The author explores their personal struggle with impostor syndrome, revealing its connection to internalized racism. Despite achievements, feelings of inadequacy stemmed from societal biases. A pivotal moment in therapy prompted the realization that systemic oppression informs self-perception. Acknowledging this link led to strategies for healing and empowerment, emphasizing community support. The post Unmasking Impostor Syndrome: The Hidden Link to Internalized Racism first appeared on Life as Frances. The post Unmasking Impostor Syndrome: The Hidden Link to Internalized Racism appeared first ..read more

Iyanla Vanzant's conversation with Cam Newton highlights the complexities of parenting, inner healing, and self-forgiveness. She candidly admits being a "horrible mother but a great father," reflecting on her emotional struggles and the dual roles parents often juggle. The episode emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and healing, impacting both parents and children. The post Forgiving Ourselves as Parents and Healing Our Inner Child: A Reflection on Cam Newton’s Episode with Iyanla Vanzant first appeared on Life as Frances. The post Forgiving Ourselves as Parents and Healing Our Inner ..read more

The rise of terms like "masculine energy" and "feminine energy" has ignited discussions about their impact on relationships and personal identity. These energies, often developed through early caregiver relationships, influence attraction and compatibility. Object relations theory helps explain these dynamics, revealing how balance and understanding of these energies can lead to healthier and more fulfilling relationships. The post Masculine and Feminine Energy in Relationships and Dating: Insights from Object Relations and the Whoreible Decisions Episode with Anwar first appeared on Life as F ..read more

Scrolling through social media often brings moments of reflection, and recently, a post from the Soul Apprentice page on Facebook struck a chord with me. It simply stated, “I just don’t want that for myself anymore.” This seemingly straightforward declaration holds profound wisdom and speaks volumes about the power of personal choice and self-awareness. In a world where we’re constantly inundated with societal expectations and internal pressures, we often feel compelled to justify our decisions with “good reasons.” Whether it’s about quitting a job, ending a relationship, or simply choosing a ..read more

I’ve decided to go to therapy. Yes, you read that right – I, a therapist, am now a therapy client. The irony is not lost on me; it’s quite an experience to sit on the other side of the chair, seeking guidance rather than giving it. Stepping into the client role has been both enlightening and uncomfortable. It requires me to shed my expert persona and embrace the vulnerability of being human. Therapists are often seen as pillars of strength, holding space for others during their darkest moments. But what happens when the listener needs someone to listen? This experience has been a humbling remi ..read more

As my birthday just past and I reflect on my life, I have always been someone who has done things backwards. Even coming into this world, I was born breached. This pattern of unconventional choices and experiences has continued throughout my life. I had children before marriage, found myself in debt before learning to save, and constantly felt like I was playing catch-up. Yet, despite feeling like I’m behind in life, this journey has taught me invaluable lessons. From the start, my life has been a series of unexpected twists and turns. Being born breached set the stage for an existence where t ..read more

Parenthood is often viewed as a journey best taken with a partner—a shared endeavor filled with joy, challenges, and countless precious moments. However, the reality is that not every relationship stands the test of time, and some individuals find themselves embarking on the journey of parenthood solo. While no one enters a relationship with the expectation of becoming a single parent, the journey of parenthood can unveil invaluable lessons and red flags that we can all learn from. In the early stages of a relationship, it can be easy to overlook certain warning signs or red flags in the pursu ..read more

Breaking up with someone you once loved deeply can be one of the most challenging experiences in life. Perhaps you found yourself holding onto a relationship deep down. It’s time to let go as it’s long after its expiration date, knowing deep down that it’s time to let go? Whether the relationship ended mutually or one-sidedly, the aftermath can leave you feeling lost, confused, and emotionally drained. Moving on from a past relationship requires time, patience, and self-compassion. Here’s a guide to help you navigate through this difficult transition and find strength  to move on from a r ..read more

As the ground trembled beneath the bustling streets of New York City, a wave of panic swept through blocks and neighborhoods. The recent 4.8 scale earthquake, though relatively mild in magnitude, unearthed a myriad of emotions, leaving behind a mosaic of responses. Yet, amidst the chaos and uncertainty, lies a profound lesson about the intricate nature of childhood trauma and its far-reaching impact on individuals raised in the same household. For some, the earthquake was merely a passing tremor, scarcely felt amidst the hustle and bustle of daily life. Yet, for others, it served as a catalyst ..read more

Growing up in an environment marked by constant trauma responses fight, flight, freeze, and fawn can significantly impact one’s journey in finding a partner. Individuals raised in such conditions often find themselves drawn to partners who mirror the dynamics of their tumultuous childhood. This tendency poses a unique set of challenges in navigating relationships and can complicate the quest for a healthy and fulfilling partnership. One of the most important steps in dating is understanding the type of man who aligns with your needs, values, and aspirations. It’s not just about finding someone ..read more