While I was on a nine month deployment that ended last October; I swear my wife cheated on me. I think about this every once in a while, and when I do, I get super angry. So last June, my wife went on a business trip w another coworker (F) whom I do trust being that she is the mentor type. The place where they stayed for this trip happen to be an hour from her hometown where as typically she’s on the other side of the country (US.) On the weekend in the middle of the two weeks she stayed there some of her family members came and visited her. Nd towards the end of the last week; she started ac ..read more

How do I let him go? So here’s the situation: I’m in love with someone but I shouldn’t be. (This is a very long post so feel free to skim to the end lol) For all intents and purposes, let’s call him Luke. I have known Luke for almost five years now. When I met him I was 19 and he was 22. I had just come home for spring break in 2019 (start of the pandemic) and was convinced by my mother to go shopping with her even though I felt awful due to allergies. When we got to the first store I immediately saw him and tried to avoid him because he’s gorgeous and I looked like the walking dead. It wasn ..read more

Whenever my BF talks about his doctor friends that are just like him, it feels like he always brags to me about their profession when he talks to me about them. This habit is starting to bother me because he never mentions the professions of his other friends that are not doctors. To be honest, I don't find their jobs or salaries impressive, and I don't understand why he always brings this up. For all I care, they can be housekeeper and that’s fine with me too. Whenever he starts talking about his doctor friends, I usually make an excuse and end the conversation. How can I have a discussion w ..read more

Been dealing with cheating for years. Last found evidence in like November of last year. He agreed to a tracking/accountability app both ways the other day. Right beforehand he mentioned his music phone broke. I had thought of it before but felt like I needed to check it after that. Came over today and it was by the couch like he was using it. He moved it to the place he put it yesterday. Looked at it when he laid down. There was a tinder notification. He had a few conversations from the beginning of April when we almost broke up. His data usage says it's been used since January. Also found a ..read more

For context our relationship is great and we love each other a lot. We have been together over a year. She is promiscuous but tries to hide it from me because I think a she is scared it would bother me. We were talking about sex the other day and what we like etc. She asked if I would fuck her with one of my friends and I told her I’m open to it. She then told me her favorite is dp (both in vagina). I was taken aback. That’s a little hardcore for me and I think it’s kinda gay? I’m still processing that and don’t know if I’m grossed out or intrigued. I want to talk to her about it, but it kind ..read more

TL;DR! boyfriend (22m) and I (19f) cannot agree on house chores. He hardly ever does them and always comes home to shower and play video games. How do we work this out and how do I show him I need him to take more initiative? For context, I (19f) and boyfriend (22m) have been together for almost 6 months. The relationship started out rough because his truck broke down about 2 weeks into the relationship and then a week later he was laid off. He stayed with me when the truck broke down because he was 2 hrs away from where he lives. He figured out his truck situation as quickly as he could and ..read more

Tl;dr: my friend’s boyfriend lost a drinking game and angrily threw an empty seltzer can at her across the room in front of everyone. My friend (24F) has been dating my other friend (24M) for about 4 months now. They seem to really love each other and are happy, but they frequently get into fights because he has some anger issues. Recently, a bunch of our friends were playing a drinking game and my friend (24F) won against her boyfriend (24M) which resulted in him having to chug a seltzer. The moment she won, he angrily threw an empty seltzer can at her across the room with full-force in fron ..read more

My (29f) bf (35m) we’re having a conversation about him buying a new car and phone, he was having second thoughts because nothing is wrong with the current car and phone he has. I suggested that he should get a new phone and just think of it as an upgrade to which he replied “can I get a new gf as well and consider it an upgrade” then i said go for it and he replied “maybe an Asian girl”. It’s like the second time he suggested he wanted to date an Asian which is far different from my race. Should I take this as a joke or see it as a reason to end things? I feel offended that he keeps saying t ..read more

I (30sF) i’ve been mostly long-distance with my fiancé (30M) for about 2 1/2 years. We are finally getting married in the next few months but I am having a lot of last-minute doubts. He has a small group of friends that basically all enable each other. They get together once or twice a week and literally sit in a pub and binge drink for five or six hours each time. My fiancé will have easily 8 to 10 drinks or more at a time. We have argued about this so many times I can’t even count. I told him it is a dealbreaker for me because I grew up with an alcoholic parent and it caused me more trauma ..read more

Background: I was in a long relationship for about 8 years, starting at 16. Despite some negative aspects, it was a valuable experience. Initially, I was a social person who loved spending time with friends and learning. My older boyfriend at the time taught me a lot about life, helping me discover my passions and cope with my mental health issues. I used to struggle with severe depression and suicidal thoughts due to family problems. We moved in together shortly after meeting, which strained our relationship. He was very strict, likely due to his strong work ethic and intelligence. Living to ..read more