In the quiet corners of a seemingly perfect marriage, the betrayed spouse cycle often lurks, unseen yet deeply felt by couples like Sarah and John. Both in their mid-40s and successful, they epitomize the suburban ideal, yet grapple with the aftershocks of John’s infidelity. This is a common tale. Research indicates many marriages face infidelity, igniting a cycle of emotions such as confusion, anger, and hurt. This leads to patterns of distrust and disconnection, which are often overlooked and brushed aside causing prolonged suffering. Recognizing and understanding the betrayed spouse cycle i ..read more

The discovery of a spouse’s infidelity is a gut-wrenching moment that shatters the trust foundational to any marriage. But when infidelity is not a one-time lapse in judgment, but a recurring wound, it can feel like an unending cycle of betrayal and despair. If you find yourself whispering the heart-heavy question, “Can my husband change after his repeated infidelity?” know that you’re not alone in this turbulent sea of emotions. Repeated infidelity in a marriage doesn’t just challenge the bond you share. It calls into question the very identity of your partnership and the future you envisione ..read more

The knot in your stomach, the disbelief in your mind, the clutching in your chest – these are the overwhelming physical sensations that seize you when you discover your spouse cheated. It’s likely a moment you never thought you would face, a possibility you never wanted to confront. Whether you stumbled upon a revealing text message or heard it straight from your partner’s lips, the truth is now impossible to ignore. Infidelity has breached the sanctity of your relationship. You’ve built a life together, navigated professional challenges, and perhaps raised children. Yet now, everything seems ..read more

Life is rarely as clear-cut as we’d like to believe. Each person carries a unique narrative filled with complexities, and the same is true when it comes to relationships. For some reason, you’re cheating on your wife. Those are five hard-hitting words, aren’t they? It’s a statement that doesn’t leave much room for gray areas. Yet here you are, in the midst of one of life’s most tumultuous gray areas. One of the most essential things to acknowledge for yourself is that infidelity isn’t typically a random, spontaneous event. It’s a path taken for a myriad of reasons, stemming from unresolved per ..read more

Surviving infidelity can feel impossible, infuriating, exhausting, not-worth-the-effort. And that’s the moment you wake up and remember what’s going on. Surviving infidelity triggers can feel like having coarse salt rubbed into a wound that never gets to heal. For the betrayed spouse, such a Promethean punishment can make the idea of love, trust and happiness seem like a cruel joke. As if learning that your spouse has been unfaithful isn’t bad enough, now you have to worry about surviving infidelity triggers too. And if the idea of those doesn’t make you choose the single life, there’s the add ..read more

Braving them one at a time is difficult enough. But surviving infidelity and depression together is downright heroic. After all, neither is particularly conducive to springing out of bed with a smile on your face and a list of self-care must-do’s on your calendar. On the contrary. Depression, betrayal from infidelity, and, God forbid, the combo platter are more likely to make you quit your job and invest in black-out curtains. “Wake me when it’s over!” The topic of depression is sometimes tricky because the word “depressed” or “depression” is often used casually to intensify the description of ..read more

Discovering that your spouse has cheated is a devastating experience that can leave you feeling overwhelmed and alone. You may feel like you are in the midst of a tornado, with countless questions swirling around you, attacking you from all sides. A man can cheat and still love his wife. A man can cheat and still love his wife. You might wonder if your husband chose to cheat, could he truly love you, or why you weren’t enough. The roller coaster of emotions that follows the discovery of his infidelity can be excruciating for both of you. It is entirely normal to experience intense emotional pa ..read more

Things aren’t always what they appear to be. And not everything has a textbook definition or obvious, arrow-pointing signs. Affairs, for example, aren’t necessarily driven by steamy sex and clandestine meetings. They can be masked by a slow-growing emotional connection that perhaps no one saw coming. Uncovering and surviving emotional infidelity, therefore, can be tricky. If you are married, think back to your wedding vows. What did you promise to do? What did you promise not to do? You wouldn’t be alone if the underlying message of your vows was “I promise not to have sex with anyone else for ..read more

Infidelity may be an equal-gender transgression. But men and women don’t necessarily handle infidelity by their spouses in equal ways. If you’re a man who has been betrayed, we’re going to discuss why surviving infidelity by your wife is so difficult. Statistics for cheating vary, depending on factors like size of the study pool and the used definition of cheating. A big factor influencing the accuracy of infidelity statistics is the honesty of those being surveyed. Their perception of what constitutes cheating – relative in part to their partners’ perception of what constitutes cheating – als ..read more

Be honest. Did you know how to talk to your spouse about trust before you were married? Or were you so confident in your relationship that you just assumed trust would not be an issue? There’s no wrong answer here. You’d be amazed how many couples don’t discuss the issue of trust in depth during the time leading up to marriage. What does it mean to you? What do you need from me in order to feel you can trust me?  What would a betrayal of trust look like for you, in both little and big ways? What would the restoration of trust look like for you? Are there any areas of trust that have been ..read more