By Harold & Bette Gillogly Why pray when you can worry? Say what? Yes, we know it’s backwards, but it gets the point across. It’s downright foolish to waste time worrying, when you could be doing something that could change the whole situation. Right? It sounds so simple, doesn’t it? But sometimes, we just can’t seem to dig ourselves out of our worry rut. That’s why we want to challenge you to memorize two short verses and keep them handy like a sword to carve you out of that rut and set your feet onto a solid faith footing. Here they are – “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about ..read more

by Harold and Bette Gillogly Assumptions will kill your relationships! Assumptions like, “She just said that to hurt me.” “He did that because he doesn’t care what I think.” “We can’t talk about it because she (he) will just get mad and we’ll end up in a fight. So why bother?” It’s not just that we make assumptions, but what’s even worse is that we act upon our assumptions, not knowing if they are right or wrong. And not really caring enough to find out like a reasonable person should do. Afterall, don’t people deserve the benefit of the doubt? Must our assumptions assume the worst of them? On ..read more

A Study of B-O-B HOPE Part 3 – The Benefits of Our Hope By Harold and Bette Gillogly We have looked at the Basis of HOPE and the Operation of HOPE. Now it’s time to finish our B–O–B HOPE Study with Part 3 – the Benefits of HOPE. BENEFITS – What wonderful benefits does God have for us when we hold on to HOPE? The Scripture is full of the benefits we receive from putting our HOPE in God. Let’s take a look at some of them: No one whose HOPE is in you will ever be put to shame, but they will be put to shame who are treacherous without excuse.  (Psa. 25:3) (See also Psa. 25:21 and 69:6) I ..read more

A Study of B-O-B HOPE Part 2 – The Operation of Our Hope By Harold and Bette Gillogly Welcome to Part 2 of our study on HOPE. In the first part, we looked deep into Scripture to find out about our Basis of HOPE – what we should and should not base our HOPE on. As promised, here in Part 2 we are going to dig deep again into Scripture to find out about the operation of our HOPE. Does it simply happen automatically, or do we play a part in making sure HOPE lives in us in both belief and practice – how we THINK and how we LIVE? Do we have to cooperate in the operation of our HOPE? If so, what is o ..read more

A Study of B-O-B HOPE Part 1 – The Basis of Our HOPE By Harold and Bette Gillogly When most people talk about HOPE, they really mean “wish.” Like “I wish a bus would come by.” But when the Bible talks about HOPE, it’s talking about confidently waiting for God. So HOPE says, “I am so sure a bus is coming by, I’m sitting here with my suitcase and ticket.” In fact, in the Hebrew, HOPE and WAIT are the same word! In this blog, we will be studying the first B of B-O-B, the BASIS of HOPE. What does our HOPE truly rest on? If our HOPE is to be authentic, Biblical HOPE, then what do we base it on? Fir ..read more

By Harold and Bette Gillogly    I was on the phone making an appointment for a medical test I needed. Harold was sitting close enough to hear the conversation. Monday morning, three weeks away, was the earliest appointment available, so I took it. Harold said softly, “It has to be Monday?” I assumed he meant that he plays ping pong with a group on Monday mornings and didn’t want to miss it. I said, “It’s ok. I can go alone for this test.” Harold repeated, “It has to be Monday?” So I quipped, “It’s ok, Honey. I can go by myself.” The appointment was set and I hung up the phone. Then ..read more

by Harold and Bette Gillogly Conflict is exhausting! It’s depressing! It’s a joy-stealer! So, do you want to conquer it? How badly? The Bible has the secret to conquering conflict, but it’s going to cost you. The real question is: are you willing to pay the price to conquer conflict in your marriage? If you are, read on. 1 Peter 3:8 sums it up. If you obey this ONE verse, you can conquer conflict in any relationship! Finally, all of you, be like-minded, sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble. (NIV) Let’s unpack this verse a little bit. The first thing you have to do is to c ..read more

by Harold and Bette Gillogly Ok, we’re going to get real honest here. Sometimes our prayer life gets ho-hum…same-o, same-o. Does yours ever seem that way? We wish we could say that we are always pro-active and take immediate action to do something about it. But the truth is, this time we became challenged one Sunday morning by our pastor to pray three times a day with three people for three weeks. For us, praying together is one of the most important foundations of our marriage, so we decided to ask one other couple to commit themselves to pray with us three times a day for three weeks. This h ..read more

by Harold and Bette Gillogly What makes a husband back away and seem distant? What makes him stop listening and maybe even stubbornly dig his heels in deeper? Here’s one possible answer. Not the only one, but one you as his wife need to consider. He might just be sick and tired of you telling him what he should and should not be doing. In other words, nagging. Just to be clear, women don’t have the market cornered on nagging. Men nag too. We call it badgering. And they can become downright obsessive in whatever they are badgering about. So keep in mind that these same six steps apply when the ..read more

By Harold and Bette Gillogly It wasn’t a “dark and stormy night,” but it sure was a long and scary one. Our first night home after Bette’s knee replacement surgery was very strange, as well. Her temperature spiked, which caused the scary part, as she experienced delirium…she was convinced there was a bird sitting on her forehead. Sounds funny now, but it certainly wasn’t then – especially for Harold who thought she might be losing her mind. By morning, the bird had flown and Bette was thinking more clearly. The high temperature and low blood pressure were still hanging around however. We calle ..read more