Written by Sexual Wellness Institute Therapist,  There is a myth out there I want to bust - that you cannot honor and explore your queerness when in a committed, with a straight partner. This commonly believed myth perpetuates so much stigma and imposter syndrome within queer individuals who are with a straight partner or in a “straight passing” relationship. It can lead people to feeling like they don’t truly fit in anywhere, not with the but also not in the heterosexual space. I want to shatter this narrative. In this blog post I will dive into ways you can honor your queerness when wit ..read more

As you know this season of Love is Blind was full of drama and things to discuss. I am going to only discuss one portion for the purposes of this blog – and that is Clay talking about how he is afraid of cheating on AD. He says it so many times it sounds like a threat more than a discussion.  Infidelity is a choice…but Clay had good reason to be worried about cheating due to his family history of infidelity. Clay had the right idea discussing his fears of cheating with AD, but he didn’t have the right follow-up or execution. If you grow up seeing your parents or other role models doing ce ..read more

Written by Sexual Wellness Institute Therapist,   is a very common problem people run into when it comes to sex. There's pressure to please, be sexy, , have an orgasm, and so much more. It's no wonder so many people end up feeling expectation and pressure instead of anticipation and excitement around sex. This can lead to individuals or couples avoiding sex, intimacy, or even touch, as the problem continues to grow and build pressure the longer it goes unaddressed. Today I want to look at some of the primary causes of performance anxiety and a few ways to start working them out of yo ..read more

Who Am I in Kink? Part 3: Safe Words, Limits, and Negotiations become more and more popular throughout the media, and in our lives it’s important to learn how to do things in a safe manner. Maybe you’ve always been curious about exploring the rougher side of sex and intimacy . Maybe there are certain roles or scenes you’ve wanted to try but aren’t sure where to start. Maybe you’re nervous about getting hurt physically or emotionally. This blog series is all about curiosity and exploration while teaching you the tools to keep you and your partner(s) safe. is an exchange of power between co ..read more

Who Am I in Kink? Part 1: Dominant Types Kink and BDSM has become a popular topic in recent years in books, movies, and social media. Many wonder what kink and BDSM is all about, and maybe you’re one of those people! What happens in those types of relationships? What are the different parts of practicing BDSM ? Who are the different types of players and what are their roles? In this blog series, I’m going to give you the inside scoop on those questions and many more. Whether you’re just curious about it or ready to dive in, see what resonates with you and what aspects you might want to bring t ..read more

Who Am I in Kink? Part 2: Submissive Types Curiosity may have killed the cat, but it also opens the door to finding new and exciting things about yourself and the world around you. Maybe it’s curiosity that brought you here to explore what kink and BDSM is all about. Or maybe it’s wanting to learn more about who you are in kink and BDSM. This blog series is all about curiosity, exploration, and giving you the inside scoop on what BDSM and kink is. Kink and/or BDSM at its core is an exchange of power between consenting partners through a series of activities and roleplays, also known as scenes ..read more

The "It" Product of the Summer: Lube! There frequently seems to be a myth that lubricants are only for people with vaginas who struggle with vaginal dryness. That is absolutely not the case. There is a lube for everyone and every type of sex. found in a research study that the use of lubrication was associated with more pleasurable and satisfying sex and masturbation. Not only can lubricants , but they can also make sex safer! Yes, you heard that right. When having sex with a condom, using a lubricant makes it less likely for the condom to rip or tear, therefore decreasing your risk of pregnan ..read more

Written by Sexual Wellness Institute Therapist,  If you've done any couples therapy or spent time researching how to better your relationships on your own, you've probably heard of John Gottman has been one of the most prolific researchers on couples therapy for decades, having authored over two hundred scholarly articles and more than two dozen books. With such a wealth of information, it can feel overwhelming when wondering where to start learning from his work. Today, I want to go over some basic concepts that you can start putting into practice in your own life and ..read more

Written by Sexual Wellness Institute The first of this month marked National Hair Day, which got me thinking about an amazing piece of evolutionary biology that doesn’t get the recognition it deserves: pubic hair! Our “hair down there” is often the subject of questions, comparisons, and for some, even shame . Should I “mow the lawn” before having sex? Will my partner expect me to be bare “down there”? Will I be dirty and smelly if I don’t “clean the carpet”? What are the best products to use on my “bush”? Our conversations about pubic hair are frequently veiled with euphemisms and an implicit ..read more

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