(8) Don't Plant Your Seeds: Chapter Eight
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by Jenny duBay
2d ago
In this excerpt of chapter eight of Don’t Plant Your Seeds Among Thorns, I discuss annulments for those who have had to seek a divorce after an abusive relationship. In the next installment of this series, I’ll offer excerpts from chapter nine, which covers the delicate yet important question: Can someone who uses abuse to control their relationship tru… Read more ..read more
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Even Physical Abuse Isn’t Always Obvious
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by Jenny duBay
6d ago
(Grapix / Canva Photos) Have you ever wondered if you’re a victim of physical violence within your own home, but you’re not quite sure? Or perhaps you haven’t wondered at all, because the threats have been so hidden that you haven’t recognized them. After all, he’s never hit you … Even for those enduring physical abuse, the tactics aren’t always obvious. This may seem like a silly thing to say—after all, physical violence is always obvious, isn’t it? There will be an outright attack that results in bruises or scratches, broken bones or finger marks, perhaps even blood. Maybe an ambulance wil ..read more
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(7) Don't Plant Your Seeds: Chapter Six, Part One
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by Jenny duBay
1w ago
The last installment of my book, Don’t Plant Your Seeds Among Thorns: A Catholic’s Guide to Domestic Abuse, covered part one of chapter four. The second half of that chapter, along with chapter five and portions of chapter six, will be published exclusively in the print copy of the book, to be released this autumn from En Route Books & Media. In addition to all the other benefits paid subscribers receive (subscriber-only posts, both new and archived; the opportunity to interact through comments and community involvement; and private offers for coaching and group support), I’ll soon be offe ..read more
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How to Heal After Trauma: Listening to God's Call
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by Jenny duBay
1w ago
Domestic abuse does a number on a person (and that’s putting it mildly). To be so betrayed—again and again—by the person you trust the most, love the most, and had the most faith in, is devastating. Just ask Jesus—He knows what that feels like. (Francesco Alberti / Unsplash) When I emerged from the frozen shock of abuse and began to heal, I felt like I’d spent the last decade sleeping my life away, cut off from the rest of the world, secluded in a void of my own making. I’d been hiding in the clefts of the rock so no one could hurt me any longer (Song of Songs 2:14). Betrayal trauma does tha ..read more
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(6) Don't Plant Your Seeds: Chapter Four, Part One
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by Jenny duBay
3w ago
Before we dive into the next chapter of my book, Don’t Plant Your Seeds Among Thorns: A Catholic Guide to Domestic Abuse, I want to give a huge shout-out — filled with tremendous thanksgiving and gratitude — for the immense response to my book. In just the short time that it’s been incrementally released, I’ve been awarded the “Substack Bestseller” status due to the large increase in readers. Each subscriber helps me continue my ministry, so I’m truly grateful to all. I had no idea the response to my book would be so huge, yet it does speak to a lack in our Catholic culture, as I’m hearing ..read more
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An Abuse Dictionary: Terms You Need to Know
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by Jenny duBay
1M ago
(Syd Wachs / Unsplash) In my articles and on my website, I use a variety of terms to describe the crazy, traumatic, and often dehumanizing tactics deployed by an abusive personality against his or her target. Many of my readers are familiar with these terms, since they’re common to nearly all abusive relationships. However, a refresher is always good, and if you’re just becoming aware of what’s going on in your life and determined to educate yourself as much as possible, a list of these terms can be very helpful. However, this list is just the tip of the proverbial iceberg—there are so many ..read more
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(5) Don't Plant Your Seeds: Chapter Three
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by Jenny duBay
1M ago
(Timur Weber pexels.com) Don’t Plant Your Seeds Among Thorns: A Catholic Guide To Domestic Abuse Chapter Three: Verbal Attacks and Psychological Violence “For every kind of beast and bird, or reptile and sea creature, can be tamed and has been tamed by mankind, but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.” (James 3:… Read more ..read more
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(4) Don't Plant Your Seeds: Chapter Two, Part Two
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by Jenny duBay
1M ago
(Timothy Dykes / Unsplash) Don’t Plant Your Seeds Among Thorns: A Catholic Guide To Domestic Abuse Chapter Two: The Serpent and the Maiden “At the root of every act of violence against one’s neighbor there is a concession to the ‘thinking’ of the evil one, the one who ‘was a murderer from the beginning’ (Jn 8:44).” (St. John Paul II, The Gospel of Life) Back to the first abuser, the serpent, and to the evils of manipulation. As mentioned, covert tactics can be difficult to recognize, and even more difficult to admit as a problem in a relationship. How can you reconcile your “knight in shin ..read more
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Release the Past and Embrace the Future
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by Jenny duBay
1M ago
(Darius Bashar / Unsplash) How do we let go of a traumatic, disappointing, or abusive past? How can we forgive (including self), release, be healed, and move on? Sadly, there is no magical wand. Christianity doesn’t offer magic, or the easy way out. Releasing the past doesn’t mean ignoring it, or running from it. Releasing the past means journeying straight through the trauma and the memories in order to reach the other side. And that’s the hard part. None of us are born to be trained in the ways of suffering. Most often we don’t know how to deal with it, which makes the struggle all the mor ..read more
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(3) Don't Plant Your Seeds: Chapter Two, Part One
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by Jenny duBay
2M ago
(Lance Reis / Unsplash) Don’t Plant Your Seeds Among Thorns: A Catholic Guide To Domestic Abuse Chapter Two: The Serpent and the Maiden “At the root of every act of violence against one’s neighbor there is a concession to the ‘thinking’ of the evil one, the one who ‘was a murderer from the beginning’ (Jn 8:44).” (St. John Paul II, The Gospel of Life) Althou… Read more ..read more
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