Okayest Mom
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World's Okayest Mom shares the irreverent side of adoption, infertility, twins, race, and staying at home with 3 boys in diapers.
Okayest Mom
1y ago
Now, the kids are in school. After more than a decade of near-constant parenting, this silence is both soothing and agitating. I guess I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop. Waiting for the cry or the request that spurs me into mom-action. Waiting. Waiting for someone else to turn on my music for me. Waiting for someone to tell me that I deserve soothing silence or reassuring music as loud as I want…. Waiting for someone to direct my life.  ..read more
Okayest Mom
1y ago
We’re trying to raise kids the way we were raised, except the world that we grew up in doesn’t exist anymore ..read more
Okayest Mom
1y ago
Once, when I was around 22 years old, already a kindergarten teacher, I dropped my twelve-year-old brother off at his bus stop at the bottom of our mountain. Some bigger boys immediately started roughing him up. I don’t remember exactly – maybe they slapped his head or pushed him or something. There was definitely bodily ..read more
Okayest Mom
1y ago
This post was originally written in September 2019, when my twins began kindergarten, and then was forgotten. I’m publishing it today because I just found it. And because I love it. PS, my twins are in their last week of third grade now – and are about to bust out of their shoes again. Their ..read more
Okayest Mom
3y ago
Everyone keeps asking me how I’m doing after sending the twins to kindergarten. The truth is that I don’t know. I’m in shock. As I am obviously a very wordy person, it shocks me that I’m in shock but can’t explain it. How do you feel, everyone wants to know. How do I FEEL? I ..read more
Okayest Mom
3y ago
It happened again. People who know us forgot that I was his mother. I am white. My son is Black. This is a tremendous invisible burden for him. Being asked to explain yourself or justify yourself as an adoptee is called “narrative burden.” It’s not fair to him, but it is his albatross. Every.single.time. we ..read more
Okayest Mom
3y ago
From the kid who says things like, "I like hot pants. They keep me warm", here's a list of R's five-year-old quotes for you ..read more
Okayest Mom
3y ago
We daydreamed about the glory days and the track and the romance and the speed, while we were covered in spit up and poop and were decidedly stationary ..read more
Okayest Mom
3y ago
Would Jordan Edwards still be alive if neighbors hadn’t called the cops with a noise complaint? I don’t know who made that call, but someone did. Tonight, the cop who shot Jordan in the head with a rifle for no reason has just been charged with murder. I am overwhelmed with relief to see the ..read more