Age is not just about the number of years you’ve lived or your physical appearance. It’s about your mindset and your perspective on aging. As someone who has been assisting people in their online dating journey for almost three decades, I’ve come across various perceptions of age and its influence on dating. It’s fascinating to see women in their late 60s looking like they’re in their 50s, men in their 60s appearing older than their age, and men in their 70s looking younger than expected. Some singles proudly state on their dating profiles, “Even though I’m 68, people often mistake me for 55 ..read more

At this stage in life, many women find themselves weighing the idea of searching for the “Perfect Man” who fulfills all their desires against the reality of finding a “Real Man” who isn’t perfect but has what’s important for creating a good, mature love relationship. Let’s Start with the Idea of the “Perfect Man” His image usually comes from the fairy tales we read as children. After my divorce, long before I was a dating coach for women over 50, my idea of a perfect man was Prince Charming. He’d come in and sweep me off my feet, pay for everything, and we would live happily ever after and ne ..read more

Have you considered meeting a man in real life versus at an online dating site? When I pose this question to the women I speak with, they often tell me they’re not sure where single men over 50 are hanging out. Hiding in Plain Sight Let’s clear that mystery up once and for all. Men are everywhere! But the reason it’s hard to meet them is because we tend to go to the same places over and over again. We simply get in the pattern of staying within a 3- to 5-mile radius of where we live. Just think about the same restaurants you go to or the same movie theaters you frequent. We are creatures of h ..read more

Different choices bring about different outcomes. Dating can be tough and discouraging. Love isn’t always easy. Relationships take effort. It’s normal to feel disheartened if things aren’t going the way you hoped in your romantic life. Today, I’ll talk about some factors that might be hindering your search for “the one.” Making some adjustments could lead to more positive outcomes. You probably know the old adage, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” When I listen to new or prospective clients talk about dating, this runs th ..read more

Dating? Ok, just go with me here. Stay with me. This is about dating. I’m a sports fan – I hit Spring Training on Sunday in Florida with the Red Sox and Yankees and watched my team wipe out the opponent. And now I’m caught up in March Madness and was glued to multiple channels a few nights ago. And saw some things that reminded me of dating. (After over 25 years of being a dating coach, I can compare any sport to dating… you’ll probably hear me write soon about my idol Messi and comparing soccer to dating). Is online dating a long shot? I don’t think so. As I watched long odds Oakland Univers ..read more

It’s no secret that women over 60 have extremely high standards as they experience the dating scene. You are smart, independent, and savvy and don’t want to settle for anything less than you already have. You’ve built a beautiful life for yourself. The problem is, you’ve built a beautiful life for one, and it gets lonely. Unfortunately, when you meet someone new, it’s typical to evaluate him based on your ‘list’. Everyone has one, even if you don’t have it written down. And it’s human nature to naturally look for a reason to say “No” rather than “Yes.” Your brain is working overtime to keep y ..read more

These are my 10 rules of online dating based on tons of hours spent online with clients for over 25 years. As you read over them, note down how many of them you follow, then score yourself at the bottom. Here we go: Fake It Till You Make It Self-confidence is attractive. So, you’ve been widowed or divorced and not been on a first date since your 20s or 30s? No time better than the present. Practice Makes Perfect You won’t get it right the first time around, but that shouldn’t surprise you or wipe your motivation. It’s tough to find yourself online, staring at the 318 potential men that showed ..read more

One of the most common complaints I hear from my coaching clients about first dates is that they didn’t feel any chemistry. So often we expect it to feel like a bolt of lightning like you see in the movies. We forget, we live in real life, not in a movie. Can it happen? Sure. But realize that this is more likely a chemical reaction rather than an emotional connection. It’s a love vs. lust concept. If you don’t feel that sizzle as soon as you meet someone, it doesn’t mean there won’t ever be any chemistry between you two. It simply means it may need time to develop. Most women don’t realize th ..read more

It seems like at every stage of life we say, “Well, they’re at that age.” Whether it’s teething, or asking why every five seconds, or moodiness, or midlife blues, or reinventing ourselves. In our 60s, we’re at that age where we often find ourselves newly divorced, newly widowed, or sprouting wings as we continue to fly solo. Are You Out of the Dating Loop? As baby boomers, we can wake up one day and find ourselves completely out of the loop when it comes to navigating the online dating world. I was 43 when my husband left, and since I had been married from the age of 20, I had never really da ..read more

As always, I like to bring my real dating experiences to you so we can all learn together from these relevant lessons. So, today’s article is about Bob (not his real name). I connected with Bob on Match.com, which is where I meet most of the men I date. I really enjoy online dating and believe it’s a good fit for me. Texting or Calling? We chatted through the platform for a day or so and then exchanged phone numbers so we could connect more personally. Typically, I like to go from text to a phone call, and then to a date all within about seven days. It helps keep the fire blazing until we can ..read more