by Mayre Flores  My constant state? Tired. I can sleep through the night, drink coffee in the morning, and sit in the sun for optimal vitamin D absorption. But even after my midday coffee and my prescribed stimulant medication that helps me focus, I’m still tired. Typically, I get a boost of energy in the morning and can go on working (nonstop) for hours. But once midday hits, that energy is gone. And it feels debilitating. While “tiredness” doesn’t typically fall under the diagnostic criteria for ADHD, so many people — like me — have reported experiencing fatigue. Researchers have found ..read more

by Mayre Flores    When I first received my ADHD diagnosis—and started treatment — I thought life would begin to work out the way I thought it was supposed to. But I quickly learned that wasn’t going to be the case. For me, having ADHD feels like my mind is going 1,000 mph until it finally lands on something. See, it doesn’t matter whether I add or subtract things from my to-do lists, because there’s always a voice in the back of my mind reminding me that I should be doing something else. Typically, I’m able to do the hard work of staying focused and on task. But there are still ..read more

By Cynthia Hammer, MSW, Author of Living with Inattentive ADHD   Imagine someone has invited you for tea and they keep filling your cup until it is overflowing.  You are surprised, and cry out them, “Watch what you’re doing!  Can’t you see that the cup can’t hold any more.? It’s overflowing.” Now imagine the cup of tea is your mind.  How often do you attempt to overstuff your mind with too many thoughts, too many concerns, too many anxieties.  When you mind is too full, how can you empty it so you become calm and relaxed? Here are four, mind calming habits to include ..read more

By Cynthia Hammer, MSW, Author of Living with Inattentive ADHD   As you look at each item, ask yourself: ·         What are my reasons for keeping this?  Are they valid reasons? ·         When and how often do I really use it?  Do not decide based on how often you want to use it. ·         Is there some other item that would make better use of this space?  ·         Is it in its most efficient location?  i.e wit ..read more

By Cynthia Hammer, MSW, Author of Living with Inattentive ADHD   Today, I realized that ADHD is no longer a big issue in my life. Initially, I couldn't put my finger on when it became a nothing burger for me, but it has. Perhaps learning how I journeyed to wholeness will benefit you.   Stop criticizing yourself! I cannot overstate how important this is. Self-criticism does not lead to self-improvement. Instead, it is demoralizing, discouraging, and depressing. How helpful can that be? It doesn't motivate you to improve; it only tears you down. Over the years, often unconsciously, you ..read more

The journey to unmasking starts with yourself.  A foundational first step can be writing your personal essay. Reflecting on your life and the trials, tribulations and successes that brought you where you are today can be a way to ground yourself in authenticity.  I wrote my life story, Living with Inattentive ADHD, during Covid’s isolation. It was published on August 29, 2023 and is available wherever you buy books. or on Amazon. Even though I wrote numerous articles about my ADHD life shortly after my diagnosis in 1992, I didn’t share everything.  I wrote the book when I was 78 ..read more

  Is it good if a vacuum really sucks?   Why is the third hand on a watch called the second hand?    If a word is misspelled in the dictionary, how would we ever know?   If Webster wrote the first dictionary, where did he find the words?   Why do we say something is out of whack?  What is a whack?    Why does "slow down" and "slow up" mean the same thing?    Why does "fat chance" and "slim chance" mean the same thing?   Why do "tug" boats push their barges?   Why do we sing "Take me out to the ball game" when we ..read more

By Cynthia Hammer, MSW, Executive Director Author of Living with Inattentive ADHD "It all works…until it doesn't," in a recent article about ADHD in women made me see red. I wanted to shout at the author, "Your life wasn't working! It never worked for you, for any of us, until after our ADHD diagnosis and treatment!”  Maybe you want to buy into the myth that you were doing fantastic in life, that ADHD didn't show up for you until middle school, high school, or college or when your life got more complicated, but you deny reality when you believe, "It all worked…until it didn't."  You ..read more

by Denise Brodey I want to spread the word to women ADHD-ers in particular that the worst possible thing you can do is try to be like everyone else. Why fit in when you can stand out?  You’re not like other people. Don’t listen to other people. It makes sense that the usual rules don’t apply. This is difficult for others who want to help. It’s my experience that changing your life is an inside job first. You do the mental gymnastics required and then you can be a flexible, reasonable person with others.  Read the full article.   ..read more

Bite your tongue when others are talking. Let them finish, and don't try to finish what they are saying because you think you know what's coming next. Immediately put upcoming obligations on your phone calendar and set two reminder alerts; you will rarely miss anything or disappoint anyone due to forgetting. Only start one thing at a time Use maps wherever you go Timers. I have a timer on my watch and set it any time I sit down, pick up my phone, or do anything where I may zone out. Setting a timer helps with time blindness. Attempt fewer things Have less stuff Make a digital list of tasks bas ..read more