Today I was woke to a phone call from The nursing home my grandma was found unresponsive.it took me a min to process what they were saying.so I asked directly if she was dead they told me yes.i had a rush of emotions.i have been preparing for this day since New Year’s Day of 2022 when my grandma called me hallucinating about a “tall man and little lady” in her apartment.now matter how you prepare your never ready for that call.when I rush there to see her she looked peaceful like she was in a deep sleep.as I thanked her taking care of me when no one else wanted too.i told her hope i made her ..read more

Just when things were settling down and were going smoothly, I discovered that my father is now missing large gaps of time and having trouble determining dreams from reality. I should be thankful that he is happy, pleasant and totally unaware of what is happening. We officially got an Alzheimer's diagnosis last week(moderate to severe), so we will now be adjusting his care to meet his new needs. I am 100% for living in his reality. I still want him to have as much independence as possible. My goal is not to extend his life, but to keep him as happy and anxiety free as possible.... But as my t ..read more

My husband (60M) passed away in January. He was diagnosed with Aphasia a few years ago but was still functional and independent. He had a fall March 2023, subsequent surgeries, and resulting delirium. I know now that people with compromised brain chemistries are impacted worse from anesthesia. I brought him home and tried to work full time, take care of the house, him, dog. I was exhausted. I ran out of FMLA, had to go back to work, October 2023. Hired home health aides for $350/day cash for the days I needed to be in office. New Year's Eve morning, he went into cardiac arrest from dysphagia ..read more

So, long story short, due to my own mental illnesses I'm on disability living with & taking care of my great-grandparents (86M & 85F) b/c both of them have dementia & I have no means of support for myself. Well, as the past few years have gone by, I've noticed behavior changes in them: extremely cheap, always cold, constantly irritable, extremely forgetful, doing or saying things that just don't make sense, etc. Well, I've tried to make efforts or suggestions to make life more comfortable for them, but within the past 2yrs alone, they've become more resistant to my offers of help ..read more

At this point if feels worse to be honest because every day she is inconsolable as she learns that she won't be able to get out of the wheelchair she now requires and that she'll need to move in with her daughter once she gets out of the hospital. Would it be better at this point to just lie and say she's just in the wheelchair for a bit? Her dementia took a drastic turn for the worst after she entered the hospital a month ago, from slowly losing memories to suddenly living in a 15 minute cycle before forgetting the last few years and learning that she's lost her independence and mobility. We ..read more

Hi all, looking for some tips on how to handled this disease. My dad(72), keeps making Phone calls to me(35), asking for me to get back home for dinner, or asking me to Come bring him his house Keys, because he thinks he has misplaced them, but he is living in a care him for the past 6 months.. And we are trying to sell his home. I Just lost my mom ( she died suddenly and really unexpected 8 months ago) ... And this dementia thing with my dad is getting really hard really fast, I know i should not controdict him and try and go with the delusions. But it's getting harder and the delusions are ..read more

My mother was diagnosed with Alzheimers two years ago, even if we knew something was wrong earlier it has progressed quite rapidly since then. She's not herself anymore and it kills me, i miss my old mom so much, this new person is still my mom and i love her very much but she's like a child mentally, she was always my rock i could lean on when times were tough but now i need to be her rock and it's hard. We started cleaning out my parents house after my dad died last year and we had to move my mother to a home. Finding old photos and some of her notebooks she wrote in when life was hard on h ..read more

My moms husband (my step father) got involved in a white collar crime and was charged with 8 years in prison in a different state (it will most likely be closer to 4-5 years). Since this happened three years ago she started developing major cognitive delays and disfunction. She can't remember many names or words, she has a difficult time spelling and writing, she will start talking about random and not relavent out of nowhere, extremely difficult time with tasks and task management (cannot use any aspect of a phone or computer anymore), and she has a difficult time comprehending conversations ..read more

I subscribe to a bunch of subreddits specifically because they give me interesting small safe things to share with my dad. We can sit quietly together and then I can show him a really short funny video and then we move on and he doesn't have to remember it. Does anyone else do this and what kinda things do you curate? submitted by /u/Bingwazle [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

Hi, I am not sure really what to write. My mom was diagnosed with dementia by her primary care provider in February at 62. She scored very low on her memory test, but MRI/CT scan were normal (EEG had brain waves at a rate of 5). I realize dementia often does not show up on these tests, which is hard; I really wish there was something tangible and definitive. My mom is mild-mannered and kind. I just moved her from Alabama to California to live in my one-bedroom apartment with my girlfriend. This is causing a lot of stress: my girlfriend is in the final months of finishing her PhD, and three ye ..read more