hard every day, and night. I literally have never worked harder. Yet mine is purely a labour of love. My money invisible, like so much of my work. But that work - That all consuming, exhausting, relentless work that comes with being a full time mother - It comes with a wage. Just not the usual type. Right now my wage is in the ..read more

Apologies in advance for how long this is. I don’t have anyone else to talk to because our families think he’s just the best guy ever and I’m about to tear my hair out and disappear forever. From very early on in our relationship, I made it clear that it was important to me to be a SAHM while our kids were young. At the time I had just started nannying, but as I continued to nanny those feelings became very important to me as I watched kids who barely saw their parents. My husband wholeheartedly agreed at the time, said he wanted to provide for his future family, he had career goals, so we ag ..read more

I'm a SAHM to a 3 year old boy and he is DEEP in his threenage feels. Everything is wrong and he has to do things himself but also never wants me out of his sight but "mom get away from me," etc. I also have a 7 year old daughter (in school) and she went through this as well so like I know I've gotten through it but man, it's tough. I feel like there is no rhyme or reason to our days anymore. I attempt to wake up before the kids to have some "me time" but it's about 50-50 whether the kids wake up before me or not (regardless of how early I try to get up). Before school is just chill time, eat ..read more