WHEN IT IS TIME TO LEAVE
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by jon.miller@thomsonreuters.com
1M ago
WHEN IT IS TIME TO LEAVE … The intimate relationship had begun to slip away, indifference was evolving into contempt, arguments became frequent, tempers flared, insults and threats were shouted – the flash point! Counselors caution that a flash point is a very serious warning.  The risk of serious physical injury is at its highest immediately before a partner leaves. Escape Vehicle Escape from an unsafe relationship usually means grabbing car key fobs and hitting the road.  The objective is to put distance between yourself and the trauma – to escape and disappear long enough to menta ..read more
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Family Disputes
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by ankit.kumar@thomsonreuters.com
2M ago
Family disputes are traumatic. Conflicts among family members involve a tangled web of emotional and legal issues that can be overwhelming.  No one is immune to the pain that hammers away at a person’s psychological balance during a divorce; however, some people seem to cope much better than others. Question – Why do some folks deal with adversity relatively well while others hit an emotional wall and virtually cease to function? Finding Strength The ability to survive a traumatic situation with limited psychological injury has been described as mental toughness, fortitude, psychological ..read more
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Words To Drive Yourself Crazy
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by veeresh.chakali@thomsonreuters.com
4M ago
Emotional turmoil is always part of a divorce. The only unpredictable aspects are related to how pervasive will it be and how long will it last. Maintaining control over your personal psychological balance is essential. Self-talk is a technique counselors recommend to help deal with the trauma of a divorce. Of course, there is positive self-talk and negative self-talk. The language you select for your self-talk is important – Negative self-talk frequently involves the word “IF” – What if What if this divorce costs a fortune … Only if I will settle only if I get what I want … Not if There will ..read more
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Helpful Divorce Advice You Need To Know
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by bill.melcher@thomsonreuters.com
6M ago
Once the folks around you learn that you are considering a divorce, you may find yourself inundated with “helpful advice”.  The advice will probably range from “just walk away from it” to “don’t give the sorry SOB anything” and everything in between. WARNING: All of the advice is wrong.  That sounds like an over-generalization but it is not. FACTS: Your marriage relationship involves two unique personalities (you and your spouse) who are joined in a unique physical, emotional and psychological relationship (the marriage) while dealing with the unique aspects of your lives (financial ..read more
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Can I Get Through This Mess? If So, How?
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by sake.dharani@thomsonreuters.com
6M ago
Involvement in a divorce usually delivers a huge psychological and emotional jolt to the parties.  The agony and mental turmoil caused by the loss of an intimate relationship can be overwhelming, even paralyzing. Question & Answer As the trauma nears the crescendo level, the question arises: “Can I Get Through This Mess?” And the follow-up question is: “If So, How?” Psychologists say the first answer is: “Yes.” And the second answer is: “You have the tools, you just need to use them.” Brain Power – Medical researchers assure us that our minds are resilient and we have the capability t ..read more
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Gratitude, empathy and mindfulness (GEM)
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by m.muotka@thomsonreuters.com
1y ago
Enduring the rigors of the pandemic has been a challenge – a greater challenge than some folks could handle.  The anxiety and uncertainty visited upon us by Covid “got to” numerous people who were otherwise high functioning, optimistic, capable personalities.  As we moved from one Covid chapter to the next, fear of the unknown escalated and a gnawing dread became the unwelcome companion of many folks.  On the other hand, some people dealt with the omnipresent gloom and potential for depression more effectively. Divorce Covid has been devastating on a worldwide scale.  On a ..read more
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Meditation, arbitration, collaborative law: What are they and how do they work?
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by m.muotka@thomsonreuters.com
1y ago
 The short answer is – they are different approaches to resolving disputes without having a trial. The “Google” Process When they need information, many people immediately turn to Google.  A Google search of the word “mediation” will pull up hundreds of websites and the same is true for “arbitration” and “collaborative law”.  The volume of information is overwhelming – some of it is accurate and some of it is not. A phone call to an experienced lawyer is the best avenue to sort through the avalanche of information Google produces. Mediation The mediator is usually an experienced ..read more
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What if things get really bad?
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by m.muotka@thomsonreuters.com
1y ago
When a marriage relationship begins to crumble, emotional turmoil builds and an overriding gloom pushes positive thoughts aside.  Frustration and anger can become overpowering forces.  In most cases, consulting an experienced attorney and/or counselor is the route to take.  However, in extreme cases verbal abuse can escalate into physical violence. So, that brings us to the question: What should I do if things get really bad? The answer is: Step 1 – Before things get really bad, make a personal safety plan. Step 2 – If things get really bad, follow your personal safety plan. Eve ..read more
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Is it okay if I do this…?
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by m.muotka@thomsonreuters.com
1y ago
Emotional turmoil is always part of a divorce. Parties suffer from the friction and overriding gloom of a marriage that has run off the tracks. Sometimes the frustration and anger of the situation result in an overwhelming need for “pay-back” – the need to inflict some type of injury on the other party. Quite often, the “pay-back” happens before a party hires a lawyer or without asking for their lawyer’ advice. What if the client had asked the lawyer – “Is it okay if I do this…?” Use a hockey stick to smack the windshield of the Porsche? Throw the clothes out in the yard and turn on the sprink ..read more
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Is A Relationship Just A Relationship, Or Is It A Marriage?
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by paul.nishikawa@thomsonreuters.com
1y ago
Formal Marriage vs. Informal Marriage In Texas there are two kinds of marriages: 1) the formal marriage that typically involves a ceremony and a stack of paperwork, and 2) the informal marriage that does not involve the same level of formality or documentation.  Evidence of a formal marriage is easy to find – there are multiple documents, many of which are filed in public records.  On the other hand, evidence of an informal marriage (also known as a “common law marriage”) must be found in the actions of the parties. Texas law does not refer to a “common law marriage” – the Family Cod ..read more
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