Did you know you can learn a lot about your body and how well it’s functioning, simply by paying attention to your penis? It’s true. Often, the penis gets treated like it’s a completely independent body part, doing its own thing. But once you understand how erections connect to the rest of your body, you can make different choices to improve them. Because the truth is, your penis reflects what’s happening further upstream. Any problems you’re having with your erection don’t start with the penis itself, they start with your heart and your hormones. How to measure your erections Not with a ruler ..read more

In my opinion, we could all stand to talk about sex more often. But if there’s one sex topic people tend to shy away from, it’s STIs. I know, I know. For most of us, it’s easier to discuss sex positions, or oral techniques, or dirty talk, or…pretty much anything else. But the fact is, 50-80% of American adults have oral herpes, ​​which typically shows up as recurrent cold sores. It’s one of the most common STIs out there, and yet it’s wildly misunderstood.  But you can have an awesome sex life with oral herpes. The symptoms of oral herpes or HSV-1, including cold sores and fever blisters ..read more

Let’s talk vagina wellness.  In a perfect world, we’d be out here living our wildest lives and our vaginas would be none the wiser. But the truth is, your vagina is an indicator of overall health, just like your gut.  You know when you skimp on fresh fruits and vegetables, and start leaning on fast food? And everything’s cool at first, but soon your stomach starts to hurt, and your digestion gets all weird? That’s your gut telling you it’s out of whack. And the same thing happens to your vagina.  Because your vagina houses a complex ecosystem of bacteria, it’s helpful to know wh ..read more

Well… Is it? Let’s cut to the chase. Chances are, yes, your penis is completely normal. That said, you probably want to know a little more than that, so let’s dig a little deeper, shall we? It can’t hurt to know what “normal” looks like in terms of metrics. So I’ve broken down the four most common characteristics penis owners ask about, along with the numbers.   Length: Pop culture’s obsession with penis length may make you think most people have an exceptionally large penis. But in reality, the average penis length is 3.61 inches flaccid and 5.17 inches erect. Girth: What abou ..read more

Let’s firm up our erection knowledge.  Because here’s the deal. We’re all familiar with the basic concept, but the physiological process behind erections is more complex than you may realize. At the heart of it is blood, which enters the penis through its arteries, and stays trapped inside via the veins. But why does it get flowing in the first place? Is it always sex-related?  Turns out: no. A penis can get hard when its owner isn’t even fully conscious (as with nocturnal erections). It can get erect during random times (working out, on a flight), and it can go away during inopportu ..read more

Let’s talk sex goals, vulva owners. There are three skills that I hear over and over that you’re dying to achieve with your bodies:  Internal orgasms Squirting Multiple orgasms And here’s a secret: all of these goals are contingent on the health of your pelvic floor. How strong and toned it is, how responsive it is to stimulation, and how aroused you are when you have sex and/or masturbate.  So let’s go through your goals one by one, and break down the steps to get you there. Internal Orgasms While the clitoris is key for helping vulva owners orgasm, it is possible to have a G-spot ..read more

Let’s talk about setting yourself up for sex-cess in the AM.  Over the years, I’ve learned that sexual pleasure doesn’t happen on accident. I’m far more likely to experience it if I’ve got the right habits in place: habits that make me feel clean and confident, sexy and sensual. Some of these habits are sleep hygiene basics (get eight hours of sleep a night, wake up at the same time every day, charge my phone outside of the bedroom), but the real magic happens when I wake up. So let’s help you feel yourself all day long, starting with a 10/10 morning routine. Breathwork in Bed If your min ..read more

When you have sex with anyone, my hope for you is that it’s pleasurable and satisfying. But let’s talk about safe sex: broadly speaking, I’m referring to STI prevention and unwanted pregnancy prevention. When you’re informed and have communicated safe sex practices with your partners, you can relax that much more into the sex itself.  Speaking of communication: did you know that most people report having their best sex when their partners make them feel comfortable? In this way, safe sex communication can tell you a lot about a person. When they’ve shown that they’re mature enough to have ..read more

Here are a few essential truths about the clitoris. First: its single purpose is pleasure, full stop. Second: only a part of the clitoris is visible to the naked eye. So where’s the rest of it?  The (very) recent history of clitoral research In 1998, Australian urologist Helen O’Connell was the first researcher to claim that there was more to the clitoris than the glans: the small nub we can see, covered by the clitoral hood. I’ll let you take a moment to absorb the 1998 part.  Using photography to map the nerve structure of the clitoris, O’Connell and her colleagues concluded that t ..read more

There’s something in the air, and it’s not just allergens. Sexy spring has officially sprung.  So how can you have your best sex during spring?  GET OUTSIDE First, take some vitamin D. No, not that kind… I’m talking sunlight, to give you energy for other forms of “D.” “You want to make sure you’re getting bright light from the sun, preferably before noon,” said Max Lugavere when he came on the pod. According to Max, morning sunlight activates proteins in your eye that then activates a region of the brain associated with your body’s master clock. That primes you for daylight-associate ..read more