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By Glynis Sherwood, MEd, Psychotherapist & Coach Very Early Childhood Is the Bedrock for Secure Attachment and Healthy Personality Development The need to form healthy bonds with our family of origin is as innate to humans as breathing. At its best, bonding is an antidote to loneliness and isolation. Healthy bonding makes people […]
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Glynis Sherwood Blog
6M ago
By Glynis Sherwood, MEd, Psychotherapist & Therapeutic Coach
People who grew up in abusive, emotionally negligent families are vulnerable to falling into similar relationship dynamics in adulthood. This can happen with friends as well as intimate partners. This phenomena is known as traumatic reenactment – what I call ‘choosing the devil you know’, or what Freud called “repetition compulsion”.
Relationally, we are primed from early childhood to be drawn to others who feel ‘familiar’ psychologically, for better or for worse. Our emotional ..read more
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6M ago
By Glynis Sherwood, MEd, Psychotherapist & Therapeutic Coach
I Put a Spell On You, Because You’re Not Mine
Yes, I’m deliberately misquoting Screamin’ Jay Hawkins 1956 blues-rock classic, I Put a Spell On You, Because You’re Mine.
Folks with narcissistic, borderline, histrionic or antisocial parents, siblings, partners and friends have experienced ongoing attempts by the disordered person to be controlled, absorbed, idealized, exploited, devalued or discarded – IE consumed and/or rejected – by these troubled ‘spell casting’ people, who exercise control in a most ..read more
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6M ago
Scapegoating & Relationship Trauma – At Work, In Families & Cancel Culture
I was interviewed by video blogger Tegan Osmond for her YouTube Channel in February 2023. Tegan is an Ontario Canada based coach who focuses on narcissistic abuse, trauma awareness and recovery, workplace bullying, and family and social scapegoating dynamics.
During this 52 minute interview, Tegan and I discussed social scapegoating dynamics and relational / developmental trauma – aka Complex PTSD – which can be the end result of bullying of this nature, especially if it was insti ..read more
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6M ago
By Glynis Sherwood MEd, Trauma Therapist & Coach
Question
I am the family scapegoat with a very narcissistic mother, enabling father and golden child narcissistic sister.
My ex husband walked out Christmas 2021 due to an affair and terrible addiction problems, plus years of lying and psychological abuse. We had been No Contact with my family for four years at the time.
When my ex husband walked out, a friend suggested I call my parents for help. They were angry and hostile, but eventually agreed to see my 17 year old daughter and I. All ..read more
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6M ago
The Eternal Exile
People tend to associate family abuse with acts of overt or covert aggression. Examples of overt aggression include yelling, abusive language such as name calling, threats, ridicule and shaming; and behaviors ranging from coercion, to more aggressive restraining, and assault.
Covert hostility shows up as passive aggressive behavior – aka sneaky anger. Examples of covert aggression encompass insults delivered as compliments; malicious gossip aka smear campaigns, cool / unfriendly demeanor; sarcastic, patronizing or disdainful behavior; s ..read more
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6M ago
Ask Glynis Sherwood MEd – Therapist & Coach
Winter 2023
Ask the Therapist & Coach is an education & information column only. It is not counseling nor a substitute for psychotherapy.
Every couple of months I answer a question from a member of my mailing list on my advice column. Please join my email list by downloading my Free Ebook & Send Me Your Question!
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I have gone very Low Contact with my parents over the last 8 years, which wasn’t too hard to do, as they live 4 hours away from me. It was the only choice I had ..read more
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6M ago
If you were born into a narcissistic family, you may have grown up with a roof over your head, but sadly you weren’t raised. You must complete the job yourself. It’s called reparenting ~ Glynis Sherwood
Narcissistic Abuse, Developmental Deficits & Vulnerabilities
Over the years, as I’ve counseled survivors who’ve been scapegoated by their narcissistic families, many pictures of abuse, neglect and deprivation emerge. There are the more ‘obvious’ or blatant harms to self worth, peace of mind and relationship challenges that many people seem to be ..read more
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6M ago
Ask the Therapist & Coach – Spring 2022
Glynis Sherwood MEd
Ask the Therapist & Coach is an education & information column only. It is not counseling nor a substitute for psychotherapy.
Every couple of months I answer a question from a member of my mailing list on my advice column. Please join my email list by downloading my free Ebook & send me your question!
To join my list – and get an in depth free self help resource – go to the bottom of this page, type in your email address and download my Ebook – Stop the Struggle: 5 Steps to Brea ..read more
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Ask the Therapist – Autumn 2021
by Glynis Sherwood MEd
Ask the Therapist is an education and advice column only. It is not counseling nor a substitute for psychotherapy.
Every couple of months I answer a question from a member of my mailing list on my advice column. Please join my email list by downloading my free Ebook & send me your question!
To join my list – and get an in depth free self help resource – go to the bottom of this page, type in your email address and download my Ebook – Stop the Struggle: 5 Steps to Breaking Free from Chronic Emotio ..read more