Amongst the people that come to me for anger management, mothers comprise quite a significant number after stressed out corporate executives. What strikes me most is how often these mothers carry a sense of guilt towards their children. And I’m not talking about the guilt and remorse they feel after they have yelled or hit their family. I’m referring to the sense that they are never doing enough for their little ones. A little digging will reveal either hidden guilt or unresolved anger they have had towards their own parents over a series of events during childhood. Those with unconscious guil ..read more

He just had a daughter and he aims to be a better father… His wife is saying that either you seek help or I am leaving with the child… He can no longer stand the daily rage attacks and just want to feel peaceful for once in his life… She is having relationship difficulties with her husband and knows that her anger is the cause…   Many of them have physically abuse their spouses, some their children, some even strangers, so much so that they have brushes with the law. Sometimes I wonder why it takes so long and so painful a journey before they finally decided to take that step to resolve t ..read more

Anger is a powerful emotion that can cause us to act in ways we may later regret. While it’s important to acknowledge and express our anger, it’s equally important to learn how to control it. Often, unconscious beliefs are at the root of our anger, and addressing these beliefs can be a powerful tool for controlling our anger outbursts. What Are Unconscious Beliefs? Unconscious beliefs are beliefs that we hold without even realizing it. These beliefs are often formed early in life and can be based on our experiences, culture, and upbringing. Unconscious beliefs can affect how we see ourselves ..read more

1 ) Mindful Awareness: One technique that is becoming increasingly popular for managing anger is mindful awareness. This involves paying attention to your thoughts and feelings without judging them or reacting to them. When you notice angry thoughts or feelings arising, try to observe them without becoming attached to them or acting on them. 2) Progressive Muscle Relaxation: Progressive muscle relaxation is a technique that involves tensing and then relaxing different muscle groups in your body. This can help you release physical tension and reduce feelings of anger. To practice this technique ..read more

Anger is a natural emotion that everyone experiences, but it can become a problem when it is not managed properly. Uncontrolled anger can lead to various negative consequences, such as damaged relationships, health problems, and even legal issues. Therefore, it’s important to learn how to manage your anger effectively. Here are 10 proven techniques for managing your anger: Identify the triggers: Keep a record of the situations that make you angry, and try to avoid or prepare for them. Take a timeout: When you feel yourself getting angry, step away from the situation for a few minutes to cool ..read more

The Connection Between Our Emotions and Organs In traditional Chinese medicine (TCM), it is believed that emotions and our physical organs are intimately connected whereby emotions impact the health of the body and vice versa. Emotional imbalances can act as both symptoms and causes for physical issues. Specifically, emotions are narrowed down to five basic states that are each associated with a corresponding organ in the body: Anger with the liver Joy with the heart Sadness and grief with the lung Worry with the spleen and stomach How Anger Affects the Liver Anger causes the liver’s energy fl ..read more

We’re angry when we mistakenly believe that only others can give us the love and acceptance that we’re supposed to give ourselves. It’s not too late to remove this old programming from childhood. What happens when we realise that we have always been complete, and the believe ‘I need you to make me happy’ is only a myth? Would we still have a need to be angry?   ..read more

The person with low self-esteem has typically experienced emotional abuse in the form of malicious teasing, sarcasm, unfair judgments and criticism during his growing years. Being constantly made to feel shame, guilt and unworthiness for behaving differently from what others want, he has come to expect similar treatments even as an adult. This puts him in a state of constant hyper-vigilance about how people would react to him, which further exacerbates his feelings of fear and anxiety of being ridiculed and ostracized. Then there is the anxiety of not knowing what he needs to do to fit in with ..read more

Do the following characteristics describe you? Do you consider yourself or do others consider you to be very sensitive? Does emotional pain, or perhaps physical pain, really get to you? Do you tear up or cry easily – for instance, even during TV commercials? Do you tend to avoid dealing with painful issues? Do you find it hard to get over losses or get through grieving? Have you been through a great deal of physical or emotional pain? Do you crave pleasure, comfort, reward, enjoyment, or numbing from treats like chocolate, bread, wine, romance novels, marijuana, tobacco, or lattes?   If ..read more