Betrayals in romantic partnerships are traumatic. They can leave you in a state of fear, constantly questioning your partner and doubting your own judgment. When a reminder of the betrayal triggers fear, it can lead to a spiral of worse case scenario thinking. This spiral is often followed by ineffective attempts to gain control of ..read more

Everyone experiences sexual fantasies.  Some people even start to experience sexual fantasies before they even know what sex is.  Fantasies can be a healthy part of a fulfilling sex life.  But sometimes sexual fantasies can get in the way of our connection with our partner.  Sex is about being present with another person.  And sometimes ..read more

Families have the unparalleled ability to fight and forgive; make a scene, then makeup; and scream in your face before saying, “I love you.” But just because you can do these things doesn’t mean it’s good for anyone’s well-being. It’s important to focus on stress relief, physical health, and emotional wellness now more than ever—after ..read more

Despite humans being the most communicative species on the planet, our communication is often fraught with misunderstandings. You have experienced this in your relationship when you find yourself in an escalating argument with your partner that started with a question about what to eat for dinner. Sometimes it feels like these escalating arguments just keep ..read more

What’s your story? If you’re reading this, it’s likely your story isn’t how you want to tell it. Since we were young, we’ve been led to believe in the Disney, happy-ever-after relationship. Anything short of that is unfulfilling. We think that good marriages mean feeling understood, important, cherished, and attractive, knowing how to talk to ..read more

My clients often struggle to grasp how their desire to please others at the expense of themselves keeps them stuck. Many of these individuals grew up in families where it was unsafe to share their emotions or opinions. Others received the most love and praise when they were “helping” or “being a good kid”. Regardless ..read more

As a couples counselor in Broomfield, Colorado I am beginning to hear a lot of couples say that they’re finally starting to find a new normal with all this covid-19 stuff. They’re starting to feel more comfortable with working at home. They’re seeing their kids start to get more comfortable being away from school and […] The post Make a Better You During Covid-19 appeared first on The Marriage and Family Clinic ..read more

As I’ve been meeting with clients in my practice in Broomfield, Colorado during Covid-19 it’s been hard to miss the impact I’ve seen in my clients during this time. I don’t even have to ask about it because they’re the ones who usually bring it up. In fact, it seems like everywhere I go I […] The post Lessons to Take With us After Quarantine appeared first on The Marriage and Family Clinic ..read more

Being stuck at home can be a real romance killer for some couples.  I have heard several couples talk about how they feel like they are struggling and feeling claustrophobic.  Why is it that just being stuck together in the same spot can have such a negative effect on our relationship?  It can even happen […] The post Creative Date Ideas When You Are Stuck at Home appeared first on The Marriage and Family Clinic ..read more

As a marriage counselor, I’m pretty much a professional hostile negotiator (ha ha). So when I see rioting going on in the streets like they did this weekend I’m saddened. I’m saddened because the solution is usually so easy. Most conflicts arise because one side (and there are usually many sides) doesn’t feel like their […] The post Handling Disagreements When Things get Volatile – a Lesson from the Weekend Race Riots appeared first on The Marriage and Family Clinic ..read more