I ask this question because I knew from a very young age that I wanted to have a family. I am currently attending university (graduating next year) and it has occurred to me that I don’t enjoy pursuing women. This maybe partly due to the fact that I have never experienced romantic interest from a women and it doesn’t seem like I will anytime soon. My main focus at the moment is to focus on school and graduate in order to land a stable job. I have an awesome support system from my family that would help me with the process. I have thought about this a lot and I believe that it is the best cour ..read more

Hi, I’m looking for help on this to where to even start. My wife was born in Russia where she was adopted by a California couple and brought back to the US. Both parents have passed and we haven’t been able to locate anything that looks like a US birth certificate for her (I thought this is something you get when you’re adopted?). She does have a Russian birth certificate and Russian adoption papers. She will need a birth certificate to get her “real ID” here in California. I don’t know if she was also readopted here in CA. Is there an easy way to check that? Or where do we go from here? Any ..read more

Not sure what to tag this. My boyfriend is an almost 31-year-old Hungarian born Dutch adopted man. He and his younger brother found their mother several years back back in Hungary through some company and they contacted her and the company cut them off for contacting her which they were warned about and they were okay with that. The mother yelled at them in Hungarian and pretended she couldn't understand English or what was happening They had a translator helping them though and they still somewhat understand Hungarian but it's pretty much a lost language to them. He doesn't remember why he w ..read more

I was adopted by my aunt when I was 6 and I have 5 siblings total 4 younger and 1 older. My older sister doesn't want contact with me so she's out of the question but my younger brother and sisters were all adopted together and I've only talked to my brother once in the past 6 years. My aunt and my brothers family don't have regular contact so I've never met them only talked once on the phone. I really miss my siblings even though I was so young and they were babies last time I saw them. I still want to be part of their life but I'm afraid that the adoptive parents think I'm exactly like my p ..read more

Hello I am really hoping someone out there might have some insight for me. Sorry in advance for the lengthy post! I met a 30 year old man named peter 2 years ago when my husband and I travelled to Kenya for a service trip.. We planted garden towers and visited schools and villages and I got to know him throughout our two weeks there and my husband and I just really liked and respected him. After we came home I sponsored peter to attend some college courses and he helped me to facilitate some service projects in his village like providing groceries to some of the widows and sponsoring some of ..read more

My first husband and children's father, was adopted back in September 1965. For years, he didn't want to know his birth family so we never pushed it, even though I would've liked at least to get medical history that could possibly help our children someday. We were married almost 13 years and had a boy and two girls. Our oldest was almost 12, middle almost 5, and youngest was 1.5 when their dad passed away. It was so sudden (suicide) and completely unexpected as most suicides are, I never thought again about finding his birth family. I had too much on my plate and none of my kids ever seemed ..read more

My children are 6 weeks apart, so when I tell people “oh, they’re both 4” they naturally follow up with “oh, twins?” I feel weird “lying”, but also have zero interest in trying to differentiate between the two or explain our situation to strangers. What’s a good response to this? Sometimes I’ll say “yeah, basically!” But then people often want to follow up with asking which one is “mine”. What’s the best way to handle this situation? submitted by /u/Popular-Weakness-568 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

The children (12F, 8M) we have expressed interest to adopt are currently in foster care. I am meeting the foster mom, along with a care giver in the home and all the various social workers for our 2nd round information sharing session. What are some questions I should ask the foster mom to better understand the children and their daily lives? Here is what I have: - what are daily routines, school days and weekends? - how are their relationships with peers, authority figures? - what are the rules of the house - devices, bedtime, homework, friend time? - how do they regulate themselves? - how d ..read more

So I'm still working after my undergrad but the time I finish with grad school, the average income from that major will be approximately $100k. With my partners income, our total income, before taxes, will be $140k a year. Do you guys think this is a feasible amount of money for adopting children? I want children, but hate the idea of pregnancy and want to skip the toddler stages lol. Plus, adoption is simply a beautiful thing. submitted by /u/jjfromyourmom [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

Title is going to need a bit of explaining. For those of you who were physically able to have biological children but chose adoption, do you wish you also had bio kids? Did the desire to procreate go away once you adopted or did you feel the pull to have a bio kid/be pregnant after adoption? For clarification, I’m not asking because I think that bio kids are superior in any way and that one may not feel satisfied with adoption, rather I am curious if the specific human desire to procreate/be pregnant remains once you’re a parent to a child you love very much, as opposed to simply wanting more ..read more