Recently I had the honor of meeting with Dr. Jess for her podcast, Sex with Dr. Jess and we spoke about sexual compatibility. I don’t think it’s much of a secret that I think folk use the idea of being sexually compatible as a cop out.  What I mean is that we often work hard as hell to NOT try but then blame everything on sexual compatibility. We will say there is no chemistry, that we feel off, and have really done no work. Now, you know that I am a whole assed sex and relationship therapist so ima give you a short run down on the tea spilt in that conversation with Dr. Jess. There are ..read more

TL; DR: anxiety can happen a lot at night because of the last thing you ate, the last thing you watched, or that stuff that never got figured out in the day because now your brain is quiet. Manage that nighttime anxiety by managing what you eat, see, and by creating a routine that gives you great rest! Have you ever been feeling “some kind of way” and it felt like a combination of panic, fear, and uneasiness? Then you feel like you can’t breathe properly, there is pressure on your chest, and you are almost gasping for breath? You might also notice your heart beating right out of your chest, y ..read more

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Photo by Nicole Berro There are numerous articles and lists available that teaches introverts how to become more extroverted. They want introverts to speak more, be more confident, show up and show out. But what about the other way around?   There are not nearly as many articles that teach folk about the benefits and the how on being introverted. Why?   That’s because of the misconception that introverts are shy, soft-spoken, easily anxious, and awkward folks. But more than that, we see introverted traits as being less than and something about ourselves to hide. Truth is ..read more

As always you can check out Dr. O’s Sex Toolkit and find all kinds of goodies. If you want to get on my schedule you can do that here! To hire me for speaking engagements including but not limited to keynotes, workshops, and trainings, you can click here to email me ..read more

Several things were mentioned here including a book and a webinar. Both can be accessed with the links below :) 1. Michelle Hope is the author of A Girls Gide to Sex Education which is the awesome book reviewed in this blog post! 2. Sex Talk: Parent Edition is a webinar for parents and caregivers to help along that journey of speaking to the kiddos about sex and sexuality. It can be hard, but I’ve got your back. Take $20 off with the code STPE2018 3. Nope, I didn’t forget about the boys, I will be on the look out for a book that speaks to boys the same way this one is supposed to speak to girl ..read more

A few things were mentioned in this week’s blog post. So here are the link for you folk who aren’t on Annodright.com 1. AnnodRight Instagram Feel free to follow me here. I post all kinds of goodies throughout the week :) 2. A gratitude jar is a jar you would use to put in notes to yourself about things you are grateful for throughout the week. I started mine in January and take time around December to read the notes to myself so I can reflect back on the year and plan for the next year. Yes, I will be doing a class on it and goal planning for your mental health. You can sign up for email notif ..read more

Here are some of the links for things mentioned in the episode…or that should have been. 1. Erin Tillman The Dating Advice Girl, is an inclusive Dating Coach and Certified NLP Practitioner dedicated to empowering ALL SINGLES IN ALL LIFESTYLES to have happy, healthy, and enjoyable dating lives that best suit their dating & relationship wants, needs, and objectives. She is also the fabulous author of The Consent Guidebook, which I reviewed last week. If you want to check out that audioblog, click here. 2. Want to get on Dr. Oriowo’s schedule but aren’t sure if you’d fit for therapy or coachi ..read more

Photo by Daniel McCullough on Unsplash I remember my time like it was yesterday. I was a sophomore in college, attending my school’s all nighter. I was super excited and went to meet my boyfriend for a night of dancing and fun. As I was cuddled up with my boyfriend, during a slow song, someone smacked me on the behind and kept walking. I immediately left my boyfriend’s arms to confront the person who did it, when he stopped walking and met up with his friends, I realized the anger I felt was laughed at by 6 big men, over 6’2, waiting for me “to say something.” I don’t know what would ..read more

Photo by JD Mason on Unsplash Today we talk about the duality in people and learning to accept that in honor of ourselves. Lately, I have published a few posts that speak about the duality of people and how we sanitize people to be who we expect them to be. It’s a part of cognitive dissonance, when ideas, beliefs, and behaviors contradict each other. If you want to read more about how I see saint and scoundrel, you can read about it in some of the other posts including this one about Kelis & Nas. But, for this post, we are talking about how that black and white thinking can feel like ..read more